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Ndife mtundu womwe umapulumuka paukadaulo, ndi chilichonse kuyambira mapulogalamu operekera zakudya mpaka zovala zolimbitsa thupi zomwe zimakhala zowonera zolimbitsa thupi. Ngakhale kugonana, kulumikizana kopitilira muyeso kwa munthu ndi munthu, kwadzala ndiukadaulo (tayiwalani mapulogalamu olumikizana, pali zochitika zogonana zokha. Tifunika tinene zambiri?).

Nanga bwanji mukakhala mukukhumba zoposa kulumikizana ndi digito, komabe? M'masiku ano a WiFi-kulikonse, nkovuta kulingalira kuti pali msika wa-koma ulipo, ndichifukwa chake kuyambitsa akatswiri ngati Cuddlr, Spoonr, ndi Cuddle Up To Me zikukula. Cuddlr yokha ili ndi zotsitsa 240,000, ndi 7,000 mpaka 10,000 ogwiritsa ntchito tsiku lililonse, malinga ndi Wall Street Journal.

Snuggle Buddies, ntchito ina yoitanitsa anthu yomwe idayamba mu 2013, tsopano ikugwira ntchito m'maiko 30 ku US, ikulipiritsa makasitomala pafupifupi $ 80 gawo la TLC yaying'ono. Ndizosavuta kwambiri: Otsatsa amatha kuyitanitsa wina kuti amupezere supuni, kumusisita, kumukumbatira, kumunenera chilichonse, bola ngati sakuphwanya mgwirizano "wokhudzana ndi kugonana". Makasitomala akuyenera kuvomereza kuti palibe chiwerewere chomwe chidzachitike, zovala zidzakhalabe, ndipo kugwirana m'malo ophimbidwa ndi zovala zamkati ndikoletsedwa.

Utumikiwu ukhoza kuwoneka ngati wosamvetseka pang'ono polipira kukhudza kwa platonic? Koma pali zabwino zambiri zathanzi zomwe zimakhudza munthu, monga kuchepetsa kupsinjika kwamaganizidwe anu, kutsitsa kuthamanga kwa magazi, komanso kusinthanso minofu ya minofu (pambuyo pa kulimbitsa thupi, aliyense?). (Pano, Zifukwa 5 Zopangira Nthawi Yocheza.)

Ndiye zimakhala bwanji kukumbatirana kuti mupeze ndalama? Tinacheza ndi katswiri wodziwa kukwatirana ku Pennsylvania Becky Rodrigues, wazaka 34, yemwe wagwira ntchito ku Snuggle Buddies pafupifupi chaka chimodzi.

Mawonekedwe: Munayamba bwanji kumva za anthu akubisala, ndipo nchifukwa ninji zinakusangalatsani?

BR: Mnzanga anali atatumiza pa intaneti za izi ndipo panthawiyi ndinali pantchito yochepa, motero ndinachita chidwi. Ndinali wamkulu wama psychology ku koleji ndipo ndimagwiranso ntchito yosamalira kunyumba. Izi ndi zinthu ziwiri zomwe zimakhudzana ndi kuyanjana ndi anthu, chifukwa chake ndidayamba kugwira ntchito mwachangu mwachangu. Ndinaganizapo za lingaliroli kale ndikudzifunsa ngati kulidi anthu omwe angalipire kungokondana, ndiye nditamva kuti lilipo, ndinaganiza, "Wow, zikumveka ngati ntchito yanga yamaloto!" Muyenera kukhala omasuka ndi anthu osawadziwa ndikukhala bwino ndi aliyense, chomwe ndili. Ndimawona kukumbatira ngati njira yodziwana ndi munthu wina, popanda kukakamizidwa kuti ndiyenera kukhala 'pa' kapena kundiyang'ana maso ndi maso. Mutha kuyankhula zazinthu, koma palibenso zokakamiza kuti muzilankhula.

Mawonekedwe: Kodi mumakumbatira nthawi zonse kapena mumachita izi pambali?

BR: Ndi ndalama zowonjezera kwa ine chifukwa maola si odalirika. Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi zopempha ziwiri kapena zitatu pa sabata. Ndiochepera ola limodzi, $80, koma ndichitanso usiku umodzi $320.

Mawonekedwe: Kodi mumaona kuti anthu amafuna kulankhula, kapena amangofuna kukumbatirana?

BR: Zimatengeradi munthuyo. Anthu ena amalankhula za zinthu zosiyanasiyana zomwe zikuchitika m'miyoyo yawo, koma ena amakhala chete. Muyenera kugwira ntchito ndi munthuyo ndikumvetsetsa zomwe akufuna. Ine sindine wothandizira, koma nthawi zina anthu amangofunikira kutulutsa zinthu m'dongosolo lawo ndikuti wina azimvetsera. Makasitomala anga nthawi zonse amakhala azaka zapakati amitundu, zikhalidwe, ndi makulidwe onse. Chodziwika kwambiri ndichakuti akusowa chikondi m'miyoyo yawo.

Maonekedwe: Kodi mudakhalapo nthawi yomwe simunamvepo ngati mukukumbatira munthu wina?

BR: Ndizosangalatsa. Ndikadziwa kuti wina amangofuna ziboda za platonic, ndimakonda kwambiri. Koma nthawi zina ndimatha kudziwa ndi chilankhulo cha munthu wina kuti akuyembekeza zambiri kuposa kungokumangirira-ndiye kuti nthawi zambiri ndimakhala osamala ndipo sindimasangalala nazo. Koma, kwakukulukulu, anthu omwe amafuna zochuluka kuposa kukumbatirana amachotsedwa asanandikumane nawo chifukwa akuyenera kusaina pangano lonena kuti palibe zogonana zomwe zichitike. Mumuswaangano ooyu, balakonzya kugwasyigwa akusaanguna mbobakonzya kugwasya bantu banji—banji bajisi lusyomo lwakucita oobo, pele tiibakali kuzumanana kusyomeka kulinguwe!

Mawonekedwe: Kodi winawake adakunyamulanipo kapena kukupangitsani kumva kuti simuli otetezeka?

BR: Ayi, koma ndikamapita kunyumba ya munthu ndimapeza zonse zomwe akudziwa ndikusiyira mnzanga. Ngati wina adutsa mzere wogonana, ndimafotokozera malire ake kapena kusintha maudindo. Cuddlers amathanso kumaliza gawo mwachangu ngati kasitomala achita zosayenera mobwerezabwereza, koma sindinachite izi.

Mawonekedwe: Kodi makasitomala anu amakhala ndi zopempha zenizeni za magawo awo?

BR: Pakhala pali anthu ena omwe amafuna kuti ndizivala malaya opanda manja, zomwe ndimawona kuti ndizabwino-anthu ngati khungu pakhungu.

Mawonekedwe: Kodi muli ndi mnzanu? Kodi akumva bwanji ndikamenyedwe kanu?

BR: Ndinakwatiwa pamene ndinayamba kukumbatirana ndipo mwamuna kapena mkazi wanga anali bwino nazo. Sanamvetsetse kuti zinali zamanyazi ndipo palibe chomwe chikanachitika. Nditatha banja langa, ndidazindikira kuti kukondana kumandithandiza kupirira.

Mawonekedwe: Supuni yayikulu kapena supuni yaying'ono?

BR: Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala supuni yaying'ono, koma ndakhala supuni yayikulu inenso!

Mawonekedwe: Kodi mumavala chiyani mukamakumbatira?

BR: Ndimavala zovala zofewa, zabwino zomwe ndimatha kugona, ndipo ndimayesetsa kuti ndizioneka bwino komanso nthawi yomweyo. Ndikuphatikiza kolimba, koma ndili ndi zovala zingapo!

Mawonekedwe: Nchiyani chimapanga gawo lalikulu la kukumbatirana?

BR: Kuyankhulana kwamalire ndikofunikira kwambiri komanso kumvera zomwe ena alibe. Kukwatirana kuyenera kukhala kuphatikiza kutsogolera ndikulola kuti winayo azitsogolera. (Werengani zambiri za Phindu la Sayansi Yokhudza Kukhudza Kwa Anthu.)

Mawonekedwe: Mukumva bwanji mukamakumbatirana? Kodi zimakukhudzani inu, monga wogwirizira?

BR: Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala womasuka pambuyo pa gawo labwino. Ndalandilanso ndemanga kuchokera kwa makasitomala kuti ndawathandiza ndipo apeza bwino pambuyo pake. Izi zimandisangalatsa kwambiri.

Mawonekedwe: Kodi muli ndi playlist?

BR: Ndinali kumvetsera chimbale ndipo ndinaganiza, '"Chimbale ichi chikanakhala munthu, ndikanachikumbatira nacho!" Amatchedwa Nkhaniyi by Mtengo wa Nungu.

Mawonekedwe: Kodi mukufuna kuti anthu adziwe chiyani pa nkhani ya kugonana?

BR: Zomwe ndimakonda pokumbatira ndikuti simuyenera kukopa aliyense. Anthu awiri atha kukhala limodzi ndikukhala omasuka popanda zinthu zonse zachiphamaso. Anthu ena amaganiza kuti ndi masuku pamutu chifukwa zimatengera ndalama za munthu, koma sindimawawona akutuluka ndikupereka kukumbatira anthu kwaulere!

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