Zomwe Zimatanthawuza Kukhala ndi Mtundu wa C

Zamkati

• Makhalidwe wamba
• Kudziwa mtundu wanu
• Mphamvu zosinthira
• Mumasewera bwino ndi ena
• Mumakonda kuthandiza
• Ndinu odzipereka
• Ndinu wokonza mapulani
• Mumayamikira zowona
• Zinthu zofunika kuzikumbukira
• Kutsimikizira nokha
• Kutengeka mtima
• Mikangano yathanzi
• Kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa
• Kutaya mtima
• Malingaliro azaumoyo
• Mphamvu zamaganizidwe
• Mfundo yofunika

Ngati mumakonda kuphunzira zambiri za umunthu wanu, simuli nokha ngakhale pang'ono.

Kuchuluka kwazomwe anthu amafufuza pa intaneti (Ndi uti "Masewera Achifumu" Kodi Ndinu? Aliyense?) Akugogomezera kuti chidwi ichi ndi chofala.

Ngakhale ndizosangalatsa kufananiza mikhalidwe yaumunthu ndi nthano yomwe mumakonda (zowonadi ayi posankha mayankho omveka bwino kuti mupeze zomwe mukufuna), akatswiri apanga njira zingapo zasayansi, zothandizidwa ndi kafukufuku pofotokozera umunthu.

Izi zikuphatikiza Myers-Briggs Type Indicator ndi kuyesa kwa umunthu wa Big Five.

Mwinanso mudamvapo za njira zina zovuta - zina zosavuta monga A, B, C, ndi D.

Ngakhale mutha kudziwa za mtundu wa A ndi mtundu wa B, kuwunika kwaposachedwa kwamakhalidwe amtundu wa C mwina sikunakhaleko pa radar yanu.

Nachi chithunzithunzi chachangu: Anthu omwe ali ndimakhalidwe amtundu wa C nthawi zambiri amawoneka:

• chete
• lolunjika
• adalowetsa
• woganizira

Amatha kukhala ndi vuto lotseguka m'maganizo ndi kufotokoza zosowa zawo, posankha kulola ena kukhala ndi njira yawo kuti akhalebe ogwirizana.

Makhalidwe wamba

"C" mu mtundu C amatha kuyimira:

• zogwirizana
• kulamulidwa
• bata
• ogwilizana
• kulenga
• yosagwirizana ndi mikangano

Makhalidwewa amatha kuwonekera makamaka pamakhalidwe otsatirawa:

• zizolowezi zangwiro
• kuvuta kusintha kusintha kosafunikira
• chidwi zazing'onozing'ono
• kumvetsetsa zosowa za ena
• kungokhala chete
• kutaya mtima
• chizolowezi chokana kapena kupewa kukhumudwa kwambiri
• malingaliro amkati osowa chochita kapena opanda chiyembekezo

Kudziwa mtundu wanu

Umunthu ukhoza kukhala wovuta, chifukwa chake sikophweka nthawi zonse (kapena kothandiza) kuthana ndi zikhalidwe ndi maluso anu mgulu limodzi.

Koma ngati zina mwazomwe tafotokozazi zakukhudzani, mwina mungadzifunse momwe mungadziwire ngati mumakhazikika pamtundu wa C.

Kuti mumve zambiri, yesani kudzifunsa mafunso ali pansipa:

• Kodi ndimayesetsa kuthandiza ena, ngakhale zitakhudza ntchito yanga, malingaliro anga, kapena moyo wanga?
• Kodi ndimasanthula ndikuganizira zosankha zanga (ndi zotulukapo zake) mosamala ndisanachitepo kanthu?
• Kodi ndimakhumudwa ndikafunika kugwira ntchito ndi anthu ena - onse chifukwa ndimakonda kukhala ndekha ndikukhulupirira kuti nditha kugwira bwino ntchito ndekha?
• Kodi ndimavutika ndikudziletsa ndikapanikizika?
• Kodi ndikuwona kuti ndikufunika kuwongolera chilengedwe changa?
• Kodi ndimakhala nthawi yochuluka ndikuwonetsetsa kuti ntchito yanga ilibe zolakwika?
• Kodi ndimagwirizana ndi anthu ambiri koma ndimakonda kuthera nthawi yanga ndekha?
• Kodi ndimangokhala chete osaganizira zazing'onoting'ono zomwe ndimakambirana pandekha?
• Kodi ndikofunikira kwa ine kuti aliyense azimvana?
• Kodi ndimakonda kuthera nthawi yochuluka ndikufufuza mitu yatsopano ndi malingaliro?
• Kodi ndimagwira ntchito molimbika kuti ndikwaniritse zolinga zanga?
• Kodi zimandivuta kufotokoza zosowa zanga ndi momwe ndikumvera?
• Kodi kulephera kunena zomwe ndikufuna kumandipangitsa kukhala wokhumudwa kapena wopanda thandizo?

Mayankho anu samapereka umboni wotsimikizika wamakhalidwe anu.

Izi zati, kuyankha inde pamafunso ambiri (kapena onse) pamafunso omwe ali pamwambapa kukuwonetsani kuti mukugwirizana bwino ndikutanthauzira kovomerezeka kwa mtundu wa C.

Mphamvu zosinthira

Khalidwe ndilofunikira kwa yemwe inu muli, koma umunthu pawokha suli wabwino kapena woyipa.

Monga anthu ambiri, mutha kutchula zina mwazinthu zofunikira, kapena zinthu zomwe mukudziwa kuti mumachita bwino, ndi magawo ochepa omwe mungafune kuti mugwirepo.

Ngati muli ndi mtundu wa C, mwina mwazindikira zina mwa izi:

Mumasewera bwino ndi ena

Anthu omwe ali ndi mtundu wa C amakonda kukhala ozindikira pazosowa ndi momwe ena akumvera.

Mutha kusewera mwamtendere, kugwira ntchito kuthandiza aliyense kuti agwirizane - kapena kunyengerera - kuntchito, kusukulu, kapena m'mayanjano anu.

Anzanu ndi abale anu atha kufunsa malingaliro anu pankhani zosamvana, ndipo mwina mungakhale ndi luso lolimbikitsa anthu kuti azigwirizana.

Mukakhumudwa kapena kukwiya, mumakonda kupewa kufotokoza izi.

Iyi sindiyo njira yopindulitsa kwambiri yothanirana ndi izi, koma zimathandiza ena kukuwonani kuti ndinu abwino komanso osavuta kugwira nawo ntchito.

Mumakonda kuthandiza

Kuthandiza ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri pamtundu wa C. Mukufuna kuti zinthu ziziyenda bwino, ndipo mukufuna kuti anthu azisangalala, chifukwa chake mutha kuda nkhawa momwe ena akumvera komanso ngati akupeza zomwe akufuna.

Zotsatira zake, mutha kukhala oyamba kupereka yankho wina atakanirira.

Ngati mnzanu kuntchito akuda nkhawa kuti sangamalize ntchito yake pa nthawi yake, mungamupemphe kuti muchepetse nthawi kuti mumupatse ntchito.

Ndinu odzipereka

Ngati muli ndi mtundu wa C, mumakhala ndi diso labwino pazambiri komanso luso lotha kuyang'ana.

Mulinso ndi chidwi chofuna kukwaniritsa. Kuphatikizaku kungakulitse mwayi wanu wopambana ndi zolinga zanu.

Mulibe vuto lowonera zomwe zingachitike ndikukhala ndi mayankho panjira, ndipo zitha kuwoneka zachilengedwe kutsatira zomwe mwasankha, kuzitsatira mpaka kumapeto.

Ndinu wokonza mapulani

Kuti mukwaniritse zolinga zanu, mukufunitsitsa kuchita zina mwazowonjezera kuti muwonetsetse kuti mwasankha njira yabwino yopambana. Izi zitha kuphatikiza:

• kufufuza zabwino ndi zoyipa zake
• kukonzekera zotsatira zosafunikira
• kulingalira zochitika zosiyanasiyana
• kukonzekera zosintha zamtsogolo

Zonsezi zimapindulitsanso.

Sanapambane nthawi yoyamba? Ndizabwino. Muli ndi pulani imodzi (kapena ochepa) yosungira mthumba lanu.

Mumayamikira zowona

Ndani samazindikira kufunikira kwa umboni wasayansi ndi zina zowona?

Anthu omwe ali ndi mtundu wa C amakonda kukhala ndi mayankho olondola. Ngati simukudziwa kanthu, mumakhala ndi nthawi yopanga kafukufuku kuti mupeze yankho ndi umboni wina kuti mubweze.

Chizolowezi chokhazikitsa mfundo zenizeni komanso umboni sizitanthauza kuti simumatha kupanga zinthu. M'malo mwake, zitha kukuthandizani kulingalira bwino kwambiri.

Mutha kukhala ndi luso lopeza njira zapadera zogwiritsa ntchito chidziwitso osasochera pazomwe mungatsimikizire, zomwe zingakuthandizeni bwino pantchito monga zamalamulo ndi maphunziro.

Zinthu zofunika kuzikumbukira

Tonsefe tili ndi zolakwika komanso malo omwe angagwiritse ntchito chitukuko. Kupatula apo, ndife anthu chabe.

Koma kuphunzira kuzindikira madera ofookawa kungapangitse kuti kukhale kosavuta kuthana nawo ndikuchitapo kanthu kuti muwongolere.

Ngati muli ndi mtundu wa C, mutha kulimbana ndi:

Kutsimikizira nokha

Mutha kuwona kulola ena kukhala ndi njira yawo ngati njira yotithandizira mgwirizano.

Koma kusalankhula zomwe mukufuna, ngakhale zikafika pazinthu zosavuta monga kanema wowonera, pamapeto pake kumatha kubweretsa kukhumudwa ndi mkwiyo.

Palibe cholakwika ndi kukhala ndi chidwi ndi ena, koma khalidweli limatha kuchititsa anthu kusangalala.

Kufuna ena kuti aganizire bwino za inu zitha kukhala zovuta kukana wina akapempha thandizo, mwachitsanzo.

Koma ngati simukufunadi kuthandiza kapena muli ndi zochita zambiri, kutenga zochulukirapo kumangokulitsa nkhawa.

Ndikofunika kutsimikiza kuti mufotokozanso zosowa zanu, inunso. Gawo lodziyankhulira nokha ndikuti ayi mukamafunika kaye kudzipereka kwanu.

Kutengeka mtima

Anthu omwe ali ndi mtundu wa C amakonda kulimbana ndikuzindikira zabwino kapena malingaliro osalimbikitsa. Ena angakuwoneni monga munthu wanzeru, wosadukiza amene nthawi zonse amakhala wodekha.

Ngakhale kukhala wanzeru kungakhale ndi phindu lake, kupondereza malingaliro anu kumakhalanso ndi zovuta zina.

Zitha kusokoneza ubale wanu. Kuvuta kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu kungapangitsenso kukhala kovuta kumvetsetsa momwe akumvera komanso momwe amalankhulira ena.

Nthawi zambiri mungaganize kuti anthu ena amakwiya kapena kukwiya pomwe sali, mwachitsanzo.

Zingakhudzenso thanzi lanu. Anthu omwe amaletsa kutengeka mtima amakhala ndi kuchuluka kwa cortisol, mahomoni opsinjika, komanso chitetezo chochepa chamthupi.

Mikangano yathanzi

Simukonda mkangano? Mwinanso mumaona kuti ndizowopsa ndikuzipewa momwe zingathere.

Ndizabwino kwambiri monga umunthu wa mtundu C umapita. Mutha kuvutika kuti mubweretse kukhumudwa ndi mkwiyo ndikuzifotokozera mwaukali kapena m'malo mopondereza.

Anthu ambiri safuna kukangana. Koma kusagwirizana pa zinazake sikuyenera kutanthauza kuti mumakangana za izo.

Anthu ndi osiyana kwambiri, ndipo ngakhale iwo omwe ali ndi ubale wapamtima mwina sangavomereze nthawi zonse.

"Kusamvana" nthawi zambiri kumawoneka ngati mawu oyipa, koma mutha kukhala ndi mkangano wopindulitsa, woyenera pakuwuthana nawo moyenera.

Kuphunzira kuthetsa kusamvana moyenera nthawi zambiri kumathandizira maubale, osati kuwavulaza.

Kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa

Mumanyadira ntchito yanu. Mukufuna kukhala ndi mayankho olondola ndikuwonetsetsa kuti zazing'ono kwambiri ndizolondola.

Kukhutira ndi ntchito yomwe mwachita bwino kungakulimbikitseni, koma ndizotheka kugwiritsa ntchito pang'ono nawonso nthawi yochuluka kuwonetsetsa kuti mbali iliyonse ya ntchito yanu ili bwino.

Chowonadi ndi chakuti, ungwiro ndiwovuta kupeza.

Mukamaganizira zokonza zonse bwino, kaya mukupanga chiwonetsero chofunikira chantchito kapena kumva chisoni ndi kalata yopita kwa munthu amene mumakondana naye, nthawi zambiri mumayiwala zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri: khama lanu komanso malingaliro achikondi , motsatana.

Kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa kumathandizanso kuti musamapite patsogolo m'moyo.

Ngati mungatengeke kuti mupange china chake changwiro, monga ubale, moyo, kapena bwenzi lamphamvu, mutha kulephera kuzindikira ngati vutoli silikukwaniritsa zosowa zanu.

Kutaya mtima

Poyembekezera zoyipa kwambiri, mutha kuchitapo kanthu kukonzekera zosafunikira, sichoncho? Mwanjira imeneyi, zizolowezi zakutaya chiyembekezo zitha kukhala ndi maubwino ena.

Koma kutaya mtima sikuthandiza nthawi zonse. Mukamayang'ana pazinthu zomwe sizingachitike, mutha kumangomva mantha owopa kwambiri kuti muchitepo kanthu.

Mwinanso mwawona kuti kutaya mtima kumabweretsa mnzake, kukhumudwa.

Ngati nthawi zambiri mumakhala ndi chiyembekezo chotheka, mutha kukhala opanda chiyembekezo cha tsogolo lanu kapena mwayi wopambana kapena kudzitsutsa munjira zina.

Malingaliro azaumoyo

Mtundu C wa… khansa?

Ngati mwawerenga kale za umunthu wa mtundu C, mwina mukadapezapo mwayi woti anthu omwe ali ndi mtundu wa C ali pachiwopsezo chachikulu cha khansa.

Amachita kulumikizana kotsimikizika pakati pamikhalidwe ya mtundu C ndi khansa. Komabe, umboni wina ukusonyeza kuti mitundu ina ya C imatha kuchititsa ziwopsezo za khansa, yolumikiza m'njira ziwiri izi.

Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, kuponderezedwa kumatha kukhudza chitetezo chamthupi. Ngati chitetezo chanu cha mthupi sichigwira ntchito moyenera, mutha kukhala ndi chiopsezo chowonjezeka cha matenda ambiri, kuphatikiza khansa.

amanenanso kuti anthu omwe ali ndi mtundu wa C nthawi zambiri amavutika kuthana ndi kupsinjika, kuphatikizapo kupsinjika kokhudzana ndi kupsinjika.

Kupsinjika kowonjezereka ndi kusamvana kwina kwama mahomoni kumatha kukupangitsani kuti mutengeke ndi khansa mukakhala ndi zoopsa zina.

Mphamvu zamaganizidwe

Makhalidwe amtundu wa C adalumikizidwa ndi kukhumudwa komanso kusowa chiyembekezo.

Kuvuta kufotokoza malingaliro kumatha kukhala kukhumudwa. Ngati simungathe kufotokoza zosowa zanu ndikuletsa mkwiyo kapena kukhumudwa, nthawi zambiri mumakhala kuti mukukanidwa, kukwiya, kapena osafunikira.

Ngati izi zikupitilira, mwina mungavutike kulingalira zinthu zikusintha, zomwe zitha kuchititsa kuti mukhale opanda chiyembekezo, kudzidzudzula, komanso kukhumudwa.

Ngati mukuvutika ndi kukhumudwa kapena kusowa chiyembekezo kapena zikukuvutani kugawana ndi ena momwe mukumvera, wothandizira amatha kukupatsani chitsogozo ndikuthandizani kuti muwone zomwe zimayambitsa mavutowa.

Mfundo yofunika

Khalidwe lanu lingakhudze momwe mumayankhira pazovuta komanso mbali zina za moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, koma sizimayambitsa izi.

Ngati muli ndi nkhawa zamakhalidwe ena kapena mukufuna kuphunzira njira zatsopano zothanirana ndi mavuto kapena kuyanjana ndi ena, kuyankhula ndi othandizira kungakhale gawo loyamba labwino.

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