Kodi 'Kudziyesa Gasi Yokha' Ndi Chiyani Ndimaphunzira?
Zamkati
- Kodi kudziyatsa mafuta kumawoneka bwanji?
- Kodi izi zikumveka bwino? Ngati zitero, ndikufuna kukuitanani kuti muime kaye apa.
- Ngakhale mutakhala osungulumwa kapena osokonezeka bwanji, kumbukirani kuti simuli nokha - ndipo simuli openga!
Ayi, simukukhala "ovuta kwambiri."
"Mwina ndikungopanga zambiri ..."
Pakadali pano, kuyatsa gasi ngati lingaliro ndikodziwika kwenikweni, koma magwero ake angatithandizire kulifotokozera momveka bwino.
Adabadwa mu kanema wakale momwe mwamuna amayatsa magetsi pansi pang'ono usiku uliwonse kuti asokoneze mkazi wake. Amanyalanyaza kuzindikira kwa mkazi wake pakusintha kwa kuwala ndi mithunzi ponena kuti zonse zili m'mutu mwake.
Amachita zina, kuti amupangitse kuganiza kuti "akutaya," monga kubisa zinthu ndikumanena kuti wataya.
Uku ndikuwunikira gasi: Njira yakuzunzidwa kwamunthu komanso kuchitira munthu wina zinthu kuti awafunse malingaliro awo, momwe akumvera, zenizeni, komanso nzeru.
Pomwe ndimagwira ntchito ndi makasitomala ambiri ndikuthandizira kumvetsetsa kwawo ndi kutulutsa njira zamalingaliro izi, ndazindikira posachedwa kuti nthawi yowonjezerapo, kuwunikira kwa mpweya kumatha kulowa mkati kwambiri.
Zimasinthira mumachitidwe azomwe ndimazitcha kuti kudzipangira gasi - nthawi zambiri zimawonekera pakufunsa kwanthawi zonse, tsiku ndi tsiku, kudzifunsa nokha komanso kuwonongeka kwa chidaliro.
Kodi kudziyatsa mafuta kumawoneka bwanji?
Kuunikira kwawokha nthawi zambiri kumawoneka ngati kupondereza kwa malingaliro ndi kutengeka.
Mwachitsanzo, tinene kuti wina wanena mawu osamvera kapena opweteka. Mutha kuzindikira kuti zakupweteketsani mtima, koma - nthawi yomweyo komanso mopupuluma - mukuganiza kuti: "Ndikungopanga gawo lalikulu kwambiri ndikukhala womvera."
Vutolo? Mumadumpha kuchokera pa A kupita pa C osayimilira kuti mumvetse B pakati - malingaliro anu enieni omwe muli ndi ufulu kumva komanso kufotokoza!
Ndiye timagwira ntchito bwanji kuti tithane ndi mtundu uwu wamagetsi? Ndizosavuta mwachinyengo: Timatsimikizira zomwe takumana nazo komanso momwe timamvera.
| Kuyatsa magetsi | Kudzipangira mafuta | Zowonjezera zakunja |
| Ndiwe wamisala kwambiri, wosachedwa kupsa mtima, woganizira ena, kapena wopenga! ” | Ndine wopusa kwambiri, wokonda kutengeka, woganizira, komanso wopenga. | Maganizo anga ndi malingaliro anga ndizovomerezeka. |
| “Sindinatanthauze motero; mukukokomeza. ” | Ndikudziwa kuti amandikonda ndipo sanatanthauze choncho. | Ndikumvetsetsa kamvekedwe ndi mawu omwe adalankhula, ndipo ndikudziwa momwe zidandithandizira. |
| "Zonse zili m'mutu mwanu." | Mwina zonse zili m'mutu mwanga basi !? | Zomwe ndakumana nazo ndizowona komanso zowona, ngakhale ena akuyesa kuwanyengerera kapena kusakhulupirira. |
| "Mukadakhala ochepera / ochepera _____, izi zikadakhala zosiyana." | Ndine wochuluka / osakwanira. Pali china chake cholakwika ndi ine. | Sindidzakhala wochuluka kwambiri. Ndikhala wokwanira nthawi zonse! |
| “Mwayamba! Ili ndi vuto lanu! ” | Ndiwo vuto langa mulimonse. | Palibe chomwe "chimalakwitsa changa" Wina akundiyimba mlandu sizimveka. |
| "Mukadandikonda ndiye mukadachita izi / simukadachita izi." | Ndimawakonda kotero ndiyenera kungochita izi. Chifukwa chiyani ndidawachita izi? | Palibe cholakwika ndi ine komanso momwe ndimasonyezera chikondi, koma pali china chake cholakwika ndi ubale woopsawu. |
Kodi izi zikumveka bwino? Ngati zitero, ndikufuna kukuitanani kuti muime kaye apa.
Pumani pang'ono. Mverani nthaka pansi panu.
Bwerezani pambuyo panga: "Maganizo anga ali ovomerezeka ndipo ndili ndi ufulu wofotokozera."
Onani kuti izi zitha kumveka zabodza poyamba. Dziloleni nokha kuti mukhale ndi chidwi chokhudzidwa ichi ndikubwereza izi mpaka zitayamba kumva zowona (izi zitha kukhala zochitika zomwe zimachitika pakapita nthawi m'malo moyenera munthawi yomweyo - ndichoncho, nanunso!).
Chotsatira, ndikukupemphani kuti mutenge pepala kapena pepala lopanda kanthu ndikuyamba kulemba chilichonse chomwe chikubwera munthawi ino - popanda kuweruza kapena kufunika kogwirizira tanthauzo lake.
chimakulimbikitsani pofufuza zodzipangira nokhaMuthanso kudzifufuza motere poyankha zotsatirazi (kaya kudzera m'mawu, kujambula / zaluso, kapena ngakhale kuyenda):
- Kodi kudzipangira mafuta kwandithandiza bwanji m'mbuyomu? Kodi zinandithandiza bwanji kupirira?
- Kodi kudziyatsa pawokha sikungandithandizenso bwanji pakadali pano (kapena mtsogolo)? Kodi ndikupwetekedwa bwanji?
- Ndi chinthu chiti chomwe ndingachite pakalipano kuti ndizidzimvera chisoni?
- Ndikumva bwanji mthupi langa ndikamafufuza izi?
Ngakhale kudziunikira tokha mwina kutithandizira m'mbuyomu kuzolowera zovuta kapena maubwenzi, titha kulemekeza luso lopulumuka ili pomwe tikuphunzira kulitulutsa lero.
Ngakhale mutakhala osungulumwa kapena osokonezeka bwanji, kumbukirani kuti simuli nokha - ndipo simuli openga!
Kuwunikira gasi ndi njira yeniyeni yochitira nkhanza m'maganizo yomwe imatha kulowa mkati mwathu. Ndipo ngakhale mutha kuyamba kuzikhulupirira kuti ndizowona, SIZOONA ZANU!
Mukudziwa chowonadi chanu - ndipo ndikuwona ndikuchilemekeza. Kudzilemekeza nokha ndichizolowezi, komanso kulimba mtima pamenepo.
Ndiwe wanzeru komanso wolimba mtima AF, ndipo ndikunyadira kuti mwatenga nthawi kuti mufufuze nkhaniyi ndikudzifufuza nokha. Ngakhale ikakhala yowopsa.
Rachel Otis ndi somatic Therapist, queer intersectional feminist, womenyera thupi, wopulumuka matenda a Crohn, komanso wolemba maphunziro ku California Institute of Integral Study ku San Francisco ndi digiri yake yaukatswiri pakulangiza zama psychology. Rachel amakhulupirira kupatsa munthu mwayi wopitiliza kusintha ma paradigms, pomwe amakondwerera thupi muulemerero wake wonse. Magawo amapezeka pang'onopang'ono komanso kudzera pa tele-therapy. Fikirani kwa iye kudzera pa Instagram.
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