Ndinkafunika Zoposa Zomwe Wothandizira Operekera Anaperekera - Nazi Zomwe Ndapeza

Zamkati

• Ndi zachilendo kufunsa
• Palibe vuto mantha
• Kumene mungapeze thandizo
• Chithandizo cha jenda ndichani
• Chithandizo cha jenda sichotani
• Kumvetsetsa dysphoria ya jenda
• Monga matenda
• Monga chokumana nacho
• Kufufuza kwa amuna ndi akazi, kufotokoza, ndi kuvomereza
• Njira zamankhwala
• Njira zopanda chithandizo
• Kusiyanitsa pakati pa kulondera pakhomo ndi kuvomereza kodziwitsa
• Momwe mungapezere wothandizira jenda
• Zomwe mungafunse wothandizira
• Mfundo yofunika

Kujambula: Mere Abrams. Kupangidwa ndi Lauren Park

Ndi zachilendo kufunsa

Kaya sizoyenera kugwira nawo gawo lomwe mwapatsidwa, kusakhala omasuka ndi malingaliro olakwika, kapena kulimbana ndi ziwalo za thupi lanu, anthu ambiri amalimbana ndi mbali ina ya jenda yawo.

Ndipo nditayamba kudabwa za ine, ndinali ndi mafunso ambiri kuposa mayankho.

M'zaka ziwiri zomwe ndidakhala ndikufufuza za jenda yanga, ndidameta tsitsi langa lalitali, lopotana, ndikuyamba kugula magawo azovala za amuna ndi akazi, ndikuyamba kumanga chifuwa changa kuti chiwoneke chosalala.

Gawo lirilonse limatsimikizira gawo lofunikira la yemwe ndili. Koma momwe ndidazindikirira ndi zilembo zomwe zimafotokoza molondola jenda yanga ndi thupi langa sizinali zinsinsi kwa ine.

Zomwe ndimadziwa ndikuti sindinadziwike ndekha ndi kugonana komwe ndidapatsidwa nditabadwa. Panali zambiri ku jenda yanga kuposa izo.

Palibe vuto mantha

Lingaliro louza mafunso anga ndikumverera kwanga kwa abwenzi ndi abale koma osamvetsetsa bwino zanga lidawopsa kwambiri.

Mpaka pomwepo, ndimayesayesa mwamphamvu kuti ndizindikire ndikuchita jenda yomwe anthu amagwirizana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso kugonana komwe ndidasankhidwa pakubadwa.

Ndipo ngakhale kuti sindinali wokondwa nthawi zonse kapena womasuka m'gululi, ndimayigwiritsa ntchito momwe ndimadziwira.

Zaka zomwe ndidakhala mosangalala ngati munthu wamkazi komanso matamando omwe ndidalandira panthawi yomwe ndimagwira bwino ntchitoyi zidandipangitsa kukayikira mbali zakudziwika kuti ndine amuna kapena akazi.

Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndikudzifunsa ngati ndiyenera kuthana ndi jenda yomwe adandipatsa m'malo mopitiliza kudzipezera ndekha.

Nthawi yochuluka yomwe idadutsa, ndikukhala womasuka ndikamapereka mawonekedwe anga achimuna, momwemonso mbali zina zathupi langa zimawoneka kuti ndizomwe zimayambitsa kusakhazikika.

Mwachitsanzo, chotchingira pachifuwa changa, nthawi ina ndimamva kutsimikizira magawo omwe siamayi omwe ndimafunikira kuti ndiwaphatikize ndikuchitiridwa umboni ndi ena.

Koma icho chinakhala chikumbutso cha tsiku ndi tsiku cha kuwawa ndi kupsyinjika komwe ine ndinakumana nako; mawonekedwe a chifuwa changa anali osemphana ndi yemwe ndili.

Kumene mungapeze thandizo

Popita nthawi, ndinawona kutanganidwa kwanga ndi jenda komanso chifuwa changa kumakhudza momwe ndimakhalira, thanzi langa komanso thanzi langa.

Ndikumva kuti ndasowa poyambira - koma ndikudziwa kuti sindikufuna kupitiriza kumva motere - ndidayamba kufunafuna thandizo.

Koma sindinangofunika chithandizo chazonse zathanzi langa. Ndinafunika kuyankhula ndi wina yemwe ali ndi maphunziro komanso ukatswiri pa jenda.

Ndinkafunika chithandizo chokhudzana ndi jenda.

Chithandizo cha jenda ndichani

Chithandizo cha jenda chimayang'ana kwambiri zosowa za anthu, malingaliro, malingaliro, ndi zakuthupi za iwo omwe:

• akukayikira za jenda
• samakhala omangika ndi zakuthupi kapena thupi lawo
• akukumana ndi dysphoria ya jenda
• akufuna kuchitapo kanthu povomereza kuti kuli amuna kapena akazi
• osangodziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha atabadwa

Simuyenera kuzindikira kuti ndi chinthu china kupatula cisgender kuti mupindule ndi chithandizo cha jenda.

Zitha kukhala zothandiza kwa aliyense amene:

• Amamva kukhala wotsekedwa ndi maudindo achikhalidwe kapena malingaliro olakwika
• akufuna kukhala ndi chidziwitso chakuya cha omwe ali
• akufuna kukulitsa kulumikizana kwakuya ndi matupi awo

Ngakhale akatswiri ena atha kulandira maphunziro ndi maphunziro osiyanasiyana, mwina sizingakhale zokwanira kupereka chithandizo chokwanira.

Othandizira jenda amafunafuna maphunziro, maphunziro, ndi upangiri waukadaulo kuti adziwe zambiri za:

• jenda
• kusiyanasiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, kuphatikiza zosadziwika
• jenda dysphoria
• chithandizo chamankhwala chosagwirizana ndi jenda
• ufulu wa transgender
• kuyendetsa jenda m'mbali zonse za moyo
• kafukufuku woyenera komanso nkhani pamitu imeneyi

Zosowa za aliyense ndizosiyana, chifukwa chake chithandizo cha jenda chimakonzedwa kwa aliyense payekha. Zitha kuphatikizira izi:

• chithandizo chamankhwala
• kasamalidwe ka milandu
• maphunziro
• kulimbikitsa
• kukambirana ndi omwe amapereka

Othandizira azimayi omwe amagwiritsa ntchito njira yovomerezera jenda amazindikira kuti kusiyanasiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi ndi gawo lachilengedwe laumunthu osati chisonyezo cha matenda amisala.

Kukhala ndi chiwonetsero chosagwirizana ndi jenda kapena chizindikiritso chosakhala cha cisgender sikutanthauza, pawekha, kumafunikira kuzindikira, kuwunika kwamankhwala, kapena chithandizo chamankhwala chopitilira muyeso.

Chithandizo cha jenda sichotani

Wothandizira jenda sayenera kuyesa kukudziwani chifukwa chazomwe mukuyesera kapena kusintha malingaliro anu.

Simukusowa chilolezo cha wothandizila kapena kuvomerezedwa kuti mukhale omwe muli.

Wothandizira jenda ayenera perekani zidziwitso ndi chithandizo chomwe chingakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa ndikulumikizana ndi zomwe mumakonda.

Othandizira amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sagwirizana ndi lingaliro loti pali "njira yoyenera" yochitira, kuphatikizira, kapena kufotokoza za jenda.

Sayenera kuchepetsa kapena kuyerekezera zosankha kapena zolinga zamankhwala potengera zolemba kapena chilankhulo chomwe mumadzifotokozera.

Chithandizo cha jenda chiyenera kuyang'ana pakuthandizira zomwe mumakumana nazo pamoyo wanu komanso ubale wanu ndi thupi.

Wothandizira jenda sayenera kuyerekezera kuti ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi, amakukakamizani kuti mukhale amuna kapena akazi, kapena kuyesa kukutsimikizirani kuti simuli amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Kumvetsetsa dysphoria ya jenda

Gender dysphoria ndizachipatala komanso matchulidwe ogwiritsidwa ntchito mwamwayi, ofanana ndi kukhumudwa kapena nkhawa.

Ndizotheka kuti wina azimva kukhumudwa popanda njira zokumana ndi matenda, momwemonso wina akhoza kukumana ndi zipsinjo popanda kukumana ndi njira zamankhwala zapanikizika.

Monga matenda azachipatala, amatanthauza kusadziletsa kapena kupsinjika komwe kumatha kubwera chifukwa cha mkangano pakati pa kugonana komwe munthu amasankha pakubadwa komanso jenda.

Pogwiritsidwa ntchito mwamwayi, imatha kufotokozera kuyanjana, malingaliro, kapena mawonekedwe amthupi omwe samamvekera kutsimikizira kapena kuphatikiza kufotokozera kwamunthu kapena kuzindikira kwa amuna kapena akazi.

Monga matenda

Mu 2013, adasintha matenda azachipatala kuchokera pakudziwika kuti ndi jenda kukhala dysphoria.

Kusintha uku kwathandiza kuthana ndi kusalidwa, kusamvetsetsa, ndi tsankho zomwe zimachitika chifukwa cholemba molakwika ngati matenda amisala zomwe tikudziwa tsopano kuti ndizachilengedwe komanso zodziwika bwino.

Zolemba zomwe zasinthidwa zimasinthiratu kuzindikirika kwa jenda kupita kuzowawa, zovuta, komanso zovuta zomwe zimagwira pamoyo watsiku ndi tsiku zomwe zimalumikizidwa ndi jenda.

Monga chokumana nacho

Momwe ma dysphoria amawonekera ndikuwonetsera amatha kusintha kuchokera kwa munthu kupita kwa munthu, gawo lanyama mpaka gawo lathupi, komanso nthawi.

Zitha kuchitika pokhudzana ndi mawonekedwe anu, thupi lanu, komanso momwe anthu ena amawonera ndikulumikizana ndi jenda yanu.

Chithandizo cha jenda chimatha kukuthandizani kumvetsetsa, kuwongolera, ndi kuchepetsa dysphoria kapena zina zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala ndi nkhawa zokhudzana ndi kudziwika komanso kufotokoza.

Kufufuza kwa amuna ndi akazi, kufotokoza, ndi kuvomereza

Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti anthu amafunafuna chithandizo cha jenda pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana.

Izi zikuphatikiza:

• kuwunika momwe mumamvetsetsa zakudziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi
• kuthandizira wokondedwa yemwe akuyenda moyenera
• kupeza njira zovomerezeka ndi amuna kapena akazi
• kuthana ndi dysphoria ya jenda
• kusamalira zovuta zamaganizidwe nthawi zambiri

Masitepe omwe adatengedwa kuti mufufuze, kudzisankhira nokha, ndikutsimikizira jenda yanu kapena ya munthu wina nthawi zambiri amatchedwa kuchitapo kanthu kapena kuchitapo kanthu.

Nthawi zambiri, atolankhani komanso malo ena amaganizira momwe anthu amatsimikizira kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi kapena amalankhula ndi dysphoria pogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala ndi opaleshoni.

Komabe, pali njira zina zambiri zothandizira anthu kuwunika, kufotokoza, ndi kutsimikizira gawoli momwe alili.

Nazi zina mwanjira zodziwika bwino zamankhwala komanso zosavomerezeka zomwe othandizira azachipatala amadziwa.

Njira zamankhwala

• chithandizo chamankhwala, kuphatikiza kutha msinkhu, testosterone blockers, jakisoni wa estrogen, ndi jakisoni wa testosterone
• Kuchita chifuwa, komwe kumatchedwanso opaleshoni yapamwamba, kuphatikizapo chifuwa cham'maso, chikazi chachikazi, komanso kukulitsa m'mawere
• maopaleshoni ochepa, omwe amatchedwanso opaleshoni yapansi, kuphatikiza vaginoplasty, phalloplasty, ndi metoidioplasty
• opaleshoni yamagetsi
• maopaleshoni akumaso, kuphatikiza kumakondanso kumaso ndi kumaso kwa nkhope
• chondrolaryngoplasty, yotchedwanso tracheal shave
• kuzungulira kwa thupi
• kuchotsa tsitsi

Njira zopanda chithandizo

• chilankhulo kapena chizindikiritso chimasintha
• kusintha kwamasamba
• kusintha kwa dzina lalamulo
• kusintha kwamalamulo azikhalidwe
• matchulidwe amasintha
• kumanga pachifuwa kapena kujambula
• kuthamanga
• tsitsi limasintha
• zovala ndi mawonekedwe
• kulowetsa
• zodzoladzola zimasintha
• kusintha kwa mawonekedwe amthupi, kuphatikiza mawonekedwe a m'mawere ndi zovala
• kusintha kwa mawu ndi kulumikizana kapena chithandizo
• kuchotsa tsitsi
• zolembalemba
• kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi komanso kunyamula

Kusiyanitsa pakati pa kulondera pakhomo ndi kuvomereza kodziwitsa

Othandizira jenda ndi akatswiri azaumoyo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi udindo wowongolera anthu kuti adziwe njira ndi njira zomwe zingawathandize kukhala olumikizana ndi amuna kapena akazi.

Malangizo apano azachipatala komanso ma inshuwaransi nthawi zambiri (koma osati nthawi zonse) amafuna kalata yochokera kwa katswiri wazamisala kuti athe kupeza zotha kutha msinkhu, mahomoni, kapena opaleshoni.

Mphamvu yoletsa imeneyi - yomwe idakhazikitsidwa ndi azachipatala komanso yothandizidwa ndi mabungwe ena akatswiri - imadziwika kuti ndiyoyang'anira zipata.

Kusunga khomo kumachitika pamene katswiri wazamisala, wothandizira zamankhwala, kapena bungwe limapanga zopinga zosafunikira kuti wina athe kuthana nazo asanalandire chithandizo chamankhwala chovomerezeka ndi jenda.

Kusunga khomo kumatsutsidwa kwambiri ndi ambiri mwa anthu wamba komanso m'mabuku ophunzira. Amanenedwa ngati gwero lalikulu la kusalidwa komanso kusalidwa kwa anthu ambiri osasintha, osagwirizana ndi amuna, komanso amuna osagwirizana.

Kusunga khomo kumatha kusokonezanso njira yothandizira amuna ndi akazi popanga zinthu zomwe zingalepheretse anthu kuti asadzakhale ndi mafunso okhudzana ndi jenda.

Izi zitha kuyika kukakamiza kosafunikira kuti munthu anene "choyenera" kuti apatsidwe mwayi wothandizidwa.

Mtundu wovomerezeka wachisamaliro udapangidwa kuti athe kupititsa patsogolo ntchito yazaumoyo wa jenda.

Imavomereza kuti anthu azikhalidwe zonse ayenera kukhala ndi ufulu wosankha zawo pazakufunika kokhudza zaumoyo.

Mitundu yovomerezeka yovomereza zamankhwala amtundu wa jenda komanso chithandizo chamankhwala opatsirana pogonana chimayang'aniridwa ndi bungwe la munthu payekha komanso kudziyimira payokha mosiyana ndi kukhala wokonzeka komanso koyenera.

Othandizira amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe amagwiritsa ntchito mtunduwu amaphunzitsira makasitomala pazosankha zawo zonse kuti athe kupanga zisankho zanzeru za chisamaliro chawo.

Makliniki ochulukirachulukira, azachipatala, ndi ma inshuwaransi azaumoyo ayamba kuthandizira mitundu yazidziwitso zovomerezeka za omwe amatseka msinkhu ndi mahomoni.

Komabe, machitidwe ambiri amafunikiranso kuwunika kapena kalata yochokera kwa m'modzi mwa akatswiri azamisala opangira maopareshoni.

Momwe mungapezere wothandizira jenda

Kupeza wothandizira jenda kumatha kukhala kovuta, mwakuthupi komanso mwamalingaliro.

Ndi zachilendo kukhala ndi mantha ndi nkhawa zakupeza wothandizira yemwe amakhala ngati mlonda wapachipata, samadziwa zambiri, kapena ndiwopanda pake.

Pofuna kuti njirayi ikhale yosavuta, mabuku ena azachipatala (monga awa ochokera ku Psychology Today) amakulolani kusefa mwapadera.

Izi zitha kukhala zothandiza kwambiri kupeza akatswiri omwe ali ndi luso kapena otseguka kuti agwire ntchito ndi makasitomala a LGBTQ +.

Komabe, sizikutsimikizira kuti wothandizira wapititsa patsogolo maphunziro kapena chidziwitso chazachipatala cha jenda komanso kutsimikizira zaumoyo.

World Professional Association for Transgender Health ndi bungwe lotsogola komanso maphunziro osiyanasiyana ophunzitsidwa ndi thanzi la transgender.

Mutha kugwiritsa ntchito chikwatu chawo kuti mupeze omwe akutsimikizira kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Mungapeze zothandiza kufikira ku LGBT Center, chaputala cha PFLAG, kapena kuchipatala cha jenda ndikufunsani za chithandizo chokhudza amuna kapena akazi m'dera lanu.

Muthanso kufunsa anthu omwe siacisgender m'moyo wanu ngati akudziwa zinthu zakomweko, kapena ngati angakutumizireni kwa azachipatala.

Ngati muli ndi inshuwaransi yazaumoyo, mutha kuyimbira foni kwa amene akukuthandizani kuti muwone ngati pali ena omwe ali ndiukadaulo wamaukadaulo omwe ali ndiukadaulo pa transgender.

Ngati simukukhala pafupi ndi ntchito za LGBTQ +, muli ndi zovuta kupeza mayendedwe, kapena mungakonde kukawona wothandizira kuchokera kunyumba yabwino, telehealth ikhoza kukhala njira.

Zomwe mungafunse wothandizira

Nthawi zonse funsani zaukatswiri wawo komanso luso lawo logwira ntchito ndi makasitomala omwe amapititsa patsogolo, osasankhana, osagwirizana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, komanso kufunsa mafunso okhudzana ndi jenda.

Izi zimathandiza kuwonetsetsa kuti omwe akufuna kukhala othandizira adakwaniritsa maphunziro ofunikira.

Imalamuliranso aliyense amene angakhale akudzilengeza ngati katswiri wovomereza jenda kapena katswiri wokhudzana ndi jenda chifukwa choti akuvomereza a LGBTQ + kapena anthu otenga nawo mbali.

Nayi zitsanzo zochepa za mafunso omwe mungafunse kuti muthandize kudziwa ngati wazotheka pakati pa amuna ndi akazi angakhale oyenera:

• Kodi mumagwira ntchito kangati ndi makasitomala a transgender, nonbinary, komanso mafunso okhudzana ndi jenda?
• Mudalandira kuti maphunziro ndi maphunziro okhudzana ndi jenda, thanzi la transgender, ndikupereka chithandizo chokhudza jenda?
• Kodi njira yanu ndi njira yanji yoperekera makalata othandizira pakulimbikitsa kutsata amuna kapena akazi?
• Kodi mumafunikira magawo angapo musanalembe kalata yothandizira pakuthandizira azachipatala?
• Kodi mumalipira zowonjezera pa kalata yothandizira, kapena kodi imaphatikizidwa mu zolipiritsa za ola limodzi?
• Kodi ndiyenera kudzipereka kumagawo omwe amapitilira sabata iliyonse?
• Kodi mumapereka magawo akutali pogwiritsa ntchito telehealth?
• Mukudziwa bwanji zamtundu wa trans ndi LGBTQ + ndi othandizira zamankhwala mdera langa?

Ngati alibe maphunziro aliwonse kapena akuvutika kuti ayankhe mafunso anu okhudzana ndi maphunziro awo okhudzana ndi jenda, chitha kukhala chisonyezo kuti muyenera kufufuza njira zina kapena kusintha zomwe mukuyembekezera.

Mfundo yofunika

Ngakhale zingakhale zovuta kupeza wothandizira jenda ndikuyamba chithandizo cha jenda, anthu ambiri amawona kuti ndizothandiza komanso zopindulitsa pamapeto pake.

Ngati mukufuna kudziwa za jenda koma osakhala okonzeka kufikira wothandizila, mutha kuyamba nthawi zonse kupeza anzanu ndi magulu pa intaneti kapena m'moyo weniweni.

Kukhala ndi anthu omwe amakupangitsani kukhala otetezeka komanso olandilidwa kuyitanidwa atha kukhala amtengo wapatali - mosasamala kanthu komwe muli pantchito yofufuza za amuna kapena akazi.

Munthu aliyense akuyenera kumva kumvetsetsa ndi kutonthozedwa pakati pa amuna ndi akazi.

Mere Abrams ndi wofufuza, wolemba, wophunzitsa, mlangizi, komanso wogwira ntchito zachipatala yemwe ali ndi zilolezo yemwe amafikira omvera padziko lonse lapansi kudzera pakulankhula pagulu, zofalitsa, zoulutsira mawu (@meretheir), ndi chithandizo cha jenda ndi ntchito zothandizira pa intanetigendercare.com. Mere amagwiritsa ntchito zomwe akumana nazo pamoyo wawo komanso magwiridwe antchito osiyanasiyana kuthandiza anthu omwe akuyang'ana za amuna ndi akazi ndikuthandizira mabungwe, mabungwe, ndi mabizinesi kukulitsa kuwerenga kwa amuna ndi akazi ndikuzindikira mipata yowonetsera kuphatikizidwa kwa amuna ndi akazi muzogulitsa, ntchito, mapulogalamu, mapulojekiti, ndi zomwe zili.