Kukhala ndi Vagina Kumakhudzidwa Kwambiri… Mpaka Nditapeza Wina

Zamkati

• Sosaite imakonda kwambiri ziwalo zoberekera komanso ziwalo zathupi
• Amuna kapena akazi okhaokha samadalira kusintha kwachipatala kapena chikhalidwe
• Sikuti nyini iliyonse imapita mosalakwitsa

Nditachitidwa opareshoni, ndakwanitsa kupitiriza ndi moyo wanga.

Thanzi ndi thanzi zimakhudza aliyense wa ife mosiyanasiyana. Iyi ndi nkhani ya munthu m'modzi.

Ndine mlongo wodzipereka, mwana wamkazi woyamikira, komanso azakhali onyada. Ndine mayi wabizinesi, wojambula, komanso wokonda zachikazi. Ndipo kuyambira mwezi uno, ndakhala ndi nyini kwa zaka ziwiri.

Mwanjira ina, kukhala ndi nyini sikutanthauza kanthu kwa ine. Ndiwo mpumulo kuchokera ku dysmorphia ya thupi womwe umapangitsa kusiyana konse, ufulu wokhala ndi thupi lokonzedwa mwanjira yoti sizimveka kwa ine.

Kodi ndikumva kukhala "wathunthu" tsopano? Ine ndikuganiza ine ndikhoza kunena izo. Koma kukhala ndi nyini ndi gawo limodzi laling'ono chabe. Zochitika pamoyo wa Transgender zimaphatikizira zochulukirapo kuposa gawo limodzi la thupi lomwe lingafotokoze mwachidule.

Ndinadzimva wotsimikiza kuti ndinali wamkazi ndili mwana kwambiri. Ndidamvanso chimodzimodzi ndili wamkulu, ndisanalandire chithandizo chamankhwala. Ndikumva kukhudzika komweku tsopano, ndipo opaleshoni sinandichititse kanthu.

Sikuti anthu onse opita kuma transgender amamva chimodzimodzi. Palibe anthu awiri opititsa patsogolo omwe amadzilingalira mofananamo. Koma kudziona kwanga si kwachilendo. Koposa zonse, kusintha kwachikhalidwe ndi zamankhwala kwapangitsa kuti dziko lakunja lindimvetse bwino, m'malo mongodzisintha kapena kusintha china kukhala chosiyana ndi ine.

Ife monga akazi ndi anthu timayimira njira zambiri zokhalira anthu monga pali anthu amoyo padziko lapansi.

Sosaite imakonda kwambiri ziwalo zoberekera komanso ziwalo zathupi

Mawonekedwe amtundu wamunthu alidi nawo kuposa malingaliro owoneka bwino owoneka bwino omwe takhala tikugwiritsa ntchito kugawa anthu ndi zokumana nazo zawo. Zikuwulula kuti "mwamuna kapena mkazi" wangwiro ndi nkhani yocheza ndi anzawo yomwe imanyalanyaza tanthauzo la kukhala munthu.

Mwa kugawa anthu amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, timawachepetsanso pamalingaliro onga "Amuna amalimbikitsidwa kuti sangathe kuwalamulira" kapena "Akazi ndi osamalira." Mawu opepuka, ochepetsawa nthawi zambiri amagwiritsidwa ntchito kutsimikizira maudindo athu komanso ena '.

Chowonadi ndi chakuti, opaleshoni siyofunika kwa anthu onse opita, ndipo si amayi onse opita kumawerewere omwe amawona kuti vaginoplasty ndiyofunikira pamoyo wawo. Ndikuganiza kuti anthu onse, azikhalidwe zilizonse, ayenera kuloledwa kukhala ndi ufulu womwewo ndi momwe amadziwira matupi awo.

Amayi ena amakakamizika kusamalira. Ena amadzikakamiza kuti abereke. Ena mwa azimayiwa amamva kulumikizana kozama ndi nyini yawo, ndipo ena samatero. Amayi ena amamva kulumikizana ndi nyini ndipo alibe cholinga chobereka okha.

Ife monga akazi ndi anthu timayimira njira zambiri zokhalira anthu monga pali anthu amoyo padziko lapansi.

Chimodzi mwa zokhumba zanga za vaginoplasty chinali chosavuta. Ndinkafuna kumasuka kuzovuta zomwe zinkachitika ndikumangirira ndikumanga ziwalo zanga zam'mbuyomu kuti zisaoneke.Ndinafuna kudzimva wokongola mu suti yosambira.

Kulakalaka kuchita izi kumalimbikitsa malingaliro ena, monga kufuna kuchita zogonana mwanjira inayake, ndipo mwina mopanda chidwi kufuna kumva akazi kuposa momwe ndinkachitira kale - kuti ndiyandikire pafupi ndi malingaliro azamayi atakhala otalikirana nawo kwanthawi yayitali.

Palibe njira yolondola kapena yolakwika yokhudzira thupi lanu, palibe njira yolondola kapena yolakwika yolowera kuchipatala, ndipo palibe ubale wolondola kapena wolakwika ndi nyini yanu kapena jenda yanu.

Malingaliro ambiri ovuta komanso osiyanasiyanawa amaphatikizira pazomwe zimawoneka ngati zosavomerezeka pakati pa malingaliro anga ndi thupi langa, ndipo ndidakakamizidwa kuti ndizikonze. Komabe, palibe njira yolondola kapena yolakwika yochitira izi. Palibe njira yolondola kapena yolakwika yokhudzira thupi lanu, palibe njira yolondola kapena yolakwika yolowera kuchipatala, ndipo palibe ubale wolondola kapena wolakwika ndi nyini yanu kapena jenda yanu.

Amuna kapena akazi okhaokha samadalira kusintha kwachipatala kapena chikhalidwe

Kaya ndi kusankha kwake, mantha, kapena kusowa kwazinthu, munthu wobweza transgender sangatengepo gawo pakulowererapo kuchipatala. Izi sizimanyalanyaza omwe ali, kapena kuvomerezeka kwa umunthu wawo.

Ngakhale iwo omwe amapita kuchipatala amadzipeza okha okhutira ndi kumwa mahomoni. Hormone m'malo mwake (HRT) ndiye chinthu chachikulu kwambiri komanso chosangalatsa kwambiri pakusintha kwachipatala.

Kutenga gawo loyenera la mahomoni okhudzana ndi kugonana kumayambitsa kukula kwa mikhalidwe yachiwerewere yachiwiri yomwe munthu akadakhala nayo atatha msinkhu ndipo imakhudza zilakolako zakugonana komanso mawonekedwe ake. Pankhani ya trans trans, kutenga estrogen kumayambitsa kukula kwa mawere, kugawananso mafuta amthupi, kumachepetsa kapena kusintha kusintha kwa chidwi chazakugonana nthawi zambiri, ndikuwonetsa munthu kusinthasintha kwamalingaliro, kofanana ndi zomwe zimachitika mukamayamba kusamba.

Kwa amayi ambiri, izi ndizokwanira kuti akhale mwamtendere ndi chidziwitso cha jenda. Pachifukwa ichi, pakati pa ena ambiri, si amayi onse opitilira muyeso omwe amafunanso nyini.

Kwa ine, kukwaniritsa transgender vaginoplasty kunatanthauza njira yayitali yofufuzira moyo, chithandizo, m'malo mwa mahomoni, ndipo pamapeto pake zaka zakufufuza pazonse zokhudzana ndi njirayi. Dziwe la madokotala ochita opaleshoni likukula, koma pomwe ndidayamba kusintha, panali madokotala ochepa odziwika omwe angasankhe ndikuchita kafukufuku wochepa kwambiri m'mabungwe ophunzira.

Kuchira kuchokera ku vaginoplasty kumafunikira kuyang'aniridwa milungu ingapo, chifukwa chake malo osamalirako ana ndi kuyandikira kunyumba ndizofunikira kuziganiziranso. Kuti ndikwanitse kuchita opareshoni yanga panafunikanso kusintha kwa boma komanso chikhalidwe cha anthu kuti zikhudze malingaliro amomwe anthu amaganizira: M'miyezi yomwe ndiyenera kuchitidwa opaleshoni, boma la New York lidakhazikitsa malamulo okakamiza ma inshuwaransi kuti aziphimba ma transgender services.

Sikuti nyini iliyonse imapita mosalakwitsa

Anthu ena amatha kutaya chidwi chifukwa cha minyewa yoduka ndipo zimawavuta kapena zosatheka kukwaniritsa chiwonetsero. Ena amakumana ndi mavuto chifukwa cha zokongoletsa zosafunikira kwenikweni. Anthu ena amabwerera m'mbuyo, ndipo maopaleshoni ena amatuluka m'malo obowoleza.

Ndine m'modzi mwa mwayi, ndipo ndikusangalala ndi zotsatira zanga. Ngakhale nditha kukhala ndi zokongoletsa zokongola (ndipo ndimkazi uti yemwe alibe?), Ndili ndi khungu lokhazikika komanso kumaliseche kwa amayi. Ndikhoza kukwaniritsa zovuta. Ndipo monga zachilendo, tsopano ndili ndi nyini yomwe omwe amagonana nawo sangazindikire kuti ndi opangidwa ndi opaleshoni.

Ngakhale zina zaumoyo wa transgender zimakhalabe zosafufuzidwa, makamaka zikafika pakukhalitsa kwanthawi yayitali yothandizidwa ndi mahomoni, zenizeni zamaganizidwe a transgender zimasanthulidwa bwino ndikulembedwa. Pali kusintha kosasintha kwa zotsatira zaumoyo wamaganizidwe a anthu omwe amachita ma transgender ma opaleshoni monga vaginoplasty, phalloplasty, opaleshoni yakazi yachikazi, ma mastectomy awiri ndi kumanganso chifuwa, kapena kuwonjezera mawere.

Zomwezo zimandithandizanso. Nditachitidwa opareshoni, ndakwanitsa kupitiriza ndi moyo wanga. Ndikumva ndekha, ndikugwirizana kwambiri. Ndikumva kuti ndili ndi mphamvu zogonana, ndipo ndikusangalala nazo kwambiri tsopano. Ndimamva kuti ndine wosangalala komanso wosadandaula.

Ndipo komabe, popeza kuti mbali ya dysmorphia ili kumbuyo kwanga, sindimathera nthawi yanga ndikuganiza za nyini yanga. Zinali zofunika kwambiri, ndipo tsopano zimangodutsa m'malingaliro mwanga.

Nyini yanga ndiyofunika, ndipo nthawi yomweyo, zilibe kanthu. Ndimamva kukhala womasuka.

Ngati anthu amvetsetsa bwino zamankhwala zomwe anthu akukumana nazo, komanso maulendo athu, titha kuzindikira zowona zakuya ndi zida zothandiza kuti tipewe zabodza ndi zina zabodza.

Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi mwayi woti "ndikudutsa" ngati mayi wachisoni, ndikuuluka pansi pa radar ya iwo omwe angandizindikire ngati transgender. Ndikakumana ndi munthu koyamba, sindimakonda kutsogolera ndikuti ndine trans. Sikuti ndimachita manyazi - inde, ndimanyadira komwe ndidakhala komanso zomwe ndapambana. Sikuti anthu amandiweruza mosiyana akazindikira zakale, ngakhale zili choncho, zimandiyesa kuti ndibise.

Ndimakonda kusaulula mayendedwe anga nthawi yomweyo chifukwa, kwa ine, kukhala transgender sikuli pamwamba pamndandanda wazinthu zosangalatsa kwambiri komanso zofunikira za ine.

Komabe, anthu wamba akupezabe tsatanetsatane wazomwe zachitika lero, ndipo ndikumva kuti ndili ndi udindo wodziyimira ndekha ndi gulu la transgender m'njira yabwino, yophunzitsira. Ngati anthu amvetsetsa bwino zamankhwala zomwe anthu akukumana nazo, komanso maulendo athu, titha kuzindikira zowona zakuya ndi zida zothandiza kuti tipewe zabodza ndi zina zabodza.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti transgender ndi anthu omwe ali ndi cisgender onse apindula popita mtsogolo ndikumvetsetsa kwamunthu pokhudzana ndi jenda.

Ndikufuna kuti anthu azicheza ndi ine pa nyimbo zomwe ndimapanga, kusiyana komwe ndimapanga mdera lathu, komanso kukoma mtima komwe ndimawonetsa anzanga. Mfundo yosinthira kuchipatala, kwa anthu ambiri, ndi kudzimasula ku dysmorphia yamthupi kapena kusokonezeka kwamisala, kuti zida zamaganizidwezi zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito pongokhala anthu, kulumikizana ndi dziko lapansi popanda zosokoneza zawo.

Healthline imadzipereka kwambiri popereka thanzi lodalirika lomwe limaphunzitsa ndikuwapatsa mphamvu anthu kuti azikhala moyo wathanzi kwambiri. Kuti mudziwe zambiri zama transgender resources, ID, ndi zokumana nazo, dinani apa.