Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa Kumva ndi Kumvetsera?

Zamkati

• Kutanthauzira kumva ndi kumvera
• Kodi kumatanthauza chiyani kukhala omvetsera mwachidwi kapena ongokhala?
• Momwe mungakhalire omvera okangalika
• 1. Khalani ndi chidwi
• 2. Funsani mafunso abwino
• 3. Osangodumphira muzokambirana mwachangu
• 4. Dzimangirireni nokha pankhaniyi ndipo musasokonezedwe
• 5. Lekani kupanga nkhani
• 6. Osapanga nkhani yayikulu chifukwa cholakwitsa
• Ndinu omvera otani?
• Kutenga

Chidule

Kodi mudamvapo wina akunena kuti: "Mwina mukundimva, koma simukundimvera"?

Ngati mumadziwa bwino mawu amenewo, muli ndi mwayi wodziwa chinthu chimodzi kapena ziwiri zakusiyana pakati pakumvera ndi kumvetsera.

Ngakhale kumva ndi kumvetsera zingawoneke ngati zimagwira ntchito yofanana, kusiyana pakati pa ziwirizi ndikofunikira. Tionanso zina mwazosiyana izi, ndipo tidzagawana maupangiri amomwe mungapangire luso lanu lakumvetsera mwachidwi.

Kutanthauzira kumva ndi kumvera

Tanthauzo lakumva limakhudzana kwambiri ndi thupi pakumva mawu kuposa momwe zimakhalira ndikumvetsetsa komanso kulumikizana ndi munthu amene akuyankhula nanu.

Merriam-Webster amatanthauzira kuti "njira, magwiridwe antchito, kapena mphamvu yakuzindikira mawu; makamaka: mphamvu yapadera yomwe phokoso ndi matani amalandirira ngati zolimbikitsa. ”

Kumvetsera, kumbali ina, kumatanthauza “kumvera mawu; kumva china chake ndi chidwi; ndi kulingalira. ”

Katswiri wama psychology a Kevin Gilliland, PsyD, akuti kusiyana pakati pa ziwirizi ndi usiku ndi usana.

"Kumva kuli ngati kusonkhanitsa deta," akufotokoza.

Ntchito yakumva ndiyosavuta komanso yofunikira. Kumvetsera, komano, kumakhala mbali zitatu. "Anthu omwe amapambana pantchito, muukwati kapena mabwenzi, ndi omwe adakwanitsa kumvetsera," akutero a Gilliland.

Kodi kumatanthauza chiyani kukhala omvetsera mwachidwi kapena ongokhala?

Zikafika pakumasulira kwakumvera, titha kuziwononga. Pazoyankhulana, pali mawu awiri omwe akatswiri amagwiritsa ntchito: kumvetsera mwachidwi komanso kungomvera chabe.

Kumvetsera mwachidwi kumatha kufotokozedwa mwachidule m'mawu amodzi: chidwi. United States Institute of Peace imati kumvetsera mwachidwi "ndi njira yomvera ndikuyankhira kwa wina yomwe imathandizira kumvana."

Mwanjira ina, iyi ndi njira yomwe mukufuna kumvera ngati mukufuna kumvetsetsa munthu wina kapena mukufuna yankho.

Kumapeto kwa mbali yakumvetsera ndikumvetsera chabe.

Womvera chabe, malinga ndi Gilliland, ndi womvera yemwe sakuyesera kuthandizira pazokambirana - makamaka kuntchito kapena kusukulu. Si njira yabwino yolankhulirana ndi anthu. Ichi ndichifukwa chake Gilliland akuti musagwiritse ntchito ndi mnzanu kapena ana anu chifukwa azindikira msanga.

Momwe mungakhalire omvera okangalika

Tsopano popeza mukudziwa kusiyana pakati pakumvetsera mwachidwi ndi kumvetsera mwachidwi, mutha kukhala ndi chidwi chophunzira momwe mungakulitsire luso lanu lomvetsera mwatcheru.

Gilliland akugawana maupangiri asanu ndi amodzi omwe mungagwiritse ntchito kukulitsa luso lanu lomvetsera.

1. Khalani ndi chidwi

Omvera omvera amakhala ndi chidwi chenicheni ndipo amafuna kumvetsetsa zomwe zikunenedwa. Mukamayesetsa kumvetsera mwachidwi, mumakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kumvetsera zomwe winayo akunena, m'malo mopanga yankho lanu.

2. Funsani mafunso abwino

Izi zitha kukhala chinyengo, makamaka ngati simukudziwa tanthauzo la funso labwino. Pofuna kumvetsera mwachidwi, muyenera kupewa kufunsa mafunso amtundu wa inde / ayi, omwe amakhala otsekedwa.

M'malo mwake, yang'anani mafunso omwe amapempha anthu kuti afotokoze zambiri. Funsani zambiri kuti mumve zambiri. "Tikamamvera, timakhudzidwa, ndipo timafunikira chidziwitso chochuluka ngati tikufuna kupita patsogolo" akufotokoza Gilliland.

3. Osangodumphira muzokambirana mwachangu

Kulankhulana sikuyenera kukhala kuthamanga kwambiri. Mukamalankhula ndi munthu, ganizirani zochepetsera zokambirana. "Timakonda kutsutsana tikamayesetsa kuthamangira, ndipo palibe kuthamangira pomwe tiyenera kumvera," akutero a Gilliland.

4. Dzimangirireni nokha pankhaniyi ndipo musasokonezedwe

"Mukamayesetsa kukhala ndi mtundu wa kucheza komwe kumamvetsera ndikofunika, musayende m'njira za kalulu," akutero a Gilliland. Mwanjira ina, pewani kutaya mitu yosagwirizana kapena kunyoza kuti musokoneze mutu womwe uli nawo, makamaka ngati ndizovuta.

Pofuna kupewa izi, Gilliland amalimbikitsa kuti musanyalanyaze phokoso ndikudzimangiriza pachomwe mudayambitsa zokambiranazo mpaka zitatha.

5. Lekani kupanga nkhani

Kodi mudalankhulapo ndi munthu wina komwe mumamva kuti zambiri sizikusowa?

Tsoka ilo, tikakhala kuti sitidziwa zambiri, Gilliland akuti, timakonda kudzaza zolembazo. Ndipo tikamachita izi, nthawi zonse timachita mosayenera. Ndicho chifukwa chake akuti asiye kuchita ndikubwerera kufunsa mafunso abwino.

6. Osapanga nkhani yayikulu chifukwa cholakwitsa

Ngati mungavomereze zolakwika, izi ziyenera kukhala zosavuta kwa inu. Komabe, ngati kuuza munthu wina kuti mukulakwitsa ndi gawo lomwe mukulimbana nalo, kumvetsera mwachidwi kungakhale kovuta kwa inu.

M'malo mongokhala ndi ndalama zambiri pokhala zolondola, yesani kuvomereza mukalakwitsa. Gilliland akuti ndizosavuta monga "Choipa changa, ndinali kulakwitsa za izo. Ndine wachisoni."

Ndinu omvera otani?

Anzanu apamtima komanso abale anu amakudziwani bwino kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna kudziwa mtundu wa omvera omwe muli, funsani wina yemwe ali pafupi nanu. Gilliland amalimbikitsa kuwafunsa kuti ndi zolakwa ziti zomwe mumapanga mukawamvera.

Amanenanso kuti muwafunse mafunso okhudzana ndi madera omwe mungapezeko bwino. Ngati uyu ndi munthu yemwe mumakhala naye nthawi yayitali, mutha kuwafunsa ngati pali mitu ina kapena mitu yomwe mumavutika nayo kwambiri.

Mwanjira ina, afunseni ngati pali zokambirana zina kapena mitu yomwe mumalephera kugwiritsa ntchito luso lanu lomvetsera.

Kutenga

Kumvetsera mwachidwi ndi luso la moyo wonse lomwe lingakuthandizeni pamaubwenzi anu ndi abwenzi, abale, komanso ogwira nawo ntchito. Zonse zimatengera kuyesetsa pang'ono, kuleza mtima kwambiri, ndi kufunitsitsa kupezeka ndi munthu wina, ndikukondweretsadi zomwe akunena.