Ndinapita Pa Madeti Oyambirira Kudzera Pochezera Pakanema Pa COVID-19 Quarantine-Apa Ndi Momwe Zimayendera

Zamkati

• Kukhazikitsa
• Madeti Anga Kanema Wanga Woyamba
• Tsiku 1: Stateside Baker
• Tsiku 2: The Local American
• Tsiku 3: Wodzipereka wa London
• Zotengera
• Zoyenera Kuchita & Zosachita za Tsiku Loyamba
• Onaninso za

Sindinganene kuti ndili ndi chibwenzi chokhazikika. Kumbali yotuluka ndi kuyesera kuti ndikhale pachibwenzi ndi anthu, chabwino, ndimayamwa pagawo limenelo. Ngakhale nditakhala nthawi yayitali ndikusinthana ndi mapulogalamu azibwenzi, ndimakhala movutikira kuti ndivomere kukumana pamasom'pamaso. Pali zambiri phokoso pa mapulogalamu azibwenzi. (Ndipo, nkhani yoona: Zitha kuwononga kudzidalira kwanu.) Kuphatikiza apo, ndakhala ngati munthu amene mwangozi adayamba kukondana - kukondana ndi mnzake, kukumana ndi wina paulendo, kukondana ndi mnzake za mnzako yemwe amakhala mumzinda. Chibwenzi chonsechi, chokhazikika pachibwenzi chikuwoneka kuti chimachotsa chisangalalo ndikudzichitira zokha, kwa ine.

Komabe, monga anthu ambiri, ndimakonda lingaliro za chibwenzi. Ndimakonda kuti njira ilipo. Choncho mzinda wa Mexico City, kumene ndikukhala panopa, unalandira chilolezo choti ndizikhala pakhomo m'mwezi wa March, sindinkada nkhawa kwenikweni ndi kutha kwa chibwenzi changa. Pazolakwitsa zawo zonse, pambuyo pake, mapulogalamu azibwenzi ndi njira yabwino kutuluka mnyumba ndikakumana ndi anthu omwe atha kukhala abwenzi (zomwe zinali zofunika kwa ine, ngati munthu yemwe anali ndi milungu itatu kuti ndikhale mumzinda watsopano ndipo amadziwa pafupifupi palibe aliyense). Ndinkawopa kuti gulu langa lomwe likukula likhoza kuzizira, bwino kwambiri, ndikusokoneza kwambiri. (Onani: Momwe Coronavirus Akusinthira Chibwenzi)

Chifukwa chake, ndidakonza pulani: Kuti ndizikakamize kupita kunja (mwaphiphiritso, zachidziwikire), ndidadzikakamiza kuti ndipite koyamba pa kanema, kenako ndikulemba nkhani (moni, mukuwerenga), kuti andigwire choyankha kuti achite.

Ngakhale chochitikacho, chonsecho, chinali chikwama chosakanikirana, ndidadabwa kuti ndidakhala wokhulupirira.

Kukhazikitsa

Ndimaona chiyambi chonse chokhazikitsa FaceTime yovuta kwambiri. Palibe, kuphatikiza kwanga, yemwe akuwoneka kuti wakwanitsa kupezerera anthu ena kuti azimukopa. Mapulogalamu azibwenzi amakhala ovuta ngakhale nthawi zambiri, koma nthawi zambiri, nkhani yaying'ono yopweteka imangotenga kwamauthenga angapo musanavomere kukakumana pachakudya, kumwa, kapena-chonde chiweruziro-phwando la Lachiwiri Lachiwiri ndi Chaputala cha Mexico City cha ma Democrat Kumayiko Ena (lingaliro loyipa loyamba, ndikudziwa. Ine ... ndilibe chowiringula. Sindinkafuna kuwona kugonja kwa Elizabeth Warren ndekha, chabwino?).

Lingaliro lolimbana ndi mauthenga onse oyipawa kuti tikomane limangotenga zachikondi chonsecho. Kotero pamene ndakhala ndikufanana ndi anyamata ambirimbiri pa Hinge ndi Bumble, njira yopita ku "tiyeni ticheze kanema" mfundoyi siidandichititse chidwi moti ndangopita masiku atatu oyamba. Ndipo m'modzi yekhayo anali ndi munthu yemwe ndimafanana naye ndikudziyikira payokha. Ngakhale zili choncho, nayi chowonongekera: Pakadali pano, zikuwoneka kuti ndizoyenera kuvutikira. (Zokhudzana: Mapulogalamu Achibwenzi a Zaumoyo ndi Olimbitsa Thupi)

Madeti Anga Kanema Wanga Woyamba

Tsiku 1: Stateside Baker

Tsiku loyamba linali la bwenzi la bwenzi. Tiyeni timutche Dave. Amakhala ku Maryland, boma lomwe pano sindikufuna kupita. Koma ndikudzipatula, sichoncho? Sitiyeneranso kuwona anthu omwe ali m'mizinda yathu, ngakhale atakhala tsidya lina la msewu, osatinso zocheza nawo. Izo zikutanthauza kwenikweni aliyense ndi wosafunikira mwachilengedwe.

Ndidayang'ana ndi Dave kuchokera ku iPad yanga padenga la nyumba yanga, yomwe ndimaganiza kuti ingakhale yosangalatsa kuposa khoma loyera mchipinda changa. Koma zinadziwika kuti ine ndi Dave timakonda kuphika buledi, ndipo popeza iye ndi wapolisi ndipo ine tinakhala zaka zingapo monga mtolankhani wa milandu, tinali ndi zambiri zoti tikambirane. Zokambirana zinayenda mosavuta. Sindikudziwa kuti ndi nthawi yayitali bwanji yomwe ndimayembekezera kuti tsiku loyamba la kanema lidzatha, koma sindinaganizirenso kuti dzuwa likulowa mwachangu ndikamaganiza kuti kuyatsa kwachilengedwe kungandipangitse kuwoneka bwino pavidiyo. Pomwe ndimalowa mchithunzi cha munthu wosadziwika pa chiwonetsero chowona chenicheni, ndidadula modekha ndikutsanzika. Ngakhale sitinakhazikitse tsiku lachiwiri, Dave adawoneka ngati wamkulu, munthu yemwe ndingafune kucheza naye m'moyo weniweni. Tapitilizabe kutumizirana mameseji za ma projekiti athu ophikira anthu okha okha, omwe ndasangalala nawo.

Tsiku 2: The Local American

Tsiku langa lachiwiri loyamba linali ndi mnyamata waku US yemwe amakhala ku Mexico City. Tidzamutcha Brad. Mbiri yake ya Hinge imati akufunafuna "msungwana wosagwirizana" yemwe "sadzazemba mkangano wabwino." Mwachilengedwe, mzere wanga wotseguka wamanjenje unali, "Hola! Woyang'anira wakale wa zokambirana kusukulu yasekondale akufotokozera ntchito." Adatenga nyambo, ndipo titagwirizana kuti tizicheza pavidiyo masiku angapo pambuyo pake, adatumiziradi kuitana kwanga ku imelo yanga ndi ulalo wa Zoom-komanso nthawi yomaliza. Ili liyenera kukhala tsiku la mphindi 30. Atangotsala pang'ono kuyimba foni, adatumizira meseji kuti tisataye nthawi kukonzekera kukonzekera kuyimbirako foni. "Ingobwerani momwe mulili," adatero, "ndipo tidzapatsana mwayi wokayikira kuti nthawi zambiri tiziwoneka bwino pa 20-30 peresenti m'maboma athu omwe siapocalypse okhala ndi tsitsi labwinobwino, zodzoladzola, ndi zina zambiri." Ndinavomera, koma nthawi yomweyo ndinasintha zovala zapakhomo zomwe ndinavala n'kuvala diresi yothina yakuda.

Tinkacheza za ntchito yathu, maulendo athu, maphunziro omwe akuphunzira pano. Tsiku lathu lovomerezeka lidatha ndi chidule cha kuyimba kwa foni: Ndine wosangalatsa, adatero Brad, kapena ndili bwino ngati nditero. Amandipeza kuti ndine wowoneka bwino (zikomo, Makina othandizira). Tiyenera kukhala patali ndi anzathu, adati, (ndidakana kuwopa kufalitsa), ndipo tinagwirizana kuti tidzakambirananso posachedwa. Brad anali wabwino. Anali wosangalatsa. Adanenanso kuti tiyese mankhwala a psychedelic limodzi, kupatula, pa Zoom, ngati njira ina yopita kokayenda kupaki. (Inenso ndidakana izi, zomwe zidakhumudwitsa anzanga ena omwe adandilimbikitsa kuti ndipite nawo ndikulemba mayitanidwewo.) Ngati nthawi zikadakhala zosiyana, ndikadavomera kukakumana kuti tidye chakudya, kuti ndiwone ngati pali chakudya- kutulutsa komwe Zoom sakanakhoza kufotokoza. Koma zolemba zathu zakhala zikuchulukirachulukira kuyambira pomwe tinayimbira foni, zomwe ndimadziimba mlandu ndekha, ndipo zokambirana zathu zidasokonekera.

Tsiku 3: Wodzipereka wa London

Tsiku lachitatu lakhala, mpaka pano, limawoneka ngati chithumwa. Zinali zadzidzidzi, zachilengedwe, zodalirika kwambiri, komanso zosayembekezereka kwambiri: Sikuti timangopatukana ndi okhaokha, komanso Nyanja ya Atlantic. Tidafanana pa Hinge m'mwezi wa February, milungu iwiri asanakonzekere kupita ku Mexico City kuchokera ku London. Koma tsiku lomwe adafika kuno ndi tsiku lomwe ndidayamba kuda nkhawa kwambiri za COVID-19, tsiku lotsatira nditaganiza kuti ndidzakhala kunja kwa soiree wanga womaliza mwa anzanga (zindikirani: sabata ija, milandu yotsimikizika ku Mexico idakalipo mu manambala awiri okha mdziko lonse). Kuchita chibwenzi ndi munthu yemwe wangofika kumene kuchokera kudziko lomwe lakhudzidwa kudawoneka ngati lingaliro loipa, chifukwa chake ndidakana kukumana. Adabwerera ku UK modzidzimutsa, monganso apaulendo ambiri sabata ija, ndipo ndimaganiza kuti ndizomwezo. Koma nthawi yanga yomaliza ya nkhaniyi idayandikira mwachangu ndipo ndidali tsiku loperewera pa cholinga changa, ndipo ndinaganiza, bwanji osatero. Mwinamwake uwu ungakhale phwando lokongola lomwe ndakhala ndikuyembekezera.

Ngakhale kuti ndinamupatula ndikum'chititsa manyazi kudzera pa mauthenga a Instagram, anavomera, ndipo tinangoyamba kucheza pa Instagram pakatikati pa sabata. Macheza adangokhala ngati tidakumana kale, ndipo mphindi 45 zidadutsa. Tinkakambirana za mabanja athu, maulendo, ndale, kuphika, komanso kusungulumwa panthawi yomwe amakhala. Anayika foni yake pazenera pomwe London idayamba chisangalalo chake chausiku kwa ogwira ntchito zaumoyo kuti inenso ndimve, ndipo zinali zosangalatsa kuwona momwe akumvera mumtima mwake pamene anali kulowa. batire ya foni idandikumbutsa kuti ndiyenera kubwerera kuntchito. Patangodutsa sabata limodzi, kuyimbira kwathu kwachiwiri kwa kanema (komwe kumapangidwanso), kunatenga maola atatu. Pakhala pali wachitatu ndi wachinayi. 'Sindingadandaule ndikupita ku London zikadzatha izi,' ndimangoganiza. 'Kodi ndingapeze chifukwa chotani cha izi?' Ndiko kuti ayi komwe ndimayembekezera kuti vuto la chibwenzi la kanema ili litenga.

Zotengera

Misonkhano yathu yoyamba ikadakhala m'moyo weniweni, mwina ndidapitako masiku angapo ndi aliyense wa anyamatawa. Koma zikuwoneka bwino kwa ine tsopano kuti cheke chosavuta m'matumbo ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yosankhira m'mene mungapitirire mukakhala pachibwenzi. Kodi mukumva kuti mphindi zikudutsa, kapena mukusintha mosadukiza mitu yankhani ndikukhala modabwitsidwa pozindikira kuti kwadutsa nthawi yayitali bwanji? Kodi mukufunitsitsa kukonzekera kuti mudzabwerenso kachiwirinso, kapena kodi mukuzengereza? Muma ndikufuna kukawaonanso? Kodi zimamveka zosavuta? Ngati yankho la mafunso onsewa ndi inde, pitani pozungulira awiri. (Zokhudzana: 5 Zinthu Zomwe Aliyense Ayenera Kudziwa Zokhudza Kugonana ndi Chibwenzi, Malinga ndi Relationship Therapist)

Sindinganene kuti kupatsirana chibwenzi kudzatsogolera ku china chilichonse m'moyo weniweni. Koma mwina phindu la "kukhala pachibwenzi" kukhala kwaokha ndikuti ndizotheka kukhala paubwenzi wapamtima nthawi yayitali kugonana kusanachitike kumawonjezera zovuta. Ndipo ndani akudziwa-mwina, izi zikadzatha, zidzakhala zomveka kuti muzikhala ndi makanema mozungulira. Kupatula apo, kupita kunja kwachakudya chamadzulo ambiri kumatenga nthawi yambiri, mphamvu, ndi ndalama (ndipo mwinanso phula). Bwanji osayesa madzi kaye musanametenso miyendo yanu?

Zoyenera Kuchita & Zosachita za Tsiku Loyamba

Sindine katswiri, koma ndikuuzeni kuti masiku ochepa ochezera pavidiyowa adandiphunzitsa zambiri za momwe (ndi momwe osati)kuti izi zikhale zopindulitsa. Ndikukhulupirira, maphunziro anga angakuthandizeni kudumpha kupita kuzinthu zabwino.

1. Chitani pezani malo abata, achinsinsi oti mukambirane. Kutsegulira zimakupiza m'chipinda chako kumatha kupanga phokoso loyera lomwe limakupatsirani chinsinsi, ndikutuluka, khonde, kumbuyo, kuthawira pamoto, kapena pangodya pathu m'dera lanu kungakupatseni mtendere wamumtima.
2. Osatero tumizani kuyitanira kalendala ndi nthawi yomaliza. Konzani zamtsogolo ndi nthawi ndi "malo," monga FaceTime vs. Zoom vs. Google Hangouts vs. HouseParty (onetsetsani kuti chipinda chanu "chatsekedwa" kotero kuti anzanu osachita chilichonse asamayembekezere), koma yesetsani kudalirana kuti mutha kudziwa momwe mungawonekere osafunikira kugunda "kuvomereza" pakuyitanidwa kwa iCal.
3. Chitani dziwani kuti ngati mutakhala panja, ndipo mukucheza madzulo, dzuwa lingakulowereni.
4. Chitani Ganizirani zochitika zakutali zomwe mutha kuchitira limodzi. Airbnb ili ndi zokumana nazo zatsopano pa intaneti zomwe zimakupatsani mwayi wopita ku kalasi ya yoga ndi Olimpiki kapena kalasi yophika ndi banja lomwe lili kutali kwambiri. Google Arts & Culture ili ndi malo osungiramo zinthu zakale ambirimbiri omwe mutha "kuyendera" kudzera pazithunzi zapamwamba kwambiri zojambula padziko lonse lapansi ndi maulendo 360 a nyumba zowonetsera.Ngati mukukhala m'mizinda kapena madera osiyanasiyana, ganizirani kuchita ulendo wapamtunda wa FaceTime.
5. Osatero sungani kukhala pachibwenzi ndi winawake chifukwa chotopa. Ngati mukupeza kuti mukuvutika kuti mupitirize kukambirana kapena kuchita mantha ndi tsiku lomwe mwakhazikitsa, mwina ndi chizindikiro kuti nthawi yakwana.
6. Chitani tsatirani malo ochezera a pa Intaneti musanalankhule, ngati nonse muli achangu papulatifomu. Izi zitha kukupatsani zenera m'miyoyo ya wina ndi mnzake kuti mameseji amalephera kuwonetsa. Zitha kukupangitsani inu nonse kukhala omasuka, kukhala ngati mwakumana kale kuposa ngati mukuzizira kwambiri.
7. Chitani onetsetsani kuti mukusangalala ndi zomwe mwavala. Ngakhale anthu ambiri amasangalala ndi Zooming yopanda mathalauza, sindingadziyese ndekha ngati ndikumva ngati ndavala chovala, ndizomwe zimawoneka ngati nditavala zovala zosavomerezeka pamwamba ndi pansi. Ngakhale sindikanati ndikulimbikitseni kuti mupite kuvuto lakumeta miyendo yanu pachifuwa cha FaceTime, ndingakulimbikitseni kuvala momwe mungapangire ngati mukadakhala kuti muli pachibwenzi, kuti ndikuthandizeni kulowa mumalingaliro amenewo.

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