Zomwe 'Bridgerton' Amachita Zolakwika Pazakugonana - ndi Chifukwa Chake Zofunika

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• Njira yochotsera si njira yothandiza yolerera.
• Kuyang'ana magazi sikungakuuzeni ngati muli ndi pakati.
• Simungayambe kuchita maliseche nthawi yoyamba.
• Simuyenera kudumpha mukayamba kugonana.
• Simungakhale ndi libido yofanana ndi mnzanu - ndipo zili bwino.
• Kugonana sikuyenera kuchoka pa 0 mpaka 100.
• Simungakhale pamalungo pokhapokha pakulowa.
• Kuvomereza ndikofunikira.
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Mphindi zitatu zokha mu gawo loyamba la Bridgerton, PA ndipo mutha kudziwa kuti mwalandira zokometsera zokometsera. Pamndandanda wonse wa Shondaland wa Netflix, mumakumana ndi mafunde amphamvu pamwamba pa madesiki olimba amatabwa, zogonana pakamwa pamakwerero ndi masitepe, komanso matako ambiri.

Ndipo ngakhale mndandanda uli wotsimikizika kuti ndiwopangitsa kuti omvera azikhala otentha komanso kuti asokonezedwe (kapena osachepera, osangalatsidwa pang'ono ndi miseche yotentha ya nthawi ya Regency), sizimawonetsa kugonana m'njira yolondola kwambiri - kapena yeniyeni - njira . Kumene, Bridgerton sichinapangidwe kukhala kalasi yogonana, koma kwa anthu ena, izi zitha kukhala ndi cholinga chofanana. Mayiko 28 okha ndi District of Columbia amafuna kuti maphunziro azakugonana komanso maphunziro a HIV aphunzitsidwe m'masukulu aboma, malinga ndi Guttmacher Institute, bungwe lofufuza ndi mfundo zomwe zadzipereka kupititsa patsogolo zaumoyo ndi ufulu wobereka. Mwa mayiko amenewo, 17 yokha ndi yomwe imalamulira kuti maphunziro awa ndi olondola pazamankhwala, malinga ndi Institute. (Zokhudzana: Maphunziro a Zogonana ku U.S. Asweka - Sustain Akufuna Kukonza)

Kuti akwaniritse chidziŵitso chimenecho, a Zaka 1,000 ambiri akusintha ma TV awo. Kafukufuku wa 2018 wazaka zapakati pa 18 mpaka 29 adapeza kuti ambiri mwa omwe amatenga nawo mbali amapeza maphunziro awo azakugonana pazomwe adaziwona pa TV kapena zomwe amaphunzira kudzera pachikhalidwe cha pop. "Maphunziro sangakhale kulikonse, koma atolankhani alipo," akutero a Janielle Bryan, M.P.H., wogwira ntchito yazaumoyo komanso wophunzitsa za kugonana. "Kwa ana ena ndi achikulire, ndiye okhawo omwe akugonana, ndiye kuti ndi zolondola kwambiri, ndipamene amaphunzitsiramo - ndipo ndikanena kuti zophunzitsa, sindikutanthauza zotopetsa - zimakhala bwino. zinthu zambiri, ndipo izi zikuphatikizapo kugonana ed."

Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuchotsa Bridgerton - Wolemba kapena mndandanda wina uliwonse wosakondera - kuchokera pamzere wanu wa Netflix kwathunthu. M'malo mwake, tengani zojambula zomwe mumaziwona ndi nthanga yamchere. "Ndikofunikira kwambiri kukumbukira kuti uku ndi kugonana kojambula," akutero Jack Pearson, Ph.D., katswiri wa zachipatala m'nyumba ku Natural Cycles, pulogalamu yoletsa kubereka ndi kutsata chonde. "Ndikuganiza kuti n'kofunika kuvomereza kuti kugonana kwenikweni kumakhala kochuluka [kovuta] ... ndipo sindikanagwiritsa ntchito ngati maziko oyerekezera nkomwe. Muyenera kulimbikira, koma osagwiritsa ntchito kudziweruza nokha momwe mukuchitira m'chipinda chogona."

Nthawi ina mukamadikirira kuti mudzawonere chiwonetsero chapamwamba kwambiri pachaka - kaya chikhale chowonera koyamba kapena chachinayi - sungani izi kukhala zolakwika. ndi ziwonetsero zosagwirizana zamaganizidwe.

Njira yochotsera si njira yothandiza yolerera.

Kumayambiriro kwa nyengo, a Simon Basset, Duke wokongola wa Hastings wokongola, alumbira kuti sadzakhalanso ndi ana oti azitsutsa abambo ake ndi kuthetsa banja lawo. Chifukwa chake usiku womwe amayembekezera kwa nthawi yayitali pomwe Simon ndi mkazi wake watsopano, Daphne Bridgerton, amaliza ukwati wawo, Mkuluyu akuchotsa zomwe zingakhale siginecha yake nyengo yonseyi: kuchotsa mbolo yake kwa Daphne patangotsala pang'ono kutulutsa umuna.

Kutulutsa kumatha kukhala njira yovomerezeka yolerera kalekale m'zaka za zana la 19, koma Pearson akuti si njira yolerera yolemera potengera masiku ano. "Umuna ukhoza kupezeka mu pre-cum, ndipo ngati alipo, pali mwayi woti mimba idzachitika," akufotokoza. "[Izi zitha kuchitikanso] ngati mwamunayo sanatuluke mwachangu mokwanira ndipo amatulutsa umuna wonse mwa mkazi."

M'malo mwake, pafupifupi anthu 22 mwa anthu 100 aliwonse omwe amagwiritsa ntchito njira yochotsera amakhala ndi pakati chaka chilichonse, malinga ndi Office on Women's Health. (Inde, ndizambiri.) Chifukwa chake ngati mukuyesetsa kupewa kutenga mimba, kambiranani ndi adotolo za njira zina zakulera zomwe zikuwoneka kuti ndizothandiza kwambiri, monga zida za intrauterine, njira zakulera zam'kamwa, mphete za amayi, kapena zigamba za khungu.

Kuyang'ana magazi sikungakuuzeni ngati muli ndi pakati.

Marina Thompson atangofika kunyumba yayikulu ya Featherington, amamuwona mwamantha akufufuza m'mapepala ake kufunafuna magazi, chizindikiro kuti nthawi yake idafika usiku wonse. Tsoka ilo kwa wobwera mtawuniyi, mapepala a Marina ndi oyera ngati matalala omwe agwa kumene, omwe, mu 1813, amadziwika kuti ndi chizindikiritso chotsimikiza kuti ali ndi pakati.

Koma kuchezera kwa Aunt Flo sikutanthauza kuti muli "ndi mwana," monga Marina ananenera. "Aliyense amene ali ndi msambo amatha kukhala ndi msambo nthawi ndi nthawi, choncho kulumphira kuganiza ngati simunakhetse magazi pakadutsa milungu inayi kungakupangitseni kuchita mantha popanda chifukwa," akutero Pearson. "M'malo mwake, kafukufuku wa Natural Cycle ndi University College London, womwe udayang'ana kuzungulira kwa 600,000, adapeza kuti m'modzi yekha mwa amayi asanu ndi atatu aliwonse adakhala ndi masiku 28." Ngakhale kuti zovuta zamankhwala monga polycystic ovary syndrome, endometriosis, ndi fibroids zimatha kuchedwetsa nthawi yanu, ngakhale kusintha kwakanthawi m'thupi lanu, monga kuchepa thupi, kuchepetsa machitidwe anu olimbitsa thupi, kapena kuthana ndi kupsinjika kumatha kukhudza kuzungulira kwanu, malinga ndi Cleveland Chipatala.

Osanenapo, ndizotheka kuti magazi azitha kutuluka pang'ono kapena kuwonekera koyambirira kwa nthawi yoyamba ya trimester, makamaka dzira la umuna likamangirira kukhoma lachiberekero (aka implantation), ngati mukugonana, mwayamba matenda, kapena mahomoni anu kusinthasintha, malinga ndi US National Library of Medicine. Onjezani mfundo yakuti zizindikiro zina zoyamba za mimba zingakhale zofanana ndi zizindikiro za PMS - kuphatikizapo nseru, kutopa, ndi chifuwa cha m'mawere - ndipo zingakhale zovuta kudziwa ngati muli ndi pakati kapena osatengera chidziwitso kapena kufufuza nthawi nokha. , akutero Pearson. "Koma kutenga mayeso oyembekezera ndikuyesera kukaonana ndi dokotala wanu kungakupezeni yankho lomveka pamenepo," akuwonjezera.

Simungayambe kuchita maliseche nthawi yoyamba.

Posakhalitsa Simon atauza Daphne za chisangalalo chodzigwira pakati pa miyendo yanu, a Duchess amtsogolo adagona pabedi lake kuti adzifufuze pang'ono. Ndipo mkati mwamphindi zakunyamula zala zake pansi pa chovala chake chogona, amafika pachimake koyamba.

IRL, nthawi yanu yoyamba kuyesa kuseweretsa maliseche mwina sikungafanane ndi ya Daphne. “Aliyense ndi wosiyana, ndipo thupi la aliyense n’losiyana,” akutero Bryan. "Sindikunena kuti sizingachitike mwachangu chonchi, koma ngati wina akuchita maliseche koyamba, zimadalira momwe amadzilowerera ndi thupi lawo komanso momwe amadziwira okha."

Ichi ndichifukwa chake Bryan akulangiza anthu amisinkhu yonse kuti anyamule galasi logwira m'manja ndikuwonetsetsa kuti malo awo akumunsi akuwoneka bwino, asanayambe kudziyang'anira. Potenga nthawi yophunzira momwe thupi lanu limakhalira - kuphatikiza pomwe gawo lililonse la maliseche anu ili ndi momwe amawonekera - simusowa kukumba mozungulira posaka nkongo ndi malo ena omvera pamene mukuyesera kudzilimbitsa. Zotsatira zake: Os Wachangu komanso wamphamvu, akutero Bryan.

Pazolembedwazo, ndizabwinobwino kuseweretsa maliseche osati pachimake konse, akuwonjezera Bryan. "Ngakhale mutakhala kuti mumadziwa zambiri, nthawi zina sikuti ndi tsiku lokhalo," akutero. "Ndicho chinthu chokhudza matupi: Amachita chilichonse chomwe akufuna kuchita. Sizitanthauza kuti nthawi yoyamba [umadziseweretsa maliseche] udzakhala ndi vuto, ndipo sizitanthauza kuti khumi udzakhala ndi vuto. "

Simuyenera kudumpha mukayamba kugonana.

Omvera *mwaukadaulo* sawona zomwe otchulidwawo amachita pambuyo podumphadumpha, koma ndi bwino kuganiza kuti mwina safika kuchimbudzi atangopanga chikondi. Kuchita izi ndi njira yofunika kwambiri yopewera matenda amkodzo (UTI), omwe amatha kukula mabakiteriya atalowa mchikhodzodzo, malinga ndi OWH.

Umu ndi momwe zimagwirira ntchito: Nthawi yogonana komanso zochitika zina zosakhazikika, zopanda mathalauza, mabakiteriya ochokera kumaliseche ndi anus amatha kupita ku urethra (chubu kuchokera kuchikhodzodzo komwe mkodzo umatuluka mthupi lanu). Kumeneko, imatha kuchulukitsa ndikupangitsa kutupa, komwe kumatha kuyambitsa kupweteka kapena kuyaka kwinaku ukukodza komanso chidwi chofuna kutulutsa thukuta nthawi zambiri (ngakhale sikutuluka mkodzo wambiri) - zizindikiritso za UTI, malinga ndi OWH. Kutembenuka, Daphne akuuza Simoni kuti "adamuwotchera" asadadumphe mafupa kwa nthawi yoyamba chinali chithunzi chabe.

Izi zati, kuyang'anitsitsa zogonana kumatha kuteteza ku UTI, malinga ndi kafukufuku wofalitsidwa mu Journal of Clinical Epidemiology. M'malo mwake, kafukufuku wosiyana adawonetsa kuti miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kuchokera pamene azimayi ogonana adapanga UTI yawo yoyamba, zomwe zidachitika kachilombo kachiwiri zidachepa pakati pa omwe akuti adakodza atagonana. “Kukodza mukatha kugonana kumangothandiza kutulutsa mkodzo, pomwe mkodzo umatuluka,” adatero Pearson."Zimangothandiza mabakiteriya aliwonse omwe mwina adakankhira pamwamba apo kutuluka." (Zogwirizana: Kodi Mungagonane ndi UTI?)

Simungakhale ndi libido yofanana ndi mnzanu - ndipo zili bwino.

Kunena mwachidule, Simon ndi Daphne amangokhalira kukangana ngati akalulu nthawi yonse yaukwati wawo. Ndipo pakugonana kulikonse komwe chiwonetserochi chikuwonetsa, a Duke ndi a Duchess amayatsidwa chimodzimodzi ndipo ali okonzeka kuchita bizinesi. Spoiler: Masewerawa opangidwa ku libido kumwamba sizomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri m'moyo weniweni - ndipo zili bwino, atero a Bryan.

"Kugonana kumayambira m'maganizo, kotero ngati mwapanikizika ndi zinazake, zitha kutaya libido," akufotokoza. "Ndipo ngati simutchula [kusintha kwanu mu libido] kwa mnzanu, amangoyesa kulumpha mafupa anu, mwina sizingayendere bwino monga zimachitikira Bridgerton.”

Ndikofunikanso kukumbukira kuti ngati simusintha nthawi zonse pamene mnzanu ali wokonzeka kuchita zachisoni, sizitanthauza kuti simukukhutira ndi moyo wanu wogonana kapena S.O, atero a Bryan. "Anthu ena amamva ngati mukukana kugonana, mukuwakana, ndipo sichoncho," akufotokoza. "Mutha kukonda wokondedwa wanu, kusamalira wokondedwa wanu, kukopeka ndi mnzanu, ndipo zosintha mu libido yanu sizisintha izi. Si za iwo - ndizochitika zokha. "

Kuti muwonetsetse kuti nonse muli pa tsamba limodzi, akumbutseni kuti si vuto, ndiye yambani kukambirana nawo za zomwe zikukulepheretsani, akutero Bryan. Kufotokozera chilichonse chomwe chikuchitika m'mutu mwanu chomwe chikusintha malingaliro anu kungakuthandizeni inu ndi mnzanuyo kupeza njira zothetsera mavuto anu, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuti libido yanu ikhale yabwino, akutero. (Zogwirizana: Kumvetsetsa Mitundu Iwiri Ya Chilakolako Chokugonana Ikuthandizani Kuti Muzimva Kuyang'anira Libido Yanu)

Kugonana sikuyenera kuchoka pa 0 mpaka 100.

Bridgerton's chiwembu chimatha kuyenda pang'onopang'ono, koma zowonetsa zakugonana ndizofulumira - mwachangu kwambiri kotero kuti Simon ndi Daphne nthawi zambiri amalumpha masewerawo ndikulumpha molunjika. Awiriwo akhoza kudzutsidwa mokwanira kuti amve bwino pamasekondi asanu mutapsompsona, koma kwa owonera wamba, nthawi yayitali yofunda ingafunike.

"Nthawi zambiri ndimanena kuti chiwalo chachikulu kwambiri chogonana chimakhala pakati pa makutu ako," akutero Bryan. "Chifukwa chake ngati simulimbikitsidwa m'maganizo, mwina simukhudzidwa, ndipo zimatha kukhala zosasangalatsa chifukwa thupi lanu silimapanga mafuta achilengedwe [panthawiyo]. Pali mwayi wabwino ngati sunadzutse, kulowa kungakhale kowawa chifukwa [kumaliseche kwako] kudzauma. " (Kupatula apo, Daphne ndi Simon analibe mafuta okhala patebulo lawo.)

Kugwiritsa ntchito mphindi zochepa zowonera kumakupangitsani kukonzekera m'maganizo ndi mwakuthupi. Komanso, kuwonetseratu kungakhale kothandiza ngati mukuchita ndi mnzanu watsopano ndipo mukuyesera kuphunzira thupi la wina ndi mzake, zomwe amakonda, ndi zomwe sakonda, akutero Bryan. "Chifukwa foreplay nthawi zambiri imapita pang'onopang'ono, mumatha kukambirana ndikuwongolera mnzanu musanalowe," akufotokoza.

Simungakhale pamalungo pokhapokha pakulowa.

Pongoyang'ana zowonera, ndizothekanso kuti Daphne adaphonya kupeza ma Os akulu omwe Duke amakumana nawo pafupipafupi pa PIV. ICYDK, amuna atatu mwa anayi alionse amati amafika pachimake pafupifupi nthawi iliyonse yomwe agonana, poyerekeza ndi 28% ya azimayi, malinga ndi kafukufuku wa Lovehoney wa anthu 4,400. Kuphatikiza apo, ndi 18.4 peresenti yokha ya azimayi omwe adafunsidwa omwe adanena kuti kugonana kokha "kunali kokwanira" kuthekera, malinga ndi kafukufuku wa azimayi opitilira 1,000 omwe adasindikizidwa mu Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy.

Ndiye amachita chotsa akazi ena? Kukondoweza kwa Clitoral, mwa iwo eni kapena mwa okondedwa awo, komanso kugonana m'kamwa, malinga ndi kafukufuku wochepa wa azimayi omwe amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha - kumapangitsa kuti Daphne awonekere kawirikawiri panthawi yogonana, chifukwa chake kusowa kwathunthu kwa ma orgasms achikazi kumachitika mndandanda. (Chowonadi chakuti kusiyana kwa orgasm kumapitilirabe ngakhale kukhudzika komwe kumayang'ana kwambiri kwa akazi ndizovuta kwambiri" kuusa moyo.)

Ndipo pambali pa zochitika zake zoseweretsa maliseche, nthawi yokhayo mawonekedwe monga Daphne amakhalanso ndi vuto nthawi yomaliza, atangovomera kukhala limodzi ndikupanga banja. Pamene kubuula kukulirakulira, banjali likuwoneka kuti likufika pachimake *nthawi yomweyo*. Ndizotheka kukwaniritsa zovuta za IRL nthawi imodzi, koma zimafunikira pang'ono (ingofunsani wolemba amene adapanga chisankho cha Chaka Chatsopano). Kuphatikiza apo, sizokayikitsa kuti zingachitike pakadutsa masekondi 20. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa Lovehoney, theka la magawo omwe adagawana nawo, munthu m'modzi amakonda kufikira "poyambira" ndipo amafunika kudikirira kuti mnzake agwire. TL; DR: Inu ndi anzanu omwe mumagawana nawo mutha kutenga nthawi kuti mukwaniritse kuposa a Duke ndi a Duchess angwiro.

Kuvomereza ndikofunikira.

Daphne atangodziwa momwe mimba imachitikira komanso kuti Simon * akhoza* kukhala ndi ana (sakufuna basi), akupitiriza kupanga chimodzi mwa zochitika zotsutsana kwambiri za mndandandawu: Pakati pa kugonana, a Duchess akukwera. yekha pamwamba pa njira ya Simon cowgirl ndipo, pomwe akufuna kutsitsa umuna, amakana kuti amutulutse - njira yake yolerera. Patangopita nthawi pang'ono, akung'ung'udza, "Munatha bwanji?"

Pamene Simoni adavomereza kugonana, adachita ayi kuvomereza kulowa mkati mwa Daphne, atero a Bryan. Kumbukirani, Daphne adadziwa sanafune kukhala ndi ana (ngakhale sizinali zifukwa zenizeni). Ndipo ngakhale Mtsogoleriyo sanafuule mwachindunji, "Ayi, imani," adatero anachita nenani, "dikirani, dikirani, Daphne," ndikuwoneka kuti sakumva bwino chifukwa cholephera kuchoka. “Choncho ngakhale kuti Simon sanam’patse chidziŵitso chokwanira [chokhudza kusankha kusakhala ndi ana kumeneku] kuti asankhe mwanzeru, palibe amene amaloledwa kuswa malire anu chifukwa chakuti sizingawathandize.” (Zokhudzana: What Is Is Is? Chivomerezo, Indedi? Kuphatikizanso, Momwe Mungapangire Kuti Mufunsidwe)

Panthawi yogonana, kupempha chilolezo mosalekeza ndikofunikira. Funsani mnzanuyo ngati ali pansi pa nkhaniyi kale mumayamba, ndipo mukapitiliza kukulitsa ntchito yanu, fufuzani nawo kuti muwone ngati akufuna kupitiliza, atero a Bryan. "Timalankhulanso zambiri ndi matupi athu kuposa momwe timalankhulira ndi mawu athu, kotero ngati nthawi iliyonse yogonana mumayamba kulankhulana ndi nkhope kapena nkhope yanu kuwonetsa kuti munthuyo sakumasuka, fufuzani," akutero. Ndipo ngati sangakupatseni "inde" wachangu - kutanthauza kuti akunena kuti "sindikutsimikiza" kapena "izi sizikumveka" - siyani zochita zanu kumeneko, akuwonjezera Bryan. Kumbukirani: Inu kapena mnzanu mumatha kuchotsa chilolezo nthawi iliyonse. (Ndipo nthawi zonse ndibwino kuti muyang'ane mutagonana - aka aftercare - kuti mukambirane chilichonse chomwe sichinayende bwino komanso momwe nonse munamvera pa zinthu.)

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