Ana ndi chisoni

Ana amachita mosiyana ndi achikulire akamachita imfa ya wokondedwa. Kuti mutonthoze mwana wanu, phunzirani mayankho achizolowezi achisoni omwe ana amakhala nawo komanso zizindikilo zomwe mwana wanu samakumana nazo mwachisoni.

Zimathandiza kumvetsetsa momwe ana amaganizira asanalankhule nawo zaimfa. Izi ndichifukwa choti muyenera kuyankhula nawo pamlingo wawo.

• Makanda ndi ana ang'ono azindikira kuti anthu ali achisoni. Koma sadzakhala ndi chidziwitso chenicheni cha imfa.
• Ana akusukulu amaganiza kuti imfa ndi yakanthawi ndipo imasinthika. Iwo angawone imfa monga kulekana kokha.
• Ana opitilira zaka 5 ayamba kumvetsetsa kuti imfa imakhala kwamuyaya. Koma amaganiza kuti imfa ndichinthu chomwe chimachitikira ena, osati iwo eni kapena mabanja awo.
• Achinyamata amamvetsetsa kuti imfa ndiyosiya ntchito zathupi ndipo imakhala yamuyaya.

Si zachilendo kumva chisoni chifukwa cha imfa ya wachibale kapena bwenzi lapamtima. Yembekezerani mwana wanu kuti awonetse malingaliro ndi machitidwe osiyanasiyana omwe angabuke nthawi zosayembekezereka, monga:

• Chisoni ndikulira.
• Mkwiyo. Mwana wanu amatha kupsa mtima, kusewera kwambiri, kumalota zoopsa, kapena kumenya nkhondo ndi abale ena. Zindikirani kuti mwanayo samva kulamulira.
• Kukhala wachichepere. Ana ambiri amakhala ngati achichepere, makamaka kholo lawo likafa. Angafune kugwedezeka, kugona ndi munthu wamkulu, kapena kukana kusiyidwa.
• Kufunsa funso lomwelo mobwerezabwereza. Amafunsa chifukwa sakhulupirira kwenikweni kuti wina yemwe amamukonda wamwalira ndipo akuyesera kuvomereza zomwe zachitika.

Kumbukirani izi:

• Osanama pazomwe zikuchitika. Ana ndi anzeru. Amatengera kusakhulupirika ndipo adzadabwa kuti bwanji ukunama.
• Musakakamize ana omwe akuopa kupita kumaliro. Pezani njira zina zoti ana anu azikumbukira ndi kulemekeza womwalirayo. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kuyatsa kandulo, kupemphera, kuyanditsa buluni kumwamba, kapena kuyang'ana pazithunzi.
• Adziwitseni aphunzitsi a mwana wanu zomwe zachitika kuti mwanayo azitha kuthandizidwa kusukulu.
• Perekani chikondi chachikulu ndi chithandizo kwa ana pamene ali achisoni. Auzeni nkhani zawo ndikumvetsera. Iyi ndi njira imodzi yothandizira ana kuthana ndi chisoni.
• Apatseni ana nthawi yoti akhale achisoni. Pewani kuuza ana kuti abwerere kuzinthu zachilendo popanda nthawi yachisoni. Izi zitha kubweretsa mavuto amtsogolo.
• Samalani ndi chisoni chanu. Ana anu amayang'ana kwa inu kuti amvetsetse momwe angachitire ndi chisoni ndi kutayika.

Funsani wothandizira zaumoyo wa mwana wanu kuti akuthandizeni ngati mukudandaula za mwana wanu. Ana atha kukhala ndi mavuto enieni achisoni ngati ali:

• Kukana kuti wina wamwalira
• Wokhumudwa komanso wopanda chidwi ndi zochitika
• Osasewera ndi anzawo
• Kukana kukhala ndekha
• Kukana kupita kusukulu kapena kuchepa kwa magwiridwe antchito kusukulu
• Kuwonetsa kusintha kwa njala
• Kulephera kugona
• Kupitiliza kuchita zachinyamata kwa nthawi yayitali
• Kunena kuti aphatikizana ndi wakufayo

American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry tsamba. Chisoni ndi ana. www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Children-And-Grief-008.aspx. Idasinthidwa mu Julayi 2018. Idapezeka pa Ogasiti 7, 2020.

McCabe INE, Serwint JR. Kutayika, kupatukana, ndi kuferedwa. Mu: Kliegman RM, St. Geme JW, Blum NJ, Shah SS, Tasker RC, Wilson KM, olemba. Nelson Textbook of Pediatrics. Wolemba 21. Philadelphia, PA: Elsevier; 2020: chap 30.

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