Njira 5 Zomwe Amayi Atsopano Angapangire Zambiri "Nthawi Yanga"

Zamkati

• 1. Kumvetsetsa tanthauzo la "nthawi yanga" kwenikweni.
• 2. Kumbukirani, simungathe kuchita zonse nthawi imodzi.
• 3. Muzicheza ndi anzanu akale komanso atsopano.
• 4. Kuyenda kwanu ndi chida chobisika.
• 5. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yatchuthi.
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Mukudziwa za ma trimesters atatu a mimba - mwachiwonekere. Ndipo mwina mudamvapo anthu akunena za trimester yachinayi, yomwe imatchedwanso masabata amalingaliro atangobadwa kumene. Tsopano, wolemba Lauren Smith Brody akuthandiza amayi atsopano kuthana ndi zomwe amawatcha "fifth trimester," pamene tchuthi cha amayi chimatha ndipo dziko lopitilira nazale, matewera, ndi nyumba yosokonekera imayamba kuyang'ana.

M'buku lake latsopano, lotchedwa moyenerera The Fifth Trimester, Brody amagawana malangizo ake a no-BS kuti athandize amayi, makamaka amayi atsopano, kuthana ndi zofunikira zonse zenizeni mwana atalowa chithunzi-momwe gehena kodi mumabwerera kuntchito, kusamalira moyo wina, ndikuwononga nthawi patsiku, mukudziwa, inumwini?

Mutha kuganiza kuti palibe "nthawi yanga" mukakhala mayi. Koma Brody akupempha kuti asinthe. M'malo mwake, akunena kuti ndicho chinthu chomwe chingakuthandizeni kukhala mayi wabwino, mnzanu, ndi wogwira nawo ntchito. Mkonzi wakale wa magazini ndi mayi wa ana aŵiri akunena kuti kutsimikizira kuti mwadzisamalira (inde, limodzinso ndi khanda, mwamuna kapena mkazi, ndi masiku omalizira) sikudzakhala kophweka. Siziwoneka ngati momwe zinalili usanakhale mayi. Koma ndizotheka, ndipo muyenera kuziyika patsogolo tsopano kusakhutitsidwa kwa nthawi yayitali kusanachitike.

Apa, tikugawana maupangiri ena ochokera ku Brody kuti mupindule kwambiri ndi "nthawi yanga" yamtengo wapatali. (Ndipo pamene inu muli pa izo, ichi ndi chifukwa chake muyenera kusiya kupanikizika za moyo wanu wa moyo.)

1. Kumvetsetsa tanthauzo la "nthawi yanga" kwenikweni.

Chifukwa chake, mukudziwa kuti muyenera kusankha kudzisamalira, koma ndichani ndipo mumakwanitsa bwanji? Brody akuti njira yosavuta yodziwira momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito nthawi yabwinoyi ndikuganiza zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala komanso okondedwa kwambiri inu. Izi zitha kutanthauza kugula kwa mwana wanu, kuyendetsa ntchito zina, kudzipereka, kapena ngakhale kugonana. Momwe mungasankhire kutanthauzira nthawi yanu yokha zili ndi inu. Ingokhala ndi chizolowezi cha izi koyambirira kwa moyo wa mwana wanu.

Ngati mukuda nkhawa ndi mawu oti "nokha" (HA! Nthawi yokha yomwe amayi atsopano amakhala ndi mphindi zisanu zokha akhoza khalani ndi nthawi) Brody akunena kuti nthawi zonse muyenera kukhala ndi chithandizo chothandizira, kaya ndi abambo, osamalira ana, kapena bwenzi lodalirika. Simungachite chilichonse nthawi yomweyo, zomwe zimabweretsa nsonga yotsatira.

2. Kumbukirani, simungathe kuchita zonse nthawi imodzi.

Ndiwe mayi kwa mwana wakhanda. Ndiwe munthu ndipo udzimva kuti wathedwa nzeru. Anthu awiriwa pokonzekera kubwerera kuntchito komwe kuli masiku omalizira komanso mabwana ndi anthu ambiri omwe alibe chidziwitso cha zomwe mukukumana nazo, ndipo nkhawa yanu ikhoza kudutsa padenga. (Ngati mukugwira bwino ntchito tsiku lonse, kutumiza maimelo, kufufuza ntchito, kuphika chakudya, kudyetsa mwana, ndikupeza nthawi / mphamvu zogonana ndi mnzanu, ndiye kudos chifukwa ndinu supermom.) Kwa ena onse za inu, Brody akutero, ingodikirani.

Simungathe kuchita zonse nthawi imodzi kapena kukhala chilichonse kwa aliyense nthawi imodzi. Ndi za zomwe inu angathe kuchita. Ndipamene wosamalira, yemwe amadziwika kuti ndi wofunika kwambiri, amayi, mlongo, bwenzi, kapena wolera wodalirika, akhoza kubwera kudzatenga zidutswazo. Musaope kupempha mnzanu kuti akuthandizeni, monga Brody anena kuti simukuwafunsa ngati kuti akukuthandizani. Mukuwafunsa khalani mnzanu paulendo wopengawu, ndipo kutero pamapeto pake kudzathandiza aliyense wa inu kudzisamalira.

3. Muzicheza ndi anzanu akale komanso atsopano.

Pofufuza za amayi ena m'buku lake, Brody adapeza kuti chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe zidathandizira amayi kuzolowera kukhala amayi chinali kukhala ndi mabwenzi okhutiritsa. Mabwenzi abwino, makamaka omwe mungalumikizane nawo ndikugwirizana nawo, amathandizira kukulitsa thanzi la mayi watsopano mwa "kuwonjezera mphamvu zawo zodzidalira komanso kutsimikizira kuti ana awo akukula bwino," akulemba Brody. Kupanga kulumikizana kwatsopano, makamaka ndi amayi ena atsopano, kumapindulitsanso. Ino si nthawi yamanyazi. Fufuzani magulu azokambirana zatsopano za makolo mdera lanu - kuofesi ya ana anu, malo ogulitsira ana anu, kalasi ya yoga pambuyo pobereka, kapena ngakhale kungofufuza pa Facebook. Ngati nonse mungafotokozere, kulumikizana kungakupindulitseni komanso kukuthandizani kuphunzira zatsopano za umayi. Itha kukhala njira yolumikizirana ndikukulitsa ntchito yanu mtsogolo!

Kusungabe maubwenzi akale ndikofunikira, choncho musaiwale za anzanu aubwana komanso bwenzi lanu lapamtima lomwe silikhala pafupi kukhala ndi ana. Mukakhala ndi mphindi yokwanira, monga mukakwera sitima kupita ndi kubwera kuntchito, afikireni iwo kuti kulumikizana kwanu kulimbe. Zabwino kwambiri, itanani wolera ana ndikukonza zochezera atsikana. (Nazi zina chifukwa chake muyenera kugwiritsitsa BFF yanu.)

4. Kuyenda kwanu ndi chida chobisika.

Mayi watsopano kapena ayi, kukakamira kumbuyo kwa magalimoto pamsewu kapena m'sitima yokhazikika mukamapita kuofesi a choyipa kwambiri. Mutha kukhala mukuchita zinthu zina zambiri zopindulitsa nthawi imeneyo. Koma Brody akuti tiwone kuyimilira ndi mawonekedwe ena-ngati nthawi yodzisamalira pang'ono chifukwa palibe chomwe mungachite. Amagwira ntchito tsiku lonse ndikulera ana usana ndi usiku pamene akuyesera kugwira ntchito maola ochepa ogona. Pamene mukudikirira pakati pa magalimoto, sangalalani ndi zokhwasula-khwasula za thanzi, mvetserani nyimbo, kapena pakani zonona pamanja zokhala ndi fungo lokoma - chitani chinachake chomwe chimayang'ana mphamvu zanu zisanu kuti zikhale njira yabwino yopusitsira dongosolo lanu lamanjenje kuti likhale lozizira. Muthanso kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yopuma mutakhala m'sitima kuti mupeze anzanu. Nayi bonasi ya azimayi omwe ali ndi mwayi wokhala pafupi ndi komwe akupita. Gwiritsani ntchito izi kuti mupindule ndikuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Mayi wina wopanga yemwe Brody akuwonetsa m'bukuli amafunsa wosamalira mwana kuti abweretse mwana wake kuofesi, kuti adzayende ndi woyenda kubwerera kunyumba kumapeto kwa tsiku. (Ndi chifukwa chake kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumapindulitsa pa thanzi lanu la maganizo.)

5. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yatchuthi.

Ngati muli ndi nthawi yopuma, tengani.Kusungitsa ulendo wopita ku Bali mwina sikungachitike, koma masana nthawi yayitali ku spa sikuyenera kukhala. Itanani sitter ndipo musadandaule. (Ichi ndichifukwa chake kupumula ndikwabwino pa thanzi lanu.)

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