Zaka, Mpikisano, ndi Gender: Momwe Izi Zimasinthira Nkhani Yathu Yosabereka

Zamkati

• Pali ndalama komanso malingaliro
• Kusabereka kumawoneka chonchi

Msinkhu wanga komanso zovuta zachuma komanso zam'maganizo zakuda kwa mnzanga ndikusintha kumatanthauza kuti zosankha zathu zikuchepa.

Fanizo la Alyssa Kiefer

Kwa nthawi yayitali pamoyo wanga, ndimawona kubadwa kwa mwana ngati mwambo wamakolo wachipembedzo womwe ndiyenera kupewa. Komabe, ulendowu udadutsa mosayembekezereka kuyambira pomwe ndidakumana ndi bambo m'modzi yemwe ndikufuna kuti ndikulere naye ana, potengera momwe umphumphu wake ndi chifundo chake zingathandizire kulera komwe ndikufuna.

Tsoka ilo, sindinawerengepo nkhani yokhudzana ndi kusabereka yomwe imafotokoza momwe kufunitsitsa kokhala ndi mwana kumakhalira kovuta pomwe mnzake ndi wakuda, ndikusintha, chifukwa chazowawa zomwe zimachitika populumuka mdera loletsa anthu akudawa, achipongwe komanso olimbirana. . Ngakhale sindingagulitsane kwachiwiri ndi munthu uyu pazifukwa zilizonse, kukumana ndi izi kwakhala kukuwunikira.

Makamaka ngati mkazi wofiirira, ndalandira mayankho osafunsidwa kwazaka zambiri kuti ndikalamba ndipo ndiyenera kuganizira mozama zopeza banja. Pamene theka la banjali lomwe lingayesere kunyamula chomwe chingaoneke kuti ndi mimba yolemetsa mpaka nthawi yayitali, kusabereka kumawonjezeka ngati nkhawa tsiku lililonse.

Tsiku lina lathu loyambirira, pomwe tidawona ngati palibe chomwe sichingatheke chifukwa cha chikondi chathu chatsopano cha mame, ndikukumbukira chisangalalo changa pokhudzana ndi chidwi chathu ndikumvetsetsa kulera ana. Kuphatikiza pa izi kudadabwitsidwa kuti zokambiranazi zinali kale pamilomo yathu, popeza ndidadzichenjeza kuti ndisakhale ndi chiyembekezo chokhudza ife.

Pali ndalama komanso malingaliro

Mosiyana kwambiri ndi nthawi imeneyo, tsopano ndikuwongolera ngongole zomwe zimaposa ngongole zonse zaophunzira zomwe ndidabweza, chifukwa chothandizira mnzanga yemwe adasowa kwambiri. Izi zokha zimapangitsa tsogolo lomwe limaphatikizapo kutenga pakati kumadzimva kukhala kosatheka kwa ine.

Monga mkazi wosankhana mitundu, ndimadziwa bwino za vuto la kusowa ntchito. Zomwe ndimakumana nazo komanso ukatswiri wanga nthawi zambiri zimafafanizidwa ndi malingaliro olakwika onena za ine kuchokera pagulu loyera, omwe mavuto awo amangokhala ndi mphamvu zondiona ngati ochepera mwayi wawo waluso. Zovuta zanga zakukhazikika kwachuma zidakulirakulira popita nthawi, popeza ndidamvetsetsa zopinga zomwe zimabwera chifukwa chakuda ndikudutsa mderali.

Ndisanakumane ndi mnzanga, ndimachita manyazi kunena kuti sindinaganizepo mozama za ndalama zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhudzana ndi zomwe ndakumana nazo.

Mtengo wa zinthu zofunika monga ma prosthetic packers, maphunziro aumwini a dysphoria, CBD yothandizira kupweteka komanso kugona, opaleshoni yotsimikizira kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kusintha kwamalamulo kuzindikiritsa zaumwini, ndi chithandizo chofunikira pachikhalidwe ndichokwera, koma ndizofunikira pakukhazikika kwakuthupi ndi kwamaganizidwe.

Tsoka ilo, chifukwa chakuponderezedwa kwadongosolo, ngakhale adayesetsa kwambiri, mnzanga wakhala akuvutika kupeza ndikusunga ntchito yokhazikika mthupi lomwe amakhala popanda cholakwa chake.

Tikadakhala kuti dziko lapansi lomwe tinkakhulupirira kuti lidaliko, pomwe timakula ngati ana osankhika omwe amatikakamiza kugwira ntchito molimbika kuti tikwaniritse ukadaulo komanso kukhazikika kwachuma, sizingakhale zenizeni zathu.

M'malo mwake, ndimagwira ntchito zingapo zomwe sizikakamiza kuti azigwira ntchito yolemetsa, pomwe amayendetsa ntchito yosintha yomwe imaphatikizapo ntchito yamanja nthawi zonse.

Mwanjira imeneyi, monga mnzake wothandizirana naye kwambiri, ndimaona kuti ndili ndiudindo wonyamula zovuta zomwe sangakwanitse kuzisamalira, potengera momwe vuto ili ndiloti chifukwa chake ngongole yanga yabwino imandipatsanso mwayi wokhala ndi ngongole zochuluka chonchi.

Tsoka ilo, siili nthawi yoyenera kuti ndiwunike mutu wazomwe zimamveka ngati bomba langa lanyengo yakubala.

Sizingakhale zabwino pomwe mnzanga yemwe ali ndi vuto lodana naye adayamba kupeza ndalama zankhaninkhani pangongole yanga yopulumutsa moyo yochita opareshoni yayikulu m'mbuyomu, monga chotulukapo chosasamalidwa bwino.

Komanso sizikuwoneka ngati nthawi tsopano, popeza akuyesetsa kubwerera kusukulu kuti akapereke chithandizo chofunikira chamakhalidwe abwino kwa anthu omwe amagawana zomwe adakumana nazo.

Sichikanakhalanso choyenerera m'mbuyomu pomwe pamapeto pake adakwanitsa kudumpha malupu okwanira kuti maliseche ake apange.

Nthawiyi sinali yolondola ngakhale pomwe anali ndi nkhawa kwambiri kuti azigwira ntchito yolipiridwa ndipo anali wokhumudwa kwambiri ndikumugwira mwadzidzidzi komwe kumayambitsa kuyankha kwachisoni.

Kusabereka kumawoneka chonchi

Nkhani yanga siyingakhale yomwe imabwera m'maganizo mwanga pamene anthu amaganiza za kusabereka, koma Oxford Dictionary imalongosola kuti, "kulephera kutenga ana kapena achichepere." Mwanjira imeneyi, kusabereka kumakhudzanso nkhani yathu, pomwe mtengo wofufuzira mimba ndiwoperewera chifukwa cha zopinga zapadera zomwe zimaperekedwa kwa mayi wachikulire wofiirira ndi mnzake wakuda, trans.

Komabe ndikafunsidwa kuti ndichifukwa chiyani sitinayambe banja, ndimayenera kuluma lilime langa. Kulongosola komveka bwino monga zomwe ndapereka apa kungafune kuti nditulutse mnzanga, chifukwa chake ndimayesetsa kuti ndisinthe nkhaniyo kukhala mutu wankhani zokambirana.

M'malo mwake, ndikuyembekeza zokambirana zomwe sizingakhale zokayikitsa umunthu wa mnzanga ndi malingaliro osafunsidwa, osadziwa. M'malo mwake, ndimangolowa mumkhalidwe wogonjera womwe umayembekezeredwa ndi azimayi abulauni, omwe amamwetulira ndikugwedeza mwakachetechete, ngati oyamika ndikukumbutsidwa ndikufunika kwakanthawi kocheperako pakakhala mimba ndikamayang'anira zochitika zenizeni zakupulumuka kwathu tsiku ndi tsiku za kupondereza.

Gawo loyipitsitsa la zonsezi ndikumvetsetsa kwakuti ine ndine amene ndasintha kwambiri kuposa kale lonse pakumvetsetsa kwanga umunthu kupatsidwa momwe ndidayenera kuganizira mozama zinthu monga jenda ndi mtundu potengera ubale wanga.Kukumana ndi mayesero ndi masautso awa ndi mnzanga kwandithandizanso kumvera chisoni anthu.

Ndikuzindikira kuti ena atha kukumana ndi zovuta, zomwe sindingathe kuzidziwa. Izi zimayimira kulera bwino ana mdziko lapansi lomwe limavulaza ena mopitilira ena.

Potengera izi, ndakhala wokonzeka kukhala wodziweruza ndekha ngati kholo, komabe zovuta zanga zotere mwachilengedwe zimatha kuchepa tsiku lililonse likadutsa mogwirizana ndi chikondi cha moyo wanga.

Pachifukwa ichi, ndikhulupilira kuti owerenga amakumbukira nkhani yanga pafupipafupi ndipo zimawapatsa mpata. Mwachidziwikire, zimawakumbutsa kuti apewe kufunsa mafunso ena patokha, ndikumvetsetsa kwamomwe kuwonekera poyera kumatha kuyika pachiwopsezo zovuta zomwe zili kale za okondedwa omwe adasalidwa.

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