Kodi Kukhala ndi Amuna Kapena Akazi Okhaokha Kumatanthauza Chiyani?

Zamkati

• Zikutanthauza chiyani?
• Kodi zikukhudzana bwanji ndi chikhalidwe cha abambo?
• Kodi ndi chiani chokhala ndi nthawi ya izi?
• Kodi mawuwa adachokera kuti?
• Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?
• Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso osagonana?
• Chifukwa chiyani wina angasankhe kugwiritsa ntchito liwu limodzi kuposa enawo?
• Kodi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumawoneka bwanji?
• Kodi pali mnzake wachikondi pa izi?
• Kodi mungadziwe bwanji kuti kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi nthawi yoyenera kwa inu?
• Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani ngati simukuzindikiranso kuti ndinu amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?
• Kodi mungaphunzire kuti?

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Zikutanthauza chiyani?

Anthu omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi omwe amakopeka ndi mtundu wina uliwonse wogonana.

Amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kuzindikira kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kapena amuna kapena akazi anzawo.

Izi ndichifukwa choti "kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" sikukutanthauza amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe mumakopeka nawo, koma kuti mumakopeka ndi munthu wina aliyense.

Kodi zikukhudzana bwanji ndi chikhalidwe cha abambo?

Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndikotsutsana ndi kugonana.

Munthu wokonda zachiwerewere samakopeka ndi kugonana.

Anthu ambiri amawona kuti kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi "theka" pakati pamagonana ndi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakopeka ndi akazi nthawi zina, koma osati kangapo, kapena ayi.

Kodi ndi chiani chokhala ndi nthawi ya izi?

Ndikofunika kusiyanitsa kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Nthawi zambiri, kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumaganiziridwa kuti ndikokumana ndi aliyense - tonsefe timayembekezeredwa kukopeka ndi kugonana nthawi ina m'miyoyo yathu.

Chifukwa chake anthu nthawi zambiri amamva zakugonana ndipo amaganiza kuti zosiyana ndi "zabwinobwino."

Vuto ndi izi ndikuti kutchula anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ngati "siabwinobwino" ndi gawo la tsankho lomwe amakumana nalo.

Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha si matenda, kupatuka, kapena china chake chomwe chiyenera kuwongoleredwa - ndi gawo la omwe ali.

Kuti tipewe kunena kuti gulu lina ndi la "abambo" ndipo linalo ndi "lachilendo," timagwiritsa ntchito mawu oti "ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha."

Ichi ndi chifukwa chake tili ndi mawu oti "kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" ndi "cisgender" - chifukwa ndikofunikira kutchula magulu otsutsana, chifukwa amathandizira kusiyanitsa.

Allonormativity ndi liwu lomwe limatanthawuza lingaliro loti anthu onse ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha - ndiye kuti, anthu onse amakopeka ndi kugonana.

Zitsanzo zina zakapangidwe kazinthu zikuphatikiza kuganiza kuti aliyense:

• ali ndi mabala omwe amakopeka nawo
• amagonana nthawi ina m'miyoyo yawo
• akufuna kugonana

Zonsezi sizowona.

Kodi mawuwa adachokera kuti?

Malinga ndi LGBTA Wiki, liwu loyambirira kugwiritsidwa ntchito pofotokoza zachiwerewere linali "zogonana" basi.

Komabe, mozungulira 2011, anthu adayamba kuchita kampeni yotsutsana ndi kugwiritsa ntchito "zogonana" pofotokozera anthu omwe si atsikana.

Mawuwa akadali otsutsana kwambiri, monga zokambirana izi pa forum ya AVEN zikuwonetsera.

Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?

Anthu adayesetsa kuti asagwiritse ntchito "zachiwerewere" kuti afotokozere anthu omwe sagonana pazifukwa izi:

• Kusokonezeka. Mawu oti "kugonana" ndi "kugonana" amatanthauza kale china chake - ndipo izi zimatha kusokoneza. Mwachitsanzo, pokambirana za kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, timayenera kugwiritsa ntchito "chiwerewere," mawu omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri kutanthauza chinthu china chokhudzana, koma chosiyana.
• Kusapeza bwino. Kumuyitana munthu wina kuti “agonane” kungatanthauze kuti mumawaona ngati anthu ogonana nawo. Izi zitha kukhala zosasangalatsa kwa anthu omwe agwiriridwa, anthu omwe ndi oyera mwadala, komanso anthu omwe amatsutsidwa kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
• Kusokoneza zochitika zogonana. "Kugonana" kungatanthauze kuti wina akugonana. Komabe, kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso kugonana ndi zinthu ziwiri zosiyana. Anthu ena ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sagonana, ndipo ena ogonana amuna kapena akazi anzawo amagonana. Chizindikirocho chiyenera kukhudza momwe mumakhalira, osati machitidwe anu.

Zonsezi zanenedwa, anthu ena amagwiritsabe ntchito liwu loti "kugonana" kutanthauza "kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha."

Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso osagonana?

Anthu akugwiritsabe ntchito mawu oti "osakhala achikhalidwe." Komabe, izi sizimaphatikiza anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Monga tanenera kale, anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi zambiri samakopeka ndi kugonana, kapena mwamphamvu kwambiri. Anthu ena ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amadziona ngati gawo la gulu lachiwerewere, pomwe ena satero.

Chifukwa chake, mawu oti "non-asexual" akuwonetsa kuti imagwira ntchito kwa aliyense amene siwosagonana - kuphatikiza anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe samadziwika kuti ndi atsikana.

Mawu oti "onse ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" akusonyeza kuti tikukamba za aliyense amene sali wogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo kapena zovomerezeka.

Chifukwa chiyani wina angasankhe kugwiritsa ntchito liwu limodzi kuposa enawo?

Monga tanenera, anthu ambiri sakonda mawu oti "osagonana" kapena "ogonana." Komabe, anthu ena sakonda mawu oti "kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha," nawonso.

Zina mwa zifukwa zomwe anthu samakondera mawu oti "kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" ndi awa:

• "Allo-" amatanthauza "china," zomwe sizosiyana ndi "a-."
• Ndi mawu omwe angakhale osokoneza, pomwe "osagwirizana ndi anzawo" ndiwowonekera kwambiri.
• Sakonda momwe zimamvekera.

Palibe pamawu omwe akuwoneka kuti akuvomerezedwa ndi aliyense, ndipo udakali mutu wotsutsana lero.

Kodi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumawoneka bwanji?

Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumangotanthauza kuti mumakopeka ndi kugonana. Izi zitha kuwoneka ngati:

• kugonana ndi anthu
• kukhala ndi malingaliro okhudzana ndi kugonana ndi anthu enaake
• kuganiza zopanga chibwenzi chogonana, kapenanso kukondana, mwina motengera zomwe mumakonda pa iwo
• kusankha amene umagonana naye malingana ndi amene umakopeka naye
• kumvetsetsa ndikukhala ndi anthu omwe amafotokoza momwe amakopeka ndi zokonda zogonana

Simungakhale ndi zitsanzo zonsezi, ngakhale mutakhala ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Mofananamo, anthu ena ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kuzindikira izi. Mwachitsanzo, anthu ena omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi anzawo amakhala ndi chisangalalo chogonana.

Kodi pali mnzake wachikondi pa izi?

Inde! Anthu a Alloromantic ndi osiyana ndi anthu onunkhira.

Anthu a Alloromantic amakopeka, pomwe anthu onunkhira samakopeka kwenikweni.

Kodi mungadziwe bwanji kuti kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi nthawi yoyenera kwa inu?

Palibe kuyesa kudziwa ngati mukugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, imvi kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Koma mwina mungapeze chothandiza kudzifunsa nokha:

• Kodi ndimakopeka kangati ndikamagonana?
• Kukopa kwachiwerewere kukukulira?
• Kodi ndiyenera kukopeka ndi winawake kuti ndigwirizane naye?
• Kodi ndimakonda bwanji kusonyeza chikondi? Kodi kugonana kumakhudzana ndi izi?
• Kodi ndimamva bwanji za kugonana?
• Kodi ndimakakamizika kufuna komanso kusangalala ndi kugonana, kapena kodi ndimafunadi ndikusangalala nayo?
• Kodi ndingakhale womasuka kuzindikira kuti ndimagonana, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha? Chifukwa chiyani?

Palibe "mayankho olondola" a mafunso omwe ali pamwambawa - ndikungokuthandizani kulingalira za umunthu wanu komanso momwe mumamvera.

Mgonana aliyense ndi wosiyana, ndipo mayankho ake pamwambapa akhoza kukhala osiyana.

Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani ngati simukuzindikiranso kuti ndinu amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?

Palibe kanthu! Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti chiwerewere chimasintha pakapita nthawi.

Mutha kuzindikira kuti ndinu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha tsopano komanso ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mtsogolo. Momwemonso, mwina mukadazindikira kuti ndinu amuna kapena akazi okhaokha m'mbuyomu, ndipo tsopano mukumva kuti ndinu amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Izi sizikutanthauza kuti mukulakwitsa, kapena kusokonezeka, kapena kusweka - ndichinthu chodziwika bwino chomwe anthu ambiri ali nacho.

M'malo mwake, Kafukufuku wa Asexual wa 2015 adapeza kuti opitilira 80 peresenti ya omwe adafunsidwapo amadziwika ngati njira ina asanazindikiridwe za asexual.

Kodi mungaphunzire kuti?

Mutha kuphunzira zambiri za kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi pa intaneti kapena kuma meetups am'deralo.

Ngati muli ndi gulu la LGBTQIA, mutha kulumikizana ndi anthu ena kumeneko.

Muthanso kuphunzira zambiri kuchokera:

• Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) tsamba la wiki, komwe mungafufuze matanthauzidwe amawu osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi kugonana komanso malingaliro.
• LGBTA Wiki, yofanana ndi AVEN wiki
• mabwalo ngati forum ya AVEN ndi subsexdit ya Asexuality
• Magulu a Facebook ndi malo ena apaintaneti a anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha

Sian Ferguson ndi wolemba komanso wolemba pawokha ku Cape Town, South Africa. Zolemba zake zimakhudzana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu, chamba, komanso thanzi. Mutha kufikira kwa iye Twitter.