Kodi Kuyanjananso, Kuyanjananso Ndi Koipa Pathanzi Lanu?

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• Chifukwa Chake Iwo Ndi Oipa Kwa Inu
• Momwe Mungadziwire Kuti Muyenera Kutaya Mtima
• Momwe Mungathere (Kwenikweni) Kutha
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Newsflash: Mkhalidwe wamaubwenzi "wovuta" sikuti umangoyipa mbiri yanu yapa media media, ndiyonso yovuta paumoyo wanu wonse.

Andrea Syrtash, katswiri wa maubwenzi komanso wolemba, anati: za Iye Sangokhala Mtundu Wanu (Ndipo Icho Ndi Chinthu Chabwino). "Ubwenzi wabwino ndi wathanzi umakhala ndi kukhulupirirana, kulankhulana momasuka, ulemu, ndi kusasinthasintha-zinthu izi sizikusowa kwa ambiri mobwerezabwereza maubwenzi." (Nazi Njira 10 Zodabwitsa Zomwe Thupi Lanu Limachitira Kupsinjika Maganizo.)

Chifukwa Chake Iwo Ndi Oipa Kwa Inu

Zinthu zoyamba poyamba: Nchiyani cholemba? Liwu loyenera kwambiri la maubwenzi apambuyo-pachiwiri ndi "kuyendetsa njinga zaubwenzi." "Ndipo kupalasa njinga kumeneku kumayika nkhawa zanu," akutero a Lisa Brateman, katswiri wazamisala ku New York City komanso katswiri wazamaubwenzi. "Kupalasa njinga kumabweretsa malingaliro obwerezabwereza osakhazikika, otayika, opwetekedwa mtima, komanso opwetekedwa. Njira yowonongekayi imachepetsa kukhulupirirana komanso kukondana." (Chenjerani ndi Zinthu 8 Izi Zomwe Zimasokoneza Ubale Wanu.)

Mwachidule: Iwo omwe ali mu maubwenzi osokoneza maganizowa amakonda kuchita bwino pa nthawi zabwino ndipo amangokhalira kudandaula za zoipa. Sikuti mtundu wamaganizidwe amtunduwu umangokupatsani kusinthasintha kwakukhala mwamphamvu, umakhalanso ndi mwayi wosokoneza ndi chidaliro chanu pokhudzana ndi thupi lanu, ntchito yanu, ndi zina zambiri. "Kubwerezabwereza mmbuyo ndi mtsogolo kumayambitsa kukhumudwa, nkhawa, mkwiyo komanso nthawi zambiri kuvutika maganizo," akuwonjezera Brateman.

Momwe Mungadziwire Kuti Muyenera Kutaya Mtima

Kuzolowera chibwenzi kumatha kukhala kovuta kwambiri kuchokapo pomwe kupita kumakhala kovuta, ngakhale kuli kovuta m'maganizo. Pakapita nthawi, kukokerana kwamaganizo kungasiya mbali zonse ziwiri zilibe kanthu komanso zitaima. "Ndi nthawi yoti mupitirire pamene mukumva kuti mwayesa zonse kuti ubalewu ugwire ntchito, ndipo ndizovuta," akutero Syrtash. "Ngati mwakambirana nkhani zanu momasuka, munagwira ntchito kuti mukhale bwino, mutenga nthawi kuti muphunzire zomwe mnzanu akufunikira ndikufotokozera zomwe mukufuna ndipo sizikudina, mutha kutha podziwa kuti mwayesera."

Tikudziwa zomwe mukuganiza: zosavuta kunena kuposa kuchita. Nayi mbendera zazikulu zofiira kuti ndi nthawi yoti mupange njira zanu zosiyana:

1. Mumamva zowawa kuposa chisangalalo muubwenzi. Zinthu zikamasinthasintha, zimakhala zosavuta kukayikira, kukwiya komanso kukhumudwa. "Pamapeto pake, chibwenzicho chimatha ndikusiya kukwiya iweyo ndi mnzako kapena zonse zomwe zingayambitse kukhumudwa," akutero Brateman. "Kumva kukhala wokakamira kumakhumudwitsa komanso kukufooketsa komanso kumalepheretsa munthu kukhala wosangalala."

2. Mukutaya dzina lanu pochita izi. Ah, ndiwe nyumba yowunikira. Tanthauzo: Monga nyumba younikira yoyima yokha pakati pa gombe, ndiwe chinthu chokha chomwe chimapereka kuwala kosalekeza mu chifunga. Ndithudi, zimenezi zingamveke mwachibadwa ngati mumadziona ngati wopatsa. Komabe, ngati simukulandira chilichonse chokulimbikitsani, mudzakwiya ndi mnzanu. Choyipa chachikulu ndi chakuti, mumayamba kusiya kumvetsetsa bwino zinthu zomwe mukufuna ndi zomwe mukufuna kuchokera pachibwenzi.

3. Miyezo ndi makhalidwe anu sizigwirizana.Malingaliro anu pankhani zakugonana, chipembedzo, ndale, ndi ana ndizofunika. Ngakhale pakhoza kukhala zinthu zina zomwe simukumasuka nazo, ndikofunikira kuti muwunike kulemera kwa zisankho zanu. "Kuphatikiza makhalidwe kapena makhalidwe anu kuli koopsa pa moyo wanu," akutero Brateman.

4. Ndinukukhazikika chifukwa simukuterondikufuna kukhala ndekha. Muyenera kukhala ndi moyo wabwino kwambiri, ndi mnzanu yemwe amakupangitsani kumva ngati mtundu wabwino kwambiri wa inu nokha. Inde, kukhala ndi mabwenzi n’kosangalatsa, koma ubwenzi umenewo umakhala wofunika kwambiri ngati uli ndi munthu amene amakuchirikizani komanso amakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wofunikadi. Kuphatikiza apo, pali maubwino azaumoyo kukhala wosakwatira.

Momwe Mungathere (Kwenikweni) Kutha

Chifukwa chake mwavomereza zowona: Yakwana nthawi yoti mutuluke muubwenzi woyipawu. Gawo lanu lotsatira ndikuchepetsa ubale ndikudzilola kuti muchoke mosadukiza kwambiri. (Mukuyang'ana njira yothanirana ndi vutoli? Werengani Zifukwa 10 Zomwe Ubwenzi Wanu ndi Malo Ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi uli Wabwino Kuposa Kukhala Ndi Munthu.)

1. Osamaimba mlandu ena. Kuyika zovuta pa munthu m'modzi motsutsana ndi wina kungapangitse zinthu kukhala zosavuta poyamba pa psyche yanu. Koma pamapeto pake, zilibe "vuto" la ndani, mutuwu ukutseka. Mukakhala paubwenzi wapanjinga kwakanthawi, gawo lofunikira ndikungomaliza, osapatsa cholakwa. "Kuthetsa umphumphu ndi kukoma mtima," akutero Brateman. "Izi zithandizira kuti pakhale chisokonezo komanso mavuto. Mvetsetsani kuti simungadziwe chomwe chalakwika. Landirani zomwe mukudziwa ndikuphunzira kuchokera pazomwe zidachitikazo. Tengani zomwe mungathe, ndikupitilizabe."

2. Pemphani anzanu kuti akuthandizeni. Tonse takhala thanthwe pamene galpal akudutsamo ndi mwamuna wake panthawiyo. Chofunika kwambiri monga kukhala ndi bwenzi loti muzilankhula naye munthawi yovuta (ndi supuni mu penti ya Ben & Jerry's), ndikofunikanso kwambiri kuti wina azikufunsani mukadzuka.

Syrtash anati: "Funsani mnzanu wapamtima kapena wachibale wanu kuti akuthandizeni kuti mukhale kutali ndi chibwenzi chomwe sichimva bwino kapena chabwino." "Ngati simumadzidalira, funsani munthu amene mumamukhulupirira kuti akuthandizeni kuti mukhale ndi mlandu. Munthuyu amathanso kukukumbutsani zomwe sizikugwira ntchito mukamayesedwa kuti muyesenso. Pamapeto pake, okondedwa anu akufuna kukuwonani osangalala ndipo adzachita zomwe zimafunika kukuthandizani kuti mukafike kumeneko."

3. Dulani maubwenzi onse. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, LinkedIn...onse a 'em. Ziri zovuta kuti muwone zomwe wokondedwa wanu akuchita, ngakhale atapambana.

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