Eya, Ndaganiza Za Izi: Autism ndi Kudzipha

Nkhani yaposachedwa idati 66 mwa anthu achikulire omwe ali ndi matenda a Asperger amaganiza zodzipha.

Tiyeni tiganizire za izi kwakanthawi.

Pakati pa nkhawa za a, ndidapeza nkhani yomwe ili ndi malingaliro abwino pazifukwa zomwe timaganizira zodzipha. Koma malingaliro a NT (neurotypical - {textend} wina wopanda autism) amandipangitsa kumva kuti ndine wopanda pake. Kodi molehill ndi phiri la aspie? Inu. Ine sindine wamng'ono mokwanira kuganiza kuti molehill ndi phiri; phiri ndi phiri, ndipo chifukwa choti muli ndi zida zokwera ndipo ine sinditero, sizitanthauza kuti zida zanga ndizopangika. Koma ndimachoka ...

Anandipeza ndi matenda a autism ndili ndi zaka 25. Nditha kuonedwa ngati wamkulu. Koma kwa ine, malingaliro ofuna kudzipha amabwera chifukwa ndimaona ngati ndikulemedwa. Ndipo ine nthawizonse ndimamverera mwanjira imeneyo. Lingaliro langa loyamba lodzipha linali pamene ndinali ndi zaka 13.

Kodi ndizotheka kuti si anthu achikulire omwe angopezeka kumene? Nanga bwanji za achinyamata omwe apezeka ndi matendawa? Ana?

Ndikosavuta kuganiza, ndine vuto. Nditha kukumbukira za anthu ambiri m'mbuyomu omwe adandipangitsa kumva ngati kuti sindili woyenera nthawi yawo. Nditha kuganiza za zochitika pakadali pano zomwe sindinakonzekeretse zamaganizidwe. Nthawi zina, zimandipangitsa kuganiza kuti ndikufuna kuchita zinthu monga choncho. Ndikumvetsetsa kuti kusakwanira kwa mankhwala, koma anthu ambiri samatero.

Ndachitapo kanthu munthawi zosungunuka zomwe zapangitsa kudzipha kuwoneka ngati njira yabwino m'malingaliro mwanga. Ndakhala ndi malingaliro amfupi ngati, Ingomwani chinthu chonsecho, chitani, mwachangu, ndi malingaliro atali: Kodi inshuwaransi ya moyo imalipira ngati zikuwonekeratu kuti udadzipha?

Komabe, ndinaphunzira msanga kuti kudzipha sindiko yankho. Ndinawona zotsatira zakudzipha wekha zimakhudzira okondedwa anu pa TV, ndipo ndinaganiza kuti ngati mapulogalamu ambiri atenga chochitikachi monga, "Zingakhale bwanji kuti wakuti-ndi kukhala wodzikonda chonchi?" ndiye izi ndi momwe kudzipha kumawonedwera - {textend} ngati chinthu chodzikonda. Ndidasankha kuti ndisadutse banja langa.Ngakhale ndikudziwa tsopano kuti malingaliro ofuna kudzipha ndichizindikiro cha vuto lalikulu, ndine wokondwa kuti ndidaphunzira izi koyambirira.

Nthawi iliyonse ndikaganiza, ndakhala ndikugonjetsa - {textend} mpaka pomwe ndikungokumbutsa "zothandiza" kuti ndidakali wamoyo ndipo ndikukula m'njira zina. Makamaka m'njira yopulumukira ndekha. Ndimakana kuti ndiziwononga ndekha. Kwenikweni, ndimangoganiza za chilichonse kawiri ndisanazichite, ndiye ndimaganizira za zotheka kwambiri. Izi zandipangitsa kuti ndizichita bwino kwa wina wolumala.

NTs amaganiza ndi chikumbumtima chawo, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti malingaliro awo sakhala ndi cholinga chozindikira zomwe akuphatikizazo, monga kuyang'ana m'maso, zolankhula ndi thupi, nkhope zawo, ndi zina zambiri. Maganizo awo amangoyang'ana zomwe zikunenedwa, ndikupangitsa ubongo wawo kukhala wachangu kwambiri pocheza kuposa zathu.

Ubongo wathu ndi chikumbumtima chathu zimagwira ntchito mosiyana ndi zawo, ndipo malingaliro athu amaphatikizapo kukonza mawu m'malo mwa zinsinsi. Mavuto oyankhulana okhudzana ndi malingaliro amtunduwu amatha kubweretsa kusamvana pakati pamalingaliro ndi kusamvana.

Timafuna kulumikizidwa, mwina koposa NT, ndipo kuda nkhawa kwa chisokonezo nthawi zambiri kumatipangitsa kusokonezedwa ngati okwiya, okhumudwitsa, kapena osokoneza mwadala. (Chidziwitso chammbali: Nthawi zina titha kutanthauziridwa ngati oseketsa.)

Izi zitha kuchititsa kuti NT ikhale yamantha, yokwiya, yosokonezeka, kapena yochita chidwi ndi machitidwe athu kapena kusabwezerana. Nthawi zambiri, akuyesera kuti azilankhula chilankhulo, ndipo zochenjera zimathamangira kukambirana. Timakonda kukhala omvera pazosinthana izi. M'malingaliro athu, tikuganiza, Kodi simukuwona momwe ndikuyesera?

Kangapo konse, kuwonongeka kumeneku kwandipangitsa kuti ndizimva ngati ndine wopusa kenako ndikundikwiyitsa. Ndine mzimu wamoto, koma si tonsefe tili. Enafe ndife odekha ndipo timatha kutengeka ndi zonena za wina yemwe akuwoneka kuti akudziwa zomwe zikuchitika. Alexithymia akumenyanso.

Chifukwa tikuyesera kudziwa ngati tikukhumudwitsa, kumvetsetsa, kulumikizana bwino, ndi zina zambiri, kugwiritsa ntchito makutu athu m'malo mwa maso athu, nthawi zambiri timaphonya kapena kusokoneza zomwe anthu a NT, zomwe zimabweretsa kusamvetsetsana. Anthu amawopa zomwe samamvetsa, ndipo amadana ndi zomwe amawopa. Nthawi zambiri zimatisiya tikudabwa kuti: Kodi ma neurotypicals amatida?

Samatida ife, komabe. Sangotimvetsetsa, chifukwa ndizovuta kuti tifotokoze zakukhosi kwathu. Kusiyana kumeneku kuyenera kulamulidwa. Sitingakhale tikuyenda uku tikuganiza kuti amatida ndipo sangakhale akuyenda osamvetsetsa. Sizovuta zovomerezeka.

Monga munthu wa autism, ndidasanthula ndikufufuza zomwe ndingachite kuti ndithane ndi vutoli. Zomwe ndidapeza ndikuti ndimayenera kuvomereza ndekha komanso mnzanga amafunika kumvetsetsa zosowa zanga. Kudzivomereza wekha ndi chikondi chokhazikika komanso chopanda malire chokha chomwe chinali chomwe sindinakhale nacho nthawi zonse. Ndipo komabe, palibe njira ina yoti tikhale pamodzi, ndipo ndizowona.

Kudzidalira kumachokera pa zomwe mumaganiza nokha. Ngati mumadziona kuti ndinu wofunika chifukwa cha zomwe ena amaganiza za inu, zidzadalira mpaka kalekale machitidwe anu. Izi zikutanthauza kuti anthu ena akamakuweruzani kuti simusungunuka, mudzadzimvera chisoni. Mudzadzimvera chisoni chifukwa cha zomwe simungathe kuzilamulira. Zikumveka bwanji izi?

Mwa kuvomereza nokha, mukusiya chinyengo chakuti mutha kuthana ndi vuto lamitsempha yamaganizidwe.

Ndikofunikira kuti thanzi la munthu yemwe ali ndi autism azidzidalira. Kudzidalira kumakhudza chilichonse chomwe timachita - {textend} kuphatikizapo kudzipweteka komanso kudzipha.

Ngati inu kapena munthu wina amene mumamudziwa akuganiza zodzipha, thandizo lilipo. Fikirani ku Nambala Yodziletsa Yapadziko Lonse Yodzipha pa 1-800-273-8255.

Mtundu wa nkhaniyi udawonekera koyambirira Ntchito ya Arianne.

Arianne Garcia akufuna kukhala m'dziko lomwe tonse timagwirizana. Ndi wolemba, wojambula, komanso woimira autism. Amalembanso za kukhala ndi autism. Pitani patsamba lake.