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Nyengo yachisanu ndi chiwiri ya Bachelor Mu Paradaiso sinasowe masewero, ndipo zomwe zidachitika sabata ino sizinali zosiyana.

Kubwereranso mwachangu: Nkhani ya Lachiwiri idawonetsa maanja omwe akutenga ubale wawo kupita pamlingo wina - omwe angayiwala "Golosale" Joe Amabile ndi Serena Pitt akuponya mosangalatsa mawu a "L" - pomwe ena, monga Natasha Parker, analibe mwayi. Parker, yemwe adawonekera koyamba pa nyengo ya Peter Weber Bachelor chaka chatha, adapita ku Paradaiso chilimwechi kuwombera kwina pachikondi. Ngakhale akuwoneka kuti adapeza machesi m'mbuyomu Bachelorette Wopikisana nawo Brendan Morais, amangoyang'ana Pieper James, a Wophunzira alum omwe adafika Paradaiso sabata yatha.

Pambuyo pa Paradaiso, komabe, malipoti anali atapezeka kuti Morais ndi James anali chinthu. Parker atamva mphekesera, adapempha Morais kuti afotokozere zaubwenzi wake ndi James, ndipo adati awiriwo adangocheza kangapo. Onse a Morais ndi a James adaimbidwa mlandu wokonzekera kukumana pagombe la Paradaiso, Malinga ndi Ife Sabata Lililonse.

Mu gawo la Lachiwiri, komabe, otsalawo Paradaiso opikisanawo adawonetsa kuti sanasangalale ndi momwe Morais adachitira Parker ndikumulimbikitsa kuti achoke pagombe ndi James, zomwe - chenjezo la spoiler - adatero. Ndipo ngakhale zimawoneka kuti Parker apeza mwayi wokumana ndi wina watsopano - wokondedwa Bachelorette alum Joe Park, M.D., aka "Dr. Joe" - kukondana kwawo komwe kumangoyambira kumene kunagunda pang'ono pomwe Dr. Joe ndi BFFs ndi Morais wovuta. Mwachitsanzo, patsiku loyamba la Parker ndi Park, mumatha kuwona mayendedwe azolankhula atangomaliza kumene Parker kumuuza kuti walephera "kucheza" ndi Morais. Atawotcha patebulo ndi magalasi akuluakulu a margarita, a Dr. Joe adayamba kunena za momwe akuyembekeza kuti Parker ndi "munthu" wawo, ndikunena mwachinsinsi, "chomwe chidzakhale." (Zokhudzana: Kukhulupirira Nyenyezi Kunena 'Bachelorette' Katie Thurston ndi Blake Moynes Amakhala Akutanthauza Kuti Akhale Otani)

Ndizomveka kuti Dr. Joe adadabwa kumva zomwe zidatsika pakati pa Morais ndi Parker. Kunena zoona, zingakhale zomvetsa chisoni kuona munthu amene mumamukonda akusonyezedwa m’njira yosasangalatsa. "Brendan wanga?" adafunsa Dr. Joe panthawi yachiwiri. Inde, Dr. Joe, "Brendan wanu" adamupweteka Parker. Koma pakadali pano, zomwe akutsatira Dr. Joe: kodi amalonjeza kuti adzamvera Morais malinga ndi mbiri yawo, kapena akupitilizabe kukondana ndi Parker ndikumuyankha mnzake?

Choyamba, tiyeni tikambirane za kuyankha pa ubwenzi. Pali lingaliro ili ndi mabwenzi (ndipo nthawi zambiri maubwenzi) kuti "kukonda munthu zivute zitani" kumatanthauza kuyang'ana kupyola zisankho zokayikitsa zomwe angapange. Koma pali fayilo ya chachikulu Kusiyanitsa pakati poti wina aziyankha mlandu pazomwe achita ndi kuyimilira ndi wina mwakhungu chifukwa choti ndinu abwenzi. Kukhala muubwenzi ndikutanthauza kupanga danga lachikondi ndi kuvomerezana, osanenapo za kuyankha koyenera. Kutengera pa Bachelor Mu Paradaiso, izi zikutanthauza kuti Dr. Joe ali ndi mwayi wokhala ndi Morais mlandu chifukwa chosafika kwathunthu ndi Parker. (Zogwirizana: Momwe Mungachitire ndi Kusintha Kwa Maubwenzi Anu)

Koma Bwanji mumamuimba mlandu munthu? Izi ndi izi: Kukangana kumatha kukhala kosavuta komanso kosavuta. Zingakhalenso zochititsa manyazi pang’ono pamene mwayang’anizana ndi wokondedwa wanu ponena za chinachake chimene munalakwa. Ngakhale zili choncho, zokumana nazo zokha siziyenera kukhala zoyipa. Kulimbana, pachimake pake, ndikungokambirana. Momwe inu sankhani kuti "muyang'ane" munthuyo akhoza kukhazikitsa kamvekedwe kake, choncho tengani njira yachifundo ngati mukumva bwino.

Ngakhale Dr. Joe adalapa kwa Parker panthawi yomwe anali paubwenzi, ponena kuti ali ndi chisoni kwambiri Wophunzira bros zitha kusamalidwa mokhwima IRL. M'malo mwake, kukambirana komweko kungawoneke ngati: "Hei, Brendan. Ndangobwera kumene kuchokera ku chibwenzi changa ndi Natasha ndipo ndinadabwa kwambiri ndi momwe munachitira ndi iye ndi Pieper. Kodi tingalankhule zambiri za izo?"

Kapena, popeza Morais mwaukadaulo sanali Paradaiso Tsikuli litafika, Dr. Joe akanatha kuuza Parker kuti: "Wow, zikumveka zovuta kwambiri. Ndikadapanda kuyankhulanso za izo ndikungoyang'ana pa ife mpaka nditatha kucheza ndi Brenden. Kodi zili bwino?" Chisoni pang'ono chimapita kutali, ndipo zikanapanga kusiyana konse panthawi yomwe Dr. Joe adalumikizana ndi Parker pa tsiku lawo la chakudya chamadzulo. (Zogwirizana: Malangizo 6 a Kukhala Ndi Moyo Wathanzi - Ndi Wosapweteka Kwambiri - Mikangano Yaubwenzi)

Mutha - ndipo muyenera - kukumana ndi anzanu mokoma mtima komanso mwadala. M’kukambitsirana kongopeka kumeneku pakati pa mabwenzi aŵiri aŵiriwo, Dr. Joe anatha kunena mawu onga akuti: “Ndimakukondani ndi kuchirikiza inu, mwamuna, koma sindikuganiza kuti munathetsa mkhalidwe umenewu m’njira yabwino koposa. Kunena zowona ndi inu pazolakwika zomwe mumachita. Ndipo zomwezi kwa inu kwa ine! " Siziyenera kukhala zochulukira kapena zoneneza - zitha kukhala kukambirana mwabata, mwaulemu. (Onani: Chifukwa Chake Kukambirana Kumalakwika Ndi Mmene Mungakonzere)

Ubale ndiwosokonekera, ndipo nthawi zina, chisokonezo ndi gawo la chithumwa. Koma izi zati, anthu akhoza kulimbikitsidwa kuti adzawawerengere okondedwa awo. Pokhala ndi udindo wapafupi ndi wokondedwa wanu, ali ndi mwayi wosintha khalidwe lawo kuti likhale labwino, lomwe pamapeto pake lingawathandize kukonza ubale wawo. Nachi chifukwa china: Ngati Bachelor Mu Paradaiso maudindo adasinthidwa, ndipo ngati Dr. Joe anali mu nsapato za Parker, n'kutheka kuti akanafuna kuti wina akhale woona mtima ndi wotchera khutu ku njira zomwe iye wavulazidwa.

Kumapeto kwa tsikulo, ndizotheka kukonda bwenzi lanu osabweza 100% yazomwe amachita. Mnzanu weniweni ndi amene angakhale woona mtima kwa inu, sichoncho?

Rachel Wright, MA, LM.FT, (iye) ndiamisala ovomerezeka, ophunzitsa zogonana komanso katswiri wazamaubwenzi ku New York City. Ndi wokamba nkhani waluso, wotsogolera gulu, komanso wolemba. Adagwira ntchito ndi anthu masauzande padziko lonse lapansi kuwathandiza kuti angofuula zochepa komanso kuwombera kwambiri.

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