Zomwe Mungachite Ngati Simukukhutitsidwa Pogonana Ndi Chibwenzi Chanu

Zamkati

• Kodi inu ndi mnzanuyo mumaona ngati chosasangalatsa?
• Zomwe zimayambitsa kugonana kosangalatsa
• Kukambirana momwe mumamvera ndi wokondedwa wanu
• Njira zokometsera moyo wanu wogonana
• Funani chithandizo chamankhwala
• Landirani kulumikizana pa zakugonana
• Pangani nthawi yogonana
• Yesetsani kuchita masewero m'chipinda chogona
• Yesani madzi ndi zidole zogonana
• Onani ma kink anu (ndi anzanu)
• Lankhulani ndi katswiri wazachipatala
• Tengera kwina

Kugonana kumatha kukhala kokondana, kosangalatsa, kapenanso kosangalatsa, koma nthawi zina sizikhala chimodzi mwazinthuzi. Nthawi zina zimangokhala, zabwino, zosasangalatsa. Malinga ndi zomwe zidalembedwa mu Journal of Sex Research, 27% ya azimayi ndi 41% ya amuna samakhutira ndi kugonana kwawo.

Chifukwa chosowa nthawi yopita kuchipatala, pali zifukwa zambiri zomveka zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mphamvuyo ichoke kuchipinda.

Tidzasambira pakati pa mapepala kuti tikambirane zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu azigonana osasangalatsa, momwe tingakambirane zakusakhutira ndi anzanu, komanso njira zobwerezanso moyo wanu wogonana.

Kodi inu ndi mnzanuyo mumaona ngati chosasangalatsa?

Zokonda ndi zosowa zakugonana zimasiyana, kotero zomwe zimakhutiritsa munthu wina sizingakhutiritse wina. Koma anthu osiyanasiyana omwe sakhutiranso pogonana m'mabwenzi awo atha kukumana ndi mavuto omwewo.

Bizinesi yamoyo itanthauza kuti mukuwononga nthawi yocheperako. Kugonana kumatha kumva ngati chintchito osati ntchito yosangalatsa. Mwinamwake mwakhala mukukhala ndi mtundu wofanana ndi kalembedwe kogonana kwazaka zambiri. Zinthu zonsezi zimatha kupangitsa kuti kugonana kusadzisangalatse.

Ngati mukusowa pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu, simuli nokha. Kwa anthu ena, kutha kwa gawo la tchuthi kumawonetsa kutha kwa kugonana kosangalatsa. Koma mutha kupeza njira zothetsera vutoli.

Zomwe zimayambitsa kugonana kosangalatsa

Zimakhala zovutirapo kudziwa chifukwa chomwe moyo wanu wogonana wasinthira, koma pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe zingakhutiritse zakugonana.

Zochitika zachipatala zofananira zimatha kukhala pazu wa moyo wosakhutiritsa wogonana. Mwachitsanzo, kuchepa kwa chidwi cha kuchepa kwa chidwi (ADHD) kumatha kuyambitsa kukanika kugonana m'njira zosiyanasiyana.

Wina yemwe ali ndi ADHD atha kukhala wokonda zachiwerewere ndipo amatha kuyang'ana kwambiri zolaula m'malo mochita ndi mnzake. ADHD ingathenso kuyambitsa kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, komwe kumatha kupanga kusiyana pakati pa abwenzi omwe salinso ndi libido yomweyo.

Kwa anthu omwe ali ndi maliseche, zowawa panthawi yogonana sizachilendo kwenikweni, ndipo kupweteka pakulowera kumaliseche kumatha kuyambitsa kupewa kugonana. Anthu omwe ali ndi maliseche amathanso kumva kuwawa panthawi yogonana. Wina akapewa kugonana, wokondedwa wawo akhoza kumva kukhala wosakhutira kapena wosafunikira.

Matenda ena amisala, monga kukhumudwa ndi nkhawa, amathanso kuwonekera m'chipinda chogona. Kafukufuku wina adapeza kuti kuwonjezeka kwazizindikiro zakukhumudwa kumalumikizidwa ndi kuchepa kwachisangalalo chogonana komanso ubale.

Kafukufuku wina yemwe adachita nawo opitilira 93,000 adapeza kuti kuchepa kwa tulo kuchokera ku tulo kunapangitsa kuchepa kwa ntchito zogonana.

Kukambirana momwe mumamvera ndi wokondedwa wanu

Ngati mukuwona kuti moyo wanu wogonana wayamba kukhala wotopetsa, choyambirira komanso chofunikira kwambiri ndikulankhulana momasuka, moona mtima ndi wokondedwa wanu. Kuyankhulana ndi gawo lofunikira pamagonana abwino, osangalatsa.

Ndikofunika kufikira zokambiranazo popanda kuweruza. Ngati kusintha kwakugonana kwanu kumachitika chifukwa chazachipatala, kuwonetsa kuthandizira kwanu kumatha kusiyanitsa kwambiri mnzanu.

Nazi njira zina zoyambira kukambirana:

• “Ndazindikira kuti zinthu zikuwoneka mosiyana pakati pathu mchipinda posachedwa. Kodi zonse zili bwino? ”
• "Sitinakhale ndi nthawi yocheza limodzi monga kale. Kodi mungavutike ngati tizingokambirana? "
• "Ndasowa kwambiri pakati pathu, ndipo ndikanakonda kuti ndibwezere. Kodi tingayeseko zinthu zina zatsopano m'chipinda chogona? ”

Ngati mwakhumudwitsidwa ndikusintha kwa moyo wanu wogonana, ndikofunikira kuti mnzanu adziwe. Kufotokozera zakukhosi kwanu momasuka kungapatse mnzanuyo mwayi wosintha moyenera.

Njira zokometsera moyo wanu wogonana

Ngati simukukhutira ndi moyo wanu wogonana, pali zinthu zambiri zomwe mungachite kuti mubweretse chisangalalo kubwerera kuchipinda.

Funani chithandizo chamankhwala

Ngati pali chifukwa chachipatala pakusintha kwa moyo wanu wogonana, kufunafuna chithandizo kumatha kukulitsa kukhutira kwanu. Mwachitsanzo, adapeza kuti chithandizo chazidziwitso chimawongolera magwiridwe antchito, kukhumudwa, komanso zizindikiritso mwa anthu omwe ali ndi vaginismus.

Landirani kulumikizana pa zakugonana

China chake chosavuta monga kusayankhulana chimatha kupanga kusiyana pakati pa kugonana kwabwino ndi koipa. Zinthu zambiri zimathandizira kukhutira ndi kugonana, ndipo kukambirana zomwe mumakonda, zomwe mumakonda, komanso zomwe mumakonda kumatha kuthandiza mnzanu kuti akukhutitseni bwino.

Pangani nthawi yogonana

Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mukuvutika kupeza nthawi yogonana, zitha kukusiyani osakhutira. Zingapangitsenso kuti kugonana kumveke ngati ntchito, zomwe muyenera "kuchita."

Kupatula nthawi yoti muzisangalalanso ndi kugonana kungakuthandizeni kuti zinthu zizikhala zosangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa.

Yesetsani kuchita masewero m'chipinda chogona

Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa 2017, pafupifupi 22% ya anthu adayesapo kusewera. Pochita masewero, mutha kupanga ndikuwonetsa zochitika zosangalatsa zogonana mdera lodalirika.

Ngati nonse muli otseguka kuti muyesere, kusewera mathandizidwe kumatha kuthandiza kukulitsa kulumikizana ndi chilakolako chogona m'chipinda chosangalatsa.

Yesani madzi ndi zidole zogonana

Zoseweretsa zogonana zitha kukhala zowonjezerapo pamoyo wogonana wathanzi. Pali mitundu yambiri yazoseweretsa zakugonana pamsika, ndipo kupeza imodzi yomwe imalimbikitsa onse awiri atha kupanga zogonana zabwino.

Onani ma kink anu (ndi anzanu)

Kugonana kwa Kinky sikunyengerera monga kale. Mabanja ambiri amachita nawo kafukufuku wa kink ngati chowonjezera chosangalatsa pamoyo wawo wogonana.

Kuvomereza, malire, ndi kulumikizana ndizofunikira kwambiri mukafufuza ma kink.

Lankhulani ndi katswiri wazachipatala

Wogonana amatha kukuthandizani inu ndi mnzanu kuti mufotokozere ndi kuthetsa mavuto ndikubwezeretsanso chilakolako m'moyo wanu wogonana. yawonetsanso kuti kukulitsa luntha lauzimu komanso lamaganizidwe kumatha kuthandiza kukhutiritsa chilakolako chogonana.

Tengera kwina

Kugonana kumatha kuyamba kukhala kotopetsa pazifukwa zambiri, kuphatikiza kusowa nthawi, kutaya mtima, kapena matenda. Ndi kulumikizana moona mtima ndi zida zoyenera, mutha kubweretsanso chilakolakocho m'moyo wanu wogonana.