Ndili ndi Khansa - Zachidziwikire Ndine Wovutika Maganizo. Ndiye Chifukwa Chiyani Muyenera Kuwona Katswiri?

Therapy imatha kuthandiza aliyense. Koma kusankha kuti muchite izi ndi kwa inu nokha.

Q: Chiyambire kupezeka ndi khansa ya m'mawere, ndakhala ndi mavuto ambiri okhumudwa komanso kuda nkhawa. Nthawi zina ndimalira popanda chifukwa, ndipo ndimasiya kuchita chidwi ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe ndinkakonda. Ndimakhala ndi nthawi yomwe ndimakhala ndi mantha ndipo sindimatha kuganiza za zomwe zingachitike ngati mankhwala sagwira ntchito, kapena ngati abwereranso, kapena zochitika zina zowopsa.

Anzanga ndi abale amangokhalira kundiuza kuti ndikawone wothandizira, koma sindikuganiza kuti pali "cholakwika" ndi ine. Who sichingatero kukhala okhumudwa komanso kuda nkhawa ngati akadakhala fkhansa? Wothandizira sangakonze izi.

Ndikuwona, bwenzi. Zonse zomwe mumachita zimamveka bwino komanso zachilendo - {textend} chilichonse "chabwinobwino" chimatanthauzanso ngati izi.

Matenda okhumudwa ndi nkhawa zonse zili pakati pa anthu omwe ali ndi khansa. Kafukufuku wina adatinso anthu omwe ali ndi khansa ya m'mawere (komanso omwe ali ndi khansa yam'mimba) amakhala ndi nkhawa komanso nkhawa pakati pa odwala khansa. Ndipo chifukwa matenda amisala akadasalidwa, ziwerengero zake zimapeputsa kufalikira kwake.

Kukhala ndi kukhumudwa kapena kuda nkhawa sizitanthauza kuti pali china chilichonse cholakwika ndi inu, kaya muli ndi khansa kapena ayi. Nthawi zambiri, awa ndi mayankho omveka pazinthu zomwe zikuchitika m'miyoyo ya anthu: kupsinjika, kusungulumwa, nkhanza, zochitika zandale, kutopa, ndi zina zambiri zoyambitsa.

Mukutsimikiza kuti wothandizira sangachiritse khansa yanu. Koma atha kukuthandizani kuti mupulumuke ndikukula m'njira zina.

Chimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kwambiri komanso zodzipatula pazamankhwala ndizovuta kwa ambiri a ife kugawana mantha athu ndi kusowa chiyembekezo kwa okondedwa athu, omwe nthawi zambiri amalimbana ndi malingaliro omwewo. Wothandizira amakupangirani malo oti mulole kumverera kumeneko osadandaula za momwe zingakhudzire wina.

Therapy ikhozanso kukuthandizani kupeza ndikugwiritsitsa timatumba tating'onoting'ono tachimwemwe ndi chisangalalo zomwe zikadalipo m'moyo wanu. Ngakhale mukunena zowona kuti kukhumudwa ndi nkhawa zimabwera kwa anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi khansa, sizitanthauza kuti ndizosapeweka, kapena kuti muyenera kungodutsamo.

Kupita kuchipatala sikukutanthauza kuti muyenera kukhala angwiro kuti mupirire ndipo nthawi zonse Yang'anani Pa Mbali Yoyenera ™. Palibe amene amayembekezera zimenezo. Simulipira aliyense.

Mudzakhala ndi masiku oyipa zivute zitani. Ndinaterodi. Ndimakumbukira nthawi ina pa chemo pomwe oncologist wanga adandifunsa zamomwe ndimakhalira. Ndidamuuza kuti posachedwa ndidapita ku Barnes & Noble ndipo sindimatha kusangalala nazo. ("Chabwino, tsopano ndikudziwa kuti pali vuto lalikulu," adanyoza, pomaliza ndikumwetulira.)

Koma chithandizo chitha kukupatsani zida zothanirana ndi masiku oyipawa ndikuwonetsetsa kuti muli ndi zabwino zambiri momwe mungathere. Ndinu woyenera kutero.

Ngati mungayesere kuyesa mankhwala, ndikupemphani kuti mupemphe gulu lanu lachipatala kuti mutumizidwe. Pali akatswiri ambiri odziwa bwino ntchito yawo omwe amagwira ntchito bwino ndi omwe adapulumuka khansa.

Ndipo ngati mutha kusankha kuti mankhwalawa si anu, ndichisankho chovomerezeka. Ndiwe katswiri pazomwe mukufuna pakadali pano. Mukuloledwa kuuza okondedwa anu okhudzidwa kuti, "Ndikumvani, koma ndamva izi."

Ndichinthu chomwe mumayenera kusintha nthawi iliyonse. Mutha kukhala omasuka popanda mankhwala pakadali pano kenako ndikuganiza kuti muchita bwino nawo. Palibe kanthu.

Ndazindikira kuti pali nthawi zitatu zovuta kwambiri kwa anthu omwe ali ndi khansa: pakati pa kuzindikira ndi kuyamba kwa chithandizo, atangomaliza kulandira chithandizo, ndikuwunika mtsogolo. Mapeto a chithandizo akhoza kukhala odabwitsa komanso osokoneza. Kuyesedwa kwapachaka kumatha kubweretsa mitundu yonse yazomvera, ngakhale zaka.

Ngati izi zikukuchitikirani, kumbukirani kuti izi ndi zifukwa zomveka zopezera chithandizo.

Chilichonse chomwe mungasankhe kuchita, dziwani kuti pali akatswiri osamala komanso oyenerera kunja uko omwe angapangitse zinthu kuyamwa pang'ono.

Anu mokhazikika,

Miri

Miri Mogilevsky ndi wolemba, mphunzitsi, komanso wothandizira ku Columbus, Ohio. Ali ndi BA mu psychology kuchokera ku Northwestern University komanso a master in social work kuchokera ku University University. Anapezeka kuti ali ndi khansa ya m'mawere ya 2a mu Okutobala 2017 ndipo adamaliza chithandizo mchaka cha 2018. Miri ali ndi ma wigs pafupifupi 25 kuyambira masiku awo a chemo ndipo amasangalala kuwatumizira mwanzeru. Kuphatikiza pa khansa, amalembanso za thanzi lam'mutu, kudziwika kwawo, kugonana kotetezeka komanso chilolezo, komanso dimba.