Co-Parenting: Kuphunzira Kugwirira Ntchito Limodzi, Kaya Muli Pamodzi kapena Ayi

Zamkati

• Pezani ndandanda yomwe imagwira ntchito (nonsenu)
• Lolani kuti littles adziwe kuti ndinu gulu
• Onetsetsani pafupipafupi
• Gawani katunduyo

Ah, kulera nawo ana. Mawuwa amabwera ndi lingaliro loti ngati mukulera limodzi, mwapatukana kapena mwasudzulana. Koma sizowona!

Kaya ndinu okwatirana mosangalala, osakwatiwa, kapena kwinakwake, ngati mukulera ndi wina, ndinu kholo limodzi - nthawi.

Ndinu theka la gulu la makolo pazaka 18+ zotsatira. Ndipo ngakhale momwe mkhalidwe wanu ukuwonekera (kapena kuthekera mtsogolomo), ndi 50 peresenti pa inu kuti mugwiritse ntchito kuti athandize ana anu.

Osapanikizika kapena chilichonse.

Mwina kuthamanga theka la chiwonetserochi kumabwera kosavuta kwa inu, kapena mwina ndinuwolamulira yemwe amakhulupirira kuti ndi njira yanu kapena msewu waukulu. Sindinabwere kudzaweruza.

Mosasamala kanthu za kalembedwe kanu, kulera nawo ana ndi luso lokhazikitsa zonse - zomwe simungathe kukhala nazo mpaka mutakhala ndi ana anu.

Zachidziwikire, pali njira zomwe mungakonzekerere kukhala kholo, monga kukula pa ana osamalira ana kapena kusamalira abale anu ang'onoang'ono. Mutha kudziwa pang'ono zomwe muyenera kuyembekezera.

Koma kulera limodzi? Muyenera kukhala mmenemo ndi munthu wina aliyense. wosakwatiwa. tsiku. kuti mumvetse.

Ndipo mukakhala mmenemo, zimawonekeratu kuti muyenera kupeza njira zopangira.

Ana anu adabadwa ndi anthu awiri omwe atha kukhala kapena alibe malingaliro ofanana pakulera mwana ayenera kupita. Muli ndi zokumana nazo zosiyana, masomphenya, ndi ziyembekezo momwe mungafune kuti zinthu zikuwonekere. Zinthu zimakhala zovuta kwambiri pomwe sipangokhala mafilosofi osiyana olera, koma mabanja olekana pachithunzichi.

Ndilo dziko lokhala ndi kholo limodzi lomwe ndikukhalamo. Ndipo ngakhale zingakhale zovuta, kunena zochepa, ine ndi mwamuna wanga wakale timagwirizana nthawi zonse pachinthu chofunikira kwambiri - kuyika anyamata athu awiri patsogolo.

Ndipo pamene tikulowa mchaka chathu chachitatu kuti tisangalale kuti tipeze zonse pamodzi, ndakhala ndikuchita-malangizowo oti ndigawe ngakhale zitakhala bwanji kuti kudzipereka kwanu polera ana kumawoneka.

Apa akuyembekeza kuti athandiza ulendo wanu kukhala wachimwemwe, wathanzi, komanso wogwirizana.

Pezani ndandanda yomwe imagwira ntchito (nonsenu)

Kaya mumakhala limodzi nthawi zana kapena ayi, kulera limodzi kumayamba ndikudalira dongosolo losavuta.

Zachidziwikire, muli ndi magawo ndi zochita za tsiku ndi tsiku mwana asanabadwe, choncho lingalirani za momwe amawonekera, ndi magawo ati omwe mumawakonda kwambiri. Gwiritsani ntchito Intel iyi kuti mupange ndandanda ya kulera nawo limodzi yomwe ikugwirizana ndi moyo wanu wakale, kusunga zizolowezi ndi zokonda zanu m'malingaliro.

Ngati zikukuthandizani, ndizotheka kumamatira.

Dongosolo lomwe mudagawana limatha kusintha nyengo ndi nyengo komanso chaka ndi chaka, koma kukhazikitsa ndikukhazikitsanso komwe kumagwira ntchito mozungulira ndikofunikira.

Mwina m'modzi wa inu akuyembekezeredwa kuntchito koyambirira, ndipo winayo ndi amene amayang'anira chakudya cham'mawa ndi kusamalira ana masana. Mwinanso wina amatha kusinthasintha ndipo amatha kusamalira nthawi yolemba masana. Ziwombankhanga za usiku zimatha kutenga chakudya chamadzulo, ndi zina zotero.

Kukhazikika ndikofunikira pakukula kwa ana ndi mtendere wamaganizidwe a makolo onse awiri.

Lolani kuti littles adziwe kuti ndinu gulu

Kudziwonetsera nokha ngati gulu logwirizana ndichofunikira kwambiri mdziko la kulera ana.

Onetsani ana anu kuti mumalankhulana, kukambirana, ndi kuvomereza pafupipafupi momwe zingathekere komanso kuti zisankho zimaperekedwa kuchokera kwa inu nonse. Awonetseni kuti ndinu gulu.

Adzazindikira kuti sangathenso kuchoka kwa kholo limodzi popanda wina kudziwa - kapena choipitsitsa - kuyesa kukugweranani.

Sizikunena kuti padzakhala mfundo zokakamira komanso kusamvana panjira, monga pachibwenzi chilichonse. Koma muziwakhalira mseri, osawamvera, ndipo osakhudza ana anu ausinkhu uliwonse.

Pomwe amabwera kudzawona ndi kukulemekezani muli ndi msana wina ndi mnzake, njira yosavuta yolerera ya onse ndi yosalala.

Onetsetsani pafupipafupi

Ngakhale pansi pa denga lomweli, ndikofunikira kuti mupeze kholo lanu limodzi nthawi zambiri komanso nthawi zambiri. Kuyambira pomwe akhanda amabwera mpaka mtsogolo, masiku amakhala okhutira komanso otanganidwa kwambiri, kungonena zochepa.

Zinthu zimasinthasintha, kuyambira pamawonekedwe kupita pagawo, zokonda, zochitika zazikulu, ndi chilichonse chapakati. Chifukwa chake ndikanena kuti mugwire, zimaphatikizapo ... chabwino… pafupifupi chilichonse chomwe mungaganizire.

Kodi mwana wakhala akulavulira koposa masiku onse? Kodi mwana wanu wakhanda amakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri akasiya ntchito? Kodi kholo lanu limakhala bwanji, ndipo kodi pali zokhumudwitsa kapena zomwe mukuwona zomwe mukugawana?

Kumbukirani kuti mukukumana ndi theka lokha la izi. Nenani, ndipo khalani okonzeka kumvanso. Mukudziwa bwino ngati ma pre-set-ins kapena ma impromptu touch base amagwira ntchito bwino. Heck, ngakhale zolemba mwachangu zitha kunyenga pang'ono.

Zilizonse zomwe mukuyang'ana zikuwoneka, onetsetsani kuti zikuchitika - chifukwa cha aliyense.

Gawani katunduyo

Inde, zingakhale zovuta kukhala kholo limodzi, komanso ndi mdalitso waukulu kukhala ndi wopanga nawo ana anu akufuna kukhala ndi gawo logwira ntchito, lofunika pamoyo wawo.

Palibe amene angamvetse momwe zimakhalira kuti mukhale kholo la ana anu kupatula kholo lanu limodzi. Ngakhale patsiku lovuta kwambiri, lokhumudwitsa kwambiri, kumbukirani izi!

Kukhala ndi kholo lodzipereka ndi mwayi wogawana nawo ulendowu - ndi maudindo.

Pali nthawi yoikidwiratu madokotala ndi mano. Zowonjezera. Kuchapa zovala. Zogulitsa. Mankhwala. Maphwando akubadwa. Kusamalira ana. Kusukulu. Sukulu yokhazikika. Masiku odwala.

Mndandanda wa maudindo sudzatha, ndipo pamene tili okondwa kuzichita, palibe kukayika kuti kukhala ndi chithandizo ndichinthu chodabwitsa. Dalirani wina ndi mnzake kuti muchite zonse ndipo zimakhala zosavuta kwa nonse.

Kate Brierley ndi wolemba wamkulu, freelancer, komanso mayi wokhala ku Henry ndi Ollie. Wopambana mphotho ya mkonzi wa Rhode Island Press Association, adalandira digiri ya bachelor mu utolankhani komanso mbuye mu library ndi maphunziro aukadaulo ku University of Rhode Island. Amakonda ziweto zopulumutsa, masiku apanyanja, komanso zolemba pamanja.