Chifukwa Chake Tiyenera Kukambirana Zakuopa Imfa

Zamkati

• "Moyo udafunsa Imfa, 'Chifukwa chiyani anthu amandikonda koma amadana nawe?' Imfa idayankha, 'Chifukwa ndiwe wabodza labwino ndipo ndine chowonadi chowawa." - Wolemba sakudziwika
• Tiyeni tikambirane za imfa chifukwa cha khofi
• Mbiri yaimfa ndi iti, kapena "njovu mchipinda"?
• Momwe mungabweretsere zokambirana zaimfa kunyumba

Timaphatikizapo zinthu zomwe timaganiza kuti ndizothandiza kwa owerenga athu. Ngati mutagula maulalo omwe ali patsamba lino, titha kupeza ndalama zochepa. Nayi njira yathu.

"Moyo udafunsa Imfa, 'Chifukwa chiyani anthu amandikonda koma amadana nawe?' Imfa idayankha, 'Chifukwa ndiwe wabodza labwino ndipo ndine chowonadi chowawa." - Wolemba sakudziwika

Anthu ambiri sakonda kuganiza kapena kulankhula za imfa. Ngakhale ndizosapeweka kuti aliyense wa ife adzafa, mantha, nkhawa, ndi mantha zimazungulirabe imfa - ngakhale mawu okha. Timayesetsa kupewa kuganizira za izi. Potero, timakhudza thanzi lathu m'maganizo ndi kuthupi kuposa momwe tikudziwira.

Palinso nthawi yoti: nkhawa yakufa. Mawuwa amatanthauza mantha omwe anthu amakhala nawo akazindikira zaimfa.

"Maganizo awa," akutero a Lisa Iverach, PhD, wofufuza wamkulu ku University of Sydney, "amachokera pa umboni woti imfa ndi gawo lalikulu pamavuto osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi nkhawa."

Kuda nkhawa ndi imfa kumatha kukhala kwachilendo. Kuopa zosadziwika komanso zomwe zimachitika pambuyo pake ndikofunikira. Koma ikayamba kusokoneza momwe mumakhalira moyo wanu, zimakhala zovuta. Ndipo kwa anthu omwe sapeza njira zoyenera kuthana nazo, ndizotheka kuti nkhawa zonsezo zimayambitsa kupweteka kwamisala komanso kupsinjika.

Iverach amafotokoza zochitika zingapo momwe kuopa imfa kumakhudzira moyo wathanzi. Mutha kuzindikira zina:

• Matenda a kupatukana kwa ana nthawi zambiri amaphatikizapo kuwopa kwambiri kutaya anthu ofunika kwa iwo, monga makolo awo, pangozi kapena imfa.
• Ofufuza mokakamiza amayang'ana masinthidwe amagetsi, mbaula, ndi maloko pofuna kupewa ngozi kapena imfa.
• Otsuka manja nthawi zambiri amaopa kutenga matenda osatha komanso owopsa.
• Kuopa kufa ndi matenda amtima nthawi zambiri kumayambitsa maulendo azachipatala pafupipafupi kwa omwe ali ndi vuto la mantha.
• Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lazizindikiro za somatic amapempha pafupipafupi kuti akayesedwe kuchipatala ndikuwunika thupi kuti athe kuzindikira matenda akulu.
• Ma phobias enieni amaphatikizapo kuopa kwambiri kutalika, akangaude, njoka, ndi magazi, zonse zomwe zimakhudzana ndi imfa.

“Imfa si chinthu chomwe timangolankhula pafupipafupi. Mwina tonsefe timafunika kukhala omasuka kukambirana za nkhaniyi. Sayenera kukhala njovu m'chipindacho, "akukumbutsa Iverach.

Tiyeni tikambirane za imfa chifukwa cha khofi

Kulankhula zaimfa ndi ntchito ya moyo wa Karen Van Dyke. Kuphatikiza pa kukhala mlangizi waluso kumapeto kwa moyo akugwira ntchito ndi akulu m'magulu othandizira othandizira okhalamo komanso kukumbukira, Van Dyke adalandira malo oyamba a Death Cafe ku San Diego mu 2013. Ma Cafes a Imfa amakhala malo ochezeka, olandilidwa, komanso omasuka kwa iwo omwe akufuna amalankhula momasuka za imfa. Ambiri ali m'malesitilanti kapena m'malesitilanti komwe anthu amadya ndikumwa limodzi.

"Cholinga cha Death Cafes ndikuti muchepetse mtolo wachinsinsi cha zomwe mumakumana nazo kapena zomwe sizingachitike," akutero Van Dyke. "Ndimachitanso moyo mosiyana pakadali pano, makamaka pakadali pano, ndipo ndikudziwikatu za komwe ndikufuna kuyika mphamvu zanga, ndipo kulumikizana kumene ndikunena zakumwalira ndi ufulu."

Chiwonetsero chaimfa ndichabwino kwambiri kuposa zizolowezi zina ndi zomwe tingachite kuti tipewe imfa. Kuonera wailesi yakanema, kumwa mowa, kusuta, komanso kugula… nanga zikadakhala izi ndi zododometsa komanso zizolowezi zomwe timachita kuti tipewe kuganizira zaimfa? Malinga ndi a Sheldon Solomon, pulofesa wama psychology ku Skidmore College ku Saratoga Springs, New York, kugwiritsa ntchito izi ngati zosokoneza si lingaliro lachilendo.

"Popeza kuti imfa ndi nkhani yosavomerezeka kwa anthu ambiri, nthawi yomweyo timayesetsa kuti ichoke m'mutu mwathu pochita zinthu zodzidodometsa," akutero a Solomon. Kafukufuku wake akuwonetsa kuti kuopa imfa kumatha kuyambitsa machitidwe, zizolowezi, ndi machitidwe omwe amawoneka abwinobwino.

Kulimbana ndi mikhalidwe imeneyi, kukhala ndi magwiridwe oyenera ndikuwona momwe imfa ingakhalire.

Ma Cafe a Imfa afalikira padziko lonse lapansi. Jon Underwood ndi Sue Barsky Reid adakhazikitsa Death Cafes ku London ku 2011 ndi cholinga chokambirana zokambirana zaimfa powauza m'malo ochezeka. Mu 2012, Lizzy Miles adabweretsa Death Cafe yoyamba ku US ku Columbus, Ohio.

Zikuwonekeratu kuti anthu omwe akuchulukirachulukira akufuna kulankhula moona mtima zaimfa. Zomwe amafunikanso ndi malo otetezeka komanso okopa, omwe Imfa ya Cafes imapereka.

Mbiri yaimfa ndi iti, kapena "njovu mchipinda"?

Mwina ndikuopa mawu omwe amawapatsa mphamvu.

A Caroline Lloyd, omwe adayambitsa Death Cafe yoyamba ku Dublin, akuti ndi cholowa cha Chikatolika ku Ireland, miyambo yambiri yakufa imazungulira tchalitchi ndi miyambo yake yakale monga maliro ndi miyambo yachipembedzo. Lingaliro lomwe Akatolika ena amakhulupiriranso ndikuti kudziwa mayina a ziwanda inali njira yowachotsera mphamvu.

Nanga bwanji, m'dziko lamasiku ano, titha kugwiritsa ntchito njira iyi yakufa? M'malo mongonena mawu achipongwe onga "adadutsa," adamwalira, "kapena" anasunthira patsogolo "ndikudzipatula kuimfa, bwanji osavomereza?

Ku America, timapita kumanda. "Koma sizomwe aliyense akufuna," akutero Van Dyke. Anthu amafuna kulankhula momasuka - za kuopa kwawo imfa, zomwe adakumana nazo atadwala kwambiri, akuwona imfa ya wokondedwa, ndi mitu ina.

Death Cafe ku Dublin imachitikira mu malo omwera mowa, achi Irishi, koma palibe amene amaledzera izi zikachitika. Zachidziwikire, atha kukhala ndi painti kapenanso tiyi, koma anthu omwera mowa - achinyamata ndi achikulire, akazi ndi abambo, akumidzi ndi akumatauni - amakhala olimba mtima pankhani yokhudza imfa. “Amasangalalanso. Laugher ndi gawo lake, "akuwonjezera Lloyd, yemwe posachedwa adzalandira Death Cafe yake yachinayi mumzinda wa Ireland.

Zikuwonekeratu kuti malo awa akugwira ntchito yabwino.

"Zidakali zambiri zomwe anthu ammudzi akufuna," akutero Van Dyke. "Ndipo, ndakhala pamtendere pang'ono kuti imfa ichitika nditachita izi kwa nthawi yayitali." Tsopano pali makamu 22 a Death Cafe ku San Diego, onse ophunzitsidwa ndi Van Dyke ndipo gululi likugawana machitidwe abwino.

Momwe mungabweretsere zokambirana zaimfa kunyumba

Ngakhale Death Cafes ikadali yatsopano ku US, zikhalidwe zina zambiri zimakhala ndi miyambo yakanthawi yayitali yokhudza kufa ndi kufa.

Rev. Terri Daniel, MA, CT, ali ndi satifiketi ku Death, Dying, and Bereavement, ADEC. Iye ndiyenso anayambitsa Death Awareness Institute ndi Conference Afterlife. Daniel amadziwa kugwiritsa ntchito miyambo ya ashamani zikhalidwe zikhalidwe kuti zithandizire kuchiritsa anthu posuntha mphamvu zakusokonekera komanso kutayika kunja kwa thupi. Adaphunziranso miyambo yakufa munzikhalidwe zina.

Ku China, abale amasonkhanitsa maguwa a nsembe kwa achibale awo omwe adangomwalira kumene. Izi zitha kukhala ndi maluwa, zithunzi, makandulo komanso chakudya. Amasiya maguwa awa osachepera chaka, nthawi zina kwamuyaya, chifukwa chake miyoyo ya omwe achoka imakhala nawo tsiku lililonse. Imfa simalingaliro kapena mantha, ndikukumbutsa tsiku ndi tsiku.

Daniel akutchula miyambo yachisilamu ngati chitsanzo china: Ngati munthu wawona maliro, ayenera kuwatsatira kwa masitepe 40 kuti ayime ndikuzindikira kufunikira kwaimfa. Akufotokozanso za Chihindu ndi Chibuda monga zipembedzo komanso miyambo yomwe imaphunzitsa ndikumvetsetsa kufunikira kwaimfa ndikukonzekera imfa ngati njira yowunikirira, m'malo moganizira zaimfa ndi mantha komanso nkhawa.

Kusintha kwa malingaliro paimfa kuyeneradi. Ngati kukhala moyo wathu ndikuwopa kufa kumakhudza thanzi lathu, ndiye kuti tiyenera kuyesetsa kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino, amakhalidwe abwino mozungulira mutuwo. Kusintha nkhani yonena zaimfa kuchokera ku nkhaŵa kukhala kuvomereza, kaya kudzera mu Death Cafes kapena miyambo ina, ndichinthu choyamba chabwino poyambitsa zokambiranazo. Mwina zitatha izi, titha kuvomereza ndikukumbukira imfa monga gawo la moyo wathu.

Stephanie Schroeder ndi New York City-Based wolemba pawokha komanso wolemba. Woyimira kumbuyo komanso womenyera ufulu wawo, Schroeder adasindikiza zolemba zake, "Wreck Wokongola: Kugonana, Mabodza & Kudzipha," mu 2012. Pakadali pano akukonzekera nthano "HEADCASE: Olemba a LGBTQ ndi Ojambula pa Mental Health and Wellness," lofalitsidwa ndi Oxford University Press mu 2018/2019. Mutha kumupeza pa Twitter pa @ Aliraza0141.