Mtengo Wokufa: Mabokosi, Zolemetsa, ndi Kukumbukira Kwambiri

Zamkati

• Malipiro a Biology 101
• Ma tag pamtengo wogulitsira bokosi
• Kufunika kokumbukira komanso mtengo wakulira
• Kulipira mtengo wosiya ma tabu omwera atsegulidwa Lachiwiri
• Pepala logulitsa malo: Pangani ndalama, mutaye zotsalira
• Kukumbukira tsiku laimfa la Agogo ndi makeke a Freda
• Kufunika kwamaphunziro a moyo wamaliro
• Kulipira ufulu wathunthu
• Kupulumutsa ndi zopereka za vinyo wa Costco zamapikichoni okumbukira imfa

Zowonera komanso zachuma zotayika kholo.

Mbali Yina Yachisoni ndi mndandanda wazakusintha kwa moyo kutaya. Nkhani zamphamvu izi zimafufuza zifukwa ndi njira zambiri zomwe timamvera ndikutsatira njira yatsopano.

Zimawononga ndalama zingati kufa? Pafupifupi $ 15,000.

Agogo anga atamwalira - mayi yemwe adandilera - zidawononga ndalama zambiri pamaliro.

Nditatsegula kirediti kadi ndi malire a $ 20,000 m'zaka zotsatira, zidakhala zosangalatsa kudziwa kuti nditha kulipirira maliro ataponya chipewa. Ndinali wolamulira ngati zingachitike. Chifukwa ndidaphunzira ndi Agogo aakazi kuti "mwina" atha kuchitika pakati poti mugone bwino Lamlungu ndikudutsa pambuyo pa ntchito Lolemba.

Gawo lovuta kwambiri laimfa ndikutaya munthu amene mumamukonda. Koma ndiye mukugundidwa ndi funde la ndalama, osati pamaliro kapena polandirira.

Zaka zinayi kuchokera pamene agogo aakazi adamwalira, ndalipira ngongole zanga zambiri. Koma ena akupitilizabe chidwi.

Ndikugawana zina mwazomwe ndalipira - zam'malingaliro ndi zachuma - ndikuyembekeza kuti mutha kukhala okonzeka, popeza ambiri a ife tidzataya munthu amene timamukonda kamodzi.

Malipiro a Biology 101

Kukhala womaliza kumuwona koma osadziwa kunena zabwino zake ndizosangalatsa. Kukhala munthu woyamba kumupeza wamwalira kunali kowopsa.

Sindidzaiwala chitsulo chachitsulo cha gurney - cha gurney wake - atamwalira. Ankaphatikizaponso mtsamiro pamutu pake. Kwa banja, mwachiwonekere.

Atafika pamanda pomwe agogo anabwera kudzasangalala ulendo womaliza wa agogo, tinagwiritsa ntchito mabedi kumamunyamula kutsika. Ngakhale nkhope yake idawoneka wonyezimira, mutu wosayamika, wosiyana kumverera thupi lakufa mlengalenga, tidayesetsa kukhala odekha, ngati kuti amangogona.

Ndinayesa kulikakamiza tsiku limenelo kuchokera m'malingaliro mwanga mzaka zikubwerazi pomwe ndimasuta ndikumamwa kuti ndisiye zamoyo zanga zomwe zikusokonekera.

Ma tag pamtengo wogulitsira bokosi

Mukuganiza kuti kugula bokosi lamaliro kumakhala kosavuta. Sizomwe zimakhala zofunikira, sichoncho? Idzakhala ndi mapazi asanu ndi limodzi mosasamala kanthu kuti mudula mbali yanji ndikuwonedwa kwa ola limodzi kapena awiri, pamwamba.

Koma zinali ngati kugula galimoto - ndipo sindiyendetsa ngakhale. Wogulitsayo anali atakonzeka kutimako, chinsalu chake chochepa chomvera chisoni chofunitsitsa kuti adzagulitsidwe pamene amalume anga ndi ine tidayang'ana mabokosi mchipinda chaching'ono.

Mabokosi ena anali achikulire komanso mahogany akuya, zidutswa zodabwitsa zomwe sindikanatha kuganiza koma zingapangitse kuwonjezera pabwino panyanja. Ena adachepetsa kukongola kwawo koma anali ndi nkhonya kwa iwo.

Ndiyeno panali bokosi lamatabwa la paini. Palibe zonyenga, palibe zanzeru. Bokosi la paini lokha. Mizere yosavuta ndi yopepuka, nkhuni zonyezimira.

Ndi gawo la miyambo yathu yachiyuda. Lamulo lachiyuda limanena kuti akufa ayenera kubwerera kudziko lapansi, ndipo mabokosi amitengo ngati paini amawola pansi. Kupambana-kupambana.

Mukakakamizidwa kusankha kusankha bedi lomaliza la wokondedwa wanu, pitani ndi zomwe mukudziwa. Khalani osavuta - komanso otsika mtengo.

Kufunika kokumbukira komanso mtengo wakulira

Malirowo anali Lamlungu la Pasaka, amenenso sanali ena koma 4/20. Ndinadziwa kuti Agogo ayenera kuti anasangalala nazo.

Ndidamupatsa chamba cha tsiku limodzi lobadwa kuti chimuthandize kuthana ndi nyamakazi yake yayikulu, ndikuyikamo botolo la mavitamini azimayi. Imodzi mwa nthawi zingapo zomwe tidasuta, tidakhala okwera kwambiri ndipo ndidalemba pa khoma lake la Facebook, "Hi!" Tinalira tikuseka kwa mphindi 30.

Zomwe ndikadamupatsa kuti ndikamuyenderenso, kuti ndipite kunyumba. Ndikatseka maso anga, ndimaziwona. Ndikudziwa njira iliyonse komanso masitepe ati. Ndikukumbukira kununkhira kwa mafuta ake onunkhira, ndi ma shampoo ake apamwamba. Tikugona titaonera "Forensic Files" ndi "Snapped" pabedi lake lalikulu lachifumu ku California lomwe linali ndi matiresi omasuka kwambiri.

Zomwe ndingapereke kuti ndizimva kwathu, kwinakwake, kulikonse, kuti ndithane ndi nkhawa yakudabwitsidwa ndi mtembo wake. Ndikufuna kuchotsa malotowa ku ngongole yanga yonse.

Zomwe ine, mwana wopanda makolo, ndimapereka - kulipira - kuti tikhale athu
kunyumba.

Ndikudziwa kuti ndinali mdzukulu wabwino ndipo mumakonda kundinyadira. Ndikudziwa inali nthawi yoti ndipite. Koma ndakusowani kwambiri.

Ndikulakalaka mutandiona tsopano ndili ndi ntchito yayikulu mzindawo. Kuti muwone nyumba yanga yokongola, bwalo lothandizira lomwe ndakolola, kuti mudziwe kuti ndasiya kusuta. Tinkachita miseche ndi kuseka usiku wonse.

Kulipira mtengo wosiya ma tabu omwera atsegulidwa Lachiwiri

Tsiku lokumbukira imfa ya Agogo a Freda, ndinapita kumalo omwera madzi abwino kwambiri kwathu. Zakumwa ndizotsika mtengo, kusuta kumaloledwa, ndipo palibe amene amaweruza ngati mwaledzera pasanafike 5 koloko.

Palibe chonga kupakidwa pulasitala pa imfa.

Palibe chomwe chimafunikira - osati tabu lotseguka, kununkha kwa Marlboros pazovala zanu, kapena pagulu, kulira mthupi lathunthu ndi malaya osagwirizana. Ngakhale kuti ndi Lachiwiri lokha ndipo mudzalipira pakadali pano ndi matsire apadera.

Ndinasangalala ndi kudzikonda patsiku laimfa lake. Ndiyenera kuti tsiku limodzi ndikhale wachisoni kwambiri, kuti ndikhale wosatetezeka.

Pepala logulitsa malo: Pangani ndalama, mutaye zotsalira

Kuwona anthu osawadziwa akumba katundu wa Agogo aakazi, onse amtengo wapatali komanso ayi, kunali kovutitsa m'matumbo. Kodi anthu amasankha bwanji zogula molunjika ndikusinthanitsa?

Mungaganize kuti china chake chabwino chitha kugundidwa chonchi. Icho winawake angafune zovala zake - kuchokera ku Nordstrom, osachepera!

M'malo mwake, anthu ankazunguliza ndi kusinthanitsa mathuku ndi zodzikongoletsera, kuthamangira kukalanda zokongoletsa zam'munda, ndikusiya zotsalira pakapeti yoyera. Koma inenso ndinali nditabalalika.

Zomwe ndidasunga zikupitilirabe
ndisokonezeni. Sindingathe kuponya milomo youma yotsalira m'matumba, a
Kudula nyuzipepala ndikudziwa kuti Agogo aakazi ankangokhalira miseche, malaya odetsedwa.

Ndimakumbukirabe kuti ndinatsala pang'ono kugulitsa chopondapo chopangira matabwa chomwe chakhala m'banja kwa mibadwo yonse ndi $ 3 ya muyeso. Sindidzachotsa. Gahena, ndimalipira mazana a madola kuti ndisunge.

Komabe, pofika pakati pa tsiku lachiwiri la kugulitsa kwa masiku atatu, tidapempha anthu kuti atenge katundu. Tinali otaya mtima.

Kukumbukira tsiku laimfa la Agogo ndi makeke a Freda

Kwa imfa yake yachiwiri, ndinaganiza kuti ndikufunika shuga. Kotero, ine ndinapita ku chakudya chokondedwa cha Agogo aakazi ndi kugula makeke apamwamba.

Nthawi imeneyo ndimagwira ntchito yosamalira ana. Mwachilengedwe, mwana wakhanda adawona ma cookie, ndikufunsa kuti anali a chiyani - linali tsiku lobadwa la winawake? Sindinkafuna kufotokoza momwe ndimakhumudwira agogo anga aakazi atamwalira, choncho ndinayankha, "Ndi makeke apadera a Agogo a Freda!"

Kaya ana azaka zitatu awa amatha kumva kupweteka kwanga kapena ngati ali okondwa ndikudyidwa ndi shuga, ana onse adayamba kufuula kuti, "Freda cookies! Freda makeke! Timakonda Agogo a Freda! ”

Ndinalira kwambiri.

Kufunika kwamaphunziro a moyo wamaliro

Kulemba zamaliro ndi ntchito yovuta kwambiri kuposa momwe mungaganizire. Kodi ungafotokoze bwanji moyo wathu wonse m'njira yopindulitsa, yophatikizana? Kupatula apo, inali pafupifupi ndalama zisanu ndi zinayi kuyika obit… pamzere.

Ndatchula zinthu zazikuluzikulu: galu wake, wokonda kucheza usiku kwambiri, komanso miyambo yolandila Zikomo. Ndidayenera kumaliza ndi mawu omwe adayamba kuwawerenga mzaka zomaliza za moyo wawo pamene akumenya ululu wopweteka kwambiri: "Moyo suli wokonda akazi."

Ndikudandaula kuti sindinalembedwe pamwala wake wapamutu. M'malo mwake, imati, "Mwana wanga wokondedwa, amayi, ndi agogo aakazi."

Osandilakwitsa. Ndi mwala wapamutu wokongola, wachifumu komanso wonyezimira. Koma bwanji mukukumbukira udindo? Adzakhala agogo anga aakazi nthawi zonse.

Ndikufuna kukondwerera ndikulira mabowo omwe atsala: nthabwala zake,
aukali, zomwe iye ankaziyimira.

Kulipira ufulu wathunthu

Ndinalira panja pa sitolo ya AT&T ndisanapite kukatsegula akaunti ya Agogo. Pa 24, ndimakhala ndikulipira ndalama yanga yanga yoyamba m'moyo wanga.

Ndikanatha kupanga bajeti. Koma zidakwaniritsa zovuta zina zomutaya.

Ndinachita kuthawa bambo anga ndili ndi zaka 14. Amayi anga sapezeka pachithunzipa. Agogo anga anamwalira ndili ndi zaka 24. Ndinali ndi nyumba yabwino kwa zaka 10 zokha.

Tsopano, sindimangoyang'anira ngongole zanga zonse nthawi zonse. Ndili ndi udindo pachisankho chilichonse popanda chitsogozo. Zili ndi ine kusankha zomwe ndidzachite holide iliyonse. Nkhani yabwino imatumiziridwa mameseji kwa anthu ocheperako.

Pali ufulu woledzeretsa mu izi, zowona. Osadandaula zomwe woyang'anira aliyense anena.Nditha kuchita chilichonse chomwe ndikufuna, nthawi zonse! Palibe mlandu!

Koma oh, ndimafuna kwambiri kunena ngati anthu ena za "kukhala" kuti ndipite kunyumba kukacheza kapena kuchepa kwa maphwando popeza ndi Tsiku la Amayi.

Kupulumutsa ndi zopereka za vinyo wa Costco zamapikichoni okumbukira imfa

Ndinkayesa kuchezera Agogo sabata iliyonse nditatuluka, kaya inali yochezera kumapeto kwa mlungu wonse kapena malo okwerera dzenje popita kunyumba. Zinali zambiri kwa iye monganso ine.

Chifukwa chake, mwachilengedwe, ndimayesetsa kupitiliza maulendo athu atamwalira.

Patangotha ​​sabata imodzi kuchokera pamaliro ake, ndinakwera sitima kupita kumanda ake, burrito mchikwama changa. Ndinatsimikiza mtima kukhala ndi pikiniki ndikusangalala kucheza naye.

Zinatenga zaka zingapo kuti chilakolako chopita ku manda ake chikatengenso. Ulendo wotsatira, ndinabweretsa anzanga, masangweji, ndi vinyo. Agogo aakazi ankamukonda vinyo komanso tsiku labwino la nkhomaliro.

Tinali ndi nthawi yabwino, tikumaliza botolo loyera ndikusiya Pinot Noir kwa Agogo. Kuyambira pamenepo, chakhala chikhalidwe kusiya botolo losatsegulidwa pambali pa maluwa mwezi uliwonse kapena apo.

Ndikuyesera kuti ndigawane nkhani zanga za Agogo a Freda ndi chisoni changa kukhala mwambo, mwambo. Pali chitonthozo pogawana ngongole zathu zakufa kuti tonsefe tisangalale ndi moyo wa okondedwa athu ndikuchira.

Kulimbana ndi mtengo wakufa sikungakhale bwino, koma kumakhala kosavuta.

Mukufuna kuwerenga nkhani kuchokera kwa anthu omwe akuyendetsa zachilendo pamene akukumana ndi zosayembekezereka, zosintha moyo, komanso nthawi zina zachisoni? Onani mndandanda wathunthu pano.

Sara Giusti ndi mkonzi wolemba komanso wolemba yemwe amakhala ku San Francisco Bay Area.