Zinthu Zovuta Kwambiri Zoyendera Pamodzi

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Ziribe kanthu momwe ma rom-coms amawonekera mosavuta, malinga ndi kafukufuku watsopano wopangidwa ndi UGallery, 83 peresenti ya amayi amati kusamukira pamodzi kumakhala kovuta kwambiri. Ngati simunakonzekere, zazing'ono zomwe zimadza ndi chibwenzi chatsopano zitha kuwononga ubale wabwino kwambiri. Ngati simukudziwa momwe mungagawire agalu ntchito, chikuchitika ndi chiyani mukakhala ndi nthawi yocheza ndi banja lanu patchuthi? "Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kwambiri kupewa zovuta zomwe zimafala kwambiri musanapite patali," atero a Wendy Walsh, Ph.D., katswiri wokhudza ubale, komanso wolemba The 30-Day Love Detox.

Apa, mavuto asanu apamwamba omwe maanja amakhala nawo akamadzimangirira, komanso upangiri waluso wa Walsh momwe angachitire ndi aliyense wa iwo.

Ntchito Yama mbale

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Kafukufuku waposachedwa adapeza kuti ngakhale maanja omwe amasankha kukhalira limodzi azimayi amakhalabe akugwira ntchito zambiri zapakhomo, monga 90 peresenti za ntchito zapakhomo-ngakhale onse awiri akugwira ntchito. Ngati izi sizili bwino ndi inu (ndipo ndichifukwa chiyani zingakhale?), Walsh akuwonetsa kuti muyenera kukambirana musanapite limodzi kuti ndi ndani ati achite chiyani. Tikudziwa kuti kubwera ndi ndandanda ya ntchito si zachikondi kwenikweni, koma ndiye kuti palibenso kuchapa mbale moyipa pakati pausiku ndikumaganiza kuti akumupinyira ndi pilo.

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Zikafika pazandalama, muyenera kuvomereza kuti mugawane zinthu 50/50 kapena kuti alipireko pang'ono. "Amuna ambiri amakonda kudzimva kuti ndiwopatsa," Walsh akufotokoza. Zingawoneke ngati "zachilungamo" poyamba, koma akunena kuti ubale wanu ndi bwenzi lanu si wofanana ndi wokhala naye, kotero simuyenera kuchitira kusamukira naye ngati kusankha lendi pa Craigslist. Komanso, muyenera kudziteteza nokha pazachuma. Ngakhale kukhala pamodzi sikofanana ndi kukwatira, Walsh akuti kusudzulana nthawi zambiri kumakhala ngati kusudzulana-pokhapokha popanda zovomerezeka. Chinthu choyamba chabwino ndikusunga maakaunti anu m'dzina lanu kuti ndalama zanu zosungira ndi mbiri yangongole zisakhale m'mavuto ngati zinthu zipita kumwera.

Koma chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungachite, malinga ndi Walsh, ndikuti mukhale ndi mgwirizano wolemba momwe mabilu adzagawanikirane. Akukulimbikitsaninso kuti mudziwe malamulo a Common Law kapena Common Property m'boma lanu.

Nthawi Yapamtima

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Kukonzekera zogonana angathe kukhala achigololo! "Anthu amayembekeza kuti kusamukira kudzakhala ngati chibwenzi koma kukhala ndi mwayi wogonana, koma muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti pamapeto pake zimakhazikika," akufotokoza motero Walsh. "Sizitanthauza kuti mukukondana ndi munthu ameneyo koma kuti mukupita kumalo ozama, achikondi a chikondi." Izi zimangotanthauza kuti muyenera kupeza njira zolumikizirana m'malo moyembekezera kuti zichitike zokha.

Kuphatikiza apo, muyenera kukhala omasuka ku njira zina zosungitsirana wina ndi mnzake. "Osayerekezera chidwi chanu chogonana ndi chake," akutero. "Amuna ali ngati ma microwave-ofulumira kutentha komanso ofulumira kumaliza-pomwe azimayi ali ngati zokhotakhota." Amapereka lingaliro lakugwiritsa ntchito mwayi wofulumira, kukumana kwamasana, komanso kugonana m'kamwa pakati pazigawo zazitali kwambiri zachikondi.

Business Bathroom

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Mpando wachimbudzi uyenera kutsalira. Pamene mmodzi wa inu ali woyimirira pamene wina ali sitter, zimangochitika. Komabe kugawana bafa sikuyenera kukhala vuto. Walsh amalimbikitsa kusankha msanga zomwe mungalole (mpukutu wopanda kanthu wa chimbudzi kapena mankhwala otsukira m'kamwa?) ndi zomwe simungathe (kukodza pansi?). Kuchita zinthu zapakhomo kumatha kusokoneza mbali zanu zonse koma chilichonse chomwe mungachite, musangokakamira-kapena mutha kukhala ndi machitidwe omwe simukufuna, Walsh akuti. "Ndibwino kwambiri kupereka mphotho kwa machitidwe ake abwino ndikupitilizabe kumukumbutsa zoyipa zake."

Nthawi Yakanema

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Palibe amene amafuna kuti magazi a zombie azisokoneza chovala chawo chaukwati Oyenda omwalira amatsutsana ndi Nenani Inde kwa Chovalacho, sichoncho? Koma ngakhale omwe anafunsidwa anali ndi nkhawa kwambiri ndi zomwe TV imatsutsana kotero kuti zidadzetsa nkhawa zisanu, Walsh akuti sizowonetsa mikangano yomwe ndiyomwe ili vuto, koma momwe mumathana ndi mikangano yambiri. Padzakhala zinthu miliyoni zomenyera nkhondo ndipo nthawi zambiri ndewuzo zimayamba pang'ono, monga TV. "Simuyenera kukhala ndi munthu mpaka mutamenya nkhondo limodzi," akulangiza motero. Sikuti mumatha kuchita zokometsera zogonana koma makamaka kuti muwone m'mene mungathetsere kusamvana. Ananenanso kuti upangiri wa maanja osamutsiratu ungakhale njira yabwino yodziwira momwe angathetsere mikangano.

Pamapeto pake, kugwiritsa ntchito kinks ndikulankhulana bwino ndi ziyembekezo. “Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti okwatirana okhalira limodzi achimwemwe ali okonzeka kuyankha mafunso ofunika, monga kumene chibwenzicho chikulowera kuwonjezera pa zinthu za tsiku ndi tsiku,” iye akutero. "Ndipo ngati iye (kapena inu) sakufuna kuyankha mafunso ovuta, ndiye kuti mwina simukuyenera kukhala limodzi."

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