Ubwino Wathanzi Labwino Kukhala Wopatsa Mtima motsutsana ndi Kutaya Mtima

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Anthu ambiri amagwera m'modzi mwamisasa iwiri: Pollyannas wamuyaya, kapena ma Nancys oyipa omwe amayembekezera zoyipa kwambiri. Zotsatira zake, malingaliro amenewo angakhudze zambiri kuposa momwe anthu ena amakugwirizanira - atha kukhudza thanzi lanu: Anthu omwe ali ndi chiyembekezo chochuluka amakhala ndi thanzi labwino la mtima kawiri poyerekeza ndi anzawo omwe alibe chiyembekezo, malinga ndi kafukufuku watsopano mu nkhani Kuwunika kwa Makhalidwe Aumoyo & Ndondomeko. Kafukufukuyu adawona achikulire 5,000 ndipo adawona kuti opatsa chiyembekezo amatha kudya zakudya zopatsa thanzi, kukhala ndi milozo yolimbitsa thupi, osasuta, komanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi pafupipafupi kuposa anzawo omwe alibe chiyembekezo. Amakhalanso ndi kuthamanga kwa magazi, shuga m'magazi, komanso kuchuluka kwama cholesterol.

Kafukufuku wam'mbuyomu akuwonetsanso kuti odwala khansa omwe ali ndi malingaliro abwino amakhala ndi zotsatira zabwino, chiyembekezo chimakhala ndi maubwenzi okhutiritsa, ndipo iwo omwe amayang'ana mbali yowala sangakhale odwala ndi chimfine kapena chimfine kuposa Debbie Downers.

Kotero kodi kulibe chiyembekezo kwa chiyembekezo? Osati ndithu ndi zabwino zathanzi zomwe zimachokera ku mawonekedwe ocheperako. Umu ndi momwe malingaliro anu angakhudzire thanzi lanu, ndi zomwe mungachite kuti muwonjezere malingaliro anu.

Ubwino wa Kutaya mtima

Pali china choti chinenedwe ngati muli ndi malingaliro osakhala a Pollyanna pa dziko lapansi. Kafukufuku wa akatswiri a zamaganizo ku Wellesley College akusonyeza kuti kutaya mtima kungatikonzekeretse bwino kuthana ndi nkhawa. Kugwiritsa ntchito zomwe amadzinenera kuti ndi "chiyembekezo chodzitchinjiriza" -kuchepetsa ziyembekezo zochepa pazochitika zokhumudwitsa, monga kupereka chiwonetsero-zitha kukuthandizani kuti musamachite mantha. Chifukwa chake? Mumadzilola kuti muganizire zovuta zonse zomwe zingatheke kuti mukonzekere bwino kuti muzitha kuzipewa motsutsana ndi kugwidwa mosasamala ngati chinachake chikulakwika.

Ndipo osadzidalira ali ndi mwayi 10% woti atha kukhala ndi thanzi labwino mtsogolomo kuposa chiyembekezo, malinga ndi kafukufuku waku Germany. Ofufuzawo akuti omwe ali ndi chiyembekezo atha kukhala ndi mwayi woganiza zomwe zitha kusokonekera mtsogolo mwawo ndikukhala okonzeka bwino kapena kuchitapo kanthu podzitetezera, pomwe opatsa chiyembekezo sangalingalire mozama za mwayiwu. (Kuphatikiza: Mphamvu Yoganiza Molakwika: Zifukwa 5 Zoti Kusungulumwa Kuli Kovuta.)

Prime Minister wa Optimists

Ndiye ndani amene ali pamapeto pake? Iwo omwe amatha kuwona siliva ali ndi mwendo mmwamba, akutero Rosalba Hernandez, Ph.D., wogwira ntchito zachitukuko ku yunivesite ya Illinois komanso wolemba kafukufuku waposachedwa wolumikiza chiyembekezo ndi thanzi la mtima. "Anthu omwe amakhala osangalala ndi moyo wawo amatha kuchita zinthu zomwe zimapindulitsa thanzi lawo monga kudya bwino, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, komanso kukhala ndi thanzi labwino, chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti zabwino zidzatuluka m'zochitikazi," akutero. Osataya chiyembekezo, komabe, sangaone kufunika kwake ngati akukhulupirira kuti zinthu zidzatha.

Ndipo, ngakhale kuti pali chinachake choti chinenedwe pofuna kudziteteza, sizikutanthauza kuti oyembekezera amayenda mwachimbulimbuli m'malo ovuta. "Ngati china chake chalakwika, chiyembekezo chimakhala ndi luso lotha kuthana ndi zovuta pamoyo," akutero Hernandez. "Amakonda kukhulupirira kuti khomo lina likatseka chitseko china chimatseguka, chomwe chimateteza kupsinjika maganizo. Komabe, anthu otaya mtima akhoza kuwononga kwambiri, choncho ngati chinachake choipa chichitika chikhoza kuwapangitsa kukhala osaganizira." Zimenezi zingawononge thanzi lawo lonse, chifukwa kupsinjika maganizo ndi kutaya mtima kumayendera limodzi ndi kuvutika maganizo.

Khalani ndi Maganizo Osangalatsa

Mwamwayi, Hernandez akuti ndizotheka kuti aliyense asinthe mawonekedwe ake. (Why Do You See the Glass as Half Full? Yankho Litha Kukhala M'majini Anu.) M'malo mwake, ofufuza akuti pafupifupi 40% yathanzi lathu limachokera pamakhalidwe omwe timachita-ndipo chifukwa chake titha kuwongolera, akuwonjezera. Njira zitatuzi zingakuthandizeni kuti mukhale ndi maganizo osangalala komanso athanzi. (Ndipo yesani Njira 20 Zokhalira Osangalala (Pafupifupi) Nthawi yomweyo!)

1. Lembani zambiri zothokoza (kapena maimelo). "Kulemba makalata othokoza kumakuthandizani kuti muziyang'ana pazabwino komanso madalitso omwe muli nawo m'moyo wanu," akutero Hernandez. "Nthawi zina anthu amangoyang'ana pazomwe ena ali nazo koma alibe, zomwe zimabweretsa kupsinjika ndi kusasangalala. Kuyamika kumakuthandizani kuwona zabwino ngakhale mutapanikizika."

2. Muzigwiritsa ntchito nthawi yambiri mukuchita zinthu zomwe mumakonda. "Mukachita china chake chomwe mumakonda, mumalowa m'malo momwe nthawi imadutsa mwachangu ndipo zina zonse zimasungunuka," akutero Hernandez.Izi, zimakuthandizani kuti mukhale osangalala ponseponse, zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti muzitha kuwona zabwino mwa inu nokha komanso padziko lapansi.

3. Uzani ena uthenga wabwino. Kodi mwalandira mayankho abwino kuchokera kwa manejala anu? Kodi mumalemba latte yaulere? Osazisunga. "Nthawi iliyonse mukagawana china chake chabwino ndi munthu wina chimachikulitsa ndikukuchititsani kuchikumbukiranso," akutero Hernandez. Chifukwa chake zinthu zoyipa zikachitika, kugawana zinthu zabwino ndi ena kumakupatsani mwayi wokumbukira zochitikazo kuti musagwere m'dzenje la akalulu.

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