Kusinkhasinkha ndi Mtima Wonse

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Mtima wanu ndi minofu, ndipo mofanana ndi wina aliyense, muyenera kuulimbitsa kuti ukhale wolimba. (Ndipo potero, sitikutanthauza kukweza mtima, ngakhale izi zimathandizanso.)

Kaya "mukuphunzitsa" mtima wanu kuti muzikondana, # kudzikonda, kapena kukonda chakudya, njira yabwino yosinthira minofu yotenthetsa mtima ndi kusinkhasinkha. (Ndipo ngati chakudya-chikondi ndi kupanikizana kwanu, bukuli la momwe mungadye moyenera ndichofunikira.)

Ngakhale pali mitundu ingapo ya kusinkhasinkha, mtima wotsegukawu umagwiritsa ntchito kusinkhasinkha mwamaganizidwe, komwe kumangokhudza kukhudzidwa kwa mpweya, atero a Lodro Rinzler, wolemba Chikondi Chimapweteka: Malangizo Achibuda kwa Osweka Mtima ndi Co-founder wa MNDFL, studio yosinkhasinkha ku New York City. "Zonsezi ndi kubwerera, mobwerezabwereza, mpaka pano." (Ichi ndichifukwa chake aliyense amasangalala ndi kulingalira.)

Mchitidwewu ndiwopindulitsa pa maubwenzi onse m'moyo wanu-ngakhale omwe amawuluka pansi pa radar. Kusinkhasinkha kwa mtima wowolowa manja komanso kukoma mtima kungakuthandizeni kukulitsa chiopsezo, kuleza mtima, ndi kumvera ena chisoni, ndikuthandizira aliyense amene mungakumane naye, atero a Patricia Karpas, woyambitsa pulogalamu ya Meditation Studio. (Onani izi maubwino ena 17 azamatsenga pakusinkhasinkha.)

Mukamaphunzira kuphunzitsa kulingalira bwino, mumatha kuwonetsa anthu onse m'moyo wanu ndikukhalapo kwathunthu ndikutsimikizika mukakhala nawo (kaya ndi tsiku loyamba, kudya ndi omwe takhala nawo kale, kapena kuntchito ndi mlendo), akutero Rinzler. "Zili ngati kutengera mtima ku masewera olimbitsa thupi; mumayesa kutsegula mtima wathu kwa anthu omwe mumawakonda, anthu omwe simukuwadziwa bwino, ngakhalenso anthu omwe simukugwirizana nawo."

Ndipo ngakhale zili ndi phindu m'moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku, kusinkhasinkha kotereku kumatha kukuthandizani kukonzekera mphindi zazikulu, monga kukhala ndi zokambirana zovuta kapena kupulumuka ndewu-akutero Karpas. "Kukambirana momasuka nthawi zina kumatanthauza kungovomereza mwamphamvu lingaliro la wina ndikusunthira patsogolo." (Zoterezi ngati mumakhala patebulo ndi amalume anu omwe ndi "yuuuge" wothandizira Trump.)

Apa, Rinzler amakupangitsani inu kusinkhasinkha kwa mtima wonse komwe kumangoyang'ana ubale wanu ndi munthu amene mumamukonda, komanso ndi munthu yemwe mungakhale ndi mkangano naye kaya ndi wokondedwa wanu, wachibale wanu, kapena bwana yemwe mumamugwirira mutu wokhazikika. (Mukufuna malangizo omveka? Yesani mawu omwe ali pansipa kuti mutsegule kusinkhasinkha kwa Kutsegula Mtima kwa Elisha Goldstein ndi pulogalamu ya Meditation Studio.)

Kusinkhasinkha Kotsogoleredwa ndi Mtima

1. Pumani katatu. Kudzera m'mphuno ndikutuluka pakamwa.

2. Muzikumbukira chithunzi cha munthu amene mumamukonda kwambiri. Lipangitseni kuti likhale lowoneka bwino - ganizirani za momwe amavalira, momwe amamwetulira, ndi momwe amachitira tsitsi lawo; mbali zonse za iye.

3. Limbikitsani mtima wanu kwa munthu ameneyu ndipo bwerezani zomwe mukufuna: "Mukhale ndi chimwemwe ndikukhala opanda zowawa." Mukamabwereza mawuwa, mutha kuganiza kuti, "Kodi zikuwoneka bwanji kwa munthuyu?" "Kodi chingamusangalatse ndi chiyani lero?" Pitirizani kubwereranso ku chikhumbocho chokha, ndipo kumapeto kwa mphindi zisanu mulole mawonekedwewo asungunuke.

4.Kumbutsani chithunzi cha munthu yemwe simukugwirizana naye kwenikweni. Khalani ndi chithunzichi kwa mphindi, mulole malingaliro oweruza apite. Kenako yambani kutchula zinthu zabwino zomwe munthuyu akufuna. Pamapeto pa chinthu chilichonse, onjezerani mawu atatu amatsenga: "monga ine." Mwachitsanzo: "Sam akufuna kusangalala ... monga ine." kapena "Sam akufuna kumva kuti akufuna ... monga ine." Tikukhulupirira kuti izi zitha kuchititsa munthu wina kumumvera chisoni.

5. Kenako, pitilizani kuzinthu zina zomwe sizingakhale zosavutakuvomereza: "Sam amanama nthawi zina ... monga ine," kapena "Sam anali wonyada kwathunthu ... monga ine," kapena "Sam adagona ndi munthu yemwe samayenera kukhala naye ... monga ine." Mwinamwake simunakhale wodzikuza kwa masabata kapena kugona ndi munthu wosayenera kwa zaka. Koma ngati mwatero nthawi zonse mwachita zinthu izi kapena zina zomwe simumanyadira nazo, ingokhalani ndi izi kwakanthawi. Khalani nawo. Patatha mphindi zochepa kulingalira za momwe munthuyu alili ngati inu, siyani kusinkhasinkha, kwezani kuyang'ana kwanu, ndikupumulirani. Pumulani ndi malingaliro aliwonse omwe atuluka. (Mukuyenera kutulutsa mkwiyo? Yesani kusinkhasinkha kwa mkwiyo kwa NSFW komwe kumapangitsa malingaliro anu kukhala ndi fyuluta ya zero.)

Ngati mukungophunzira kusinkhasinkha, zingatenge kuchita zina kuti muchepetse malingaliro anu ndikuyang'ana pachinthu chimodzi (chifukwa, tiyeni tikhale owona mtima, ubongo wathu nthawi zambiri umakhala ndi ma tabu 10,000 otseguka). Koma mbali yabwino ndi yakuti simungathe kusinkhasinkha molakwika. Malingana ndi Rinzler, cholakwika chokhacho chomwe mungachite ndi "kudziweruza nokha mwankhanza. Ndi momwemo."

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