Kuyankhula Kopenga: Maganizo Anga Osokoneza Sangachoke. Nditani?

Zamkati

• Wawa Sam, ndakhala ndikumva malingaliro olakwika, owopsa omwe ndimangokhala opanda chiyembekezo. Sindinauze dokotala wanga, komabe, chifukwa ndimawachita manyazi.
• Zina mwazo ndizogonana, zomwe sindingathe kulingalira kuuza munthu wina, ndipo zina zimakhala zachiwawa (ndikulumbira, sindingachitepo kanthu, koma zomwe zimandipangitsa kumva kuti ndiyenera kukhala wamisala) . Ndikumva ngati ndikumapeto kwa chingwe changa.
• Nditani?
• Chilichonse chowopsa, chowopsa chomwe chimangotuluka muubongo wanu, mwina sichingadabwe ndi azachipatala anu.
• 1. Muziyeseza nokha panokha koyamba
• 2. Mwina osanena konse
• 3. Yesani madzi poyamba
• 4. Aloleni afunse mafunso
• 5. Dalirani pazinthu zina
• 6. Funani dokotala wina
• 7. Yesani mankhwala pa intaneti!
• 8. Ikani ndalama
• Mverani: Mukuyenera kumva bwino kuposa izi. Ndipo zikumveka kwa ine ngati mufunika thandizo kuti mukafike kumeneko.

Tiyeni tikambirane zamaganizidwe olowerera.

Awa ndi Openga: Nkhani yolangiza zokambirana moona mtima, mopanda tanthauzo pazokhudza zamisala ndi loya Sam Dylan Finch. Ngakhale kuti siwodalirika, amakhala ndi moyo wathanzi wokhala ndi matenda osokoneza bongo (OCD). Adaphunzira zinthu mwanjira yovuta kuti inu (mwachiyembekezo) musasowe.

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Wawa Sam, ndakhala ndikumva malingaliro olakwika, owopsa omwe ndimangokhala opanda chiyembekezo. Sindinauze dokotala wanga, komabe, chifukwa ndimawachita manyazi.

Zina mwazo ndizogonana, zomwe sindingathe kulingalira kuuza munthu wina, ndipo zina zimakhala zachiwawa (ndikulumbira, sindingachitepo kanthu, koma zomwe zimandipangitsa kumva kuti ndiyenera kukhala wamisala) . Ndikumva ngati ndikumapeto kwa chingwe changa.

Nditani?

Choyamba choyamba: Zikomo chifukwa chofunsa funso lolimba mtima chonchi.

Ndikudziwa kuti sizinali zophweka kuchita, koma ndine wokondwa kuti mwachita izi. Mudatenga kale gawo loyamba (lomwe ndi losavuta, koma pamenepa, ndikofunikira kukumbukira).

Ndikukutsutsani kuti muganizire kuti, ngakhale malingaliro anu atakhala owopsa bwanji, mukuyenerabe kukuthandizani. Mutha kukhala ndi malingaliro oyipa kwambiri, osalumikizidwa padziko lonse lapansi ndipo sizingasinthe mfundo yoti wopatsa thanzi lamisala amakulipirabe chisamaliro chachifundo, chosaweruza, komanso choyenera.

Mwinanso mumamvetsetsa izi, koma ndichinthu chovuta kwambiri kuthana nacho. Ndipo ndimachimva. Mukudziwa chifukwa chomwe ndimapezera? Chifukwa ndakhala ndiri mu yanu momwe zinthu zilili kale.

Ndisanapezeke kuti ndili ndi matenda osokoneza bongo, ndimakhala ndimaganizo ambiri omwe amandichititsa mantha. Ndinaganiza zopha mphaka wanga kapena mnzanga. Ndinaganiza zokankha anthu patsogolo pa sitima. Ndinadutsanso kwakanthawi komwe ndimakhala ndikuchita mantha kuti ndimazunza ana.

Ngati mungathe kuzijambula, zidayamba kumveka ngati mtundu wa dodgeball wamaganizidwe. Kupatula, m'malo mwa mipira, zinali zithunzi zanga zotsamira paka wanga.

"Mulungu wanga, Sam," mwina mukuganiza, "Chifukwa chiyani mukuvomereza izi mu gawo la upangiri?!”

Koma zili bwino.

Mudandimva molondola: Palibe vuto kukhala ndi malingaliro ngati awa.

Kunena zowonekeratu, sizabwino ngati malingaliro awa akupweteka, ndipo sizabwino kuti mupezeke kumapeto kwa chingwe chanu.

Koma malingaliro osokoneza ambiri? Khulupirirani kapena ayi, aliyense ali nawo.

Kusiyana kwake ndikuti, kwa anthu ena (monga ine, ndipo ndikukuganiziraninso), sitikuwanyalanyaza monga odabwitsa ndikupitilira tsiku lathu. Timaganizira kwambiri za iwo ndipo timada nkhawa kuti mwina anganene china chachikulu kuposa ife.

Zikatero, zomwe tikukamba apa ndi "malingaliro olowerera" omwe amabwerezabwereza, osafunikira, komanso malingaliro osokoneza nthawi zambiri kapena zithunzi zomwe zimabweretsa mavuto.

Izi nthawi zambiri zimachitika mwa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lotengeka kwambiri. Zitsanzo zina zofala:

• kuopa kukhumudwitsa okondedwa mwadala (kuwazunza kapena kuwapha) kapena inu eni
• kuwopa kuvulaza okondedwa mwangozi (kuwotcha nyumba, kupatsira wina poizoni, kuwayika ku matenda) kapena iweyo
• kuda nkhawa kuti ungathamange munthu wokhala ndi galimoto kapena kuti udachita
• kuwopa kugona ana kapena kuwazunza
• kuopa kukhala ndi chiwerewere kupatula chomwe umazindikira (chifukwa chake ngati ndiwe wowongoka, kuopa kukhala wachiwerewere; ngati uli wachiwerewere, mantha owongoka)
• kuopa kukhala ndi dzina lachiwerewere kupatula lomwe umadziwika nalo (chifukwa chake ngati uli cisgender, kuopa kukhala transgender; ngati ndiwe transgender, mantha oti utha kukhala cisgender)
• kuwopa kuti simumakondadi wokondedwa wanu kapena kuti siomwe ali "oyenera"
• kuwopa kuti mutha kufuula zotukwana kapena zonyoza, kapena kuti mwanena zosayenera
• malingaliro obwerezabwereza omwe mumawawona ngati ochimwa kapena amwano (monga kufuna kupembedza satana, kapena kugona ndi oyera mtima kapena achipembedzo)
• malingaliro obwerezabwereza omwe simukukhala mogwirizana ndi chikhalidwe chanu kapena kakhalidwe kanu
• malingaliro obwerezabwereza okhudza zenizeni kapena kukhalapo (makamaka, vuto limodzi lalitali, lomwe linakhalapo)

OCD Center ya Los Angeles ili ndi chofunikira kwambiri chofotokozera mitundu yonse ya OCD ndi zina zomwe ndingalimbikitse kuti ndiyang'ane.

Munthu aliyense wosakwatiwa amakhala ndi malingaliro osokoneza, chifukwa chake, kutengeka kwambiri si vuto la "kusiyana" - {textend} ndi momwe malingaliro amenewa amakhudzira moyo wa munthu wina.

Kuchokera pakumveka kwake, malingaliro awa omwe mukukhala akukukhudzani, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ndi nthawi yoti mulandire thandizo la akatswiri. Nkhani yabwino? (Inde, pali nkhani yabwino!) Ndikutha kukutsimikizirani kuti othandizira adazimvapo kale.

Chilichonse chowopsa, chowopsa chomwe chimangotuluka muubongo wanu, mwina sichingadabwe ndi azachipatala anu.

Adawerenga pasukulu yomaliza maphunziro, adalankhulapo ndi makasitomala ena, ndipo koposa zonse, adakhalapo ndi malingaliro odabwitsa iwowo (pambuyo pake, iwonso ndi anthu, nawonso!).

Ndichonso ntchito yawo kukhala akatswiri akuluakulu omwe amatha kuthana ndi chilichonse chomwe mungawaponye.

Komabe, ngati simukudziwa momwe mungabweretsere kwa asing'anga anu, uwu ndi upangiri wanga woyesedwa ndi wowona pazomwe zikhala, mosakayikira, zokambirana zoyipa kwambiri m'moyo wanu:

1. Muziyeseza nokha panokha koyamba

Kulemba script ndikumayeserera posamba kapena mgalimoto ndi momwe ndidadziwonera ndekha koyamba - {textend} kwinaku ndikutsuka ndi njira yabwino yochitira izi ngati simukufuna kuti mumveke.

"Ndikudziwa kuti izi zikumveka zopanda pake, koma ..." "Ndikumva manyazi komanso kuchita manyazi ndi izi, koma ..." anali zoyambira zomwe zidandithandiza kuzindikira mawu omwe ndikufuna kunena.

2. Mwina osanena konse

Ndadziwana ndi anthu omwe adalemba zovuta zawo, kenako ndikupereka pepalalo kwa owathandizira kapena amisala.

Mwachitsanzo: "Sindikumva bwino kukuuzani izi, koma ndimawona kuti muyenera kudziwa kuti ndikulimbana ndi izi, chifukwa chake ndidalemba kuti muwerenge." Ndinachita izi ndi asing'anga anga kamodzi, ndipo atamaliza kuwerenga, adadzikweza ndikuseka, "Zabwino kudziwa. Mutha kuiwotcha tsopano, ngati mukufuna, ndingatenge kuno. ”

3. Yesani madzi poyamba

Ndibwino kuti mulankhule ngati simunakonzekere. Iyi ndi njira yowunika zomwe mungayembekezere kuchokera kwa wodwala, ndikudzichepetsera.

Mwachitsanzo: “Kodi ndingayankhe funso longoyerekeza? Ngati kasitomala wanu atanena kuti ali ndi zovuta zomwe amachita manyazi nazo, mungatani? ”

4. Aloleni afunse mafunso

Nthawi zina zimatha kukhala zotetezeka kuti mulowe muzokambirana izi ngati azachipatala akutsogolera. Nthawi zonse mumatha kufunsa kuti, "Ndimakhala ndi nkhawa kuti mwina ndili ndi OCD, ndipo ndimaganiza ngati mungandipatseko zambiri zamitengoyi."

5. Dalirani pazinthu zina

Pali buku labwino kwambiri lomwe ndidaliwerenga, "The Imp of the Mind," lomwe ndimamverera moyenera kuti liyenera kuwerengedwa kwa aliyense amene akulimbana ndi malingaliro ngati awa.

Ngati simukudziwa momwe mungatsegulire, ndingakulimbikitseni kuti muwerenge bukuli ndikuwonetsa ndime zilizonse zomwe mukuona kuti ndizofunikira kwa inu. Muthanso kuchita izi ndi zinthu zapaintaneti, monga zolemba zomwe mungapeze ku OCD Center ku Los Angeles.

6. Funani dokotala wina

Ngati simuli omasuka kuyankhula ndi wothandizira, zitha kutanthauzanso kufunikira kosintha othandizira. Osati azachipatala onse amadziwa zambiri za OCD, mwina, ndiye kuti ikhoza kukhala nthawi yofunafuna bwino.

Ndimalankhula za izi munkhani ina ya Healthline, yomwe mungawerenge apa.

7. Yesani mankhwala pa intaneti!

Ngati kuyankhula ndi munthu wina pamaso ndi pamaso ndichotchinga chomwe chikulepheretsani kupeza thandizo, kuyesa mtundu wina wamankhwala ndi yankho.

Ndinalemba za zomwe ndakumana nazo ndikuthandizira pa intaneti pano (mwachidule? Zinali zosintha moyo).

8. Ikani ndalama

Ngati ubongo wanu uli wofanana ndi wanga, mwina mungaganize kuti, "Koma Sam, ndidziwa bwanji kuti izi ndi malingaliro olakwika ndipo sindili ngati psychopath?" Ha, mzanga, ndikudziwa zolemba pamtima. Ndine wachikulire pamasewerawa.

Kusintha kwina komwe kumandithandiza ndikuganiza kuti wina adzalowa mnyumba mwanga, ndikunyamula mfuti, nati, "Mukapanda kuyankha funsoli moyenera, ndikuwombani. Kodi mupha mphaka wanu? [kapena chilichonse chomwe mantha anu ali]. ” (Inde, inde, ndizochitika zachiwawa kwambiri, koma pamtengo ndizofunika apa.)

Kasanu ndi kawiri pa khumi? Ngati kukankha kudabwera, ndipo sitinachitire mwina koma kungoganiza, gawo lomveka bwino laubongo wathu limadziwa kusiyana pakati pa malingaliro olakwika ndi ngozi yoyenera.

Ndipo ngakhale simukutsimikiza, ndichoncho, nanunso. Moyo weniweniwo uli wodzaza ndi kusatsimikizika. Sintchito yanu kudziwa izi - {textend} siyani kwa akatswiriwo.

Mverani: Mukuyenera kumva bwino kuposa izi. Ndipo zikumveka kwa ine ngati mufunika thandizo kuti mukafike kumeneko.

Ubongo wanu uli wamwano kwambiri ndipo ndichopanda chilungamo, ndipo ndikudandaula nazo. Ubongo wanga umakhala wosasunthika nthawi zina, inenso, chifukwa chake ndimamvetsetsa kukhumudwa komwe kumadza ndi gawo lino.

Ngakhale ndikudziwa kuti ndizovuta kukambirana, ndikufuna ndikutsimikizireni kuti ndichoncho mtengo wake wonse.

Nthawi iliyonse mukatsegula ndikunena moona mtima za momwe mukuvutikira, zimapatsa azachipatala zidziwitso zomwe angafune kuti akuthandizireni. Ngakhale zili bwino, zimayamba kuchotsa mphamvu pamaganizowo, chifukwa manyazi sakukukhalanso mndende m'malingaliro ako.

Kuphatikiza apo, chinthu chozizira chokhudza akatswiri azaumoyo? Alumbira kubisa (monga, mwalamulo) ndipo ngati simukufuna kuwawonanso? Simuyenera kutero. Ponena za kutaya zinsinsi zoyipa, ngozi zomwe zili pano ndizotsika.

Mumawalipira ngongole zawo. Chifukwa chake, yesetsani kulipira ndalama zanu!

Sindikunamizira kuti ndizosavuta, koma monga akunenera, chowonadi chidzakumasulani. Mwinamwake osati nthawi yomweyo, chifukwa zinthu zochepa muumoyo wamaganizidwe ndizosangalatsa nthawi yomweyo, koma inde, ndi nthawi izi ndidzatero khala bwino.

Ndipo ndani akudziwa, mwina mutha kuwulutsa pa intaneti kwa mamiliyoni a anthu, inenso (sindinadziganizire ndekha, koma ndiwo matsenga akuchira - {textend} mutha kudzidabwitsa).

Muli ndi izi. Lonjezo.

Sam

Sam Dylan Finch ndi woimira kumbuyo kwa LGBTQ + wathanzi, atadziwika padziko lonse lapansi pa blog yake, Tiyeni Tilimbikitse Zinthu Up!, Yomwe idayamba kufalikira mu 2014. Monga mtolankhani komanso waluso pankhani zanema, Sam adasindikiza kwambiri pamitu yonga thanzi lamisala, kudziwika kwa transgender, kulemala, ndale ndi malamulo, ndi zina zambiri. Pobweretsa ukadaulo wake pazaumoyo waanthu komanso media digito, Sam pano akugwira ntchito ngati mkonzi wazachikhalidwe ku Healthline.