Kodi Narcissistic Rage, ndi Njira Yiti Yabwino Yokuthandizani?

Zamkati

• Kodi chikuwoneka bwanji?
• Nchiyani chingayambitse magawano aukali wonyenga?
• Kuvulaza kudzidalira kapena kudzidalira
• Chovuta pakudalira kwawo
• Kudzidalira kumafunsidwa
• Momwe NPD imadziwira
• Momwe mungachitire ndi ukali wa narcissistic kuchokera kwa munthu wina
• Kuntchito
• Mwa zibwenzi
• Mwa abwenzi
• Kuchokera kwa mlendo
• Kodi ukali wamankhwala amachitiridwa motani?
• Kutenga

Mkwiyo wa narcissistic ndikupsa mtima kwambiri kapena chete zomwe zitha kuchitika kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto la umunthu.

Matenda a Narcissistic (NPD) amachitika ngati wina ali ndi malingaliro okokomeza kapena okokomeza ofunikira kwawo. Ndizosiyana ndi narcissism chifukwa NPD imagwirizanitsidwa ndi chibadwa ndi malo omwe mumakhala.

Wina yemwe amakhala ndiukali wokonda zonyansa angaganize kuti wina kapena chochitika pamoyo wawo chikuwopseza kapena atha kudzipweteka kapena kudzidalira.

Amatha kuchita zinthu ndikumverera kwakukulu komanso kuposa ena. Mwachitsanzo, angafune chithandizo chapadera ndi ulemu ngakhale zitakhala kuti palibe chomwe achita kuti apeze.

Anthu omwe ali ndi NPD atha kukhala ndi vuto lodzikayikira ndipo amadzimva kuti sangathe kuthana ndi chilichonse chomwe akuwona ngati chodzudzula.

Pamene "weniweni" wawo awululidwa, munthu yemwe ali ndi NPD amathanso kumva kuti akuwopsezedwa, ndipo kudzidalira kwawo kumaphwanyidwa.

Zotsatira zake, amatha kuchitapo kanthu mosiyanasiyana ndi machitidwe. Ukali ndi umodzi chabe mwa iwo, koma nthawi zambiri umakhala wowonekera kwambiri.

Kubwereza zosayenera zomwe zimachitika kwa anthu omwe ali ndi zikhalidwe zina, nawonso. Ngati inu kapena wokondedwa wanu nthawi zambiri mumakhala ndimakalata awa, ndikofunikira kuti mupeze matenda oyenera ndikupeza chithandizo chabwino kwambiri.

Kodi chikuwoneka bwanji?

Tonsefe timafuna chidwi ndi chidwi ndi anthu omwe tili nawo pafupi.

Koma anthu omwe ali ndi NPD atha kukwiya ndi nkhanza akamapatsidwa chidwi chomwe akuwona kuti akuyenera.

Mkwiyo uwu ukhoza kukhala ngati kufuula ndi kufuula. Kusankha chete ndi kupewa kupewa nkhanza kumatha kuchitika ndi ukali wamanyazi.

Magawo ambiri amkwiyo wamanyazi amapezeka pamachitidwe. Pamapeto pake, munthu amatha kukhala wotalikirana komanso wopanda ulemu. Cholinga chawo chitha kukhala kukhumudwitsa munthu wina posakhalapo.

Pamapeto pake pali kuphulika ndi zochita zachiwawa. Apanso, cholinga chingakhale kusintha "zopweteketsa" zomwe akumva kuti ziukire wina ngati njira yodzitetezera.

Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti sikuti kupsa mtima konse komwe kumachitika chifukwa chaukali. Aliyense amatha kukhala ndi mkwiyo wokwiya, ngakhale atakhala kuti alibe vuto la umunthu.

Mkwiyo wa narcissistic ndi gawo limodzi chabe la NPD. Mavuto ena amathanso kuyambitsa magawo ofanana ndiukali, kuphatikizapo:

• kunyenga kwachinyengo
• matenda ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika
• Magawo okhumudwitsa

Nchiyani chingayambitse magawano aukali wonyenga?

Pali zifukwa zitatu zoyambirira zomwe mkwiyo wamanyazi umachitikira.

Kuvulaza kudzidalira kapena kudzidalira

Ngakhale amadzidalira, anthu omwe ali ndi NPD nthawi zambiri amabisalira kudzidalira komwe kumavulala mosavuta.

Akapwetekedwa, "ochita zachiwerewere amakonda kutuluka ngati njira yawo yoyamba yodzitetezera. Amatha kumva kuti kudula wina kapena kuwakwiyitsa ndi mawu kapena chiwawa kungawathandize kuteteza malingaliro awo.

Chovuta pakudalira kwawo

Anthu omwe ali ndi NPD amayesa kudzipangitsa kudzidalira mwa kupitiriza kubweza mabodza kapena anthu abodza.

Wina akawakankha ndikuwonetsa chofooka, anthu omwe ali ndi NPD amadzimva osakwanira. Maganizo osavomerezekawa angawachititse kulalikiratu ngati chitetezo.

Kudzidalira kumafunsidwa

Ngati anthu awulula kuti wina yemwe ali ndi NPD siwokhoza kapena waluso monga momwe angadziyesere, kuthana ndi kudzidalira kumeneku kumatha kubweretsa mkwiyo wodula komanso wankhanza.

Momwe NPD imadziwira

NPD itha kuyambitsa zovuta m'moyo wamunthu, ubale, ntchito, komanso momwe ndalama zilili.

Anthu omwe ali ndi NPD nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi malingaliro onyada, okhutira, komanso ufulu. Akhozanso kukumana ndi zovuta zina monga chizolowezi chomangogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso ukali wankhanza.

Koma ukali wa narcissistic ndi zina zokhudzana ndi NPD sizophweka monga mkwiyo kapena kupsinjika.

Wopereka chithandizo chamankhwala kapena katswiri wazachipatala monga wochizira kapena wamisala amatha kuzindikira zisonyezo za NPD. Izi zitha kuthandiza munthu yemwe ali ndi NPD ndipo zizindikilo zaukali kuti apeze thandizo loyenera lomwe angafunike.

Palibe mayesero otsimikizika azidziwitso. M'malo mwake, wothandizira zaumoyo wanu adzapempha ndikuwunika mbiri yaumoyo wanu komanso machitidwe ndi mayankho ochokera kwa anthu m'moyo wanu.

Katswiri wazachipatala amatha kudziwa ngati muli ndi NPD kutengera:

• adanenanso ndikuwona zizindikilo
• Kuyezetsa thupi kuti muthandize kuthana ndi vuto lomwe lingayambitse matenda
• kuwunika kwamaganizidwe
• njira zofananira mu Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disways (DSM-5) lolembedwa ndi American Psychiatric Association
• zofananira mu International Statistical Classification of Diseases and Related Health Mavuto (ICD-10), mndandanda wazamankhwala ndi World Health Organisation (WHO)

Momwe mungachitire ndi ukali wa narcissistic kuchokera kwa munthu wina

Anthu m'moyo wanu omwe ali ndi NPD komanso zochitika zaukali wamanyazi ali ndi zinthu zambiri kuti athandizidwe.

Koma nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kupeza chithandizo choyenera, popeza njira zambiri zamankhwala sizinatsimikizidwe ndi kafukufuku.

Malinga ndi lipoti la 2009 lomwe lidasindikizidwa mu Psychiatric Annals, sipanapezeke kafukufuku wambiri pamankhwala a NPD komanso anthu omwe amakumana ndi ukali wa narcissistic ngati chizindikiro cha NPD.

Chifukwa chake ngakhale psychotherapy itha kugwira ntchito kwa anthu ena, siyothandiza kwenikweni kwa anthu onse omwe ali ndi NPD. Ndipo si akatswiri onse azamisala omwe amavomerezana za momwe angadziwire, kuthandizira ndi kusamalira vutoli.

Kafukufuku wa 2015 wofalitsidwa mu The American Journal of Psychiatry akuti matenda osiyanasiyana omwe angachitike mwa munthu aliyense ali ndi NPD atha kupangitsa kuti zizikhala zovuta kudziwa kuti "NPD" ili ndi ndani:

• Chotsani. Zizindikiro ndizowonekera komanso zosavuta kuzipeza ndi njira za DSM-5.
• Chophimba. Zizindikiro sizowoneka nthawi zonse kapena zowonekera, ndipo machitidwe kapena thanzi lam'mutu lomwe limagwirizanitsidwa ndi NPD, monga mkwiyo kapena kukhumudwa, zitha kukhala zovuta kuzizindikira.
• "Ogwira ntchito kwambiri". Zizindikiro za NPD zitha kukhala zovuta kapena zosatheka kuziganizira padera pazochita zamunthu nthawi zonse kapena mkhalidwe wamaganizidwe. Amatha kudziwika kuti ndizosavomerezeka monga kunama kapena kusakhulupirika.

Popeza mikhalidwe ngati NPD imatha kupezeka pokhapokha poyang'ana zizindikilo zowoneka, pakhoza kukhala zizolowezi zambiri zamakhalidwe kapena zochitika zamaganizidwe zomwe sizingatheke kupatula matenda.

Koma sizitanthauza kuti simuyenera kufunafuna thandizo. Yesani kulankhula ndi akatswiri angapo azaumoyo ndikuyesa njira zosiyanasiyana kuti muwone mtundu wamankhwala omwe amakugwirirani ntchito.

Ndipo ngakhale inu kapena munthu amene muli ndi NPD m'moyo wanu mukugwira ntchito kudzera m'zochita zawo komanso mbiri yawo, ena atha kupezanso kuti ndi bwino kufunafuna chithandizo cha akatswiri.

Mutha kuphunzira njira zothanirana ndi ukali mukamachitika kapena kukonzekera zochitika zamtsogolo kuti muchepetse kapena kusokoneza kusokonezeka kwamalingaliro ndi malingaliro omwe mungakhale nawo munthawiyo.

Kuntchito

Malire chibwenzi ndi munthuyo. Khulupirirani zomwe akunena koma zitsimikizirani kuti zomwe anakuuzani ndizowona kapena zabodza.

Anthu omwe ali ndi NPD atha kuyankhula zakwanitsa zawo komanso kuthekera kwawo. Koma ngati muzindikira kuti sangakwanitse kapena sachita ntchito zofunika, dzikonzekeretseni kusamalira zofooka zawo zamtsogolo zamtsogolo.

Komanso samalani popereka mayankho achindunji komanso kudzudzula. Izi zitha kukulimbikitsani kuti muchitepo kanthu munthawiyo, zomwe zitha kukuikani pachiwopsezo chaumwini kapena akatswiri.

Siudindo wanu kupeza kuti munthuyo akufuna thandizo. Kuyankha kwanu kapena kudzudzula itha kukhala njira imodzi yomwe mungalimbikitsire munthuyo kuti apeze thandizo.

Lankhulani ndi manejala wanu kapena manejala wa munthu winayo kapena funani thandizo ku dipatimenti yazantchito ya kampani yanu (HR).

Nazi njira zina zomwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kuyanjana ndi anzanu akuntchito omwe atha kukhala ndi zizolowezi zanyengo kapena zochitika zaukali:

• lembani zonse zomwe mungachite nawo mwatsatanetsatane
• osakulitsa mikangano ndi munthuyo, chifukwa izi zitha kumadzetsa mavuto kwa inu kapena ena kuntchito
• musadzitengere nokha kapena kuyesa kubwezera munthuyo
• osawulula zambiri zakumwini kapena kufotokoza malingaliro anu kwa munthu yemwe atha kugwiritsa ntchito kukutsutsani
• yesetsani kusakhala nawo mchipinda chimodzi kuti ena athe kukhala mboni pamakhalidwe awo
• nenani zakukuvutitsani, zochitika kapena kusalidwa komwe mukuwona ku kampani yanu ya HR

Mwa zibwenzi

N'zotheka kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi, wopindulitsa ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi NPD ndi zigawo zaukali.

Koma nonse awiri mungafunike kufunafuna chithandizo ndikupanga machitidwe ndi njira zoyankhulirana zomwe zimagwirira ntchito pachibwenzi chanu.

Anthu omwe ali ndi ukali wokonda zonyansa amatha kukhala opweteka. Kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulire nawo kungakuthandizeni kudziteteza kukuvulazani mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo. Yesani njira izi pothana ndi NPD:

• perekani zowawa kwambiri kwa mnzanu, kupewa kunama kapena chinyengo chilichonse
• zindikirani zizindikiro za NPD mwa mnzanu kapena nokha, ndipo chitani zonse zotheka kuti mulumikizane zomwe zikudutsa mumutu mwanu mukawonetsa machitidwe ena
• musadzisunge nokha kapena mnzanuyo pamiyezo yovuta kapena yosatheka, popeza izi zimatha kukulitsa kudzikayikira kapena kudzikayikira komwe kumadzetsa mkwiyo wankhanza
• akhazikitseni malamulo kapena malire m'banja lanu kotero kuti inu ndi mnzanu mudziwe zomwe akuyembekezeredwa kukhala bwenzi lanu lachikondi, m'malo mochita zinthu mopanda dongosolo pazomwe mukuyembekezera
• funani chithandizo chamankhwala payekhapayekha komanso ngati banja kotero kuti mutha kugwira ntchito pa inu nokha ndi ubalewo tandem
• musaganize za inu nokha kapena mnzanu ngati ali ndi chilichonse "cholakwika”Koma dziwani madera omwe angasokoneze ubale womwe ukufunika kugwira ntchito
• Khalani olimba mtima pothetsa chibwenzicho ngati simukhulupiliranso kuti ubale ndi wathanzi kwa inu kapena mnzanu

Mwa abwenzi

Chepetsani kuwonekera kwanu kwa bwenzi lililonse lomwe lingakuvulazeni mwakuthupi, m'maganizo, kapena m'malingaliro chifukwa chakukwiya.

Mungafune kulingalira zodzichotsa paubwenzi wanu kwathunthu ngati mukukhulupirira kuti ubalewo sulinso wathanzi kapena wopindulitsa.

Ngati uyu ndi mnzanu wapamtima yemwe mumakonda kucheza naye, mungapemphenso thandizo kwa akatswiri azaumoyo.

Amatha kukuthandizani kuphunzira zamakhalidwe omwe amapangitsa kuthana ndi zovuta. Muthanso kuphunzira zamakhalidwe omwe angakuthandizeni kuyendetsa bwino machitidwe ndi kulumikizana ndi bwenzi lanu munthawi yaukali.

Izi zitha kupangitsa kuti nthawi yanu yocheza isakhumudwitse komanso ikhale yosangalatsa kapena yopindulitsa.

Kuchokera kwa mlendo

Njira yabwino ndikungochokapo. Simudzakhala ndi inu kapena munthu ameneyo amene mungakwanitse kupeza mayankho ogwira mtima mukulumikizana kwanu.

Koma zindikirani kuti zochita zanu sizinayambitse zomwe zimachitika. Zimayendetsedwa ndi zinthu zoyambitsa zomwe simukukhudzira mwanjira iliyonse.

Kodi ukali wamankhwala amachitiridwa motani?

Katswiri wazachipatala amatha kuthandiza kuchiza NPD komanso ukali.

Atha kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala olankhulira, kapena psychotherapy, kuthandiza anthu omwe ali ndi NPD kumvetsetsa machitidwe awo, zosankha zawo, ndi zotsatirapo zawo. Othandizira amatha kugwira ntchito ndi munthuyo kuti athetse zomwe zimayambitsa.

Kulankhula pathandizoli kumathandizanso anthu omwe ali ndi NPD kupanga mapulani atsopano amakhalidwe kuti akhale ndi maluso athanzi komanso luso laubwenzi.

• Anthu omwe ali ndi NPD ndi ukali wa narcissistic amatha kupweteketsa anthu m'miyoyo yawo, ngakhale sakudziwa. Simuyenera kukhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse za ukali wamtsogolo. Mungachitepo kanthu kuti mudziteteze.
• Ngati mukuwopa kuti munthu yemwe ali ndi NPD m'moyo wanu akhoza kuwoloka kuchokera kukumunenani kapena kumuzunza kapena mukuganiza kuti muli pachiwopsezo, itanani 911 kapena ma emergency emergency.
• Ngati chiwopsezocho sichichitika mwachangu, funani thandizo kuchokera ku Nambala Yaikulu Yapadziko Lonse Pazomenyera 800-799-7233. Amatha kulumikizana ndi omwe amakuthandizani, othandizira azaumoyo, ndi malo ogona mdera lanu ngati mukufuna thandizo.

Kutenga

Thandizo lilipo kwa anthu omwe ali ndi NPD komanso ukali wamanyazi. Pokhala ndi matenda oyenera komanso kulandira chithandizo chamankhwala mosalekeza, ndizotheka kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi, wopindulitsa.

Pakadali pano, ukali ungaoneke ngati wowononga komanso wowopsa. Koma kulimbikitsa wokondedwa (kapena wekha) kufunafuna chithandizo kungalimbikitse zisankho zabwino kwa inu, iwo, ndi ena onse m'miyoyo yanu.