Mkazi Uyu Adalongosola Pakatikati Pakusiyanitsa Kudziyesa Kwako ndi Kuthupi Lathupi

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Aliyense ali ndi ufulu wokonda khungu lomwe alimo. Umenewo ndi uthenga wabwino womwe aliyense angagwirizane nawo, sichoncho? Koma ICYDK, kudzikonda nokha ndikuchita zolimbitsa thupi sizofanana.

Ngakhale amafanizidwa nthawi zambiri, pali kusiyana pakati pa kudzikonda ndi kukhala wokhutira ndi thupi — mfundo yomwe posachedwapa idadziwitsidwa ndi Nicole, wa Nix Fitness. Adapita ku Instagram kugawana kuti adauzidwa kuti kukongola kwa thupi "si kwa [iye]" chifukwa ndi mkazi "woonda".

"Poyamba, ndidakhumudwa kwambiri ndikumva izi," adalemba m'makalata ake. "'Kodi aliyense alibe ufulu wokonda thupi lomwe alimo? Zikuwoneka kuti sizikuphatikizana' ndimaganiza." (Zogwirizana: Chifukwa Chochititsa Manyazi Thupi Ndi Vuto Lalikulu — Ndi Zomwe Mungachite Kuti Mupewe)

Nicole kenako adadzipangira yekha kuti afufuze zambiri zakukhalitsa kwa thupi kuti athe kumvetsetsa zomwe mayendedwe ake ali. (Zokhudzana: Sindine Woyenera Thupi kapena Wolakwitsa Thupi-Ndine Ndekha)

"Ndidazindikira kuti ndalakwitsa zonse," adalemba. "Inde, aliyense ali ndi ufulu wokonda thupi lake koma sikuti thupi positivity, ndi kudzikonda. Ndipo pali kusiyana."

Cholinga chenicheni cha kuyenda-kulimbitsa thupi ndikulimbikitsa anthu omwe ali ndi matupi oponderezedwa (okhwimitsa, olimbirana, osunthika, matupi amtundu, ndi zina zambiri) kuti asamangodzikonda okha woyenera Za kudzikonda, Sarah Sapora, mlangizi wazodzikonda komanso woimira zamilandu, adatiuza kale. Komabe, gululi likakhala "lofala kwambiri komanso lotsatsa malonda," cholinga chake choyambirira "chatsitsidwa" ndikugwiritsanso ntchito matanthauzo angapo, akufotokoza Sapora.

Kuponyera "chiyembekezo cha thupi" ndi "kudzikonda" palimodzi kumanyalanyaza zovuta zomwe anthu omwe ali ndi matupi oponderezedwa akumana nazo kwazaka zambiri. "Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo pathupi sikungokhala kokha kwa akazi owonda, owongoka, odabwitsika, azungu omwe adakhala omasuka ndi mapaundi owonjezera a 10 pamafelemu awo," Stacey Rosenfeld, Ph.D., katswiri wazamisala wololeza komanso waluso, anatiuza posachedwapa kuyankhulana.

Nicole akuwoneka kuti wafika pamalingaliro ofananawo: "Monga munthu amene sanakhalepo mthupi lomwe lasalidwa, sindingatchule chikondwerero cha mimba yanga yofewa 'thupi labwino, ndikungodzikonda," adatero analemba. "ThoughNgakhale kusadandaula kwathu kukugwirabe ntchito, ndikuganiza kuti ndikofunikira kuti tizindikire kusiyana chifukwa kulephera kutero, kumachotsa mawu aanthu omwe gululi lidapangidwira." (Zogwirizana: Kodi Mungakonde Thupi Lanu Koma Mukufunabe Kusintha?)

Mfundo yofunika kwambiri: Mukhoza kudzikonda ndipo khalani ndi chidwi ndi thupi — dziwani kuti mawu awiriwa ndi osiyana. Ngakhale kudzikonda ndichinthu chomwe mungagwiritsire ntchito mkati ndikulimbikitsa ena kuti azichita, kulimbitsa thupi kumatanthauza kukhala ogwirizana ndi iwo omwe ali ndi matupi oponderezedwa, kuyitanira mwayi wamthupi mukamawona, ndikutsutsa malingaliro omwe munali nawo kale za kutsimikizika a matupi a anthu.

M'malo mwake, izi zikutanthauza kuti muyang'ane zokonda zanu zokhudzana ndi thupi lanu ndikupatsa ena mpata kuti amveketse mawu awo, Sapora adatiuza. "Ngati ndinu munthu wochepa thupi, kapena wogwirizana ndi 'chikhalidwe' cha anthu, onetsetsani kuti mawu anu ndi nkhani ya thupi lanu sizimitsa mawu ndi nkhani za iwo omwe sakuyimiridwa," adalongosola.

Katie Willcox, wolemba, wolemba, komanso woyambitsa Healthy Is The New Skinny, akuwonetsa kutsogolera mwa chitsanzo: "Mutha kuchita gawo lanu osati polalikira, kuweruza, kapena kuwonetsa moyo wabwino pa Instagram, koma pokhala chitsanzo cha munthu wina yemwe amadzikonda yekha ndikukhala munjira yowonetsera kunja. "

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