Kukulitsa Banja Lanu Kudzera Mwaukadaulo Wapakati

Zamkati

• Bwanji osankha kuberekera?
• Mitundu yodzipereka
• Momwe mungapezere wobwezeretsa
• Njira zokhalira woberekera
• Momwe zimachitikira, pang'onopang'ono
• Zikwana ndalama zingati?
• Malipiro onse
• Kujambula
• Ndalama zalamulo
• Ndalama zina
• Nanga bwanji za makolo oberekera?
• Kodi inshuwaransi yazaumoyo imalipira chilichonse?
• Nkhani zalamulo zofunika kuziganizira
• Nkhani zosayembekezereka zokhala ndi amayi ena
• Kalata kwa iwo omwe akuganiza zokomera munthu wina
• Kutenga

David Prado / Wogulitsa ku United

Kodi Kim Kardashian, Sarah Jessica Parker, Neil Patrick Harris, ndi Jimmy Fallon amafanana bwanji? Onse ndi otchuka - ndizowona. Koma onsewa agwiritsanso ntchito njira zoberekera kuti akule ndi mabanja awo.

Monga odziwika awa, pali njira zambiri zokhalira ndi ana masiku ano. Ndipo monga teknoloji ikupita patsogolo, momwemonso zosankhazo. Anthu ochulukirachulukira akutembenukira kuberekero.

Ngakhale mutha kuyanjanitsa izi ndi akatswiri amakanema komanso olemera, Nazi zomwe mungayembekezere - kuyambira panjira yonse mpaka pamtengo wonse - ngati mukuganiza kuti njirayi itha kukhala yofananira ndi banja lanu.

Bwanji osankha kuberekera?

Choyamba chimabwera chikondi, kenako ukwati, kenako kubwera mwana m'galimoto. Nyimbo yakale idasiya zambiri, sichoncho?

Kuberekera ana kumathandiza kudzaza zina mwazomwezi kwa 12 mpaka 15% ya mabanja omwe ali ndi vuto lakusabereka - komanso kwa ena omwe akufuna kukhala ndi ana obadwira ndipo ali munthawi zina.

Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe anthu amasankhira kuberekera:

• Zaumoyo zimalepheretsa mayi kutenga pakati kapena kutenga pakati mpaka kumapeto.
• Mavuto osabereka amateteza maanja kuti asatenge kapena kukhala ndi pakati, monga kupita padera mobwerezabwereza.
• Amuna kapena akazi okhaokha akufuna kukhala ndi ana. Awa akhoza kukhala amuna awiri, koma azimayi nawonso amawona kuti njirayi ndi yokongola chifukwa dzira limatulutsa m'mimba mwa mnzake limatha kusamutsidwa ndikunyamulidwa ndi mnzake.
• Anthu osakwatira amafuna kukhala ndi ana obadwa nawo.

Zokhudzana: Zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa za kusabereka

Mitundu yodzipereka

Mawu oti "kubereka" amagwiritsidwa ntchito pofotokoza zochitika zingapo zosiyana.

• A chonyamulira imatenga mimba ya munthu payekha kapena banja pogwiritsa ntchito dzira lomwe silonyamula. Dzira limatha kubwera kuchokera kwa mayi yemwe akufuna kapena woperekayo. Momwemonso, umuna ukhoza kubwera kuchokera kwa bambo yemwe akufuna kapena woperekayo. Mimba imatheka kudzera mu vitro feteleza (IVF).
• A woberekera wachibadwidwe Onse amapereka dzira lake lomwe ndipo amatenga mimba ya munthu payekha kapena banja. Mimbayo imakwaniritsidwa kudzera mu intrauterine insemination (IUI) ndi umuna kuchokera kwa abambo omwe akufuna. Umuna wopereka amathanso kugwiritsidwa ntchito.

Malinga ndi bungwe la Southern Surrogacy, onyamula zimbalangondo tsopano ndiofala kuposa oberekera anzawo. Chifukwa chiyani? Popeza woberekera wina amapereka dzira lake, alinso zachilengedwe mayi wamwanayo.

Ngakhale izi zitha kuchitika bwino, zitha kupanga zovuta pamalamulo komanso pamalingaliro. M'malo mwake, mayiko angapo ali ndi malamulo oletsa kuberekera amuna pazifukwa izi.

Momwe mungapezere wobwezeretsa

Anthu ena amapeza mnzawo kapena wachibale yemwe ali wofunitsitsa kugwira ntchito ngati wobwezeretsa. Ena amatembenukira ku mabungwe oberekera amayi - ku United States kapena kunja - kuti apeze masewera abwino. Mabungwe oyamba kuwonekera pazenera kuti awonetsetse kuti akwaniritsa zomwe zikugwirizana ndi ndondomekoyi. Kenako zikufananiza zomwe mukufuna / zofunikira kuti mupeze zomwe zingathandize banja lanu.

Simudziwa kuti ndiyambira pati? Nonprofit group Society for Ethics in Egg Donation and Surrogacy (SEEDS) idapangidwa kuti iwunikenso ndikusungitsa zovuta zamakhalidwe okhudzana ndi zopereka za dzira ndi kuberekera ana. Gulu limasunga chikwatu chomwe chingakuthandizeni kupeza mabungwe mdera lanu.

Njira zokhalira woberekera

Ziyeneretso zokhala woberekera mosiyanasiyana zimasiyana malinga ndi bungwe, koma zimaphatikizapo zinthu monga:

• Zaka. Otsatira ayenera kukhala azaka zapakati pa 21 ndi 45 wazaka. Apanso, mtunduwo umasiyanasiyana malinga ndi malo.
• Mbiri yakubereka. Ayeneranso kukhala ndi pakati osachepera amodzi - popanda zovuta - kuti athetse koma amakhala ndi zochepera zisanu kumaliseche komanso magawo awiri obayira.
• Moyo. Otsatira ayenera kukhala m'nyumba zothandizana nawo, monga zimatsimikiziridwa ndi kafukufuku wapanyumba. Kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi uchidakwa ndizofunikira zina.
• Mayeso. Kuphatikiza apo, omwe angamuthandize amayenera kuwunika thanzi lawo, kuphatikiza kwathunthu - kuphatikiza kuyezetsa matenda opatsirana pogonana.

Makolo omwe ali ndi zolinga amafunikiranso kukwaniritsa. Izi zikuphatikizapo:

• kupereka mbiri yathunthu yazaumoyo
• kukhala ndi mayeso kuti awonetsetse kuti atha kupyola muyeso wobwezeretsa umuna mu vitro
• kuyezetsa matenda opatsirana
• kuyesa matenda ena amtundu omwe angapatsidwe kwa mwana

Uphungu wamaganizidwe amalimbikitsidwanso kuti ufotokoze zinthu monga zoyembekezera kuchokera pakuberekera, kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, nkhanza, ndi mavuto ena amisala.

Zokhudzana: Upangiri wa masiku 30 wopambana wa IVF

Momwe zimachitikira, pang'onopang'ono

Mukapeza woberekera, kukwaniritsa pakati kumasiyana kutengera mtundu wa omwe amamugwiritsa ntchito.

Ndi onyamula gestational, ndondomekoyi imawoneka ngati iyi:

1. Sankhani woberekera, nthawi zambiri kudzera kubungwe.
2. Pangani mgwirizano wamalamulo kuti muwunikenso.
3. Pitilizani njira yobwezeretsa dzira (ngati mukugwiritsa ntchito mazira omwe mayi akufuna) kapena kupeza mazira opereka. Pangani mazira pogwiritsa ntchito umuna wa abambo kapena umuna wopereka.
4. Tumizani mazira kwa wonyamula (woberekera) kenako - ngati angamamatire - tsatirani mimba. Ngati sizikugwira ntchito, makolo omwe akufuna komanso woberekera akhoza kutsatira njira ina ya IVF.
5. Mwanayo amabadwa, panthawi yomwe makolo omwe amafunidwa amakhala ndi ufulu wonse wosamalira monga momwe zalembedwera pangano lalamulo.

Amuna oberekera amtundu wina, nawonso, akupereka mazira awo, chifukwa chake IVF nthawi zambiri samachita nawo izi.

1. Sankhani woberekera.
2. Pangani mgwirizano wamalamulo kuti muwunikenso.
3. Pitilizani njira ya IUI pogwiritsa ntchito umuna wa abambo kapena umuna wopereka.
4. Tsatirani mimba kapena - ngati kuzungulira koyamba sikukuyenda - yesaninso.
5. Mwanayo amabadwa. Woberekerayo angafunikire kuthetseratu ufulu wa makolo kwa mwanayo, ndipo makolo omwe angafunidwe angafunike kumaliza kulera ana opeza kuwonjezera pa mgwirizano uliwonse walamulo womwe unakhazikitsidwa koyambirira kwa ntchitoyi.

Zachidziwikire, izi zitha kukhala zosiyana pang'ono kutengera dera lomwe mukukhala.

Zikwana ndalama zingati?

Mtengo wokhudzana ndi kuberekera molingana ndi mtundu komanso komwe mumakhala. Mwambiri, mtengo wonyamula wakunyamula utha kutsika pakati pa $ 90,000 ndi $ 130,000 mukaganizira za chipukuta misozi, mtengo wa chisamaliro chaumoyo, chindapusa ndi zina zomwe zingachitike.

West Coast Surrogacy Agency, yomwe ili ku California konse, imalemba ndalamazo mwatsatanetsatane patsamba lake ndikufotokozera kuti ndalamazi zimatha kusintha popanda kuzindikira.

Malipiro onse

Malipiro oyambira ndi $ 50,000 ya omvera obadwira atsopano ndi $ 60,000 kwa omwe adakumana nawo odziwa zambiri. Pakhoza kukhala ndalama zina zowonjezera. Mwachitsanzo:

• $ 5,000 ngati mimba imabweretsa mapasa
• $ 10,000 ya atatu
• $ 3,000 poperekera zopereka

Muthanso kutenga ndalama (zomwe zimasiyanasiyana) pazinthu monga:

• malipiro apamwezi
• malipiro otayika
• inshuwaransi yazaumoyo

Ndalama zitha kuphatikizaponso zochitika zapadera, monga kuyimitsidwa kwa ma IVF, kutulutsa ndi kuchiritsa, ectopic pregnancy, kuchepetsa fetal, ndi zina zosayembekezereka.

Kujambula

Makolo omwe akuyembekezeranso amalipiranso pafupifupi $ 1,000 paziwongolere zaumoyo wawo, woberekera, ndi mnzake woberekera. Kufufuza zakumbanda kwa onse awiri kumawononga pakati pa $ 100 ndi $ 400. Kuwona zamankhwala kumadalira malingaliro a chipatala cha IVF.

Ndalama zalamulo

Pali zolipira zingapo zalamulo zomwe zimakhudzidwa, kuyambira pakulemba ndikuwunikanso za mgwirizano ($ 2,500 ndi $ 1,000, motsatana) kukhazikitsa makolo ($ 4,000 mpaka $ 7,000) kuti akhulupirire kasamalidwe ka akaunti ($ 1,250). Chiwerengero chonse apa chili penapake pakati pa $ 8,750 mpaka $ 11,750.

Ndalama zina

Izi zimasiyanasiyana ndi chipatala ndi bungwe. Mwachitsanzo, West Coast Surrogacy imalimbikitsa upangiri wamaganizidwe kwa makolo omwe amawafunira ndipo amawaberekera kwa mphindi 90 pamwezi komanso pambuyo pazochitika zosiyanasiyana, monga kusamutsidwa kwa mluza. Pazonse, magawowa atha kukhala $ 2,500 - komabe, chithandizo ichi chitha kapena sichingavomerezedwe ndi mabungwe ena.

Ndalama zina zomwe zingachitike ndi inshuwaransi yazaumoyo wa munthu wina ($ 25,000), inshuwaransi ya moyo ($ 500), ndi malo ogona / zolipirira maulendo ogwirizana ndi ma IVF ($ 1,500). Makolo amathanso kukonzekera kutsimikizira inshuwaransi yaokha ($ 275).

Apanso, pali zinthu zina zosiyana, monga mankhwala a IVF ndikuwunika kapena kutaya mphotho chifukwa cha zovuta zamimba, zomwe zimasiyana pamitengo.

Nanga bwanji za makolo oberekera?

Ndalama zanu zitha kukhala zocheperako poyerekeza ndi makolo chifukwa palibe IVF yomwe ikukhudzidwa. Mtengo wa IUI ndi wochepa ndipo umakhala ndi njira zochepa zochiritsira.

Kodi inshuwaransi yazaumoyo imalipira chilichonse?

Mwina ayi, koma ndizovuta. Malinga ndi bungwe la ConceiveAbilities, pafupifupi 30% yamaphunziro a inshuwaransi yazaumoyo akuphatikizapo verbiage yomwe imanena kuti ichitika ayi kulipira ndalama za mkazi woberekera. Pafupifupi 5% amapereka chithandizo, koma ena 65% sachita manyazi pankhaniyi.

Mwachidule: Pali maudindo ambiri, njira, kenako kubadwa komwe kumaganizira. Simukufuna ndalama za inshuwaransi zosayembekezereka komanso zotsika mtengo.

Mabungwe ambiri amakuthandizani kuwunikiranso mapulani a inshuwaransi yazaumoyo wa munthu woberekera kuti adziwe kufalitsa. Angakulimbikitseninso kuti mugule inshuwaransi yakunja kwa wothandizidwayo pogwiritsa ntchito mapulogalamu a inshuwaransi kudzera m'mabungwe ngati New Life kapena ART Risk Solutions.

Nkhani zalamulo zofunika kuziganizira

Palibe malamulo aboma okhudzana ndi kuberekera mwana. M'malo mwake, malamulo omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito amadalira dziko lomwe mukukhala. Nkhani zalamulo zitha kuchitika ngati kholo limodzi likukhudzana ndi mwana ndipo winayo sali - ngakhale woberekerayo alibe ubale.

Kuberekera pachikhalidwe - pomwe woberekerayo alinso mayi wobadwira - kumatha kukhala kovuta kwambiri. Mwa zina, mungafunikire kupeza chomwe chimatchedwa kuti pre-birth order kuti mulembedwe ngati kholo pachikalata chobadwira mwana akabadwa. Mayiko ena sangalole izi, ngakhale atakhala kuti alibe malamulo oletsa kuberekera anzawo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti makolo kapena makolo omwe siabadwa angafunike kutsatira njira zovomerezeka.

Ngakhale zili choncho, American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists ikulimbikitsa kuti woberekerayo komanso makolo omwe akufuna kuti akonzekere azikayimira milandu ndi maloya omwe ali ndi chidziwitso choberekera.

Zokhudzana: Khothi lomwe mayi woberekera wapatsidwa limadzutsa milandu yatsopano pamalamulo, pamakhalidwe

Nkhani zosayembekezereka zokhala ndi amayi ena

Pokonzekera kuberekera, chilichonse chimawoneka ngati chosavuta. Komabe, ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti monga zinthu zambiri m'moyo, pali mwayi woti nkhani zibuke ndikupangitsa zinthu kukhala zosokoneza.

Zina mwazinthu:

• IVF kapena IUI sichitsimikizo chokhala ndi pakati. Nthawi zina njirazi sizigwira ntchito koyesa koyambirira kapenanso pambuyo pake. Mungafunike mayendedwe angapo kuti mukwaniritse mimba.
• Sitikutanthauza kukhala a Debbie Downer pano. Koma cholingalira china ndikuti ngakhale pathupi pangakhale, kutaya pathupi kumatheka.
• Monga momwe zimakhalira ndi njira yolerera pakati pa makolo, nthawi zonse pamakhala mwayi wokhudza zaumoyo ndi mwana kapena zovuta ndi woberekera kapena kubadwa kwenikweni.
• Mimba yokhala ndi IVF ndi IUI imatha kubweretsa kuchulukitsa - mapasa kapena atatu.
• Ngakhale maphunziro apanyumba ndi kuwunika kwamaganizidwe ndi gawo la kuwunika, sangatsimikizire kuti oberekera sangachite nawo zomwe mungaganize kuti ndizowopsa. (Kumbali inayi, ambiri oberekera amatenga ana chifukwa chofunitsitsa kubweretsa chisangalalo chaubwino kwa anthu omwe sangakumane nawo.)

Kalata kwa iwo omwe akuganiza zokomera munthu wina

Pali njira zosiyanasiyana zomwe kukhala woberekera kumatha kumveka m'moyo wanu. Mutha kupeza kuti ndalamazo zimakhala zosangalatsa kapena kumva kukhala okhutira ndikupatsa banja zomwe sangakwanitse popanda thandizo lanu.

Komabe, ndi chisankho chachikulu. Bungwe la Family Inceptions Agency limafotokoza zinthu zingapo zofunika kuziganizira musanapemphe kuti mukonzekere.

• Muyenera kukwaniritsa zofunikira zonse - kuphatikiza zaka, thanzi, mbiri yobereka, komanso malingaliro - omwe atha kusiyanasiyana potengera bungwe.
• Muyenera kukhala bwino posiya kulamulira panthawi yapakati. Ngakhale uli thupi lanu, zomwe zimachitika panthawi yoyembekezera sizili kwa inu kwathunthu. Izi zimaphatikizapo zinthu monga kuyesa komwe mwina simungadzisankhire koma kuti makolo omwe mukufuna akalandire.
• Muyeneranso kulingalira za ndondomekoyi. Kukhala ndi pakati kudzera pa IVF kumatengera njira zingapo ndi mankhwala. Ganizirani momwe mungamvere mukamamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi m'kamwa komanso mahomoni.
• Mudzafunika kuganizira ngati banja lanu ndilokwanira. Kodi mukufuna ana ena? Zindikirani kuti pakati pa mimba iliyonse komanso ukalamba, mavuto omwe amabwera chifukwa cha zovuta amatha kubereka.
• Muyenera kulowetsanso kuchokera kubanja lanu lonse. Kodi mnzanu akumva bwanji za kuberekera munthu wina? Nanga bwanji ana anu?

Palibe mayankho olondola kapena olakwika pamafunso omwe muyenera kudzifunsa - izi ndi zinthu zofunika kuziganizira. Kuberekera ana kumatha kukhala njira yabwino komanso mphatso.

Zokhudzana: Kusabereka pambuyo popereka mazira

Kutenga

Ngakhale kuberekera nthawi zina sikungakhale kosavuta kapena kosavuta, anthu ambiri akusankha njirayi.

Mu 1999 kunanenedwa ku United States. Mu 2013, chiwerengerochi chinakwera kufika pa 3,432, ndipo chikukwera chaka chilichonse.

Ndi njira yokhudzidwa koma ndiyofunika kufufuza. Ngati kuberekera kumawoneka ngati kungakhale koyenera banja lanu, lingalirani kulumikizana ndi bungwe lomwe lili pafupi nanu kuti mumve malire ake, mtengo wake, ndi zina zilizonse zomwe zingakhale zofunikira paulendo wanu. Pali njira zambiri zokhalira kholo - ndipo iyi ndi imodzi mwazo.