Malangizo 10 Olankhula ndi Ana Anu Zokhudza Kukhumudwa

Zamkati

• 1. Khalani nokha malo oyamba
• 2. Pangani zokambiranazo kukhala zogwirizana ndi msinkhu
• 3. Dziwani omvera anu
• 4. Khalani oona mtima
• 5. Pitirizani kuchita zinthu monga banja
• 6. Akhazikitseni mantha awo
• 7. Aloleni kuti amvetse nkhani
• 8. Gawani njira yanu yothandizira
• 9. Khalani ndi dongosolo lobwezera
• 10. Funsani thandizo

Mukumva ngati dziko lanu likutseka ndipo zonse zomwe mukufuna kuchita ndikubwerera mchipinda chanu. Komabe, ana anu sazindikira kuti muli ndi matenda amisala ndipo mukufuna nthawi yoti mupite. Onse omwe amawona ndi kholo lomwe limachita mosiyana, limawakwapula kuposa masiku onse, ndipo sakufunanso kusewera nawo.

Nthawi zina kuvutika maganizo kumakhala kovuta kuti ana amvetse. Kukambirana ndi ana anu kungakhale ntchito yovuta. Koma kufotokozera zakukhosi kwanu poyera - moganiza, mozama, moyenera zaka - zingapangitse kuti ana anu azitha kupirira nthawi yotsatira.

Nawa maupangiri 10 olankhulira ndi ana anu za kukhumudwa.

1. Khalani nokha malo oyamba

Mukangoyesetsa kuchitapo kanthu kuti mumvetsetse ndikuthandizira matenda anu ndi pomwe mungawafotokozere ana anu. Ngati simunawonepo katswiri wama psychology, psychiatrist, kapena Therapist, lingalirani kutero. Kulankhula ndi wothandizira kungakuthandizeni kudziwa zomwe zingayambitse kukhumudwa kwanu. Komanso lankhulani ndi dokotala wanu za kuyambitsa dongosolo lokwanira la mankhwala. Kenako mutha kuuza ana anu kuti mukuchita kale zinthu zothandiza kuti mumve bwino.

2. Pangani zokambiranazo kukhala zogwirizana ndi msinkhu

Kufotokozera za kukhumudwa kwa mwana wamng'ono kumatha kukhala kovuta, koma sizotheka. Momwe mumalankhulira mutuwo uyenera kutengera gawo lakukula kwa mwana wanu.

Ndi ana aang'ono kwambiri, lankhulani mawu osavuta ndikugwiritsa ntchito zitsanzo pofotokozera momwe mumamvera. Mwachitsanzo, munganene kuti, "Kodi mukudziwa momwe mudamvera chisoni pomwe mnzanu sanakuyitanani kuphwando lake? Chabwino, nthawi zina amayi amamva chisoni chotere, ndikumverera kumatha masiku angapo. Ndiye chifukwa chake sindimwetulira kwambiri kapena ndikufuna kusewera. ”

Pomwe ana amafika kusukulu yapakatikati mutha kuyamba kufotokoza malingaliro monga kukhumudwa ndi nkhawa, osafotokoza mwatsatanetsatane za nkhondo zanu za tsiku ndi tsiku kapena mankhwala omwe mumamwa. Komabe, limbikitsani ana anu kufunsa mafunso pa chilichonse chomwe samamvetsetsa.

Mukamayankhula ndi ana azaka za kusekondale, mutha kukhala osapita m'mbali. Nenani kuti nthawi zina mumakhumudwa kapena kuda nkhawa, ndipo fotokozani momwe zimakupangitsani kumva. Muthanso kudziwa mwatsatanetsatane za dongosolo lanu la mankhwala.

3. Dziwani omvera anu

Momwe ana amatengera chidziwitso amasiyanasiyana. Ana ena amaphunzira bwino akusewera. Ena amaphunzira bwino pogwiritsa ntchito zinthu zooneka kapena zokhazikitsidwa. Ena amakhala omasuka kukambirana mosapita m'mbali popanda zosokoneza. Sinthani njira yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito yomwe ikugwirizana ndi kuthekera kwa kuphunzira kwa mwana wanu komanso zomwe amakonda. Izi zitha kupanga kusiyana kwakukulu pakumvetsetsa kwawo kukhumudwa kwanu.

4. Khalani oona mtima

Sizovuta nthawi zonse kulankhula za thanzi lanu lam'mutu - makamaka ndi ana anu. Komabe kubisa chowonadi kumatha kukubwezerani. Pamene ana sadziwa nkhani yanu yonse, nthawi zina amadzaza m'mabowo okha. Mkhalidwe wawo wazomwe zitha kukhala zowopsa kwambiri kuposa zenizeni.

Palibe vuto kuuza ana anu ngati simukudziwa yankho la mafunso awo. Ndizolandiranso kunena kuti simudzakhala bwino tsiku limodzi. Mutha kukhala ndi zovuta zina pamene mukuyesa kukhala wathanzi. Yesetsani kukhala omasuka nawo momwe mungathere.

5. Pitirizani kuchita zinthu monga banja

Pakati pamavuto okhumudwitsa, mwina zitha kukhala zosatheka kutsatira ndondomeko yanu. Koma chitani zonse zomwe mungathe kuti banja lizolowere. Ana aang'ono amatha kuzindikira ngati china chake chalakwika. Kukhala ndi chizolowezi chokhazikika kumathandizira kuthana ndi kusakhazikika ndikuletsa ana anu kuzindikira kuti ali ndi nkhawa. Konzani nthawi yazakudya pomwe nonse mumasonkhana patebulo kuti mukambirane ndikupatula nthawi yochita zinthu monga banja monga kuwonera makanema kapena kusewera masewera apabodi.

6. Akhazikitseni mantha awo

Nthawi zonse ana akakumana ndi matenda - akuthupi kapena amisala - sizachilendo kwa iwo kuchita mantha. Amatha kufunsa kuti, ‘Kodi mudzachira?’ Kapena ‘Kodi mufa?’ Atsimikizireni kuti kukhumudwa sikupha, ndipo ndi chithandizo choyenera muyenera kuyamba kumva bwino. Komanso, muuzeni ana anu kuti alibe mlandu pa momwe mumamvera.

7. Aloleni kuti amvetse nkhani

Ana akamva nkhani zosayembekezereka komanso zokhumudwitsa, amafunika nthawi kuti azisinthe. Apatseni nthawi yoganizira zomwe mwawauza.

Akakhala ndi maola angapo kapena masiku ochepa ndi chidziwitso, mwina adzabweranso kwa inu ndi mafunso. Ngati alibe zambiri zoti anene poyamba ndipo simunamvepo kwa iwo masiku angapo, fufuzani nawo kuti muwone ngati ali bwino.

8. Gawani njira yanu yothandizira

Matenda otseguka ngati nkhawa amakhala ovuta kuti ana amvetse. Adziwitseni ana anu kuti mukukumana ndi dokotala ndikupeza chithandizo. Ngati mulibe dongosolo lamankhwala, atsimikizireni kuti mupanga chimodzi mothandizidwa ndi dokotala wanu. Kudziwa kuti mukutenga njira zenizeni zothetsera kukhumudwa kwanu kudzawatsimikizira.

9. Khalani ndi dongosolo lobwezera

Pakhoza kukhala nthawi zina pamene simukufuna kukhala kholo. Uzani ana anu momwe mudzawadziwitsire kuti gawo lidzafika. Khalani ndi wina padoko kuti azikulankhulirani - monga mnzanu, agogo, kapena oyandikana nawo.

10. Funsani thandizo

Osatsimikiza momwe mungalankhulire ndi ana anu za kukhumudwa kwanu? Funsani wama psychologist wanu kapena othandizira pabanja kuti akuthandizeni kuyambitsa zokambirana.

Ngati ana anu ali ndi vuto lothana ndi kukhumudwa kwanu, konzekerani kuti akawone katswiri wamaganizidwe a ana. Kapenanso, pezani upangiri kwa aphunzitsi odalirika kapena ana awo.