Kodi Kukhala Pansexual Kumatanthauza Chiyani?

Zamkati

• Kodi pansexual amatanthauza chiyani?
• Pansexuality ≠ polyamory
• Pansexual vs. bisexual
• Kodi pansexuality ndi yofala bwanji?
• Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji ngati ndili pansexual?
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Odzipangira mphamvu Tess Holliday, Janelle Monea, Bella Thorne, Miley Cyrus, ndi Kesha akugwedeza zakudya zanu zamagulu ndi siteji ndi badassery, zowona, luso ndi ... kunyada kwapansexual! Inde, inu mukuwerenga izo molondola. Makanda onsewa omwe akusintha padziko lonse lapansi amadziwika kuti ndi a pansexual.

Mawu akuti 'pansexual' akhala akugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa zaka zambiri-zambiri-zambiri, malinga ndi kafukufuku wa jenda, kugonana, ndi mtundu Della V. Mosley, Ph.D., wothandizira pulofesa wa psychology ku yunivesite ya Florida. Koma ngati mukumva mwadzidzidzi ndikudabwa tanthauzo la kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, simukuganiza. Mosley akulingalira kuti, chifukwa pakhala "chiwerengero chochulukira cha anthu otchuka omwe amadziwonetsera okha kuti ndi okonda kugonana, pakhala kuwonjezeka kwa mawuwa." Chosangalatsa: Palinso mbendera yapansexual yomwe imakhala ndi mzere wapinki, wachikaso, ndi wabuluu.

Komabe, kutha kulembetsa anthu ena omwe ali ndi vuto logonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndikosiyana ndikudziwa tanthauzo lake. Ngati mukukanda mutu wanu mukudabwa, "kodi kugonana kwachiwerewere ndi chiyani?" mwafika pamalo abwino. Pansipa, Mosley ndi Jamie LeClaire, ophunzitsa zogonana omwe amakhazikika pankhani yogonana komanso jenda, yankhani mafunso anu onse, kuphatikiza: Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi chiyani? Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa pansexual ndi bisexual? Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati mukugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzanu?

Kodi pansexual amatanthauza chiyani?

Mwa zina, tanthauzo la "pansexual" zimatengera yemwe mumamufunsa. Ndi chifukwa palibe, koma awiri matanthauzo ambiri ovomerezeka a pansexual, akutero Mosley.

"Nthawi zina kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumatanthauza kukopa munthu winamosasamala kanthu zachikhalidwe chawo kapena amuna kapena akazi, "akutero." Nthawi zina amatanthauziridwa kuti ndiko kukopa kwazonse kapena kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi, "akutero, zomwe zikufotokoza momveka bwino za" pan- ", kutanthauza" onse. "

Matanthauzo onse a pansexual amavomereza kuti jenda limapezeka pamitundu yonse. Kutanthauza, m'malo mongokhala ochepa munthu ndipomkazi, kudziwika kuti ndi wamkazi kungakhale Agender, androgynous, bigender, kapena jenda-madzimadzi, jenda-queer, kapena wosakhala wamabina (kungotchulapo ochepa). Ndipo kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumatanthauza kuti mutha kukopeka ndi anthu omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amodzi mwa amuna kapena akazi. (Onani zambiri: Zomwe Zimatanthawuza Kukhala Madzi Amuna Kapena Akazi Kapena Kuzindikiritsa Monga Osakhala Binary)

Ndiye, mwachidule, kodi pansexual ndi chiyani? "Kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumangotanthauza kuti mutha kukopeka ndi munthu wina ndipo sizidalira amuna kapena akazi okhaokha," akutero LeClaire. Mwakutero, anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kupita kumaso-emoji kwa wina aliyense wogonana, kudziwika kuti ndi wamkazi, kaperekedwe ka jenda, kapena kugonana (ziwalo zoberekera).

Ndipo, ayi, kukhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokhasatero kutanthauza kuti mugonana ndi aliyense.

Ngati muwerenga izi ngati kulankhulana, mumawerenga bwino. "Anthu okonda kugonana amakumana ndi nthano imeneyi kwambiri akaulula zomwe sakudziwa," akutero Mosley. Koma kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sikufanana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. (Zogwirizana: Kodi Aliyense Amagonana Ndi Nthawi Zingati?)

Pansexuality ≠ polyamory

Mosley akuti nthano ina yodziwika bwino yomwe amamva yokhudza kugonana ndikuti ndi liwu lina la polyamory. Si.

"Polyamory ikukhudzana ndi kukhala womasuka kukhala ndi abwenzi angapo kapena m'modzi panthawi - mosiyana ndi kukhala ndi mkazi mmodzi, yemwe amakhala pachibwenzi chimodzi chokha nthawi imodzi," akufotokoza. Kukhala pansexual sikutanthauza mtundu wa ubale womwe munthu angakhale nawo. Wina yemwe ali pansexual atha kusankha kukhala, ndikukhala wokondwa, kaya kukhala ndi polyamorous kapena monogamous, akutero. (Onani Zowonjezerapo: Apa pali ubale womwe umakhalapo pakati-komanso zomwe sizili)

Pansexual vs. bisexual

Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa pansexuality ndi bisexuality? Anthu ambiri amatero. Ndizofala kuti anthu asokoneze zomwe sizigonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (omwe amakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha), akutero LeClaire. (LGBTQ + Glossary iyi iyeneranso mawu ena ambiri.)

Ndizowona: Zolemba izi zimakwaniritsidwa, atero a Mosley. Ndipo monga momwe pansexuality ili ndi matanthauzidwe ochepa, momwemonso kugonana kwa amuna ndi akazi.

Choyamba, kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi chiyani?

M'mbuyomu, kukopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumatanthauzidwa kuti kukopa, kukondana, kapena kugonana amuna ndi akazi. "Matanthauzidwe ambiri okhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna ndi akazi omwe mungapeze m'mabuku adapangidwa panthawi yomwe chikhalidwe komanso anthu ambiri amamvetsetsabe kuti amuna kapena akazi ndi amuna ndi akazi," akufotokoza LeClaire.

Komabe, momwe kumvetsetsa kwa jenda kwasinthiratu, momwemonso tanthauzo la kugonana kwa amuna ndi akazi kwasintha.Tsopano, malinga ndi The Bisexual Resource Center, kugonana kwa amuna ndi akazi tsopano kumatanthauza "kukopeka ndi chikondi ndi/kapena kugonana ndi oposa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha." Anthu ena omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatanthauzira kuti amakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha 1) monga iwowo ndi 2) mosiyana ndi awo, Leclaire akuti, akugwedeza mutu wa "bi" (kutanthauza awiri). (Nawa kalozera wathunthu wa zomwe bisexual zikutanthauza komanso momwe mungadziwire ngati mungakhale bi.)

Dikirani, ndiye pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?

Nayi njira yabwino yoganizira izi: Pansexuality ndikukopa munthu mosasamala kanthu za jenda, pomwe amuna ndi akazi ndi amuna ndi akazi ndizomwe zimakopa amuna ndi akazi ambiri.

Ngati mukuganiza "bwanji ngati ndili nonse?" simuli nokha; anthu ena amadziwika ngati BiPan (kapenaonse bisexual and pansexual). Komabe, nthawi zambiri, omwe amadziwika kuti ndi a pansexual amatero chifukwa zimangowakwanira bwino kuposa zidziwitso zina zomwe si za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, monga amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, palinso gawo lalikulu pachikhalidwe chogwiritsa ntchito mawuwa, akutero a Mosley: "Zinthu monga zaka, mtundu, komanso malo zitha kutengapo gawo lalikulu pamawu omwe munthu angasankhe." Anecdotally, wazindikira kuti anthu azaka zapakati pa 20 ndi 20 ali ndi mwayi wogwiritsa ntchito mawu oti 'pansexual' poyerekeza ndi omwe ali ndi zaka 30 kapena kupitirira, omwe ali ndi mwayi wodziwika kuti ndi 'amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.'

"Zomwe zimagwera, kwenikweni, ndi zomwe mumakonda, komanso ufulu wanu wodziwonetsa momwe mukuwonera," akutero LeClaire. "Ineyo pandekha ndimadziwonetsera ngati pansexual, koma ndikuwona kuti ndikukhala pansi pa maambulera akuluakulu a anthu ogonana nawo." Anthu ambiri omwe amadziwika kuti si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amavomereza kuti pali malo oti zizidziwike nthawi imodzi. (FYI, pali mawu achiwerewere atsopano, kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndizovuta, komanso zabwino kudziwa.)

Dziwani izi: Kaya wina azizindikira kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (kapena kuti ndi ndani), ndi chisankho chawo. Monga lamulo, ngati wina anena kuti amadziwonetsera ngati chinachake, akhulupirireni. Ngati wina atchula kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha / amuna kapena akazi okhaokha / zina. koma 'samayang'ana' kapena kuchita momwe mukuyembekezera kuti munthu yemwe ali ndi chidziwitsocho aziwoneka kapena kuchita, ndiye INU vuto. Kupolisi yodziwikiratu ya munthu siabwino nthawi zonse. (Zogwirizana: Chifukwa Chiyani Kufunsa Tsiku Lanu Ngati Ali "Queer Enough" Sikuli Bwino)

Kodi pansexuality ndi yofala bwanji?

Funso limeneli n’losatheka kuyankha, akutero Mosley. "Palibe kafukufuku wokwanira pansexuality kuti adziwe momwe zimakhalira, ndipo kawirikawiri kafukufuku amapereka mwayi kwa otenga nawo mbali."

Lipoti la 2018 la Komiti Yoyang'anira Ufulu Wachibadwidwe lidawonetsa kuti 14% ya achinyamata a LGBTQ + amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, zomwe ndizokwera kwambiri kuposa lipoti lofananira la 2012, lomwe likusonyeza kuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kwayamba kufala. Komabe, palibe chidziwitso chotsimikizirika cha kuchuluka kwa anthu onse omwe ali pansexual.

Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji ngati ndili pansexual?

Palibe Mayeso Ovomerezeka a Pansexual omwe muyenera kutenga ndikudutsa kuti muzindikire chizindikiro, ndipo palibe mayeso omwe angakuuzeni momveka bwino ngati mukugonana kapena ayi. Ngakhale mutakhala kuti mukugonana kapena mukukopeka ndi anthu osiyanasiyana sizitanthauza kuti muyenera kuzindikira kuti ndinu okondana. Ndinu okondana kwambiri ngati chidziwitsocho chikumveka bwino (kapena mukumva kwambiri kumanja) kwa inu. (Zokhudzana: Momwe "Kutuluka" Kunandithandizira Thanzi Langa ndi Chimwemwe)

Anthu ena amawona kuti kukhala ndi nthawi kapena chilinganizo cha zomwe akukhala ndikukumana nazo kumatha kumasula, akutero a Mosley. "Pazachipatala changa komanso kafukufuku ndi anthu a pan/queer/bi+, ndimamva nthawi zambiri kuti kukhala ndi zilembo ndi chilankhulo kumawalumikiza kumadera, kumachepetsa kudzipatula, kuwalumikiza kuzinthu, ndipo kumatha kukulitsa kukhala kwawo," akutero. LeClaire akuvomereza, ndikuwonjeza kuti "kupeza dzina lomwe umamverera ngati unganene mokweza komanso monyadira kumatha kukhala kolimbikitsa komanso kumasula." Koma kachiwiri, izo ziri pa nthawi yanu. Trust, dera lanu lidzakuthandizani mukakhala okonzeka. (Zokhudzana: Kodi Kukhala Wopusa Kumatanthauza Chiyani Kwenikweni?)

Ngati mukuganiza ngati mwina mungagone ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, a Mosley akuti kuwona unicorn ndi gawo loyamba labwino. "Ndizothandizanadi ndipo zidzakuthandizani kulingalira za zokopa zanu zosiyanasiyana (zam'maganizo, zakuthupi) pambali pazomwe mumadziwika kuti ndinu amuna, akazi, komanso kugonana."

LeClaire akuti Bisexual Resource Center ndi bukuliQueer bwanji! Nkhani zaumwini kuchokera kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, zamadzimadzi, komanso malingaliro ena osagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokhandi Faith Beauchemin ndizinthu zabwino.

Kumbukirani kuti: "Zisangalalo ndi zovuta zomwe mungakumane nazo mukamachita zachiwerewere sizimachitika mosiyana ndi zina zanu," akutero Dr. Mosley. "Choncho, ndimakonda kulimbikitsa anthu kuti afufuze pang'ono kuti apeze magwero omwe akugwirizana ndi zosowa zawo panthawiyi [ndi zizindikiro zawo zina monga jenda, mtundu, kalasi, ndi osamukira kudziko lina]." Ndipo chifukwa chake, Twitter, Tumblr, ndi Instagram ndizabwino kwambiri. Zachidziwikire, ma hashtag amatha kukhala ndi zofunikira zina.

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