Mwana Wanga Ali ndi Autism Akasungunuka, Nazi Zomwe Ndimachita

Zamkati

• Pali kusiyana pakati pa kukakamiza kuchita zinthu ndikulimbikitsa kudziyimira pawokha
• Zomwe muyenera kuchita pakasokonekera kwambiri, pagulu kwambiri
• 1. Khalani achifundo
• 2. Apangeni kukhala omasuka komanso okondedwa
• 3. Chotsani zilango
• 4. Muziganizira kwambiri mwana wanu, osati kungoyang'ana anthu amene akuonererawo
• 5. Tsegulani chida chanu chazidziwitso
• 6. Aphunzitseni njira zothetsera mavuto akakhala odekha

Thanzi ndi thanzi zimakhudza aliyense wa ife mosiyanasiyana. Iyi ndi nkhani ya munthu m'modzi.

Ndinakhala muofesi ya psychologist ya mwana ndikumuuza za mwana wanga wamwamuna wazaka zisanu ndi chimodzi yemwe ali ndi autism.

Uwu unali msonkhano wathu woyamba kuti tiwone ngati tikhala oyenera kugwirira ntchito limodzi kuti tiwunike ndikupeza matenda, kotero mwana wanga sanapezekepo.

Mnzanga ndi ine tinamuuza za kusankha kwathu sukulu yakunyumba ndi momwe sitinagwiritsirepo ntchito chilango ngati njira yolangizira.

Msonkhanowu ukupitilira, masamba ake adakhala ngati mbewa.

Ndinawona chiweruzo m'mawu ake pomwe adayamba monologue za momwe ndimafunira kukakamiza mwana wanga kuti apite kusukulu, kumukakamiza kuzinthu zomwe zimamupangitsa kukhala wosasangalala kwambiri, komanso kumukakamiza kuti azicheza ngakhale atakhala kuti akumva bwanji.

Mphamvu, mphamvu, mphamvu.

Ndimamva ngati akufuna kuyika machitidwe ake m'bokosi, ndikukhala pamwamba pake.

Zowona, mwana aliyense wokhala ndi autism ndi wapadera komanso wosiyana ndi zomwe anthu amamuwona ngati wamba. Simungakwaniritse kukongola kwawo ndi kuwonekera kwawo m'bokosi.

Tidakana ntchito zake ndipo tidapeza zoyenera m'banja lathu - kwa mwana wathu wamwamuna.

Pali kusiyana pakati pa kukakamiza kuchita zinthu ndikulimbikitsa kudziyimira pawokha

Ndaphunzira kuchokera pazomwe ndidakumana nazo kuti kuyesera kukakamiza kudziyimira pawokha sikutsutsana, kaya mwana wanu ali ndi autism kapena ayi.

Tikamakankhira mwana, makamaka yemwe amakhala ndi nkhawa komanso kuumirira, chibadwa chawo ndikumakumba zidendene ndikugwiritsitsa kwambiri.

Tikamakakamiza mwana kuthana ndi mantha awo, ndipo ndimatanthauza kukuwa pansi ndikuchita mantha, monga Whitney Ellenby, mayi yemwe amafuna mwana wake wamwamuna ndi autism kuti awone Elmo, sitikuwathandiza kwenikweni.

Ndikakakamizidwa kulowa mchipinda chodzaza ndi akangaude, ndikadatha kutuluka muubongo wanga nthawi ina kuti ndithane ndikatha kufuula pafupifupi maola 40. Izi sizitanthauza kuti ndinali ndi kupambana kapena kupambana ndikakumana ndi mantha anga.

Ndimaganiziranso kuti ndikasunga zovutazi ndipo nthawi zina zimadzayambika m'moyo wanga.

Zachidziwikire, kukankhira ufulu sikuti nthawi zonse kumakhala kovuta mofanana ndi zochitika za Elmo kapena chipinda chodzaza ndi akangaude. Kukankhira uku kumangokhala pazinthu zingapo kuyambira pakulimbikitsa mwana wokayikakayika (izi nzabwino ndipo siziyenera kukhala ndi zingwe zilizonse zomwe zingachitike - Aloleni anene ayi!) Powakakamiza kutengera zomwe ubongo wawo ukufuula Ngozi.

Tikawalola ana athu kukhala omasuka paulendo wawo ndipo pamapeto pake atenga gawo lawo mwakufuna kwawo, chidaliro chenicheni ndi chitetezo chimakula.

Izi zati, Ndikumvetsetsa komwe amayi a Elmo amachokera. Tikudziwa kuti ana athu angasangalale ndi chilichonse ngati angayese.

Timafuna kuti iwo amve chisangalalo. Tikufuna kuti akhale olimba mtima komanso achidaliro. Timafuna kuti "agwirizane" chifukwa tikudziwa momwe kukanidwa kumamvekera.

Ndipo nthawi zina timakhala otopa kwambiri kuti tikhale oleza mtima komanso achifundo.

Koma mphamvu si njira yopezera chisangalalo, chidaliro - kapena bata.

Zomwe muyenera kuchita pakasokonekera kwambiri, pagulu kwambiri

Mwana wathu akasungunuka, makolo nthawi zambiri amafuna kuyimitsa misozi chifukwa zimapweteka mitima yathu kuti ana athu akuvutika. Kapenanso tikuleza mtima ndipo tikungofuna mtendere ndi bata.

Nthawi zambiri, tikulimbana ndi kusungunuka kwachisanu kapena chachisanu m'mawa m'mawawu pazinthu zomwe zimawoneka ngati zazing'ono ngati chikhomo mu malaya awo chikuyabwa, mlongo wawo akuyankhula mokweza kwambiri, kapena kusintha mapulani.

Ana omwe ali ndi autism sakulira, kulira, kapena kuwotcha kuti atipeze mwanjira ina.

Alira chifukwa ndizomwe matupi awo amafunika kuchita munthawiyo kuti atulutse zovuta ndi zotengeka kuti zisamveke kutengeka kapena kutengeka.

Ubongo wawo umalumikizidwa mosiyanasiyana motero ndi momwe amalumikizirana ndi dziko lapansi. Ndicho chinthu chomwe tiyenera kuvomerezana nacho monga makolo kuti tithe kuwathandiza m'njira yabwino kwambiri.

Chifukwa chake tingathandizire bwanji ana athu kupyola pamavuto awa okokomeza?

1. Khalani achifundo

Chisoni chimatanthauza kumvetsera ndikuvomereza mavuto awo popanda kuweruza.

Kulongosola kutengeka mwanjira yathanzi - kaya kudzera misozi, kulira, kusewera, kapena kulemba nkhani - ndibwino kwa anthu onse, ngakhale kukhudzika uku kukukula kwambiri.

Ntchito yathu ndikuwongolera ana athu modekha ndikuwapatsa zida zodziwonetsera m'njira yosapweteketsa thupi lawo kapena ena.

Tikamvera chisoni ana athu ndikutsimikizira zomwe akumana nazo, amamva.

Aliyense amafuna kumva kuti amvekedwa, makamaka munthu yemwe nthawi zambiri amamva kuti sanamvetsetsedwe komanso kuti samayenda pang'ono ndi ena.

2. Apangeni kukhala omasuka komanso okondedwa

Nthawi zina ana athu amataya mtima kwambiri kwakuti samatimva. Muzochitika izi, zomwe tikufunika kuchita ndikungokhala nawo kapena kukhala nawo pafupi.

Nthawi zambiri, timayesetsa kuwalankhula ndi mantha awo, koma nthawi zambiri kumakhala kuwononga mpweya mwana akakumana ndi mavuto.

Zomwe tingachite ndi kuwadziwitsa kuti ali otetezeka komanso okondedwa. Timachita izi mwa kukhala pafupi nawo momwe angakhalire omasuka nawo.

Sindikudziwa nthawi yomwe ndawonapo mwana akulira akuuzidwa kuti atha kutuluka m'malo obisika akasiya kusungunuka.

Izi zitha kutumiza uthenga kwa mwanayo kuti sayenera kukhala pafupi ndi anthu omwe amawakonda akakhala pamavuto. Mwachidziwikire, uwu si uthenga wathu wofunidwa kwa ana athu.

Chifukwa chake, titha kuwonetsa kuti tili nawo chifukwa chokhala pafupi.

3. Chotsani zilango

Chilango chitha kupangitsa ana kuchita manyazi, kuda nkhawa, mantha komanso kukwiya.

Mwana yemwe ali ndi autism sangathe kuwongolera kusungunuka kwawo, chifukwa chake sayenera kulangidwa chifukwa cha iwo.

M'malo mwake, ayenera kuloledwa danga ndi ufulu kulira mokweza ndi kholo pamenepo, kuwadziwitsa kuti athandizidwa.

4. Muziganizira kwambiri mwana wanu, osati kungoyang'ana anthu amene akuonererawo

Kusungunuka kwa mwana aliyense kumatha kuchita phokoso, koma amakonda kupita kumtunda wina wonse mokweza mukakhala mwana wa autism.

Kuphulika kumeneku kumatha kuchititsa manyazi makolo tikakhala pagulu ndipo aliyense amatiyang'ana.

Timamva chiweruzo kuchokera kwa ena akuti, "Sindingalole kuti mwana wanga azichita izi."

Kapenanso, tikumva ngati mantha athu akuya ndiwotsimikizika: Anthu amaganiza kuti tikulephera kuchita izi.

Nthawi yotsatira mukadzapezeka pachisokonezo ichi pagulu, samanyalanyaza kuweruzidwa, ndikukhazika pansi mawu amkati amanthawo kuti simukukwanira. Kumbukirani kuti munthu amene akuvutika ndipo amafuna thandizo lanu kwambiri ndi mwana wanu.

5. Tsegulani chida chanu chazidziwitso

Sungani zida zingapo zomverera kapena zoseweretsa m'galimoto kapena chikwama chanu. Mutha kupereka izi kwa mwana wanu malingaliro awo akapanikizika.

Ana ali ndi zokonda zosiyanasiyana, koma zida zina zodziwika bwino zimaphatikizapo mapadi olemera, mahedifoni oletsa phokoso, magalasi a magalasi, ndi zoseweretsa.

Musamakakamize mwana wanu akasungunuka, koma ngati angasankhe kuzigwiritsa ntchito, izi nthawi zambiri zimawathandiza kukhazikika.

6. Aphunzitseni njira zothetsera mavuto akakhala odekha

Palibe zambiri zomwe tingachite panthawi yachisokonezo mpaka kuyesera kuphunzitsa ana athu zida zothana ndi mavuto, koma akakhala mumtendere komanso kupumula, titha kugwira ntchito limodzi pamalingaliro am'malingaliro.

Mwana wanga wamwamuna amayankha bwino pamaulendo achilengedwe, kupanga yoga tsiku lililonse (amakonda kwambiri Cosmic Kids Yoga), ndikupumira kwambiri.

Njira zothetsera mavutowa ziwathandiza kukhazikika - mwina kusanachitike kusungunuka - ngakhale simukhala pafupi.

Chisoni ndi chomwe chili pamtima pamagawo onsewa pakuthana ndi kusokonezeka kwa autistic.

Tikawona machitidwe a mwana wathu ngati njira yolumikizirana, zimatithandiza kuwawona ngati ovutika m'malo mokhala amwano.

Poganizira zomwe zimayambitsa zochita zawo, makolo azindikira kuti ana omwe ali ndi vuto la autism akhoza kunena kuti: "Mimba yanga imandipweteka, koma sindingathe kumvetsetsa zomwe thupi langa likundiuza; Ndikumva chisoni chifukwa ana samasewera nane; Ndikufuna kukondoweza kwina; Ndikufuna zolimbikitsira zochepa; Ndiyenera kudziwa kuti ndine wotetezeka ndipo mudzandithandiza kupulumuka chimphepo chamkuntho chifukwa chimandiwopsezanso. "

Mawu kunyoza Ikhoza kusiya mawu athu osungunuka, m'malo mwake ndikumvera ena chisoni ndi chifundo. Ndipo mwakusonyeza chifundo cha ana athu, titha kuwathandiza moyenera pamavuto awo.

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