Chifukwa Chomwe Kukambirana Sikulakwa ndi Momwe Mungakonzere

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Kufunsa abwana kuti akukwezeni pantchito, kuyankhula kudzera paubwenzi waukulu, kapena kuwuza mnzanu yemwe mumadzipangitsa kuti muzimunyalanyaza. Mukumva mantha pang'ono ndikuganiza za izi? Ndizachilendo, atero a Rob Kendall, wolemba buku latsopanoli Kuwononga Kwambiri: Chifukwa Chomwe Kukambirana Sikulakwa ndi Momwe Mungakonzere. Ngakhale ma konsolo ovuta kwambiri amatha kuchitika ndi sewero lochepa - ndipo ma tweaks ochepa chabe atha kubweretsa zotsatira zazikulu. Apa, njira zinayi zosavuta kugwiritsa ntchito munkhani iliyonse.

Chitani Maso ndi Maso

Inde, imelo ndiyosavuta kuposa kukumana pamasom'pamaso, komanso ndiyo njira yosavuta yopangira kusamvana kwakukulu, achenjeza Kendall. Ngati mukutsimikiza kuti mutuwo ukhala wokangana-kapena wovuta-makambiranani ndi munthu payekha, momwe kamvekedwe, mawonekedwe a thupi, ndi nkhope zingathandize kufotokoza ndendende zomwe mukutanthauza.

Dziwani Nthawi ndi Malo

Kwa ma konsolo ovuta, mwendo wawung'ono ungathandize kwambiri kuti mupeze zotsatira zomwe mukufuna. Ndikulankhula ndi woyang'anira wanu za kukwezedwa pantchito? Tengani masabata angapo kuti muyambe ndandanda yake. Kodi amafika kuofesi msanga kapena amakonda kukhala mpaka anthu ena atachoka? Kodi ali bwino asanayambe kapena atatha nkhomaliro? Kodi amakhala liti kumapazi chifukwa chakuti womuyang'anira amamufuna kuti akambirane? Mukamvetsetsa malankhulidwe ake, mutha kukonzekera msonkhano umodzi mwa nthawi zomwe angakhale omvera kufunsa kwanu, akutero Kendall. Momwemonso zimachitikira mnyamata wanu, abwenzi anu, kapena amayi anu. Ngati mukudziwa kuti wina si kadzidzi wausiku, osamuyimbira foniyo patadutsa zisanu ndi zinayi ngati muli ndi zina zofunika kuzikambirana.

Imbani Nthawi Nthawi Zonse Nthawi zambiri

"Ngakhale mutangoyamba kukambirana ndi zolinga zabwino, zinthu zimatha kusokonekera," akuchenjeza Kendall. Koma m'malo mowona zokambiranazo ngati zolephera kwathunthu, Kendall amalimbikitsa kuyitana nthawi mukamawona kuti malingaliro anu kapena a mnzanu akukwera. "Kupuma mphindi zisanu kumakutulutsani inu kutentha kwa zokambirana, ndipo kungakupatseni nthawi yolingalira komwe munthu winayo angakhale akuchokera," akutero Kendall.

Yambani Njira Yoyenera

Zachidziwikire kuti mumakhumudwitsidwa ndi bwenzi lanu lodzitchinjiriza chifukwa chakuchotsani mphindi zomaliza, koma yambani kukambirana pomuuza zakusangalalira kwanu mukakumana, kapena mubweretse chitsanzo chaposachedwa cha nthawi yomwe sanachite. Kenako, fotokozani momwe mumamvera akamakwiya, ndipo funsani ngati pali chilichonse chomwe mungachite kuti zitsimikizike kuti sizichitika. "Mukayamba ndi zoipa, mnzakeyo nthawi yomweyo ayamba kudzitchinjiriza, ndipo sangamve zodandaula zanu," akufotokoza a Kendall.

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