Kodi Zakale Zanu Zogonana Zimakukhudzani?

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Ndi Lachisanu usiku, ndipo zinthu zayamba kutentha. Milomo yake ili m'malo onse oyenera, akunena zabwino, kenako modzidzimutsa walowa muubongo wanu. Mwinamwake chinali chinachake chimene mnyamata wanu anachita. Kapena mwina zikuwoneka ngati zopanda chifukwa. Ndipo pamene mnyamata wanu du jour angakhale sadziwa chilichonse chimene chachitika, mpaka mutasiya kuganizira za moto wanu wakale, inu simudzabwerera pa njira.

Kusunga kwanu kwakanthawi-ngakhale mutakhala ndi gawoli-kumakhudza moyo wanu wakugonana masiku ano. Pambuyo pake, ngakhale amuna azaka zapitazo ndi mbiri yakale (ndipo ambiri, ndikuthokoza kwambiri!), Akadalipo. Chibwenzi chochokera ku koleji chomwe chinakupangitsani kuzindikira kuti chemistry ikhoza kukhala pafupi ndi chogwirika ndipo munthu amene simunathe kumuchotsa manja anu onse anali ndi udindo wopanga zochitika zanu kumbuyo kwa zitseko zotsekedwa. Vuto ndilakuti, enafe timakumbukira bwino kuposa ena zikagonjetsapo kale. Nayi momwe mungatulutsire mizukwa ya omwe munakumana nawo m'mbuyomu, gwirizanani ndi nthawi yanu yamasiku ano, ndikukhala pabedi.

Mzimu: Maluso a XXX a wakale wanu

Chotsani icho: Mnyamata amene uli naye ndi wodabwitsa, koma yemwe mudali naye m'mbuyomu anali naye chodabwitsa luso logona-zomwe mumalakalaka mutakumana nazo. Muchotseni m'maganizo mwanu polankhula zokhumba zanu kwa Bambo Tsopano. Kugonana kuli kochulukirapo kuposa momwe thupi limakhalira, ndipo kutha kulankhula moona mtima za kutembenuka (kapena kumuwonetsa zomwe mukufuna) ndikofunikira, akutero Holly Hein, Ph.D., wolemba buku la Achiwerewere: Choonadi Chodabwitsa Pachikondi, Chilakolako, ndi Kusakhulupirika.

Mzimu: Kukumbukira koyenera kugonana

Chotsani icho: Kaya kunali kusuntha komwe kudasokonekera kwambiri kapena ndemanga yomwe wakale wanu adanena pakati pamasewera kuti simungathe kugwedezeka, kukumbukira zinthu zabwino kumatha kubwera pakanthawi zovuta. Ngati ndichinthu chomwe simungathe kuchichotsa pamutu panu, mwina chifukwa ndichoti chimakuchititsani manyazi kapena chikukuvutitsani, muuzeni mnyamata wanu, Hein akuwonetsa. Simusowa kuti mufotokozere mwatsatanetsatane, koma kuzitulutsa kumatha kukhala gawo loyamba pakulola lingaliro kuti lipite. Pakadali pano, ngati ndichinthu chomwe mwayesa komanso simunakonde, ndibwino kuti musachotsere chipinda chanu chogona. "Zimene umakhala womasuka kuchita pakatha chaka chimodzi kapena ziwiri muubwenzi ndi zosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe ungakhale womasuka nazo pakangopita miyezi yochepa," akukumbutsa motero Karen Ruskin, Psy.D. Buku Laukwati la Dr. Karen.

Mzimu: Wakale wanu ali pazochitika zanu zonse za Facebook komanso muubongo wanu

Chotsani icho: Mwinamwake inu ndi iye tinaganiza zokhalabe abwenzi kapena mwina mwakhala mukuchita nawo pang'ono cyberstalking. Kaya chifukwa chake ndi chiti, wagundika pamutu panu. Ndizosadabwitsa kuti akatswiri amavomereza kuti mukamamuletsa kwambiri pamoyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku, m'pamenenso sangawonekere panthawi ya X. "Ngakhale mutadziwa kuti sakukuyenererani, thupi lanu limatha kulakalaka chemistry yomwe mudakhala nayo ndi wakale," akutero a Ruskin. Ngati zikuwoneka kuti ndi choncho, ndi bwino kupanga mtunda pakati panu awiri. “Sikuti ndi wankhanza, ndikunena zoona,” akutero. "Mwina inu ndi wakale wanu mungakhale mabwenzi mu chaka chimodzi kapena ziwiri, koma mukufunikira nthawi kuti chemistry ikhale pansi."

Mzimu: Mnyamata wachisawawa uja wa ku shopu ya khofi amatulukira m'maloto auve

Chotsani icho: Zongopeka ndi gawo labwinobwino la moyo wogonana wathanzi, Wagner akuti. "Ndife anthu ndipo malingaliro athu nthawi zina amapita kumeneko. Malingana ngati sakulepheretsa mgwirizano pakati pa iwe ndi mnzako, sizoyenera kuda nkhawa." Kupatula apo, kudzizungulira nokha ndi chidwi pang'ono sikunakhaleko koyipa m'chipinda chogona. Koma ngati nthawi zonse mumangopeza malingaliro anu akusochera kapena mukuganiza chithunzi cha munthu wina kuti musangalale, ndiye kuti mwina ndi chizindikiro kuti china sichili bwino muubwenzi wanu.

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