Kutha kwanthawi

Nthawi yopuma ndi njira yakulera yolimbikitsa ana kuti asiye kuchita zinthu zomwe simukufuna kuti azichita. Mwana wanu akapanda kuchita bwino, mutha kumuchotsa mwamtendere ndikuchita nawo nthawi. Mwana wanu nthawi zambiri amasiya kuchita izi kuti asapite nthawi. Kutha nthawi kumakhala kothandiza kwambiri ndi ana, azaka 2 mpaka 12.

Mukayika ana munthawi, mumawasonyeza ndi zochita kuti simukonda machitidwe awo. Zimagwira bwino kuposa kufuula, kuwopseza, kapena kumenya.

Nthawi yotuluka imachotsa mwana wanu pamakhalidwe. Zimakupatsani inu ndi mwana wanu nthawi yoti mukhale bata ndikudziyang'anira nokha. Ana munthawiyo amakhalanso ndi nthawi yoganizira zomwe adachita.

Sankhani chimodzi kapena ziwiri zamakhalidwe omwe mukufunadi kuti mugwire ntchito ndi mwana wanu. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi mokhazikika mogwirizana ndi izi. Samalani kuti musagwiritse ntchito nthawi mopitirira muyeso. Ingogwiritsani ntchito pamakhalidwe omwe mukufunadi kusiya.

Adziwitseni ana pasadakhale kuti mudzakhala mukugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yopuma. Mwachitsanzo, auzeni, "Nthawi ina mukamamenyera zoseweretsa, aliyense apita kanthawi kwa mphindi zitatu. Ndikukuuzani ikatha mphindi zitatu."

Sankhani malo pasadakhale. Onetsetsani kuti ndi malo osangalatsa kutali ndi TV komanso zoseweretsa. Sayenera kukhala malo amdima kapena owopsa. Ngati ana anu ali aang'ono, onetsetsani kuti mukuwawona. Malo ena omwe angagwire ntchito ndi awa:

• Mpando wapanjira
• Kona la chipinda
• Chipinda chogona
• Khola

Ana akapulupudza, achenjezeni kuti asiye. Auzeni, "Osamenya. Izi zimapweteka. Mukapanda kusiya kumenya, mudzakhala ndi nthawi yopuma."

• Ana akasiya kuchita zoipa, ayamikireni chifukwa chowongolera machitidwe awo.
• Ana akasiya kusiya kuchita zoipa, auzeni apite nthawi. Ingoyankhulani kamodzi kokha: "Kumenya kumapweteka. Muyenera kupatula nthawi."

Lankhulani momveka bwino. Musakwiye. Mukamakuwa ndi kusasamala, mumawasamalira kwambiri ana anu chifukwa cha machitidwe awo oyipa.

Ana ena atha kupita nthawi mukangowauza. Ana akapanda kupita okha, awatsogolere kapena atengereni kupita nawo kumalo kopumira. Osakalipa kapena kukwapula panjira yoti mutuluke.

Ikani mwana wanu munthawi yopumira kwa mphindi imodzi pachaka, koma osapitilira mphindi zisanu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwana wanu ali ndi zaka zitatu, nthawi yopuma ndi ya 3 minitsi.

Ana okalamba akhoza kuuzidwa kuti ali ndi nthawi yopuma mpaka atakonzeka kubwerera kuntchito zawo ndikukhala ndi moyo. Chifukwa amasankha akakhala okonzeka, amaphunzira kuwongolera machitidwe awo.

Ngati ana anu sakukhala munthawi yawo yosaonekera, agwireni modekha. Osalankhula nawo kapena kuwapereka chidwi chilichonse.

Ngati mutayika timer ndipo mwana wanu akupanga phokoso kapena kusalongosoka nthawi, khazikitsaninso nthawiyo. Ngati mwana wayamba kusokera, tengani mwanayo kumalo kuja ndikukhazikitsanso nthawi. Mwanayo ayenera kukhala chete komanso wamakhalidwe abwino mpaka nthawi yake ithe.

Nthawi ikatha, lolani ana abwerere kuzomwe amachita. Osalankhula zamakhalidwe oyipa. Pambuyo pake ana amalandira uthengawo nthawi yopuma.

Tsamba la American Academy of Family Physicians. Zomwe mungachite kuti musinthe machitidwe amwana wanu. familydoctor.org/what-you-can-do-to-change-your-childs-behavior. Idasinthidwa pa Juni 13, 2019. Idapezeka pa Julayi 23, 2019.

Tsamba la American Academy of Pediatrics. Kodi njira yabwino yophunzitsira mwana wanga ndi iti? www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/communication-discipline/Pages/Disciplining-Your-Child.aspx. Idasinthidwa Novembala 11, 2018. Idapezeka pa Julayi 23, 2019.

Carter RG, Feigelman S. Zaka zakusukulu. Mu: Kliegman RM, St. Geme JW, Blum NJ, Shah SS, Tasker RC, Wilson KM, olemba. Nelson Textbook of Pediatrics. Wolemba 21. Philadelphia, PA: Elsevier; 2020: chap 24.

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