Kulanga ana

Ana onse samachita bwino nthawi zina. Monga kholo, muyenera kusankha momwe mungayankhire. Mwana wanu amafunikira malamulo kuti amvetsetse momwe ayenera kuchitira zinthu.

Chilango chimakhudza zonse pamodzi ndi mphotho. Mukamaphunzitsa ana anu, mumakhala mukuwaphunzitsa makhalidwe abwino ndi omwe si abwino. Chilango ndikofunikira kuti:

• Tetezani ana kuvuto
• Phunzitsani kudziletsa
• Pangani maluso abwino ochezera

Kholo lirilonse liri ndi njira yawoyawo yolerera. Mutha kukhala okhwima kapena mutha kubwezeredwa ntchito. Chinsinsi chake ndi:

• Sankhani zoyembekezera zabwino
• Khalani osasinthasintha
• Khalani achikondi

MALANGIZO OTHANDIZA KULANGIZA KWAMBIRI

Yesani malangizo awa olera:

Mphotho ya machitidwe abwino. Monga momwe mungathere, yesetsani kuyang'ana pazolimbikitsa. Adziwitseni ana anu kuti mumasangalala mukamachita zomwe mukufuna. Powonetsa kuvomereza kwanu, mumalimbikitsa machitidwe abwino ndikuthandizira kudzidalira.

Lolani zotsatira zachilengedwe ziphunzitse mwana wanu. Ngakhale kuli kovuta, simuyenera nthawi zonse kupewa zinthu zoipa kuti zisachitike. Ngati mwana wanu wakhumudwa ndi choseweretsa ndipo amuphwanya, m'phunzitseni kuti alibenso choseweretsa.

Ganizirani zaka za mwana wanu mukamakhazikitsa malire kapena kuwalanga. Musayembekezere zambiri kuchokera kwa mwana wanu kuposa zomwe mwana wanu angachite. Mwachitsanzo, mwana wakhanda sangathe kuletsa chidwi chake kuti agwire zinthu. M'malo moyesa kumuuza kuti asakhudze, ikani zinthu zosalimba posazifikira. Ngati mumagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yopuma, ikani ana anu munthawi yopuma kwa mphindi imodzi pachaka chilichonse. Mwachitsanzo, ikani mwana wanu wazaka 4 munthawi yopumira mphindi 4.

Fotokozani momveka bwino. Lolani mwana wanu adziwe pasadakhale zomwe mudzakhala mukumupatsa chilango. Osazipanga motentha. Uzani mwana wanu zomwe ayenera kusintha ndi zomwe mungachite ngati sasintha.

Uzani mwana wanu zomwe mukuyembekezera kuchokera kwa iye. M'malo mongonena kuti, "Chipinda chanu nchosokonekera," muuzeni mwanayo zomwe ayenera kunyamula kapena kutsuka. Mwachitsanzo, uzani mwana wanu kuti ayikitse zoseweretsa zake ndi kuyala kama. Fotokozani chomwe chidzakhale chilango ngati sakusamalira chipinda chake.

Osakangana. Mukakhazikitsa zoyembekezera, musakokere kukangana pazabwino. Osapitiliza kudzitchinjiriza mutangonena zomwe mukufuna. Kumbutsani mwana wanu malamulo omwe mwakhazikitsa ndikusiya pamenepo.

Khalani osasinthasintha. Osasintha malamulo kapena zilango mwachisawawa. Ngati achikulire oposa mmodzi akulanga mwanayo, gwirani ntchito limodzi. Zimasokoneza mwana wanu pamene wosamalira m'modzi amavomereza machitidwe ena koma womusamalira mnzake amalanga zomwezo. Mwana wanu amatha kuphunzira kusewera wamkulu wina motsutsana ndi mnzake.

Sonyezani ulemu. Muzilemekeza mwana wanu. Mwa kulemekeza mwana wanu, mumalimbitsa chidaliro chanu. Khalani ndi zomwe mukufuna kuti mwana wanu azichita.

Tsatirani chilango chanu. Ngati mudzauza mwana wanu kuti ataya nthawi yake ya TV lero akamenya, khalani okonzeka kuzimitsa TV tsikulo.

Osapanga ziwopsezo zazikulu zakulangidwa zomwe simudzachita. Mukamuwopseza kuti mulangidwa koma osatsatira, mwana wanu amadziwa kuti simukutanthauza zomwe mumanena.

M'malo mwake, sankhani zilango zomwe mungathe komanso ofuna kuchita. Mwachitsanzo, ngati ana anu akumenya nkhondo, nenani kuti: "Nkhondo iyenera kuyimitsidwa tsopano, ngati simusiya, sitipita kumakanema." Ngati ana anu sasiya kumenya nkhondo, Osapita kukawonera makanema. Ana anu aphunzira kuti mukutanthauza zomwe mumanena.

Khalani odekha, ochezeka, ndi olimba mtima. Mwana akhoza kukwiya, kulira, kapena kukhumudwa, kapena kuyamba kupsa mtima. Khalidwe lanu likakhala lamtendere, ana anu amatengera zochita zanu. Ngati mumenya kapena kumenya, mukuwawonetsa kuti ndizovomerezeka kuthana ndi mavuto ndi nkhanza.

Fufuzani mitundu. Kodi mwana wanu amakwiya nthawi zonse ndikuchita zomwezo kapena zomwezo? Ngati mumvetsetsa zomwe zimayambitsa zomwe mwana wanu amachita, mutha kuzipewa kapena kuzipewa.

Dziwani nthawi yopepesa. Kumbukirani kuti kukhala kholo ndi ntchito yovuta. Nthawi zina mumatha kudzilamulira ndipo simungamachite bwino. Izi zikachitika, pemphani mwana wanu. Muuzeni kuti mudzayankhanso mosiyana nthawi yotsatira.

Thandizani mwana wanu kupsa mtima. Lolani ana anu kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo, koma nthawi yomweyo, athandizeni kuthana ndi mkwiyo ndi kukhumudwa popanda chiwawa kapena nkhanza. Nawa maupangiri pakuthana ndi mkwiyo:

• Mukawona mwana wanu akuyamba kugwira ntchito, musokonezeni chidwi chake ndi ntchito yatsopano.
• Ngati zododometsa sizigwira ntchito, samalani mwana wanu. Nthawi iliyonse mukakumana ndi mkwiyo, mumalipira chidwi chanu mosamala kwambiri. Kukalipira, kumulanga, kapena ngakhale kuyesa kukambirana naye kumatha kupangitsa mwana wanu kuchita zambiri.
• Ngati muli pagulu, chotsani mwanayo popanda kukambirana kapena kukangana. Yembekezani mpaka mwanayo atakhazikika musanayambe ntchito zanu.
• Ngati munthu wovutikayo akufuna kumenya, kuluma, kapena kuchita zinthu zina zoipa, MUSANYALIKIRE. Uzani mwanayo kuti khalidweli silingaloledwe. Sunthani mwanayo kwa mphindi zochepa.
• Kumbukirani, ana samatha kumvetsetsa zambiri. MUSAYESE kulingalira. Perekani chilango nthawi yomweyo. Mukadikira, mwanayo sangagwirizanitse chilango ndi khalidwelo.
• Musapereke malamulo anu panthawi yovuta. Mukalola, mwana wanu waphunzira kuti kupsa mtima kumagwira ntchito.

Zomwe muyenera kudziwa zokhudza kumenya. Akatswiri apeza kuti kumenya:

• Zitha kupangitsa ana kukhala aukali kwambiri.
• Atha kulamulidwa ndipo mwanayo akhoza kuvulala.
• Amaphunzitsa ana kuti nkwabwino kuvulaza munthu amene amamukonda.
• Amaphunzitsa ana kuopa makolo awo.
• Amaphunzitsa ana kuti asagwidwe, m'malo mophunzira machitidwe abwino.
• Mulole alimbikitse machitidwe oyipa mwa ana omwe amangochita kuti angopeza chidwi. Ngakhale chidwi chosayenera ndibwino kuposa kusasamala.

Nthawi yoti mupemphe thandizo. Ngati mwayesapo njira zambiri zakulera, koma zinthu sizikuyenda bwino ndi mwana wanu, ndibwino kuti mukambirane ndi omwe amakuthandizani pa zaumoyo wa mwana wanu.

Muyeneranso kukambirana ndi omwe amakupatsani mwana wanu mukawona kuti:

• Amalemekeza akuluakulu onse
• Amamenya nkhondo nthawi zonse
• Zikuwoneka zokhumudwa kapena zamtambo
• Zikuwoneka kuti zilibe abwenzi kapena zochitika zomwe amakonda

Kukhazikitsa malire; Kuphunzitsa ana; Chilango; Kusamalira bwino ana - kulanga

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American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry tsamba. Ndondomeko ya ndondomeko yokhudza chilango chamtundu. www.aacap.org/aacap/Policy_Statement/2012/Policy_Statement_on_Corporal_Punishment.aspx. Idasinthidwa pa Julayi 30, 2012. Idapezeka pa February 16, 2021.

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