Mafunso 5 Omwe Simuyenera Kufunsa Patsiku Loyamba

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Maso anu anakumana kudutsa chipinda, kapena, Intaneti chibwenzi mbiri basi "adadina." Kaya zinthu, inu munaona kuthekera, iye anakufunsani, ndipo tsopano ndinu okonzeka kuti agulugufe-mu-wanu-mimba tsiku loyamba.

Ndiye chimachitika ndi chiyani mukakhala nonse moyang'anizana tebulo ndipo zokambiranazo zimakhala zaumwini? Ambiri aife timadziwa kupezeka pamitu yotsutsana monga ndale ndi chipembedzo, koma bwanji ndi masewera abwino kwa anthu awiri omwe akufuna kudziwana? Ngati mukuyembekeza kuti mutembenuzire iye kuchokera tsiku loyamba kupita ku moyo wokondedwa, apa pali mafunso asanu omwe muyenera ayi funsani.

1. Kufunsa za "The Ex."

Izi nthawi zambiri zimatuluka m'nkhani akamakumbukira za tchuthi, masiku oyipa, kapena nthano zakale zaku koleji. "Yesetsani kuyang'anira momwe mungathere," atero a Hilary Rushford, woyambitsa mabulogu a dapper & the duchess. "Simukufuna kumveketsa munthu wina. Ngakhale kungoganiza za munthu womaliza yemwe munapenga naye kungakhale kupha munthu." Zomwezo zimachitika ndikufunsa tsiku lanu chifukwa chomwe chibwenzi chake chomaliza chidalephera, kapena chifukwa chomwe adakali "wosakwatiwa".

2. Malo anu kapena anga?

Chidwi ndi njira yachangu kwambiri yophera kulumikizanaku makamaka zikafika posankha moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana kwanu. Malinga ndi Coach Steph, "katswiri wachikondi" wodziwika, kukopeka ndi kugonana-ngakhale mutakhala funso-kumatha kuonedwa ngati kopanda ulemu komanso kotukwana.

"Tsiku loyamba ndi mwayi wodziwa munthu pamaso panu, ndipo munthuyo adzamva kuphwanyidwa ngati kukambirana kudya-patsogolo kuchokera mumaikonda chakudya kuti mumaikonda udindo," iye akutero. Rushford akuvomereza. "Zili chabe zopanda pake. Pokhapokha ngati cholinga chanu ndikugonana usiku womwewo, pitirizani kukopana mopepuka, ndikusunga kuchuluka kwa omwe mumagonana nawo komanso 'mudali ndi zaka zingati pamene' mumafunsa nthawi yoyenera."

3. Mumapanga ndalama zingati?

Nkhani ya ndalama imalankhula zambiri, ndipo ndiyo njira yotsimikizirika yomuwopsyeza. “Amuna samakumba mtsikana amene amakumba golide,” akutero ‘katswiri wa maubwenzi’ Lindsay Kriger, “ndipo kufunsa za chuma chake kumatanthauza zimenezo.”

"Kulankhula za momwe zinthu ziliri mdziko muno kapena chuma cha padziko lonse lapansi ndichabwino ndipo ndichanthawi yake pakadali pano. Koma kuyankhula zachuma payekha kuli malire mpaka ubale wokhazikitsidwa," atero a Carol Brody Fleet, wolemba Amasiye Amavala Zovala (New Horizon Press, 2009).

4. Kodi ukuganiza kuti ubalewu ukupita kuti?

Ngati mwangokumana ndipo mukulankhula kale zaukwati, mukuyenda mwachangu. Ngakhale mukuganiza kuti akhoza kukhala Yemwe, "mukufunikirabe karoti," atero Samantha Goldberg, katswiri wamakhalidwe. Kriger akuvomereza. "Amuna amakonda kusaka kuti usakhale nswala yakufa."

Malinga ndi David Wygant, wodziwika bwino wa zibwenzi komanso ubale wapabanja, ngati mukuganiza zokhala mosangalala nthawi zonse komanso woponda pang'ono, zisungireni nokha. "Osamufunsa kuti akufuna ana angati patsiku loyamba. Mutha kugula minivan tsopano ndikusunthira nokha kunyumba yayikulu-adzaganiza kuti mukungofuna munthu wopereka umuna," Wygant akutero .

5. Kodi icho ndi chopangira tsitsi?

Nenani za funso lodzaza. Kutanthauzira kokha kungakhale kunyoza tsiku lanu, ngakhale mutakhala kuti mukukonzekera bwino. Koma Coach Steph akuti zokambilana za maonekedwe ndizopanda malire.

"Kumuuza kuti ndi 'wokongola kwambiri' kapena kuti 'ali ndi maso aakulu' sikumangokwiyitsa, koma kumamupangitsa kukhala wosamasuka. Adzamwetulira, ndipo adzakhala waulemu, koma sadzatulukanso nanu, "akutero.

Monga momwe kuperekera ndemanga pamawonekedwe ake ndikoletsedwa, musamufunsenso kuti alankhule za zanu. "Kumufunsa kuti 'ukundipeza wokongola, wokongola, kapena wosangalatsa,' kapena chilichonse chomwe chingafuule kuti 'Ndine wosatetezeka ndipo ndikufuna kutsimikizika' chimamuwopseza mwachangu. Zachidziwikire kuti akuganiza kuti ndiwe wamkulu, adakufunsanso patsiku! " akutero katswiri wa zibwenzi komanso wolemba Marina Sbrochi.

Chidziwitso chomaliza: Siwothandizira anu.

Ngakhale ili silifunso paokha, akatswiri athu anali ndi upangiri pang'ono kupyola poyambira koyamba koyamba. Mutha kukhala omasuka naye ndikumverera kuti mutha kugawana chilichonse patsiku loyambalo, koma Rushford akulangiza, siyani katundu wanu pakhomo.

"Aliyense ali ndi zovuta, koma yesetsani kuti musatsogolere ndi vuto lotentha lomwe muli kunja kwa chipata choyambira. Kumbukirani, munthuyu sakukudziwani ndipo mukufuna kuwonetsetsa kuti mukugawana magawo ambiri abwino kwambiri a iwe kuposa mabampu omwe tonsefe tili nawo mosalephera. "

Yesetsani kuyang'ana pazabwino pamoyo wanu, osangoyang'ana zomwe zimakusowetsani mtendere - tsiku lanu lowopsa, omwe mumagwira nawo ntchito limodzi, kapena abwana anu oyipa. "Izi sizimakupangitsani kukhala osiririka kapena okakamiza," akutero Rushford. "M'malo mwake, yang'anani pazomwe zimakuwunikirani, zimakupatsani chisangalalo, komanso zimakusangalatsani." Ndipo tsiku lina, ameneyo akhoza kukhala iye.

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