Njira 5 Zokuthandiziranidi Munthu Wodandaula

Zamkati

• “Uyeneradi kudzikoka!”
• “Usakhale wopusa. Aliyense ali ndi zochita zambiri pamoyo wawo moti sangangoganizira za inu basi. ”
• “N'chifukwa chiyani umakhala ndi nkhawa?”
• 1. Gwiritsani ntchito malingaliro awo
• 2. Muziganizira kwambiri mmene akumvera
• 3. Gwiritsani ntchito njira zosokoneza
• 4. Khalani oleza mtima
• 5. Ndipo potsiriza, khalani oseketsa!

Zaka zingapo zapitazo, patatha usiku wovuta kwambiri, amayi anga adandiyang'ana ndi misozi m'maso mwawo nati, "Sindikudziwa momwe ndingakuthandizire. Ndimangolankhula zopanda pake. ”

Ndikumvetsa ululu wake. Ndikadakhala kholo komanso mwana wanga akuvutika, ndikadakhala wofunitsitsa kuthandiza.

Vuto lalikulu kwambiri lokhudza matenda amisala ndikusowa chitsogozo. Mosiyana ndi thanzi, monga cholakwika cha m'mimba kapena fupa losweka, palibe malangizo omveka bwino otsimikizira kuchira. Madokotala amangopanga malingaliro.Osati ndendende mtundu wa zomwe mukufuna kumva mukakhala osimidwa (ndikhulupirireni).

Ndipo chifukwa chake, udindo wosamalira makamaka umakhala kwa omwe mumakonda kwambiri.

Kwa zaka zambiri, ndakhala ndikukumana ndi zoopsa ndi anzanga komanso anzanga omwe amayesetsa kundithandiza koma akunena zinthu zolakwika. Panthawiyo, sindinadziwe momwe ndingawalangizire mwina. Kuda nkhawa kwamtundu wa anthu sikubwera ndi buku lowongolera!

Izi zinali zina mwa zomwe ndimakonda.

“Uyeneradi kudzikoka!”

Mnzanga wina anandiuza izi atandipeza ndikulira mchimbudzi cha ogwira ntchito pamwambo wina. Adaganiza kuti chikondi cholimba chingandithandizire kutuluka. Komabe, sizinangothandiza zokha, zidandipangitsa kumva manyazi ndikuwululidwa. Idatsimikiza kuti ndinali wosamvetseka choncho ndidafunikira kubisa matenda anga.

Tikakumana ndi nkhawa, mayankho achilengedwe ochokera kwa owonera akuwoneka kuti akumulimbikitsa munthuyo kuti akhazike mtima pansi. Chodabwitsa, izi zimangowonjezera. Wodwalayo amafunitsitsa kuti akhazikike pansi, koma amalephera.

“Usakhale wopusa. Aliyense ali ndi zochita zambiri pamoyo wawo moti sangangoganizira za inu basi. ”

Mnzanga amaganiza kuti kuwonetsa izi kuthana ndi malingaliro anga opanda pake. Zachisoni ayi. Panthawiyo, ndinali ndi nkhawa kuti aliyense m'chipindacho amandiweruza molakwika. Nkhawa za anthu ndi vuto lowononga. Chifukwa chake ngakhale pansi pamtima ndimadziwa kuti anthu samayang'ana pa ine, komabe sizimasiya malingaliro onyoza.

“N'chifukwa chiyani umakhala ndi nkhawa?”

Ili ndi limodzi mwa mafunso okwiya kwambiri, konse. Koma aliyense wapafupi ndi ine adazifunsa kamodzi pazaka zambiri. Ndikadadziwa chifukwa chake ndimada nkhawa kwambiri, ndikadapeza yankho lamagazi! Kufunsa chifukwa chake kumangowonetsa momwe ndiliri wosazindikira. Komabe, sindimawaimba mlandu. Ndi zachilengedwe kuti anthu azifunsa mafunso ndikuyesera kudziwa kuti vuto ndi chiyani. Timakonda kuthetsa zinthu.

Mnzanu akakhala ndi nkhawa, musagwiritse ntchito ndemanga ngati izi. Nazi njira zisanu zomwe mungawathandizire:

1. Gwiritsani ntchito malingaliro awo

Chofunikira kukumbukira ndikuti kuda nkhawa si vuto. Chifukwa chake, kuyankha mwanzeru sikungathandize, makamaka munthawi yamavuto. M'malo mwake, yesetsani kugwira ntchito ndi zotengeka. Landirani kuti akumva nkhawa ndipo, m'malo molunjika, khalani oleza mtima komanso okoma mtima. Akumbutseni kuti ngakhale atakhala opsinjika, kumverera kumatha.

Gwiritsani ntchito malingaliro opanda pake ndikuvomereza kuti munthuyo ali ndi nkhawa. Mwachitsanzo, yesani china chonga ichi: "Ndikutha kumvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe mumamvera choncho, koma ndikukutsimikizirani kuti ndikungokhala nkhawa yanu. Sizochitika. "

2. Muziganizira kwambiri mmene akumvera

Musafunse chifukwa chomwe munthuyo akumvera nkhawa. M'malo mwake, afunseni momwe akumvera. Alimbikitseni kuti alembe zizindikiro zawo. Mpatseni wodwalayo malo omvera popanda womudula. Ngati akulira, alireni. Idzatulutsa kukakamizika mwachangu.

3. Gwiritsani ntchito njira zosokoneza

Mwina mungaganize zokayenda, kuwerenga buku, kapena kusewera masewera. Ndikakhala ndi nkhawa yayikulu, ine ndi anzanga nthawi zambiri timasewera masewera amawu ngati I Spy kapena Alphabet Game. Izi zisokoneza ubongo wamavuto ndikuthandizira munthuyo kuti azikhazikika mwachilengedwe. Ndizosangalatsanso kwa aliyense.

4. Khalani oleza mtima

Kuleza mtima ndichabwino pokhudzana ndi nkhawa. Yesetsani kuti musakwiye kapena kumukwiyira munthuyo. Yembekezani mbali yoyipitsitsa kwambiri kuti ichitike musanachitepo kanthu kapena kuyesera kuthandiza munthuyo kulingalira zomwe zikuchitika.

5. Ndipo potsiriza, khalani oseketsa!

Kuseka kumathetsa nkhawa monga madzi amaphera moto. Anzanga ndi abwino pondipangitsa kuseka ndikakhala pamavuto. Mwachitsanzo, ndikati "Ndikumva ngati aliyense akundiyang'ana," adzayankha ndi zinthu monga, "Ndiwo. Ayenera kuganiza kuti ndiwe Madonna kapena china chake. Muyenera kuyimba, tikhoza kupeza ndalama! ”

Mfundo yofunika? Kuda nkhawa sikovuta kuthana nako, koma moleza mtima, chikondi, ndi kumvetsetsa, pali njira zambiri zothandizira.

Claire Eastham ndi wolemba mabulogu komanso mlembi wogulitsa kwambiri wa "Tonse ndife Amisala Pano." Mutha kulumikizana naye pa blog yake kapena tweet yake @ClaireyChiku.