Wopambana "Bachelor" Whitney Bischoff Ayankhula Dzira Kuzizira

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Tidali gulu labwino kwambiri Whitney kuyambira pomwepo, mwa zina chifukwa anali wokonda kwambiri ntchito yake ngati namwino wobereka (mwina ndizosowa pachilolezo chodziwika bwino posankha azimayi omwe ali ndi ntchito ngati "wokonda masewera," "wokonda galu" , "ndi" mzimu waulere. "). Iye anatenga ngakhale Wophunzira Chris Soules kupita ku chipatala komwe amagwira ntchito, Aparent IVF, patsiku lakwawo! Kuzizira kwa dzira kukuchulukirachulukira, tidacheza ndi Bischoff za lingaliro lake loyimitsa mazira ake ngati "ndondomeko ya inshuwaransi," ndikulemba Colleen Coughlin, katswiri wa embryologist komanso director of Aparent IVF, kuti adziwe zina. Werengani kuti mudziwe zomwe muyenera kudziwa poyang'anira chonde chanu kuchokera m'tsogolo Akazi a Chris Soules! (Komanso, onani zinthu zisanu ndi ziwirizi zofunika kudziwa za kuzizira kwa dzira.)

Mawonekedwe: Nchiyani chakupangitsani inu kufuna kuthandiza kupanga ana kuti azipeza ndalama?

Whitney Bischoff [WB]: Nthawi zonse ndakhala ndikudziwa kuti ndikufuna kukhala mayi. Monga namwino wobereka, ndimakhala ndi mwayi tsiku lililonse kuphatikizira maphunziro anga ngati namwino komanso chidwi changa chofuna kukhala mayi ndekha pothandiza ena kukwaniritsa malotowo. Ndinkadziwa nthawi zonse kuti ndikufuna kukhala namwino ndipo ndinafufuza zambiri pamene ndimapita kusukulu ndikuyang'ana m'madera osiyanasiyana ndipo mwamsanga ndinaphunzira kuti mbali iyi ingakhale yoyenera kwa ine. Ndimangochikonda. Zimasintha nthawi zonse; ndi gawo lamankhwala lomwe likubwera komanso likubwera.

Mawonekedwe: Mudalankhula posachedwa za momwe mazira anu adasungunuka (zaka ziwiri zapitazo) ali ndi zaka 27. Kodi malingaliro anu adatsogolera bwanji chisankho?

WB: Ndinachita izi chifukwa ndakhala ndi mwayi wogwira ntchito m'mbali zonse za kubereka, ndagwira ntchito ndi banja losabereka, koma ndakhala ndikugwira ntchito ndi zochitika zovuta kwambiri zomwe odwala amayenera kugwiritsa ntchito wopereka dzira lachitatu. Chinachake chimene ndinamva anthu ambiri akunena chinali, "Ndikulakalaka ndikadadziwa. Ndikulakalaka winawake atandiuza kuti ndili ndi mwayi woziziritsa mazira anga." Icho kwa ine chinali babu yoyatsa ikuwombera m'mutu mwanga. Ndinkafuna kukhala wokhazikika pa thanzi langa komanso kukhala ndi mphamvu pa chonde changa. Ndizothandiza kwambiri kuti ndayenda nkhaniyo komanso ngati namwino kuti nditha kuuza odwala anga kuti ndakhala mbali ina. Ndizothandiza pofotokozera ndondomekoyi, ndimatha kuyankha mafunso awo kupyolera muzochitika zanga, komanso ndikuganiza kuti ndizothandiza kumvetsetsa zomwe adakumana nazo.

Mawonekedwe: Kodi mukuganiza zotani ndi mazira anu achisanu popeza mwakumana ndi Chris ndipo mwakonzeka kuyambitsa banja limodzi?

WB: Kwa ine, inali inshuwaransi; zinali za mtendere wamumtima. Chiyembekezo ndichakuti simuyenera kuzigwiritsa ntchito (ndipo mutha kukhala ndi pakati mwachilengedwe). Koma ndi bwino kudziwa kuti alipo ngati mukufuna. Ngati sindizigwiritsa ntchito, kapena ngati wodwala sazigwiritsa ntchito, akhoza kuzipereka kuti afufuze, kuzipereka kwa banja lina, kapena kuzitaya. Ndikukonzekera kusiya zanga m'malo osungira.

Colleen Coughlin [CC]: Kukongola kokhala ndi mazira oundana ndikuti kukakamizidwa kumachoka. Ndizodabwitsa kuti okwatirana pamodzi amatha kupanga chisankho chomaliza ndikumanga mabanja awo akakonzeka, osati chifukwa biology yawaletsa. Sindikuganiza kuti phindu lalikulu lokhala ndi mazira owumitsidwa ndi la mwana woyamba. Ziwerengero zikuwonetsa kuti azimayi ambiri amakwatiwa munthawi yake kuti akhale ndi mwana woyamba ngati atasankha, koma si vuto lalikulu kwambiri. Chopinga chachikulu ndi kusabereka kwachiwiri. Kuphatikiza apo, ngati wodwala atha kukhala ndi mwana wodwala yemwe angafunike thandizo kuchokera kwa m'bale wina, mazira omwe ali ndi thanzi labwino amatha kukhala ofanana. Ndalama zokwana madola 500 (kusunga mazira) ndi inshuwalansi yomwe ili yoyenera mpaka mutadziwa zonse zomwe mungachite.

Mawonekedwe: Kodi azimayi azaka zanu amadabwitsidwa bwanji kudziwa za kuzizira kwamazira?

WB: Anzanga amandifunsa mafunso ambiri ndipo chinthu chomwe amadabwa kwambiri ndi momwe zingakhalire zosavuta. Mukamagawa magawo ake, amatha kumvetsetsa ndikuwongolera mozungulira. Ndikofunikira kuti mumve mawu zakomwe kuzizira kwamazira chifukwa kudzakhala kosintha masewera. Nthawi yabwino kuzizira mazira anu ili pakati pa zaka 25 mpaka 35. Mazira anu ndiye athanzi kwambiri komanso ocheperapo kuposa onse. Adzakhala oundana nthawi. Pa 25 kapena 27, wina angaganize kuti "sindingakwanitse" kapena "kusabereka sikudzandichitikira," koma simudziwa kuti moyo uponya chiyani. Ino ndiyo nthawi yabwino yochitira zimenezi. Ngati mukuganiza za izi, khalani okhazikika. Pitani mukalankhule ndi wina wake ndikuphunzira zomwe mungachite. Maphunziro ndi mphamvu. Amayi akamaphunzira zambiri pazomwe angasankhe, chisankho chabwino chomwe angathe kupanga.

Mawonekedwe: Kodi munayankhulapo ndi aliyense wa akazi pa Wophunzira za izi?

WB: Panali zambiri zomwe zinkachitika pawonetsero, koma panali mausiku angapo pamene tinakambirana za izo ndipo ndikuganiza kuti ndinali ndi anthu angapo m'bwato kuti aundane mazira awo!

Mawonekedwe: Kodi tsiku labwinobwino ngati namwino wobereka limawoneka bwanji kwa inu? Zili bwanji tsopano popeza muli ku LA ndi Chris Kuvina ndi Nyenyezi? Kodi izi zidzasintha mukasamukira ku Arlington?

WB: Tsiku lililonse ndi losiyana, ndipo n’zimene zimapangitsa kuti likhale losangalatsa kwambiri. Koma mukafika pa izi, tsiku limakhala ndi kuphunzitsa odwala, kuyankha mafunso awo, ndikukhala wowayimira ndi bwenzi lawo. Ndizokhudza kuwathandiza kukwaniritsa maloto awo. Ndisananyamuke kuwonetsero, ndinali kugwira ntchito ndi odwala chipani chachitatu (odwala omwe akugwiritsa ntchito dzira lopereka dzira kapena gestational surrogate) ndipo tsopano ndikugwira ntchito ndi dzira la vitrification odwala (odwala akudutsa dzira lozizira). Ndimatha kuchita izi kutali-mwachitsanzo, ndikuwonetsa momwe ndingapangire jakisoni pa Skype. Technology ndi zodabwitsa! Ndine wokonda izi ndipo sindikukonzekera kusiya ntchitoyi, ndipo sindikukonzekera kusiya Aparent IVF. Ndaphunzitsidwa ndi abwino kwambiri ndipo ndili ndi mwayi wopatsidwa mwayiwu kuti ndigwire ntchito kutali, ngakhale kuchokera ku Arlington. Padzakhala kuyenda pang'ono kubwerera ku Chicago ngati pakufunika.

CC: Zonse ndikupeza munthu woyenera, ndipo mumayang'ana chilichonse chomwe mungachite kuti musunge munthu wabwino. Sitikulola kuti Whitney achoke kwa ife zivute zitani!

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