Cassey Ho Akuwulula Kulimbana ndi Kusatsimikizika Kwa Ukwati ndi Amayi

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Cassey Ho wa Blogilates wakhala buku lotseguka ndi magulu a otsatira ake. Kaya akufotokozera zifanizo za thupi lake momveka bwino kapena akuwuza ena zakusatetezeka kwake, chidwi cha Instagram chagawana mbali zosiyanasiyana za moyo wake pazanema, ngakhale kukambirana koyamba za momwe akumvera pankhani ina yamtsogolo mwake.

Mu kanema yemwe adatumizidwa patsamba lake la Instagram Lolemba, Ho akusangalala ndi tchuthi chosangalatsa ku Bora Bora ndi mwamuna wake, Sam Livits, zaka zitatu atamanga mfundo. Pomwe pulogalamu yolotayo imawonetsa kuti awiriwo amawotcha ndi Champagne ndikudumphira m'madzi amtambo abulu, Ho amagwiritsa ntchito kanema waulendo wokondwerera ukwati ngati chifukwa choti azikhala owona mtima pankhani yofunika; m'mawu ake, akupitiliza kuwulula zokayikitsa zake zaukwati ndi umayi, komanso momwe "adachita mantha" kugawana ndi mafani ake. (Zogwirizana: Cassie Ho Amagawana Chifukwa Chomwe Ngakhale Amamverera Kuti Ndi Kulephera Nthawi Zina).

"Kusangalala kwaukwati kumayenera kukhala chiyambi cha gawo lotsatira la moyo pakati pa okwatirana. Ndipo ndiyenera kukhala woona mtima ndi inu. Ndikuchita mantha," anayamba Ho. "Pamene @samlivits ndi ine tinapita tsiku lathu loyamba ku koleji, iye anati 'Ndikanapanga bambo wabwino kwambiri.' "Zachidziwikire kuti sindinali wokonzeka kuyankhula zotere pakati pa nthawi yofufuza komanso zofufuza. Kuphatikiza apo, ndinali nditangopatsidwa 'chilolezo' chokhala pachibwenzi ndi amayi anga!"

Pomwe ubale wake ndi Livits "udakulirakulira," Ho adalemba kuti "adabweretsa lingaliro laukwati," koma "samadzimva wokonzeka" panthawiyo. Livits atafunsanso zaka zisanu ndi zinayi pambuyo pake, Ho adati, "Ngakhale ndimaganiza kuti sindinakonzekere, sizinachite kanthu chifukwa zidatsegula chikondi chatsopano muubwenzi wathu chomwe sindinamvepo kale."

Tsopano zaka zitatu muukwati wawo, Ho ananena Lolemba momwe "chimene Sam anandiuza ku koleji zaka 13 zapitazo ndi mutu womwe sungathenso kupeŵeka."

"Tsiku lililonse titakwatirana Sam amandifunsa kuti 'ndiye timakhala ndi mwana liti?' ndipo ndinganene oh zaka zingapo.' Nkhani yomweyo. Sindimadzimva wokonzeka chifukwa ntchito yanga sinali momwe ndimafunira, "adalongosola Ho. "Ndili ndi mantha kukuwuzani izi chifukwa mwina ndichimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kwambiri zomwe ndidatsegulapo. Mwina ndichimodzi mwazinthu zomwe sizikugwirizana."

Iye anapitiriza kuti: “Mosiyana ndi akazi onse amene ndinakulira nawo, kukhala ndi mwana n’chinthu chimene mwachibadwa ankangodziwa kuti akufuna. Ine? ngati pali china chocheperako 'chachikazi' chokhudza ine, koma sindingapeze chikhumbo chamkati chokhala mayi. " (Zokhudzana: 6 Amayi Amagawana Momwe Amasinthira Umayi Ndi Zolimbitsa Thupi Lawo).

Ho ananena momveka bwino kuti sadana ndi ana kapena sakufuna kukhala mayi, koma kuti akumva "kusowa kwa 'maitanidwe achilengedwe' a umayi omwe amayi ambiri akuwoneka kuti ali nawo. Wanga ali kuti?"

"N'zodabwitsa chifukwa nthawi zonse ndakhala ndikutengeka mtima," adalemba. "Ndimatsatira mtima wanga ndipo nthawi zonse zimandionetsa njira yoyenera. Koma ndi izi, mtima wanga sunalankhulebe ndipo sindikufuna kudandaula ndikumanidwa ndi moyo uno."

Poyankha kutumiza uthenga wowona mtima, Ho posachedwa adauza Maonekedwe kuti amakhulupirira kuti akazi ena angamupeze kuti ndi "wosagwirizana," koma adadabwa kwambiri.

"Moona mtima ndimaganiza kuti azimayi ena apeza kuti zomwe ndalemba sizikugwirizana, ndipo ndinali wokonzeka kubweza zomwe zandichitikira. Koma ndinadabwitsidwa ... ambiri adati akumva chimodzimodzi. Ndinadabwitsidwa kwathunthu. NDINALIBE IDEA wina Amayi adamva "kusowa chidwi" kotereku kukhala mayi! Nthawi zonse ndimaganiza kuti ndine wopusa chifukwa azimayi onse omwe ndidakulira pafupi amadziwa kuti amafuna ana kuyambira ali aang'ono. Inenso Mwina zinali zogwirizana ndi mmene ndinaleredwera,” anatero Ho.

"Kwa aliyense amene akulimbana ndi mkangano wonse wa ana - ndikukulimbikitsani kuti mulankhule ndi azimayi amitundu yonse ndikumvera zochitika zosiyanasiyana ndi zomwe amayi ndi omwe siamayi akumva. Ndikumvetsera ndipo ndikuphunzira. Ndikufuna kuti ndikwanitse kupanga chisankho ndikudzidalira ndikusankha kwanga, koma pakadali pano sindikumva ngati ndikudziwa zokwanira, "adapitiliza.

Pambuyo pake Ho adatsegulira otsatira ake zakutsitsidwa komwe adalandira munkhani zingapo za Instagram.

"Sindimadziwa kuti ndi akazi angati kunjaku omwe amamva choncho," adalemba Ho. "Ndimamva ngati pali china chake cholakwika ndi ine ... Zikomo chifukwa chomvetsetsa za mutuwu. Ndikumva kuti ndili ndekha."

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