Momwe Makonda Azikhalidwe Amakhudzira Moyo Wanu Wam'maganizo ndi Thupi

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• Matupi odziwika pazama TV amakhudza momwe mumawonera thupi lanu.
• Ngakhale ndemanga zomwe mumawona pawailesi yakanema yodziwika zitha kukukhudzani.
• Nayi chithandizo chamomwe mungagwiritsire ntchito malo ochezera aulemerero kwinaku mukudzilimbitsa.
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Ma media azachuma akhala malo owoneka bwino kwambiri m'zaka zingapo zapitazi, ndipo otchuka adakhudza kwambiri kusintha kumeneku - kwabwino kapena koipa. (Zokhudzana: Kodi Facebook, Twitter, ndi Instagram Ndi Zoipa Bwanji pa Zaumoyo Wamaganizo?)

Kumbali imodzi, anthu ambiri otchuka amaika zithunzi zawokha za Photoshopped ndi Facetuned zomwe zimasonyeza kukongola kosatheka.

Kumbali inayi, ma celebs ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito zoulutsira mawu ngati nsanja kuti agawane zolimbana zawo monga njira yolumikizirana ndi mafani awo ndikubwezeramotsutsana miyezo yosatheka imeneyi. Mlanduwu, Lady Gaga adateteza "mafuta amimba" ake pa Instagram. Chrissy Teigen adalongosola kuti sanatayike "kulemera konse kwa mwana" - ndipo mwina sangayese kutero. Demi Lovato adayitana mtolankhani ponena kuti kulemera kwake kunali chinthu chofunika kwambiri pa iye.

Kuphatikiza apo, otchuka omwe amadziwika kuti ndi osakwanitsa-kuwona mtima momwe amakwanitsira mawonekedwe awo-ahm, Kim Kardashian ndi tiyi "lamimba yopanda kanthu" - akuitanidwazina celebs chifukwa cha kupusa kwawo.The Malo AbwinoJameela Jamil wapanga cholinga chake kuyitanitsa anthu otchuka omwe amavomereza zakudya. Chifukwa ngakhale kuli kotetezeka kuganiza kuti Kim K ali ndi gulu la ophunzitsa, ophika, akatswiri azakudya, ndi maopaleshoni apulasitiki omwe amamuthandiza kuti aziwoneka momwe amachitira, zingakhale zosavuta kuiwala kuti munthu yemwe ali ndi mawonekedwe akuthupi amasilira. adapeza njira yachangu, yosavuta kuti muwonekeremonga iwo.

Ponseponse, zinthu zikuyenda bwino pamaso pa otchuka-media-media. Komabe, kuzigwiritsa ntchito kungakhudze mmene mumaonera thupi lanu, mmene mumaonera matupi a anthu ena, ndiponso zimene mumaona kuti n’zokopa kwambiri. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kusiya kutsatira anthu otchuka, koma kukhala ndi zida zodziwa momwe chikhalidwe cha anthu otchuka chimakukhudzirani, mwachidziwitso komanso mosadziwa - ndikofunikira. (Zokhudzana: Momwe Kuchitira Manyazi Munthu Wina Pomaliza Kundiphunzitsa Kuti Ndisiye Kuweruza Matupi Aakazi)

Matupi odziwika pazama TV amakhudza momwe mumawonera thupi lanu.

Kaya mukudziwa kapena ayi, mwina mukudziyerekeza ndi ma celebs omwe mumawawona pagulu. Carla Marie Manly, Ph.D., katswiri wa zamaganizo wa zachipatala yemwe amaona kuti kudzidalira ndi maonekedwe a thupi, akutero Carla Marie Manly, Ph.D.Chimwemwe Chochokera Mantha. Pamene zithunzi "zangwiro" za anthu otchuka "zangwiro" zimayikidwa pamtunda monga "zabwino", "omwe sangathe kukwaniritsa msinkhu wosatheka wa ungwiro mobisa (kapena mobisa) amadzimva manyazi komanso opanda chilema, "akufotokoza. (Zogwirizana: Chiwerengero cha ma Selfies omwe Mumatenga Chitha Kukhudza Thupi Lanu)

Zotsatira zowonera zithunzi zodziwika bwino pazithunzi za thupi, makamaka mwa akazi, zalembedwa bwino mu kafukufuku. Mu umodzi mwamaphunziro odziwika kwambiri pamutuwu, ofufuza adawonetsa ana aku sukulu zoyambira zithunzi za anthu odziwika bwino kapena mitundu. "Anyamatawa anali oseketsa kwambiri pazomwe amayenera kuchita kuti awoneke ngati zithunzizo, koma atsikanawo ananena zinthu monga 'Muyenera kusadya" kapena "Muyenera kudya kenako ndikumwaza," akufotokoza. Taryn A. Myers, Ph.D., wapampando wa dipatimenti ya zamaganizo pa yunivesite ya Virginia Wesleyan komanso wofufuza za zithunzi za thupi.

Ochita kafukufuku awonanso zomwe zimachitika mukamawoneka ngati otchuka: Kafukufuku wina adawonetsa kuti atsikana azaka zapakati pa sekondale adakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi mawonekedwe amthupi komanso momwe amadyera podzipangira ma selfies awo m'malo mongowonera zithunzithunzi zachikhalidwe. Kafukufuku wina adawonetsa kuti kutumiza ma selfies kumapangitsa azimayi kukhala ndi nkhawa nthawi yomweyo.

Wina adapeza kuti atsikana akudziyerekeza okha ndi zithunzi za otchuka pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti anali okhudzana ndi kusakhutira ndi mawonekedwe a thupi ndikuyendetsa kuchepa thupi. (Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, izi sizinali choncho kwa anyamata.) "Chifukwa chake, kuwona kapena kutumiza zithunzi zitha kutipangitsa ife kukhumudwa kwambiri ndi matupi athu, ndipo zotsatirazi zitha kukulitsidwa pazithunzi za anthu otchuka," akutero a Myers.

Ndipo ngakhale kuti aliyense atha kukhudzidwa pamlingo winawake, pali ena omwe mwina sangakhudzidwe ndi zolemba za anthu otchuka. Adrienne Ressler M.A., LMSW akutero Adrienne Ressler M.A., LMSW anati:, katswiri wazithunzi za thupi komanso wachiwiri kwa purezidenti wa chitukuko chaukadaulo ku The Renfrew Center Foundation. "Masiku ano, ndi ziwonetsero zenizeni zodziwika bwino, munthu akhoza kuganiza kuti, mwamwayi, aliyense akhoza kukhala wotchuka." (Moni, #BachelorNation.) Mwanjira ina, ngati wina angakhale wotchuka, zimamveka ngati aliyense alikuyembekezera kukhala woyenera kutchuka.

Ngakhale ndemanga zomwe mumawona pawailesi yakanema yodziwika zitha kukukhudzani.

Sizolemba za anthu otchuka okha komanso zithunzi zomwe zingakukhudzeni. Kuwona anthu otchuka akuponderezedwa kapena kuchititsidwa manyazi muma media media zitha kukupangitsani kuti muzichitira ena-kaya zingachitike IRL kapena m'mutu mwanu. (Zokhudzana: Zinthu Zazankhani Izi Zimapangitsa Kuti Zikhale Zosavuta Kuteteza Maganizo Atsankho ndikulimbikitsa Kukoma Mtima)

Izi zonse ndi chifukwa cha zomwe zimatchedwa social learning theory, akatswiri akutero. "Nthawi zambiri timayang'ana ena ndikuwona zotsatira zamakhalidwe awo tisanasankhe kuchita zomwezo," akufotokoza a Myers. "Choncho ngati tiwona ena akupanga ndemanga zoipazi popanda zotsatirapo (kapena kutamandidwa kapena 'zokonda'), ndiye kuti timatha kuchita nawo makhalidwe amenewo."

Tsopano, sizitanthauza kuti aliyense akupondapondana wina ndi mnzake chifukwa choti khalidweli lidayesedwa (ngakhaleakhoza zikutanthauza kuti kwa anthu ena). Mosakayika, anthu amayamba kupondaponda ena—ndi iwo eni—m’maganizo. Kafukufuku watsopano wochokera ku yunivesite ya McGill adapeza kuti akazi akamakumana ndi anthu otchuka amanyazitsa mafuta, amamva kuwonjezeka kwa malingaliro olakwika okhudzana ndi kulemera.

Ofufuzawa adagwiritsa ntchito deta kuchokera ku kafukufuku wapaintaneti omwe analipo kuyambira 2004 mpaka 2015, akuzindikiritsa zochitika za 20 zosiyana zonyansa zamafuta zomwe zidachitika m'ma TV-monga nthawi imeneyo Scott Disick adachita manyazi ndi thupi Kourtney Kardashian chifukwa chosabwerera kulemera kwake kwa mimba isanayambe. (Ugh.) Kenaka, iwo anayeza mlingo wa kunenepa kosadziwika bwino (kapena machitidwe a m'matumbo a anthu pa kunenepa ndi kuwonda) masabata awiri zisanachitike ndi milungu iwiri pambuyo pa zochitika zochititsa manyazi thupi. Ofufuzawo adawona kukwiya pamalingaliro azimayi odana ndi mafuta pambuyo chochitika chilichonse chochititsa manyazi, ndipo chochitikacho "chodziwikiratu", chimakwera kwambiri. Choncho, chibadwa chawo chinasinthidwa kuti chitsamira pa kunenepa. Yikes.

Ganizilani izi: Kodi munayamba mwadziuzapo kuti, “O, wow, chimenecho si chovala chogometsa” chokhudza munthu wina? Kapena "Ugh, chovala ichi chimandipangitsa ine kuwoneka wonenepa. Sindiyenera kuvala izi" zawekha? Malingaliro awa samangochokera paliponse, ndipo ngakhale mutawasunga nokha, akhoza kukhala ndi zotsatira za momwe mumachitira nokha komanso momwe mumayandirira ndi kuchitira matupi a anthu ena. "Pamene timakhala pamaso pa kusamvetsetsana komanso nkhanza, kuzolowerana kwake kumatipangitsa kuti tizolowere, mwina osapeza kuti ndizovomerezeka, koma kubwerezabwereza mobwerezabwereza sizikhala zowopsa kwa ife," akufotokoza Ressler. (Zogwirizana: 6 Njira Zomaliza Zosiya Kudandaula Zabwino)

Choncho nthawi ina mukadzayamba kuganiza maganizo amenewa, dzifunseni kuti: “Kodi ndinatenga kuti maganizo akuti kukhala ndi thupi la mtundu umenewu n’ngoipa? Kapenanso, "N'chifukwa chiyani ndikugwirizanitsa kwambiri maonekedwe a thupi?" Moyo wokonda kukongoletsa komanso chikhalidwe chakadyedwe sungaphunzire mwakamphindi, koma kufunsa momwe zinthu ziliri kungakuthandizeni kuyandikira chifanizo cha thupi ndikupewa kuchita nawo zikhalidwe zomwe zimangogwetsa anthu chifukwa chosawoneka bwino IRL yotchuka.

Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, anthu ena otchuka akutenga nthawi kuti atchule troll ndikuwonetsa momwe, ngakhale ndi otchuka, ndemanga za ena zimawakhudzirabe.

Anthu atanena kuti akuwoneka wonenepa pamwambo wopindula ndi khansa, Pink adawomba m'manja potumiza chithunzi cha pulogalamu ya Notes pa Twitter: "Ngakhale ndikuvomereza kuti chovalacho sichinajambule monga momwe chimachitira kukhitchini yanga, ndivomerezanso ndinamva kukhala wokongola. M'malo mwake, ndikumva kukongola. Chifukwa chake, anthu anga abwino komanso okhudzidwa, chonde musadandaule za ine. Sindikudandaula za ine. Ndipo inenso sindidandaula za inu. Ndili bwino, wokondwa kwambiri, ndipo thupi langa lathanzi, lodzitukumula komanso lamphamvu lopenga likukhala ndi nthawi yopumula yoyenera. Zikomo kwambiri chifukwa cha nkhawa yanu. Chikondi, keke ya cheese."

Nayi chithandizo chamomwe mungagwiritsire ntchito malo ochezera aulemerero kwinaku mukudzilimbitsa.

Pomwe otchuka pa TV akusintha, padakali ntchito yambiri yoti ichitike. Zina mwa ntchitozo zili pa inu, kuti mugwiritse ntchito anthu otchuka m'njira yomwe imakutetezani komanso mawonekedwe a thupi lanu. :

Kuwerenga ndi kuwerenga ndizofunikira. "Dziwitseni nokha za momwe zithunzizi zikugwiritsidwira ntchito ngakhale anthu otchuka atakhala ndi ophunzitsa anzawo, ojambula zodzipangira, ndi zina zambiri," akutero a Myers. "Ndipo zindikirani kuti ndi zopanda nzeru kuyesa kukwaniritsa izi monga munthu wabwinobwino."

Sungani malo ochezera a pa Intaneti pamalo ake. “Ngati pali chinachake chimene mumakonda chokhudza munthu wotchuka, zindikirani chimene chiri ndi mmene mumamvera—chimwemwe, chikhumbo, ndi zina zotero,” anatero Manly. "Zindikirani kuti simuyenera kuchitapo kanthu, kugula, kapena kuyesa kukhala" icho; mutha kungodziwa kuti mukuyamikira gawo la moyo wa munthu wina. "

Malizitsani kuzungulira kwamanyazi. "Siyani kudzitcha mayina achinyengo," akulangiza Ressler. "Dzigwireni nokha pamene mukupeza kuti ndinu ndani mwaukali kapena wotsutsa. Dzifunseni kuti, 'Si ineyo.'

Ikani dissonance yanzeru kuti igwire ntchito. Kuzindikira kusazindikira kumatanthauza kukumana ndi malingaliro kapena machitidwe omwe sagwirizana ndi zikhulupiriro zanu zabwinobwino. "Pankhaniyi, ndikungonena zinthu zomwe mumakonda zokhudza thupi lanu m'malo mwa zomwe mumadana nazo," akufotokoza a Myers. "Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti ndi yothandiza kwambiri ngati njira yothanirana ndi kusakhutitsidwa kwa thupi, ndipo buku lomwe likukulirakulira likuwonetsa kuti limathandiziranso pamasamba ochezera. Ine pandekha ndikuchita kafukufuku komwe ndimakhala ndi amayi kulemba mawu abwino okhudza matupi awo kapena china chake. kupatula mawonekedwe awo ndikuzilemba pa Instagram. Ndikupeza kuti mawu amtundu uliwonse wazidziwitso-othandiza amakhala othandiza kukulitsa kudzidalira, makamaka kudzidalira kokhudzana ndi mawonekedwe, komanso kusintha malingaliro. "

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