Ndikufuna Kugawana Zoona Zokhudza Kukhala Ndi Edzi

Zamkati

• Kumwa kuti athane ndi kugonana kwake
• Kuzindikira matenda a Edzi pomwe mumenya nkhondo
• Kulimbikitsa anthu kudziwa za HIV ndi Edzi
• Kukhala oledzera komanso akukumana ndi khansa

Ngakhale chithandizo cha HIV ndi Edzi chafika patali, a Daniel Garza amagawana zaulendo wake komanso zowona zakukhala ndi matendawa.

Thanzi ndi thanzi zimakhudza aliyense wa ife mosiyanasiyana. Iyi ndi nkhani ya munthu m'modzi.

Kuyambira pomwe Daniel Garza anali ndi zaka 5, adadziwa kuti amakopeka ndi anyamata. Koma kuchokera ku chikhalidwe cha Akatolika aku Mexico, kukumana ndi izi kunatenga zaka.

Ali ndi zaka 3, banja la Garza lidachoka ku Mexico ndikusamukira ku Dallas, Texas.

"Monga mbadwo woyamba waku America komanso mwana wamwamuna yekhayo wa banja laku Mexico, Katolika, lodziletsa, zovuta zambiri ndi ziyembekezo zomwe zimadza ndi izi," Garza akuuza Healthline.

Pamene Garza anali ndi zaka 18, adapita kukacheza ndi abale ake, omwe adakumana naye kumapeto kwa Thanksgiving kumapeto kwa 1988.

"Sanasangalale ndi momwe zonsezi zinatulukira. Zinatenga zaka zambiri zothandizira kuti athane ndi momwe amachitira. Abambo anga anali ndi malingaliro kuti chinali gawo chabe ndikuti ndi vuto lake, koma kuti nditha kusinthidwa, "akukumbukira Garza.

Amayi ake anakhumudwa kwambiri kuti Garza sanamukhulupirire mokwanira kuti amuuze.

"Amayi anga ndi ine tinkakondana kwambiri ndili mwana, ndipo amabwera kwa ine nthawi zambiri kundifunsa ngati pali zomwe zikuchitika kapena ngati pali chilichonse chomwe ndimafuna kuwauza. Nthawi zonse ndimati 'ayi.' Nditatulutsidwa, adakwiya kwambiri kuti sindinamuuze msanga, "Garza akutero.

Kumwa kuti athane ndi kugonana kwake

Asanatsegule za amuna okhaokha, Garza adayamba kulimbana ndi mowa ali ndi zaka pafupifupi 15.

“Pali phukusi lonse lomwe limabwera ndikumwa kwa ine. Zinali zovuta zongodzikakamiza kuti ndizigwirizana ndi ana ena, komanso ndikufuna kumasuka ndi kugonana kwanga, ”akutero.

Ali ndi zaka 17, adapeza malo ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe amamulola kulowa.

“Ndimatha kukhala mnyamata wogonana amuna okhaokha ndipo ndimatha kukhala mofanana. Ndinkalakalaka kwambiri kucheza ndi anyamata anzanga. Ndili mwana, sindinali pafupi ndi abambo anga ndipo amayi anga anali amayi a helikopita pang'ono. Ndikuganiza kuti amadziwa kuti ndine wosiyana ndi ena motero kuti anditeteze sanandilole kucheza kapena kuchita zambiri ndi anyamata ena, "Garza akutero. "Kupita ku malo ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndikumwa ndikomwe sindimayenera kukhala mwana wangwiro kapena m'bale wowongoka. Ndikanangopita, ndikuthawa zonsezi, osadandaula ndi chilichonse. ”

Pomwe akuti amafunafuna ubale ndi amuna, mizere nthawi zambiri imasokonekera pogonana komanso poyanjana.

Kuzindikira matenda a Edzi pomwe mumenya nkhondo

Poyang'ana m'mbuyo, Garza amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi kachilombo ka HIV kuchokera pachibwenzi ali ndi zaka zoyambirira za 20. Koma panthawiyi, samadziwa kuti akudwala. Komabe, adayamba kulimbana ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi mowa.

“Tsopano ndinali ndi zaka 24, ndipo sindimadziwa momwe ndingasamalire chibwenzi. Ndinkafuna ubale womwe amayi ndi abambo anga anali nawo komanso omwe azichemwali anga ndi amuna awo anali nawo, koma sindimadziwa momwe ndingasinthire izi mu ubale wamwamuna, "Garza akutero. "Kotero, kwa zaka pafupifupi zisanu, ndimamwa mowa ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndikupeza fuko langa la ena omwe adachita zomwezo. Ndinakwiya kwambiri. ”

Mu 1998, Garza anasamukira ku Houston kukakhala ndi makolo ake. Koma ankapitiliza kumwa komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo akugwira ntchito kulesitilanti kuti apange ndalama.

“Ndinaonda kwambiri. Sindinathe kudya, kuchita thukuta usiku, kutsegula m'mimba, ndi kusanza. Tsiku lina, mmodzi mwa alendo omwe ndinkakonda kucheza nawo anauza abwana anga kuti sindikuwoneka bwino. Bwana wanga anandiuza kuti ndipite kunyumba ndikadzisamalire, ”akutero Garza.

Pomwe Garza adadzudzula boma lake pakumwa mowa, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, komanso maphwando, akuti amadziwa kuti pansi pomwe zizindikiro zake zimakhudzana ndi Edzi. Atangobwerera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito, anakakhala m'chipatala ali ndi maselo 108 T ndipo akulemera mapaundi 108. Analandira matenda a Edzi mu September 2000 ali ndi zaka 30.

Ali m'chipatala kwa milungu itatu, analibe mwayi wogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa. Komabe, atamasulidwa, adabwerera ku Houston kukakhala yekha ndipo adayambiranso kumwa komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo.

"Ndinakumana ndi bartender ndipo zinali choncho," Garza akuti.

Mpaka 2007 pomwe Garza adalowa masiku 90 atalamulidwa ndi khothi kukonzanso. Iye wakhala ali woyera kuyambira pamenepo.

“Anandipweteketsa mtima ndikundithandiza kupanga zonse pamodzi. Ndatha zaka 10 zapitazi ndikudzazanso zidutswazo, "akutero Garza.

Kulimbikitsa anthu kudziwa za HIV ndi Edzi

Ndi chidziwitso chake chonse komanso chidziwitso, Garza amapatula nthawi yake kuthandiza ena.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti tonse tapambana zovuta pamoyo wathu, ndipo ife
onse atha kuphunzira kuchokera kwa wina ndi mnzake.

Kulimbikitsa kwake kudayamba ndikuzindikira kuti ali ndi HIV. Anayamba kudzipereka kupereka makondomu ku bungwe la Texas lomwe amadalira kuti amuthandize. Kenako, mu 2001, bungweli lidamupempha kuti akapite kukawonetsera zaumoyo ku koleji yakomweko kuti akalankhule ndi ophunzira.

“Aka kanali koyamba kuti ndidzidziwitse kuti ndili ndi kachilombo ka HIV. Ndipamene ndidayamba kudziphunzitsa ndekha komanso banja langa, komanso ena, za Edzi chifukwa timagawira timapepala tofotokoza za matendawa omwe ndimawerenga ndi kuphunzira, ”akufotokoza Garza.

Kwa zaka zambiri, wagwira ntchito m'mabungwe aku Southern Texas monga The Valley AIDS Council, Thomas Street Clinic ku Houston, Houston Ryan White Planning Council, Child Protective Services ku Houston, ndi Radiant Health Center.

Anabwereranso ku koleji kukakhala mlangizi wa mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi mowa. Ndi kazembe wofikira komanso wolankhula pagulu ku University of California, Irvine, ndi Shanti Orange County. Ngati sizinali zokwanira, ndiye wapampando wa Laguna Beach HIV Advisory Committee, bungwe lomwe limalangiza khonsolo yake yamzindawu pazokhudza njira zokhudzana ndi HIV- ndi Edzi.

Pogawana nkhani yake, Garza akuyembekeza osati kuphunzitsa achinyamata okha
zokhuza kugonana motetezeka komanso HIV ndi Edzi, komanso kuthana ndi malingaliro oti Edzi ndi
zosavuta kusamalira ndi kuchiza.

"Iwo omwe sali mbali ya kachilombo ka HIV nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti anthu omwe ali ndi kachilombo ka HIV akukhala nthawi yonseyi kotero sizingakhale zoipa kapena zikuyang'aniridwa kapena mankhwala lero akugwira ntchito," akutero Garza.

"Ndikugawana nkhani yanga, sindikuyang'ana chisoni, ndikumvetsetsa kuti HIV ndiyovuta kukhala nayo. Komanso, ndikuwonetsa kuti ngakhale ndili ndi Edzi, sindilola kuti dziko lapansi lindipitirire. Ndili ndi malo, ndipo ndikupita kusukulu kukayesa kupulumutsa ana. ”

Koma mkati mwa zokambirana zake, Garza sikuti ndi chiwonongeko chonse komanso tsoka. Amagwiritsa ntchito chisangalalo ndi nthabwala kuti alumikizane ndi omvera ake. "Kuseka kumapangitsa kuti zinthu zisamavutike kugaya," akutero Garza.

Amagwiritsanso ntchito njira yake yolimbikitsira anthu amibadwo yonse ndi makulidwe ake ndi Put It Together podcast. Pakati pa woyendetsa ndege mu 2012, Garza adakambirana zakugonana, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, komanso HIV. Kuyambira pamenepo, wakulitsa kukula kwake kuti aphatikize alendo okhala ndi zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana.

"Ndikufuna kugawana nawo nkhani za anthu omwe abwezeretsa miyoyo yawo pamodzi," akutero Garza. "Ndikukhulupirira kuti tonse tapambana zovuta pamoyo wathu, ndipo tonse titha kuphunzitsana."

Kukhala oledzera komanso akukumana ndi khansa

Pakuchepetsa, adakumana ndi chopinga china: matenda a khansa ya kumatako. Garza adapezeka ndi matendawa mu 2015 ali ndi zaka 44 ndipo adalandira chemotherapy miyezi ingapo.

Mu 2016, adayenera kukonzekera chikwama cha colostomy, chomwe adamupatsa dzina loti Tommy.

Chibwenzi chake cha zaka zingapo, Christian, anali naye pomupeza matenda a khansa, chithandizo, komanso thumba la colostomy. Anathandizanso Garza kulemba ulendo wake patsamba la makanema la YouTube lotchedwa "Thumba Lotchedwa Tommy."

Mavidiyo anga akuwonetsa moona mtima kukhala ndi zonse zomwe ndili nazo.

Garza wakhala akuchiritsidwa ndi khansa kuyambira Julayi 2017. Zizindikiro zake za Edzi zikulamulidwa ngakhale akuti zoyipa zomwe zimayambitsidwa ndi mankhwala, monga kuthamanga kwa magazi komanso cholesterol, zimasinthasintha. Amakhalanso ndi kung'ung'uza mtima, amatopa nthawi zambiri, ndipo amadwala matenda a nyamakazi.

Kukhumudwa ndi nkhawa zakhala zovuta kwa zaka zambiri, ndipo masiku ena amakhala abwino kuposa ena.

"Sindinadziwe kuti pali PTSD yokhudzana ndi thanzi. Chifukwa cha zonse zomwe thupi langa lakhala likudutsa pamoyo wanga wonse, ndimakhala tcheru nthawi zonse kuti china chake chikuchitika ndi thupi langa kapena, kumapeto kwake, nditha kukana kuti china chake chikuchitika ndi thupi langa, "Garza akutero.

… Ngakhale ndili ndi Edzi, sindilola kuti dziko lapansi lipitirire
ine.

Garza panthawi yomwe amatha kubwerera ndikumvetsetsa zonse zomwe akumva ndikuganiza.

“Ndimazindikira chifukwa chake ndimakhala wokhumudwa kapena wokwiya nthawi zina. Thupi langa, malingaliro anga ndi moyo wanga zakhala zikukumana ndi zambiri, ”akutero Garza. "Ndataya zambiri ndipo ndapindula zambiri kuti ndizitha kudziyang'ana ndekha tsopano."

Yofotokozedwa ndi Daniel Garza kwa Cathy Cassata

Cathy Cassata ndi wolemba pawokha wodziwikiratu pa nkhani zathanzi, thanzi lam'mutu, komanso machitidwe amunthu. Ali ndi luso lolemba ndi kutengeka komanso kulumikizana ndi owerenga mwanzeru komanso moyenera. Werengani zambiri za ntchito yake Pano.