Kuipa kwa Imelo ndi Mameseji mu Maubwenzi

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Kulemberana mameseji ndi kutumizirana maimelo ndikosavuta, koma kuwagwiritsa ntchito kupewa mikangano kumatha kubweretsa mavuto pamaubwenzi. Kuwombera maimelo ndikosangalatsa, kumakupatsani mwayi wopeza ntchito pamndandanda wazomwe mungachite mwachangu. Koma mochulukira, azimayi akutembenukira ku kiyibodi m'malo mopanga misonkhano. Tekinoloje imapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kubweretsa mitu yaminga ndikupewa mikangano. Ndipo m'dziko lathu lotanganidwa, mauthenga omwe adasainidwa akusintha mwachangu m'malo mwa zokambirana zomwe zimapangitsa anthu kulumikizana. Ndiye ngati aliyense akuchita izo, kodi izo ziri bwino?

Osati kwenikweni. Pali, makamaka, zovuta zingapo za imelo ndi zolemba. "Maimelo ndi zolemba zakhala malo otetezeka a akatswiri othawa," akutero Susan Newman, Ph.D., katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi wolemba zaka 13. "Mutha kunyalanyaza mauthenga, simuyenera kuyankha mafunso omwe simukuwakonda, ndipo simuyenera kuwona kuti mwakwiyitsa wina bwanji. Tikusowa maphunziro ofunikira omwe angatiphunzitse. " Pofufuza zovuta za digito za amayi atatu (tikutsimikiza kuti si okhawo omwe akulimbana ndi luso lamakono!) Newman akuwulula chifukwa chake m'nkhani zamtima, kulola zala zanu kulankhula nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa kuvulaza kuposa zabwino. Tsatirani njira zake zolephera zolumikizana bwino.

Chitsanzo # 1: Kutumizirana mameseji kumatha kusandutsa mnzanu kukhala mkwiyo.

Mnzake atasamukira ku tawuni kwawo, Erica Taylor, wazaka 25, anali kuchita zonse zomwe akanatha kuti athandize mnzake kuti akhazikike, ndikumulola kuti agwere m'nyumba yake ndikumupangitsa kuti aphunzire. Koma Erica adakhumudwa pomwe mnzakeyo adanyalanyaza matiresi omwe adamuikira, ndikupangitsa futon (kama sofa pabalaza) kukhala kama wake. Zolemba zaubwenzi za Erica (zodzaza ndi nkhope yosekerera) yopempha matiresi amtsogolo kuti abwezeretsedwe mchimake zidapangitsa kuti pakhale mauthenga angapo obwerera kumbuyo. Kupitilira mawaya, mkwiyo udakula mpaka mnzake wa Erica adalemba kuti akutuluka ndikukankhira ma internship. Awiriwo sanalankhulane kuyambira pamenepo.

Kwenikweni Erica amagwiritsa ntchito njira zachidule popempha mnzake. Chalakwika ndi chiyani polemba mameseji achidule ndikusiya mameseji amawu?

Newman anati: "Malembo omasuliridwa mwachidule amapereka maumboni ochepa pakumveka kwa uthenga kapena zomwe munthu akumva pamene akulemba," zomwe zimabweretsa chisokonezo komanso kutanthauzira molakwika. " Mawu ochepa osawerengeka molakwika angayambitse mayankho ofika pa mawondo omwe amachoka msanga. Malembo okhudzidwawo amatha kuwerengedwanso ad-infinitum, ndikuwonjezera kukhazikika kwa ma jabs opweteka.

Zomwe Muyenera Kuchita M'malo mwake:

Nthawi yoyamba yomwe mumalandira meseji yomwe imamveka ngati yopanda tanthauzo, pezani kuyankha komweko. M'malo mwake, tengani foni, ndikupatseni Newman, nkuti, "Takhala anzathu kwanthawi yayitali. Zachidziwikire kuti sitikuwonana. Tiyeni tikambirane."

Pitani patsamba lachiwiri kuti mumve zambiri momwe mungakhalire ndi ubale wabwino.

Chitsanzo #2: Kudalira mauthenga amawu kuti apereke nkhani zoipa.

Joanna Riedl, 27, adakonda mnzake wakale yemwe anali pachibwenzi naye koma sanamve zachikondi. Polephera kukumana naye ndi nkhaniyi, adathetsa chibwenzicho kudzera pamaimelo. Sizinali kuti amafuna kuchitira mnyamatayo zoyipa; Joanna ankawopa kuti akhoza kukhumudwa akamuuza pamasom'pamaso.

Atangomaliza kuyimba foni yake, mameseji ambiri adalowa m'foni yake: "Mwasiyana ndi imelo?" ndi "Kodi mungatani?" Zikuoneka kuti bwenzi lake laukadaulo lomwe limagwiritsa ntchito maimelo ndi mameseji limatumiza uthengawo kudzera pa imelo. Adatumiza uthenga wopatukana kwa abwenzi kuti awalangize. Posakhalitsa inafika pabwalo lonse la awiriwa ndikumakokera ku furiji ya wina. Joanna anamanganso ubalewo pamapeto pake. Apa, Joanna adadalira mauthenga amakalata amawu kuti apereke nkhani zoyipa. Chinalakwika ndi chiyani?

Mukamadalira ukadaulo kuti mugwire ntchito yanu yakuda, mumasiya chilichonse kuchokera kumasulira mpaka pakubweretsa uthenga wanu mwangozi. "Mutha kuganiza kuti mukuteteza munthu winayo pomulola kuti atenge nkhani zoipa payekha," akutero a Newman, "koma zomwe mukunena ndi 'Ndimangodzisamalira. Ndine wokonzeka kupitiliza'. " Sikuti mumangokhala pachiwopsezo chompweteketsa munthuyo posazindikira, njira yanu yamapepala imatha kudzichititsa manyazi. Kwa Joanna, luso lazopangapanga linasintha zomwe zikanayenera kukhala zokambirana zachinsinsi kukhala nkhani yapagulu ndipo mbiri yake idawonongeka.

Zoyenera Kuchita M'malo mwake:

Patulani maso ndi maso. Kumbukirani, mawu ochokera pansi pamtima amatha kuwoneka osalimba mu inki yakuda, koma mawu ofunda ndi kutsuka kwa mkono kumatha kuchita zodabwitsa kuti muchepetse "Ndimakukondani koma sizingathandize" kutha kwa chibwenzi.

Chitsanzo #3: Kubera maimelo kuti musunge munthu wanu.

Sikuti kungolemba maimelo ndi malembo omwe angapangitse kuti ubalewo usokonezeke: Kuwerenga mauthenga achinsinsi a munthu mukaganiza kuti mnzanu kapena wokondedwa wanu akubisa china chake ndikofanana ndi kulowerera muzolemba zomwe zatsekedwa zomwe zitha kubwezera. Mwamuna wa Kim Ellis wazaka 28 atayamba kuchita zachilendo atangobereka mwana woyamba wa banjali, adaganiza zodula akaunti yake ya imelo. Zomwe adapeza zinali zolemba zambiri zachikondi pakati pa iye ndi wogwira naye ntchito (zodzaza ndi zidziwitso za chikondi chosatha, zofotokozeranso zachakudya cha "bizinesi" ndi ndondomeko yatsatanetsatane yothawa). Kim adafuna kuti banja lithe.

Kim adayamba kubera maimelo kuti aphunzire zomwe akufuna kudziwa. Chalakwika ndi chiyani?

"Kuthana ndi manambala achinsinsi kuti muzitha kuwona mauthenga achinsinsi a mnzanu kumawonetsa zovuta zazikulu zakukhulupirirana," akutero Newman. "Ngakhale maimelo atha kutsimikizira kukayikira zakusakhulupirika, siziwulula zomwe zikuyambitsa. Mwina chibwenzicho chidatha. Mwina nkhaniyo itha kuthandizidwapo pakulangizidwa. Popanda kudziwa vuto lalikulu, palibe chiyembekezo kuthetsa. "

Zomwe Muyenera Kuchita M'malo mwake:

Kukumana ndi mnzanu za khalidwe lokayikitsa n'kovuta, akutero Newman, koma musanathyole imelo, ndi bwino kufunsa mnzanuyo maso ndi maso kuti, "Chikuchitika ndi chiyani?" Musagwere mumsampha waukadaulo. Monga tawonera m'zigawo zitatu izi, momwe malingaliro amakhudzidwira, ukadaulo siwongothetsa mwachangu ubale wanu ndi zovuta zoyankhulirana zomwe zingawonekere poyamba.

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