Nchiyani Chochita ndi Nkhani Zam'maganizo?

Zamkati

• Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa zochitika zam'maganizo ndi ubwenzi?
• Kodi mameseji amawerengera?
• Nanga bwanji malo ochezera a pa Intaneti?
• Nanga bwanji kufunafuna wokondedwa wakale?
• Kodi zochitika zam'maganizo zimatha kukhala zathupi?
• Ndingadziwe bwanji ngati mnzanga ali nawo?
• Kodi ndingatani kuti ndifotokozere nkhawa zanga?
• Kuyankhulana kosagwirizana
• Nkaambo nzi ncotweelede kulumbaizyigwa?
• Ndimuuza bwanji mnzanga?
• Kodi ndiyenera kusiya chibwenzicho?
• Kodi ndingakonze bwanji zowonongekazo?
• Kupita patsogolo
• Kodi pali njira iliyonse yothetsera chibwenzi?
• Mfundo yofunika

Mutha kuyanjana ndi chibwenzi kunja kwa chibwenzi chanu, koma palinso malo otuwa omwe atha kukhala owonongera: zochitika zam'maganizo.

Chibwenzi cham'malingaliro chimafotokozedwa ndi zinthu zobisika, kulumikizana kwam'maganizo, komanso kapangidwe kogonana komwe sikadachitidwepo.

"Ena amaganiza kuti imabweretsa phompho lozama kwambiri ikakhala yamalingaliro osati yakuthupi chabe," akutero a Joree Rose, omwe ali ndi chilolezo chokwatirana komanso othandiza mabanja.

Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa zochitika zam'maganizo ndi ubwenzi?

Koyamba, zimakhala zovuta kusiyanitsa zochitika m'maganizo ndiubwenzi wapamtima, koma pali zosiyana zazikulu.

"Ubwenzi umathandizira ndipo [umakhudza] munthu amene ungamuwone kangapo pamwezi," akutero katswiri wazamalamulo Katie Ziskind. Kukondana, mbali inayo, kumakonda kukhudza munthu amene mumamuwona pafupipafupi, nthawi zambiri moyembekezera kwakukulu.

Ganizirani za anzanu ogwira nawo ntchito, munthu amene amakhala basi basi m'mawa, kapena barista amene mumakonda (ngakhale ndizotheka kukhala ndi ubale zonse mwaanthu awa popanda kuwalingalira ngati nkhani yamalingaliro).

Malinga ndi a Rose, zonsezi zimachitika poyera. Ngati mwadala mukubisa zambiri pazakukambirana kwanu kapena momwe mumayankhulirana ndi munthuyu kuchokera kwa mnzanu, mwina sizangokhala zaubwenzi wokha.

Kodi mameseji amawerengera?

Inde, kutengera momwe zinthu ziliri.

Kulemberana mameseji kumatha kuchititsa kuti zochitika zam'maganizo zitheke, Rose akufotokoza, chifukwa zimatha kuyamba mosavuta komanso zopanda vuto. Koma zimatha kulowa pachinthu chakuya, makamaka ngati mumatumizirana mameseji ndi munthuyo tsiku lonse.

Mutha kuwona kuti kulemberana mameseji kumakupangitsani kuti muzilankhulana kwambiri ndi munthuyu kuposa mnzanu.

Ngati mukusiya wokondedwa wanu pa "werengani" koma kuyankha mwachangu kwa wina tsiku lonse, itha kukhala nthawi yoti mubwerere ndikuyang'ana chibwenzicho.

Nanga bwanji malo ochezera a pa Intaneti?

Mofanana ndi kutumizirana mameseji, malo ochezera a pa TV atha kukhala otsetsereka zikafika pokhudzana ndi kukondana.

Kulumikizana komwe kumayambira kungokhala kwa platonic kumatha kukula, makamaka popeza sikuphatikiza zosokoneza, zosokoneza, kapena zovuta zomwe chibwenzi chodzipereka chimachita, monga kulera ana, ana, ntchito, ntchito zapakhomo, ndalama, ndi apongozi.

Nanga bwanji kufunafuna wokondedwa wakale?

Kaya izi ndi mtundu wa zochitika zam'malingaliro kapena chinyengo zimadza pazomwe inu ndi mnzanu mwagwirizana. Ngati simunafike, lingalirani kujambula nthawi yokambirana za zomwe zili zabwino ndi zomwe sizili bwino ndi aliyense wa inu.

Ngati simunakhalepo ndi zokambiranazi koma mukudziwa mnzanuyo sangakonde kuti mumuyang'anire wakale, mwina mumalowa mdera losakhazikika.

Kodi zochitika zam'maganizo zimatha kukhala zathupi?

"Ndizofala kuti zinthu ziyambe mosadukiza, pomwe anthu awiri angaganize kuti akungocheza," akutero Anita A. Chlipala, wololeza wololeza komanso wothandizira mabanja omwe amachita zachinyengo.

Koma popita nthawi, zinthu zimatha kusintha ngati simukusunga malire oyenera.

Mukayamba kukulitsa chidwi chanu ndikukhala ndi chidwi chambiri chifukwa chobisika, zitha kukhala zosavuta kulowa nawo pachibwenzi.

Ndingadziwe bwanji ngati mnzanga ali nawo?

Kuyesera kuzindikira ngati mnzanu ali ndi chibwenzi kungakhale kovuta. Kwa amodzi, ngati ali kukhala nacho chimodzi, mwina sangabwere kwa inu momwe akumvera za mnzake.

Koma zizindikirozi zitha kutanthauza kuti china chake chachitika:

• Kuchuluka kwachinsinsi. Wokondedwa wanu angasinthe mwadzidzidzi makonda achitetezo a foni kapena kuyamba kutenga foni yawo akapita kubafa pomwe sanatero kale.
• Kuchoka paubwenzi. Amatha kukhala pafoni pafupipafupi kapena kutumizirana mameseji usiku kwambiri kuposa nthawi zonse. Sakuwoneka ngati akusangalala kukuwonani mukafika kunyumba, kapena kukhala ocheperako kufunsa za tsiku lanu.
• Zosintha pakugonana. Zachidziwikire, mutha kuwona kuchepa kwa moyo wanu wogonana. Koma kusintha kwadzidzidzi kwina kungakhalenso chizindikiro. Rose anati: "Njira imodzi yomwe munthu amene akuchita zibwenzi angapangire kuti alakwe ndi kuyamba kuchita zogonana kuti asamakayikire kuti chilichonse chalakwika."

Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti zonsezi zitha kuchitika pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana, ambiri alibe chochita ndi kusakhulupirika. Ngati mukumva kuti china chake chatha, kukambirana momasuka, moona mtima ndi poyambira.

Kodi ndingatani kuti ndifotokozere nkhawa zanga?

Rose amalimbikitsa kugwiritsa ntchito china chake chotchedwa njira yolumikizirana yopanda chiwawa, kapena kulumikizana mwachifundo. Ndi njira yolankhulirana yopanga zama psychologist yomwe imapewa kuimba mlandu kapena kuwukira munthu winayo.

Kuyankhulana kosagwirizana

Taonani njira zinayi zikuluzikulu za njirayi, limodzi ndi mfundo zina zomwe zingafotokozere zomwe zingabweretse mavuto:

1. Onani momwe zinthu ziliri. "Ndikuwona kuti tadulidwa, makamaka zokhudzana ndi kugonana. Ndikumva kuti foni yakhala gwero lalikulu la chidwi chanu, ndipo ndikuwonanso zosemphana ndi zina za tsiku lanu. " Tawonani momwe kulibe mlandu, akutero Rose, mawu oti "Ine" okha amachokera pamalo owonera.
2. Tchulani momwe zimakupangirani kumva. "Ndikamverera kuti ndadulidwa kapena ndikazindikira kuti pali zinazake zomwe zikuchitika ndi inu, malingaliro anga amayamba kuyandikira mdima, ndipo ndimakhala wamantha komanso wopanda chitetezo."
3. Nenani zomwe mukufunikira kuti muchepetse malingaliro pazochitikazo. "Maganizo anga akasiya kuthamanga ndipo ndikuchita mantha ndikomwe muli, ndikufuna kumvetsetsa ndikulimbikitsidwa pazomwe zikuchitika."
4. Pemphani pempho lenileni lomwe likukhudzana mwachindunji ndi vutolo. "Pakadali pano, chonde titha kukambirana moona mtima za nkhawa zanga komanso mantha anga, ndipo chonde mungachite zomwe mungathe kuti muzindilankhula mosabisa mawu, ngakhale zili zovuta?"

Nkaambo nzi ncotweelede kulumbaizyigwa?

Zochitika pamavuto ndizovuta kuzizindikira mwa mnzanu, koma zinthu zimawavuta kwambiri mukakhala kuti ndinu amene mwachita nawo.

Nazi zina mwazizindikiro zoti muziyang'ana:

• kuzembera kuti mulankhule komanso kucheza ndi munthuyu
• kuwaulula kwambiri kuposa momwe mumachitira ndi mnzanu
• kupanga mwayi wocheza nawo nthawi yayitali, kaya pa intaneti kapena pamasom'pamaso
• kufikira mnzanu pafupipafupi mmalo motembenukira kwa mnzanu

Komanso zindikirani zomwe zikubwera mthupi lanu, Rose akugogomezera. Physiology yathu nthawi zambiri imakhala gwero lothandiza kumvetsetsa zomwe tikumva.

Zinthu zikadutsa malire aubwenzi, mutha kuwona kugunda kwamtima mukakhala pafupi ndi munthu winayo, agulugufe m'mimba mwanu, kapena ngakhale kutembenuka kwakugonana kapena malingaliro olakwika.

Mfundo yofunika: Ngati simukufuna kuti mnzanu adziwe zomwe mukuchita, itha kukhala nthawi yoti mubwerere.

Ndimuuza bwanji mnzanga?

Kuuza mnzanu za momwe mumalumikizirana ndi munthu winayo kumatha kubweretsa mavuto ambiri muubwenzi wanu, a Rose akutero, makamaka ngati simukufuna kutaya chibwenzicho. Koma kukhala omasuka nawo ndiyo njira yokhayo yakutsogolo.

Mukamakambirana izi, muziika patsogolo kuwona mtima komanso kuyankha mlandu.

Khalani owona mtima pazomwe zakhala zikuchitika. Komabe, pewani kukakamiza mnzanu kapena kuwaimba mlandu chifukwa cha zomwe mumachita. Ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi machitidwe anu, ngakhale mukumva ngati adalimbikitsidwa ndi zomwe mnzanu adachita (kapena sanachite).

Ngati muli ndi nkhawa zamomwe mungayankhulire pazokambiranazo, ganizirani zakuchipatala. Atha kukuthandizani kuti mumvetse bwino za nkhaniyi ndikubwera ndi njira zabwino zokambirana.

Kodi ndiyenera kusiya chibwenzicho?

Ngati mwazindikira kuti muli pakati pa zochitika zam'maganizo, gawo lotsatira ndikuwunika momwe mukufuna kupita patsogolo. Kodi mukufuna kukhala ndi mnzanu? Kapena mukufuna kupitiliza chibwenzi?

Yambani pokhala achilungamo kwa inu nokha chifukwa chake mukuchita chibwenzi, akutero a Rose.

Dzifunseni kuti:

• "Kodi ndi zongopeka chabe zomwe zimandisangalatsa?"
• "Kodi ndikufuna china chozama chomwe sichikupezeka muubwenzi wanga wapano?"
• "Kodi pali gawo lina la ine lomwe limayembekeza kuti wokondedwa wanga apeza ndikuphwanya zinthu kuti ndisachite?"

"Popanda kudziwonetsera mozama pazomwe zili pansi pamakhalidwe, zidzakhala zovuta kuzisiya, kapena zovuta kuti musafunefune bwenzi lina mtsogolo," akuwonjezera Rose.

Ngati mukuwona ngati kusiya zinthu sizotheka, "uzani mnzanu kuti apange chisankho chodziwikiratu chokhala kapena kupita," a Chlipala akulangiza.

Kodi ndingakonze bwanji zowonongekazo?

Chibwenzi chamalingaliro sikuti chimakhala chiweruzo cha imfa chifukwa cha ubale wanu. Koma zitha kuyika malingaliro kwakanthawi.

“Ubale angathe pulumuka, ”atero a Chlipala, koma ziphatikizapo kumanganso chidaliro kudzera pakuwonekera.

Kupita patsogolo

Nazi njira zingapo zoyambirira zomwe mungachite kuti muteteze chibwenzicho:

• Yankhani mafunso a mnzanu. Izi zikutanthauza kuti kukhala omasuka ndi 100 wowonekera pazomwe zidachitika kapena zomwe sizidachitike.
• Onetsani zochita zenizeni. Kodi muchita chiyani kuti muyambitsenso chidaliro? Kodi muwonetsa bwanji kwa mnzanu kuti mukuyankha mlandu pazomwe mwachita?
• Konzani zolowa mtsogolo. Pamene inu ndi mnzanu mukuchira, khalani ndi nthawi m'masabata ndi miyezi ikubwerayi kuti muwone momwe mukumvera.

Kodi pali njira iliyonse yothetsera chibwenzi?

Palibe njira yotsimikizika yothetsera zochitika kapena kuphwanya kwina pakudalira pachibwenzi. Koma kugwira ntchito mwakhama paubwenzi kwinaku mukusungabe kukambirana momasuka za zosowa, zofuna, zikhumbo, ndi zomwe zikusowa zikuthandizani kudutsamo nkhani zambiri zomwe zimayambitsa zochitika poyambirira.

Ndikofunikanso kuwonetsetsa kuti nonse muli patsamba limodzi pazomwe zimapangitsa kubera. Kubera kwazing'ono ndichinthu chenicheni, Chlipala akutero, ndipo vuto ndiloti anzawo samagwirizana nthawi zonse pazachinyengo komanso zomwe sizili.

Kodi kukumana ndi wogwira naye ntchito wokongola nthawi yabwino ndikwabwino? Bwanji ngati mnzanu kapena mnzanu akugwirabe ntchito usiku? Kodi muyenera kuyankha, kapena ayi? Kodi chimaloledwa pati pa bachelor kapena bachelorette phwando?

Kambiranani zochitika izi ndi mnzanu kuti nonse mudziwe zomwe mukuyembekezera kuchokera kwa mnzanu.

Mfundo yofunika

Zochitika m'maganizo zitha kukhala zovuta kuzizindikira ndikuyenda. Koma kudzipereka kukambirana momasuka, moona mtima ndi wokondedwa wanu kungathandize kwambiri kuwapewa kapena kuwapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuthana ndi zomwe zachitika pambuyo pake.