Momwe Mungakhalire ndi Thanzi Labwino

Zamkati

• Zikuwoneka bwanji?
• 1. Kuzindikira kukwiya pakabuka
• 2. Kutenga ziweruzo zanu
• 3. Chidwi
• Nchifukwa chiyani kuli kofunika kwambiri?
• Kodi ndingatani kuti ndikhale ndi thanzi labwino?
• 1. Yesetsani kutsatira malamulo
• 2. Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi
• 3. Limbikitsani kulumikizana
• 4. Muzikumbukira
• 5. Muzigona mokwanira
• Mfundo yofunika

Pongoyambira, sizofanana ndi thanzi lamaganizidwe. Ngakhale kuti mawu awiriwa amagwiritsidwa ntchito mosinthana, thanzi lam'maganizo "limayang'ana kwambiri pakukhala ndi malingaliro athu, kusatetezeka, komanso kuwona mtima," akutero katswiri wazamisili Juli Fraga, PsyD.

Kukhala ndi thanzi labwino ndikofunikira kwambiri pakulimbikitsa kulimba mtima, kudzizindikira, ndikukhutira ndi zonse.

Kumbukirani kuti kukhala ndi thanzi labwino sikutanthauza kuti mumakhala osangalala nthawi zonse kapena mumakhala opanda nkhawa. Ndizokhudza kukhala ndi maluso ndi zothandizira kuthana ndi zokumana ndi zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku.

Zikuwoneka bwanji?

Nazi zina mwa zitsanzo zodziwika bwino za thanzi labwino lamaganizidwe komanso momwe zingakhudzire.

1. Kuzindikira kukwiya pakabuka

Izi zimakuthandizani kuwatchula mayina ndikuwasintha m'njira zabwino. Mwachitsanzo, mungasankhe kumumvera chisoni munthu amene wakukhumudwitsani kapena kukukwiyitsani m'malo momukwiyira. Kapena mwina mumasankha kukhazikitsa malire abwino pantchito kapena ndi okondedwa anu.

2. Kutenga ziweruzo zanu

Malinga ndi Fraga, izi zikutanthauza kusintha mawu amkati ovutawo kukhala mwayi wakudzikonda ndi chifundo.

Mwachitsanzo, mukayamba kudzilankhulira nokha zoipa, mungafunse kuti:

• "Ngati mwana wanga, mnzanga, kapena bwenzi lapamtima amalankhula nane motere, ndikadatani?"
• “Nchiyani chimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuti ndizichita momwe ndimachitira ndi ena?”

3. Chidwi

Kukhala ndi thanzi labwino kumakula mukakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa malingaliro anu, machitidwe anu, komanso momwe mumamvera komanso chifukwa chomwe zingakhalire nthawi zina, akutero Fraga.

Ndikofunika kuti muzifunsa nokha, "Chifukwa chiyani ndimachita izi?" kapena "Kodi ndichiyani chomwe chidachitika m'mbuyomu chomwe chingandipangitse kuyankha mwamphamvu ma x, y, ndi z?"

Nchifukwa chiyani kuli kofunika kwambiri?

Kugwira ntchito yamatenda athu ndikofunikira monga kusamalira thanzi lathu.

Ndipo ntchitoyi imalipira ndi:

• Kukhazikika pamavuto. ikuwonetsa kuti kupsinjika kwamaganizidwe kumakupangitsani kukhala pachiwopsezo cha matenda mwakuthupi lanu.
• Ubale wozama. Mukakhala ndi maluso owongolera momwe mukumvera, zimakhala zosavuta kuti muzilumikizana ndi ena ndikuwonetsa kumvera ena chisoni komanso chifundo. Mukuthanso kukhala ndi mikangano ndikuyankhula zakukhosi kwanu.
• Kudzidalira kwambiri. Malingaliro anu, momwe mumamvera, komanso zokumana nazo zimakhudza momwe mumadzionera. Kukhala ndi thanzi labwino kumakuthandizani kuti muwone bwino ngakhale mutakumana ndi zovuta.
• Mphamvu zambiri. Kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino kumakupangitsani kukhala olimbikitsidwa komanso kumakuthandizani kuti muziyang'ana ndi kuganiza bwino, pomwe thanzi lamavuto anu limachepetsa mphamvu zanu zamaganizidwe ndikupangitsa kuti mukhale otopa.

Kodi ndingatani kuti ndikhale ndi thanzi labwino?

Kukhala ndi thanzi labwino ndimachitidwe koposa cholinga. Ndipo mwayi mukuchita kale zinthu zina zomwe zimathandiza kulimbitsa thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe.

Pamene mukudutsa malangizowa, kumbukirani kuti thanzi lamaganizidwe sikuti limangokhala lokoma nthawi zonse. Ndizokhudza kudzikonzekeretsa kuthana ndi zabwino, zoyipa, ndi chilichonse chapakati.

1. Yesetsani kutsatira malamulo

Maganizo amatha ndipo nthawi zina amakupambanitsani, koma kuphunzira njira zothanirana nawo kungakuthandizeni kuyankha m'malo mochita ndi zokhumudwitsa, Fraga akulangiza.

Njira zothetsera mavuto zitha kukhala:

• kusinkhasinkha
• kujambula
• kumvera nyimbo
• kuyankhula ndi wothandizira

2. Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi

Ngati mwapanikizika ndi nkhawa kuntchito kapena kunyumba, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi pafupipafupi kumatha kukhala kosatheka. Koma kutenga nthawi yochita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumatha kukupatsani thanzi komanso thanzi lanu, atero Fraga.

Konzekerani kupatula mphindi 30 patsiku kuti muchite masewera olimbitsa thupi. Ngati mukusowa nthawi, pezani zidutswa za mphindi 10 kapena 15 zoti muziyenda mwachangu.

3. Limbikitsani kulumikizana

Kulumikizana kwanu ndi ena kumatha kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zamphamvu paumoyo wanu wamthupi. Kukhala wolumikizana ndi okondedwa kumatha kukupatsani chikhazikitso mukakumana ndi zovuta,

Limbikitsani kulumikizana uku pocheza ndi abwenzi apamtima komanso abale, kaya pamaso kapena pafoni.

4. Muzikumbukira

Kafukufuku wochuluka akugwirizanitsa kulingalira ndi kuchepa kwa maganizo ndi kukhutira ndi ubale.

Kulingalira kumatha kukhala kosavuta monga kuyang'ana pa chinthu chimodzi nthawi imodzi, kuyesa kusokoneza bongo, kapena kusintha ntchito zapakhomo kukhala zosokoneza. Mfundoyi ndiyofunika kuti igwirizane ndi malingaliro anu ndikupereka mphindi zochepa chabe pazomwe mumakonda.

5. Muzigona mokwanira

Kudzipereka kugona kumakupangitsani kukhala pachiwopsezo cha nkhawa komanso nkhawa.

Kafukufuku wina wa 2018 adapeza kuti kusowa tulo kumabweretsa malingaliro obwereza obwereza. Kukhala wotopa mopitirira muyeso kungakupangitseni kukhala okangalika. Kuyambiranso kwamtunduwu kumatha kusokoneza malingaliro anu, magwiridwe antchito anu, komanso ubale wanu.

Onetsetsani kuti mukusinthasintha nthawi yogona komanso nthawi yodzuka komanso kukonza malo ogona kuti mupumule mokwanira.

Mfundo yofunika

Kukhala ndi thanzi labwino ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino. Ngati mukumva kuti malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu akukuyenderani bwino, kusamalira zosowa zanu zazikulu - monga kugona ndi kulumikizana ndi okondedwa - kungathandize.

Ngati izi zikuwoneka kuti sizothandiza, lingalirani zogwira ntchito ndi wothandizira kapena katswiri wina wazamisala. Amatha kukuthandizani kuzindikira bwino lomwe zaumoyo wanu wamaganizidwe omwe mukufuna kuwongolera ndikuthandizani kupeza pulani.