Momwe Mungazindikire Zizindikiro Zoyeserera ndi Zomwe Muyenera Kuchita

Zamkati

• Zinthu zofunika kuziganizira
• Amakhalabe ndi "mwayi woweruza kunyumba"
• Amayandikira mofulumira kwambiri
• Amakulolani kuti muyambe kulankhula
• Iwo amapotoza zoona zake
• Amayamba kupezerera anzeru
• Amachita ziphuphu
• Amakupangitsani kumva chisoni polankhula zakukhosi
• Amachepetsa mavuto anu ndikusewera awo
• Amakhala ngati ofera
• Nthawi zonse amangokhala "akuseka" akamanena chinthu chamwano kapena chankhanza
• Samatenga mlandu
• Nthawi zonse amakukweza
• Nthawi zonse amakutsutsa
• Amagwiritsa ntchito kusadzidalira kwanu kukutsutsani
• Amagwiritsa ntchito malingaliro anu kutsutsana nanu
• Amagwiritsa ntchito maulendo olakwa kapena kuweruza
• Amangokhala ankhanza
• Amakulankhulani mwakachetechete
• Amanena kapena kuchita zinazake kenako nkuzikana
• Nthawi zonse amakhala "odekha," makamaka munthawi yamavuto
• Amakusiyani kuti mufunse zaumoyo wanu
• Zoyenera kuchita
• Chiwonetsero

Zinthu zofunika kuziganizira

Opusitsa anzawo nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito masewera amalingaliro kuti atenge mphamvu muubwenzi.

Cholinga chachikulu ndikugwiritsa ntchito mphamvuzi kuwongolera winayo.

Ubale wabwino umakhazikika pakukhulupirirana, kumvana, komanso kulemekezana. Izi ndizowona pamaubwenzi, komanso akatswiri.

Nthawi zina, anthu amayesetsa kugwiritsa ntchito izi zaubwenzi kuti apindule mwanjira ina.

Zizindikiro zakusokonekera kwamalingaliro zimatha kukhala zobisika. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuzizindikira, makamaka zikakuchitikirani.

Izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndi vuto lanu - palibe amene akuyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito.

Mutha kuphunzira kuzindikira kunyengerera ndikusiya. Muthanso kuphunzira kuteteza kudzidalira kwanu ndi ukhondo, nanunso.

Tiwunikanso mitundu yodziwika ya kuponderezedwa kwamalingaliro, momwe mungawadziwire, ndi zomwe mungachite kenako.

Amakhalabe ndi "mwayi woweruza kunyumba"

Kukhala panyumba panu, kaya ndi nyumba yanu yeniyeni kapena malo ogulitsira khofi omwe mumakonda, kungakupatseni mphamvu.

Ngati anthu enawo nthawi zonse amalimbikira kukumana kudera lawo, atha kukhala kuti akuyesera kupanga kusalingana kwa mphamvu.

Amati ndiwomwe ali ndi malowo, zomwe zimakusiyirani zovuta.

Mwachitsanzo:

• “Yendani kuofesi yanga pomwe mungathe. Ndatanganidwa kwambiri moti sindingafike kwa inu. ”
• “Mukudziwa komwe ndikuyenda pagalimoto. Bwera kuno usikuuno. ”

Amayandikira mofulumira kwambiri

Opusitsa mtima atha kudumpha masitepe angapo munthawi yachikhalidwe yoti akudziweni. Iwo "amagawana" zinsinsi zawo zakuda kwambiri komanso zovuta.

Zomwe akuchitadi, zikuyesa kukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu apadera kuti muwulule zinsinsi zanu. Atha kukugwilitsirani ntchito mtsogolo izi.

Mwachitsanzo:

• "Ndikumva ngati tikungolumikizana kwambiri. Sindinayambe ndachitikapo zoterezi. ”
• "Sindinakhalepo ndi wina aliyense wogawana nawo masomphenya anga ngati inu. Tidayeneradi kukhala nawo limodzi. "

Amakulolani kuti muyambe kulankhula

Imeneyi ndi njira yodziwika bwino ndi maubwenzi ena amabizinesi, koma zitha kuchitika mwaumwini, nazonso.

Munthu m'modzi akafuna kukhazikitsa ulamuliro, atha kufunsa mafunso kuti muthe kugawana nawo malingaliro ndi nkhawa zanu koyambirira.

Pokhala ndi malingaliro obisika m'malingaliro, atha kugwiritsa ntchito mayankho anu kuti asinthe zomwe mwasankha.

Mwachitsanzo:

• “Gosh, sindinamvepo zinthu zabwino zokhudza kampaniyi. Kodi munakumana ndi zotani? ”
• "Chabwino ungoyenera kundifotokozera chifukwa chomwe wakhaliranso wokwiya."

Iwo amapotoza zoona zake

Opusitsa mtima ndi akatswiri pakusintha zenizeni ndi mabodza, ma ulusi, kapena zolakwika kuti akusokonezeni.

Amatha kukokomeza zochitika kuti adzioneke ngati osatetezeka.

Amathanso kunena kuti akuchita nawo mkangano kuti mumve chisoni.

Mwachitsanzo:

• "Ndidafunsa funso lokhudza ntchitoyi ndipo adabwera kwa ine, ndikukuwuzani kuti sindinachitepo chilichonse kuti ndimuthandize, koma mukudziwa, ndimatero?"
• "Ndinalira usiku wonse ndipo sindinagone m'maso."

Amayamba kupezerera anzeru

Ngati wina akukulepheretsani ndi ziwerengero, zokambirana, kapena zowona mukafunsa funso, mwina mukukumana ndi vuto linalake.

Ena mwa akatswiri amawanyengerera kuti ndi akatswiri, ndipo amakakamiza "kudziwa" kwawo. Izi ndizofala makamaka munthawi yazachuma kapena malonda.

Mwachitsanzo:

• "Ndiwe watsopano pa izi, sindingayembekezere kuti umvetse."
• "Ndikudziwa kuti awa ndi manambala ambiri kwa inu, chifukwa chake ndiyambiranso pang'onopang'ono."

Amachita ziphuphu

Komanso, munthawi yamalonda, omwe amakupusitsani amatha kuyesa kukulemeretsani ndi zolembalemba, red tape, njira, kapena chilichonse chomwe chingakulepheretseni.

Izi ndizotheka makamaka mukafufuza kapena kufunsa mafunso omwe amakayikira zolakwa zawo kapena zofooka zawo.

Mwachitsanzo:

• “Izi zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kwa inu. Ndingoyima pano kuti mudzipulumutse. ”
• "Simukudziwa mutu womwe ukupanga wekha."

Amakupangitsani kumva chisoni polankhula zakukhosi

Mukafunsa mafunso kapena kupereka lingaliro, wopusitsa ena akhoza kuyankha mwaukali kapena kukuyesani kuti mukangane.

Njirayi imawalola kuwongolera zosankha zanu ndikukhala ndi zisankho.

Atha kugwiritsanso ntchito vutoli kukupangitsani kudzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa pofotokoza nkhawa zanu poyamba.

Mwachitsanzo:

• "Sindikumvetsa chifukwa chake simumangondikhulupirira."
• “Mukudziwa kuti ndimangokhala munthu wodandaula. Sindingachitire mwina ndikufuna kudziwa komwe muli nthawi zonse. "

Amachepetsa mavuto anu ndikusewera awo

Ngati muli ndi tsiku loyipa, wopusitsa ena atha kutenga mwayi kuti abweretse mavuto awo.

Cholinga ndikuti muchepetse zomwe mukukumana nazo kuti mukakamizike kuyang'ana pa iwo ndikugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zanu pamaganizidwe awo.

Mwachitsanzo:

• “Mukuganiza kuti ndizoyipa? Simuyenera kuchita ndi munthu yemwe amangolankhula pafoni nthawi zonse. "
• “Thokozani kuti muli ndi mchimwene wanu. Ndakhala ndikusungulumwa pamoyo wanga wonse. "

Amakhala ngati ofera

Wina yemwe amasokoneza malingaliro a anthu atha kuvomera mwachidwi kuthandiza ndi kena kake kenako nkutembenuka ndikukoka mapazi awo kapena kufunafuna njira zopewera mgwirizano wawo.

Amatha kuchita ngati zatha kukhala cholemetsa chachikulu, ndipo adzafuna kupezerera malingaliro anu kuti mutuluke.

Mwachitsanzo:

• “Ndikudziwa kuti mukusowa izi kuchokera kwa ine. Izi ndi zochuluka, ndipo ndatopa kale. "
• “Izi ndizovuta kuposa momwe zimawonekera. Sindikuganiza kuti mumadziwa izi mutandifunsa. "

Nthawi zonse amangokhala "akuseka" akamanena chinthu chamwano kapena chankhanza

Mawu otsutsa atha kubisidwa ngati nthabwala kapena kunyoza. Amatha kunamizira kuti akunena china mwa nthabwala, pomwe zomwe akuyesadi kuchita ndikubzala mbewu zokayikira.

Mwachitsanzo:

• “Geez, ukuoneka ngati watopa!”
• "Chabwino ngati mungadzuke pa desiki yanu ena ndikuyenda mozungulira, simukanatha kupuma mosavuta."

Samatenga mlandu

Opusitsa mtima sadzavomereza konse zolakwa zawo.

Adzayesabe kupeza njira yodzipangira kuti muzimva kuti ndinu olakwa pazonse. kuchokera pankhondo kupita ku projekiti yolephera.

Mutha kumaliza kupepesa, ngakhale atakhala kuti ndi omwe ali ndi vuto.

Mwachitsanzo:

• "Ndidangochita chifukwa ndimakukondani kwambiri."
• "Mukadapanda kupita kukalandira mphotho ya mwana wanu, mukadamaliza ntchitoyi moyenera."

Nthawi zonse amakukweza

Mukakondwera, amapeza chifukwa chakuchotserani kuwunika. Izi zitha kuchitika munthawi yoyipa.

Mukakumana ndi tsoka kapena kubwerera m'mbuyo, wopusitsa ena angayese kupangitsa mavuto awo kuwoneka oipitsitsa kapena opanikiza.

Mwachitsanzo:

• "Kuchuluka kwa malipiro anu ndikwabwino, koma mwawona wina akukwezedwa kwathunthu?"
• “Pepani agogo anu apita. Ndataya agogo anga onse m'masabata awiri, ndiye sizoyipa kwenikweni. "

Nthawi zonse amakutsutsa

Omwe amakupusitsani amatha kukutulutsani kapena kukuchititsani manyazi popanda kunamizira kunyoza kapena kunyoza. Ndemanga zawo zimapangidwa kuti zithetse kudzidalira kwanu.

Amapangidwira kukusekani ndi kukuperekani. Nthawi zambiri, owongolera amakhala akudziwuza za chitetezo chawo.

Mwachitsanzo:

• “Kodi simukuganiza kuti kavalidweko kamaulula pang’ono pamsonkhano wa makasitomala? Ndikuganiza kuti ndi njira imodzi yopezera akauntiyi. ”
• "Chomwe mungachite ndi kudya."

Amagwiritsa ntchito kusadzidalira kwanu kukutsutsani

Akadziwa malo anu ofooka, amatha kuwagwiritsa ntchito kuti akupwetekeni. Amatha kuyankha ndikuchitapo kanthu zomwe zingakupangitseni kuti mukhale osatetezeka komanso okhumudwa.

Mwachitsanzo:

• “Munati simudzafuna kuti ana anu akule m’banja losweka. Onani zomwe mukuwachita tsopano. "
• “Ndi omvera ovuta. Ndikanakhala wamantha ndikadakhala iwe. ”

Amagwiritsa ntchito malingaliro anu kutsutsana nanu

Ngati mwakhumudwa, wina amene akukuyesetsani angayese kukupangitsani kudzimva olakwa pamalingaliro anu.

Angakutsutseni kuti ndinu osalingalira kapena mulibe ndalama zokwanira.

Mwachitsanzo:

• "Mukanandikondadi simukadandifunsa."
• “Sindingathe kugwira ntchitoyi. Sindingafune kukhala kutali ndi ana anga. "

Amagwiritsa ntchito maulendo olakwa kapena kuweruza

Mukamakangana kapena kumenyana, munthu wopusitsika anganene mawu osonyeza kuti akufuna kukuikani pamalo ovuta.

Akulimbana ndi zofooka zam'mutu ndi mawu otupa kuti apepese.

Mwachitsanzo:

• "Mukandisiya, sindiyenera kukhala ndi moyo."
• "Ngati simungakhale pano sabata ino, ndikuganiza zikuwonetsa kudzipereka kwanu kuofesi iyi."

Amangokhala ankhanza

Munthu wamakani amangopeka atasemphana maganizo. Amagwiritsa ntchito anthu okuzungulirani, monga abwenzi, kuti azilumikizana nanu m'malo mwake.

Amatha kuyankhulanso kumbuyo kwa anzanu ogwira nawo ntchito.

Mwachitsanzo:

• "Ndingakambirane za izi, koma ndikudziwa kuti ndinu otanganidwa kwambiri."
• "Ndinaganiza kuti zinali bwino ngati mungamve kuchokera kwa munthu wina, osati ine popeza timakondana kwambiri."

Amakulankhulani mwakachetechete

Samayankha mafoni anu, maimelo, mauthenga achindunji, kapena njira ina iliyonse yolumikizirana.

Amagwiritsa ntchito chete kuti azitha kuwongolera ndikupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu oyenera pamakhalidwe awo.

Amanena kapena kuchita zinazake kenako nkuzikana

Njira imeneyi imapangidwira kukupangitsani kuti musakayikire zochitika zanu.

Mukasowa chitsimikizo pazomwe zidachitika, atha kukuwuzani vutolo, ndikupangitsani kuti muzimva kuti ndinu omwe amachititsa kusamvana.

Mwachitsanzo:

• “Sindinanenepo zimenezo. Mukuganiziranso zinthu. ”
• "Sindingadzipereke kutero. Mukudziwa kuti ndimatanganidwa kwambiri. "

Nthawi zonse amakhala "odekha," makamaka munthawi yamavuto

Omwe amayendetsa zinthu nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mayankho osiyana ndi omwe amamuwongolera.

Izi ndizowona makamaka m'malo okhumudwa. Izi ndichifukwa choti amatha kugwiritsa ntchito zomwe mumachita ngati njira yoti mumveke kwambiri.

Mukudziwa momwe mungachitire malinga ndi zomwe akuchita, ndikusankha kuti mwatuluka.

Mwachitsanzo:

• Unkaona kuti aliyense anali wodekha. Wakwiya kwambiri. ”
• "Sindinkafuna kunena chilichonse, koma mumawoneka kuti simukulamulira."

Amakusiyani kuti mufunse zaumoyo wanu

Kuwunikira gasi ndi njira yonyengerera yomwe anthu amayesa kukupangitsani kukhulupirira kuti simungakhulupirire zomwe mumachita kapena zomwe mumakumana nazo.

Amakupangitsani kuti mukhulupirire zomwe zidachitikazo ndi lingaliro lanu. Mumasiya kuzindikira zenizeni.

Mwachitsanzo:

• "Aliyense amadziwa kuti sizomwe zimagwirira ntchito."
• “Sindinachedwe. Mwayiwala nthawi yomwe ndanena kuti ndidzakhala komweko. "

Zoyenera kuchita

Zingatenge nthawi kuti muzindikire kuti wina akukuvutitsani. Zizindikirozi ndizobisika, ndipo nthawi zambiri zimasintha pakapita nthawi.

Koma ngati mukuganiza kuti mukuchitiridwa motere, khulupirirani chibadwa chanu.

Pepani chifukwa cha gawo lanu, kenako pitirizani. Mosakayikira simudzapepesa, koma simuyenera kungopanganso. Zolingana ndi zomwe mukudziwa kuti mwachita, osangonena chilichonse ch zoneneza zina.

Osayesa kuwamenya. Anthu awiri sayenera kusewera masewerawa. M'malo mwake, phunzirani kuzindikira njira zake kuti mukonzekere bwino mayankho anu.

Khazikitsani malire. Munthu wonyenga akazindikira kuti akulephera kuwongolera, machenjerero awo amatha kukula kwambiri. Ino ndi nthawi yoti mupange zisankho zovuta.

Ngati simukuyenera kukhala pafupi ndi munthu ameneyo, lingalirani kuwachotsa m'moyo wanu kwathunthu.

Ngati mumakhala nawo kapena mumagwirira ntchito limodzi, muyenera kuphunzira njira zowayang'anira.

Mungapeze chothandiza kulankhula ndi wothandizira kapena mlangizi za momwe angathetsere vutolo.

Muthanso kufunsira mnzanu wodalirika kapena wachibale kuti akuthandizeni kuzindikira zomwe zikuchitika ndikukhazikitsa malire.

Chiwonetsero

Palibe amene akuyenera kuti wina awachitire motere.

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