Zomwe Zimatanthauzadi Kukhala Opanda Maganizo

Zamkati

• Nchiyani chimapangitsa wokondedwa wanu kupezeka m'maganizo?
• Sakonda kupanga mapulani
• Amayimba kuwombera
• Mumagwira ntchito zonse zaubwenzi
• Amapewa mawu oti 'ubale'
• Mukuwoneka kuti simukuyandikira
• Amawonetsa malingaliro anu m'malo mongodzipereka okha
• Amawonekera mochedwa kapena amawononga mapulani
• Kodi ndingakhale amene sindinapezeke mwamalingaliro?
• Pamene malonjezo ayandikira, mukufuna kusiya
• Mumagwira ntchito mwa kusunga zosankha zanu zili zotseguka
• Mumadandaula kuti mudzatayika nokha mu chibwenzi
• Kudalira sikubwera mosavuta kwa inu
• Mumangokhalira kumapeto ndi anthu omwe simukupezeka
• Zimachokera kuti?
• Nkhani zophatikizira
• Zochitika kwakanthawi
• Kutha kwachisoni
• Masitepe otsatira
• Dziwani chifukwa chake
• Yesezani kutsegulira
• Tengani pang'onopang'ono
• Phatikizani mnzanu
• Muzicheza ndi anthu ogwirizana
• Lankhulani ndi wothandizira
• Mfundo yofunika

Nenani kuti mwakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu kwa miyezi pafupifupi 6. Mumakhala ndi zofanana zambiri, osatchulapo zachiwerewere, koma zina zimawoneka ngati zochepa.

Mwina amanyalanyaza zokambirana zazomwe zidachitika mumtima mwanu, kapena amalankhula zambiri za moyo wawo ndi zokonda zawo koma osafunsa za zomwe mumakonda.

Izi zikuwoneka kuti zikusoweka ndalama zingakupangitseni kudzifunsa ngati amakukondani.

Koma kutengapo gawo kwanu (kaya ndi chibwenzi kapena china chake chopitilira muyeso) kukupitilira, chifukwa chake amaganiza choncho ayenera ndimakukondani.

Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti mwina amachita. Nkhani zoyipa ndikuti mwina sangakhale okhudzidwa m'maganizo.

Kupezeka kwamaganizidwe kumafotokoza kuthekera kolimbitsa mgwirizano muubwenzi. Popeza ndizosatheka kukhala ndiubwenzi wathanzi popanda kulumikizana, anthu omwe sapezeka pamalingaliro amalimbana ndi maubwenzi, nthawi zambiri amakonda kukhala pachibwenzi mosasamala komanso amakhala patali.

Nchiyani chimapangitsa wokondedwa wanu kupezeka m'maganizo?

Kuzindikira kupezeka kwa malingaliro kungakhale kovuta. Anthu ambiri omwe sakupezeka m'maganizo ali ndi luso lodzipangitsa kudzisangalatsa komanso kukhala ndi chiyembekezo chamtsogolo cha chibwenzi chanu.

Koma ngati, mutayamba kolimbikitsa, simumalumikizana bwino kwambiri, sangakwanitse kusunga china chilichonse pakadali pano.

Zizindikiro pansipa zitha kukuthandizani kuzindikira kusapezeka kwa mnzanu.

Sakonda kupanga mapulani

Anthu omwe sapezeka pamtima nthawi zambiri sawonetsa chidwi chodzipereka, kaya malonjezowa ndi ochepa kapena ofunika kwambiri.

Mwina mukuganiza kuti tisonkhane sabata yamawa. Amavomereza mwachidwi, chifukwa chake mumafunsa tsiku lomwe lidzagwire ntchito kwa iwo.

"Ndiloleni ndibwerere kwa inu," akutero, koma simumva chilichonse.

Kapenanso amati, "Ndilemba pensulo." Koma nthawi ikafika, amakhala ndi chifukwa chomveka chodzikhululukira chifukwa chomwe sangakwaniritsire.

Amayimba kuwombera

Mukawonana, amakonda kusankha zomwe mumachita - nthawi zambiri zomwe zimagwirizana ndi zomwe amachita.

Amatha kuyika gawo laposachedwa pa chiwonetsero chawo cha Netflix, ngakhale simunawonepo. Kapenanso amakupemphani kuti muwathandize pakhomo.

Izi sizikutanthauza kuti pali vuto, makamaka ngati akuwoneka kuti akumvera malingaliro anu.

Koma ngati sakufunsani zomwe mukufuna kuchita, kapena akuwoneka okwiya pomwe simukufuna kutsatira dongosolo lawo, itha kukhala nthawi yoti muyang'ane bwino ubalewo.

Mumagwira ntchito zonse zaubwenzi

Kodi simukumbukira nthawi yomaliza yomwe adatumiza mawu omwe sanali yankho lachindunji? Mukumva kukhumudwa pang'ono sanakhazikitse tsiku kapena kuyambitsa mapulani?

Ngati mumayimba foni, kutumizirana mameseji, ndikukonzekera, pali mwayi woti sangapezeke pamaganizidwe. Amasangalala kucheza nanu, zowonadi, zikawathandiza. Koma samafuna kuigwira, chifukwa chake ngati simupangitsa kuti zinthu zichitike, mwina sangatero.

Mukakhala kuti simumakhala limodzi, mumangomva kuchokera kawirikawiri. Mwina amatenga masiku kuti ayankhe mauthenga kapena kunyalanyaza mauthenga ena, makamaka ofunika.

Amatha kunena kuti, "Ndikadakonda kukambirana nawo pazinthu zofunika." Zomwe zimamveka bwino, inde - mpaka osatsata.

Amapewa mawu oti 'ubale'

Kupezeka kwamaganizidwe kungaphatikizepo kudzipereka komanso mantha.Mutha kutenga nawo mbali pazikhalidwe zaubwenzi ndi winawake - kupita masiku, kugona usiku limodzi, kukumana ndi abwenzi wina ndi mnzake - koma samafuna kukambirana zokhala pachibwenzi.

Malingana ngati mupitiliza kukhala pachibwenzi, zinthu zimayenda bwino kwambiri. Koma mukamayesa kupanga kudzipereka kwakukulu, amabwerera m'mbuyo.

Samalani ngati wina mukumuwona:

• akuti akufuna kuti zinthu zizikhala zosavuta
• amalankhula zambiri za wakale wakale
• amalankhula zakusavomerezeka kwa mnzake
• akuti ali ndi mantha odzipereka

Nthawi zonse zimakhala zotheka kuti munawagwira panthawi yomwe amamva kuti ali okonzeka kusintha. Nthawi zambiri, komabe, munthu amene akunena izi amatanthauza.

Mukuwoneka kuti simukuyandikira

Kumayambiriro kwaubwenzi, amagawana poyera zofooka zawo kapena kunena momwe amasangalalira kucheza limodzi. Koma zinthu sizikhala zazikulu.

Zimasangalatsa kuyesa kuti zinthu zizigwira ntchito ndi munthu yemwe akuwoneka kuti ali kutali. Mutha kukhulupirira kuti amangofunika kupeza munthu woyenera. Ngati mungathe kuwafikira popanda wina aliyense, ubale wanu ukhoza kukhala, sichoncho? Muyenera kuyeserera pang'ono.

Umu ndi momwe kusowa kwamaganizidwe kungakutcherereni.

Pokhapokha atadzipangira okha ntchito, mupitiliza kuwononga mphamvu muubwenzi ndi cholinga chakuti tsiku lina mudzayandikire. Pakadali pano, apitiliza kupewa kubwezerana, chifukwa chake mudzitha mpaka mutatopa kwambiri kuti mupitilize.

Amawonetsa malingaliro anu m'malo mongodzipereka okha

Samalani momwe wina amayankhira mukamagawana nawo malingaliro.

Kodi amafotokoza zakukhosi kwawo mwapadera? Kapena amakumbukira zomwe munena kuti, "Ndikumva chimodzimodzi"?

Sikuti aliyense amakonda kulankhula zakukhosi nthawi zonse, koma muubwenzi, ndikofunikira kulumikizana pamalingaliro.

Ngati mnzanuyo sangathe kutsegula, ngakhale mutayambitsa zokambirana ndikufunsa mafunso achindunji, mwina sangapezeke mwamalingaliro.

Amawonekera mochedwa kapena amawononga mapulani

Kusasunga malonjezo kapena kuwonetsa mochedwa ndi njira yochenjera yosungira wina patali.

Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kusamalirabe ndikupepesa moona mtima.

Koma atha kusamalira kwambiri zomwe akufuna ndikukhala ndi vuto lokonzanso moyo wawo kuti ugwirizane nanu. Mwanjira ina, sali okonzeka kuika patsogolo zosowa zaubwenzi kuposa zosowa zawo.

Kodi ndingakhale amene sindinapezeke mwamalingaliro?

Mwinanso zina mwazizindikiro zakumwambazi zidakukhudzani monga zikhalidwe zomwe mwawona mwa inu, kapena zomwe anzanu apakale adakuwonetsani.

Kusapezeka kwamaganizidwe sikukutanthauza kuti mwachita cholakwika. Simungadziwe bwino momwe zimawonekera muubwenzi wanu.

Nazi zina zofunika kukumbukira.

Pamene malonjezo ayandikira, mukufuna kusiya

Sabata yatha, mudakonzekera tsiku lotsatira mawa. Munamva chisangalalo panthawiyo, koma tsopano kusiya nthawi yanu yopuma ndiye chinthu chomaliza chomwe mukufuna kuchita.

Ndikofunika kuti mutenge nthawi yokwanira. Ngati mumathera nthawi yochuluka ndi wokondedwa wanu nthawi zambiri, dzifunseni chifukwa chake mukuwona kufunika kopewera nthawi yochuluka limodzi.

Mumagwira ntchito mwa kusunga zosankha zanu zili zotseguka

Ngati mukufuna chibwenzi chodzipereka, nthawi ina muyenera kuyang'ana pa bwenzi limodzi (kapena, muubwenzi wosakwatirana, mnzanu woyamba).

Koma mmalo mokambirana ndi mnzanu wapano pazolinga zaubwenzi monga kudzipereka kwanthawi yayitali kapena kupatula, mumapitilizabe kusambira, kupita masiku, ndikukhala otseguka kuti mupeze msipu wobiriwira.

Simungafune kukhazikika munthu wina yemwe sali wolondola kwenikweni. Koma malingaliro awa amatha kuchepetsa kuthekera kwanu kupatula nthawi ndi mphamvu kwa munthu amene mumamusamalira kale. Sikuti nthawi zonse zimakhala zotheka kupeza machesi "abwino", koma mutha kukhalabe ndi ubale wabwino ndi munthu amene sagwirizana kwenikweni.

Mumadandaula kuti mudzatayika nokha mu chibwenzi

Ngati mumadziyimira pawokha, mutha kuda nkhawa kuti kuyandikira mnzanu wapamtima kudzatengera kutaya ufulu wanu. Mwinamwake mumakonda kuchita zinthu momwe mumafunira, panthawi yanu, ndipo simukufuna kusintha moyo wanu kuti ugwirizane ndi wina.

Palibe cholakwika ndi izi, koma zingakupangitseni kuti musapezeke. Muubwenzi wathanzi, othandizana nawo amayang'anira zosowa zawo ndi kudzipereka kwawo kokondana. Zingatenge nthawi ndi kufufuza kuti mudziwe momwe mungachitire izi m'njira yomwe ikukuyenderani bwino.

Kudalira sikubwera mosavuta kwa inu

Ngati winawake adachita zachinyengo m'mbuyomu, mutha kupewa kupewa kuwulula za wina aliyense. Mutha kusankha kusunga malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu kuti pasakhale wina amene angawagwiritse ntchito kukutsutsani.

Wokondedwa wanu akakulimbikitsani kuti muyambe kulankhula za momwe mukumvera, mumayankha mwa kutseka kapena kusintha nkhaniyo.

Mumangokhalira kumapeto ndi anthu omwe simukupezeka

Ngati muli ndi njira yolumikizirana ndi anzanu akutali, ganizirani ngati mukubweza zomwe mukuyikapo.

Poyamba, zingawoneke ngati zosavuta komanso zosangalatsa kucheza ndi anthu omwe samakufunsani zambiri mwamalingaliro. Koma ngati, pansi pamtima, mukufunadi zambiri kuchokera pachibwenzi, izi sizikukwaniritsani kwanthawi yayitali.

Zimachokera kuti?

Zinthu zingapo zimathandizira kusowa kwamalingaliro. Si zachilendo kupeza zifukwa zoposa chimodzi pamtima pa nkhaniyi.

Nkhani zophatikizira

Kuphatikizidwa kwaubwana ndi omwe akuwasamalira koyambirira kumatha kupezeka m'malingaliro.

Ngati omwe amakusamalirani sanawonetse chidwi chanu kapena samakukondani kwambiri ndikuthandizani, mwina mwatengera izi ngati chitsanzo cha ubale.

Monga wamkulu, kukonda kwanu okondedwa omwe mukukondana nawo kumatha kutsatira izi ndikupewera kupewa.

Zochitika kwakanthawi

Kupezeka kwamaganizidwe kumatha kuchitika kwakanthawi. Anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi thanzi lam'mutu, monga kukhumudwa, atha kukhala ndi nthawi yovuta yolumikizana ndi okondedwa awo panthawi yamoto.

Ena angafune kuyang'ana kwambiri ntchito yawo, mnzawo yemwe ali ndi zovuta, kapena zina zosayembekezereka.

Kutha kwachisoni

Kukumana ndi zowawa zaubwenzi kumatha kukhala kovuta kukhala pachiwopsezo ndi bwenzi latsopano.

Izi ndizowona makamaka ngati mukuchira kuchokera:

• kutha kosasangalatsa
• kusakhulupirika
• malingaliro osafunsidwa
• kawopsedwe wa chiyanjano kapena nkhanza

Zonsezi zitha kuchititsa kuti munthu asamadziderere, zomwe zingapangitse kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri kukhala ndiubwenzi wapamtima.

Masitepe otsatira

Kupezeka kwamaganizidwe sikuyenera kukhala kwamuyaya. Ndi nkhani yovuta, komabe, ndipo zifukwa zina zoyambitsa zingakhale zovuta kuthana nazo kuposa zina.

Kusintha kumachitika kokha ngati wina ali wofunitsitsa kuti apange kulenga, kotero kuti simungapangitse mnzanu yemwe sakupezeka kuti azipezeka.

Zomwe inu angathe kuchita ndikubweretsa zokhudzana ndi machitidwe ndikuwonetsa, mwachifundo, momwe zimakhudzira ubale wanu.

Alimbikitseni kuti alankhule ndi othandizira, kapena apatseni mwayi wopita kukalangizidwa limodzi. Pakadali pano, alimbikitseni ndi kuwalimbikitsa akamasuka.

Ngati mukuyesera kuti muzikhala okhudzidwa kwambiri nokha, malangizo otsatirawa angathandize.

Dziwani chifukwa chake

Kufufuza pazomwe zimayambira kumatha kukupatsani chidziwitso cha momwe mungathanirane ndi kusowa kwa malingaliro.

Ngati mwadukapo moipa, mwachitsanzo, mungafunike nthawi yambiri musanayese kuyandikira wina.

Koma ngati china chachikulu kwambiri, monga kunyalanyaza ubwana, chimakhudza kuthekera kwanu kuyandikira ena, ndibwino kukambirana ndi wothandizira. Kulimbana ndi zovuta zakuvutitsidwa kapena kuzunzidwa kumafunikira chithandizo cha akatswiri.

Yesezani kutsegulira

Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zothandiza kuti mukhale omasuka kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu musanayese kugawana ndi wokondedwa wanu.

Kuti muchite izi, ganizirani malingaliro awa:

• Lembani zakukhosi kwanu.
• Gwiritsani ntchito zaluso kapena nyimbo kuti muziyeseza kutulutsa mawu.
• Lankhulani ndi anthu odalirika, monga abwenzi apamtima kapena abale anu, zamalingaliro.
• Gawani zovuta zam'maganizo kapena zofooka kudzera pamalemba poyamba.

Tengani pang'onopang'ono

Mukazindikira kuti mudali kutali ndimaganizo, mungafune kuyamba kusintha nthawi yomweyo.

Kukonzekera kwausiku sikuli kwenikweni, komabe. Zowopsa zenizeni zimatenga nthawi. Kudzikakamiza kuti mutsegule musanakonzekere nthawi zina kumatha kubweretsa mavuto kapena kusapeza bwino.

Yesetsani kusintha pang'ono m'malo mwake. Ndibwino kuti mudzikakamize kuti mutuluke m'malo anu abwino, koma simukuyenera kuzisiya kwathunthu m'fumbi.

Phatikizani mnzanu

Mukamayang'ana zinthu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti musakhale ndi nkhawa ndikulimbikira kuti mukhale ochezeka, lankhulani ndi mnzanu zomwe mukuphunzira.

Ngati amvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe mumachoka, mungakhale ndi nthawi yosavuta yoti muwapatse thandizo.

Fufuzani njira zothandiza limodzi, monga:

• kugawana malingaliro posiyirana zolemba wina ndi mnzake
• kukhala wolumikizidwa kudzera pamalemba mukamafuna danga lenileni

Muzicheza ndi anthu ogwirizana

Ngati kusowa kwamaganizidwe kumachokera kuzinthu zophatikirana kapena maubwenzi oyipa, zitha kuthandiza kuphunzira zambiri za momwe maubwenzi abwino amawonekera.

Njira imodzi yophunzirira maubale athanzi imakhudza nthawi yakumunda. Ganizirani za abwenzi kapena abale anu muubwenzi wolimba, wokhalitsa, makamaka anthu omwe mumakhala nawo nthawi yayitali. Samalani momwe amalumikizirana ndi anzawo.

Izi sizingakupatseni chithunzi chonse, koma zitha kukupatsani chidziwitso.

Lankhulani ndi wothandizira

Kupezeka kwamaganizidwe sizinthu zomwe nthawi zonse mumatha kugwirira ntchito nokha, ndipo zili bwino.

Ngati mupitilizabe kukhala ndi vuto lamavuto akumverera ndikumva kukhala ndi nkhawa pazovuta zomwe zimabweretsa muubwenzi wanu, wothandizira atha kukupatsani chitsogozo ndi chithandizo.

Pazithandizo, mutha kugwira ntchito kuti muwone zomwe zingayambitse ndikuchitapo kanthu kuti muthe maubale osathandiza.

Ngati muli pachibwenzi kale, upangiri wa maanja amathanso kubweretsa zabwino zambiri.

Mfundo yofunika

Kupezeka kwamaganizidwe, mbali zonse ziwiri, kumatha kubweretsa zokhumudwitsa zambiri komanso kupsinjika. Koma sizitanthauza kuti muyenera kusiya ubale wanu.

Kulankhula ndi mnzanu, kapena kuyang'anitsitsa machitidwe anu, kumatha kukuthandizani kuti muyambe kuzindikira zomwe zingachitike ndikuwongolera moyenera.

Kuleza mtima, kulumikizana, komanso kuthandizidwa ndi othandizira kungathandize, makamaka ngati mukuwoneka kuti simukupita kulikonse panokha.

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