Kodi Vuto Lomwe Lilipo, Ndipo Ndilitha Bwanji?

Zamkati

• Chidule
• Kutanthauzira komwe kulipo pamavuto
• Zoyambitsa
• Mafunso ovuta omwe alipo
• Mavuto a ufulu ndi udindo
• Vuto lakufa ndi kufa
• Vuto lodzipatula komanso kulumikizana
• Vuto la tanthauzo ndi tanthauzo
• Vuto la kutengeka, zokumana nazo, komanso mawonekedwe
• Zizindikiro zomwe zilipo pamavuto
• Kukhumudwa komwe kulipo
• Nkhawa zomwe zilipo
• Matenda osokoneza bongo (OCD)
• Mavuto omwe akupezeka amathandizira
• Tengani malingaliro anu
• Khalani ndi magazini yoyamika kuti muthane ndi malingaliro opanda pake
• Dzikumbutseni chifukwa chake moyo uli ndi cholinga
• Musayembekezere kupeza mayankho onse
• Nthawi yoti muwonane ndi dokotala
• Tengera kwina

Chidule

Anthu ambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa, kukhumudwa, komanso kupsinjika nthawi ina m'miyoyo yawo. Kwa ambiri, kutengeka kumeneku ndi kwakanthawi ndipo sikusokoneza kwambiri moyo wawo.

Koma kwa ena, kukhumudwa kumatha kubweretsa kukhumudwa kwakukulu, ndikuwapangitsa kukayikira malo awo m'moyo. Izi zimadziwika ngati vuto lomwe lilipo.

Lingaliro lazovuta zomwe zidakhalapo zidaphunziridwa ndi akatswiri amisala ndi azamisala monga Kazimierz Dabrowski ndi Irvin D. Yalom kwazaka zambiri, kuyambira 1929.

Komabe ngakhale ndi kuchuluka kwa kafukufuku wakale komanso watsopano pamutuwu, mwina simukudziwa tanthauzo la mawuwa, kapena osamvetsetsa momwe amasiyanirana ndi nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa.

Izi ndizomwe muyenera kudziwa pazovuta zomwe zilipo, komanso momwe mungagonjetse kusinthaku.

Kutanthauzira komwe kulipo pamavuto

"Anthu atha kukhala ndi vuto lomwe angakhale nalo akayamba kudzifunsa kuti moyo umatanthauza chiyani, komanso cholinga chawo kapena cholinga chathunthu m'moyo," akulongosola Katie Leikam, wololeza wololeza ku Decatur, Georgia, yemwe amagwira ntchito zodandaula, kupsinjika kwaubwenzi, komanso kudziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi. "Kungakhale kupuma kwamaganizidwe pomwe mwadzidzidzi mumafuna mayankho pamafunso ofunikira m'moyo."

Si zachilendo kufunafuna tanthauzo ndi cholinga m'moyo wanu. Ndi vuto lomwe lilipo, vuto limakhala chifukwa chosatha kupeza mayankho okhutiritsa. Kwa anthu ena, kusowa mayankho kumayambitsa mikangano yamkati kuchokera mkati, ndikupangitsa kukhumudwa ndikutaya chisangalalo chamkati.

Vuto lomwe lilipo lingakhudze aliyense pazaka zilizonse, koma ambiri amakumana ndi zovuta atakumana ndi zovuta, mwina zovuta kuti achite bwino.

Zoyambitsa

Zovuta ndi zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku sizingayambitse vuto lomwe likupezeka. Mavuto amtunduwu atha kutsatira kukhumudwa kwakukulu kapena chochitika china, monga vuto lalikulu kapena kutayika kwakukulu. Zomwe zimayambitsa zovuta zomwe zilipo zingaphatikizepo:

• kulakwa pa zinazake
• kutaya wokondedwa muimfa, kapena kukumana ndi chenicheni cha imfa yake yomwe
• kumva osakwaniritsidwa pagulu
• kusakhutira ndi zomwe uli nazo
• mbiri yakukhumudwa

Mafunso ovuta omwe alipo

Mitundu yosiyanasiyana yamavuto omwe alipo alipo ndi awa:

Mavuto a ufulu ndi udindo

Muli ndi ufulu wosankha nokha, zomwe zingasinthe moyo wanu kukhala wabwino kapena woyipa. Anthu ambiri amakonda ufuluwu, m'malo mongowapangira zisankho.

Koma ufuluwu umabweranso ndiudindo. Muyenera kuvomereza zotsatira za zisankho zomwe mumapanga. Ngati mugwiritsa ntchito ufulu wanu kupanga chisankho chomwe sichitha bwino, simungathe kuyimba mlandu wina aliyense.

Kwa ena, ufuluwu ndiwothina kwambiri ndipo umayambitsa nkhawa zomwe zimakhalapo, zomwe zimakhudza nkhawa za moyo ndi zisankho.

Vuto lakufa ndi kufa

Zovuta zomwe zilipo zitha kukhalanso zovuta mutakwanitsa zaka zinazake. Mwachitsanzo, tsiku lanu lobadwa la 50 likhoza kukukakamizani kuti muwone kuti moyo wanu watsala pang'ono kutha, ndikupangitsani kukayikira maziko a moyo wanu.

Mutha kulingalira za tanthauzo la moyo ndi imfa, ndikufunsani mafunso ngati, "Chimachitika ndi chiyani munthu akafa?" Kuopa zomwe zingachitike pambuyo pake kumayambitsa nkhawa. Mavuto amtunduwu amathanso kuchitika atapezeka kuti ali ndi matenda akulu kapena pamene imfa ili pafupi.

Vuto lodzipatula komanso kulumikizana

Ngakhale mumakonda kukhala kwayokha komanso kukhala panokha, anthu ndimacheza. Kukhala ndi maubwenzi olimba kumatha kukupatsani chilimbikitso m'malingaliro ndi m'maganizo, ndikubweretsa chisangalalo komanso chisangalalo chamkati. Vuto ndiloti maubwenzi samakhala okhazikika nthawi zonse.

Anthu amatha kutengeka mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo, ndipo imfa imalekanitsa okondedwa. Izi zitha kubweretsa kudzipatula komanso kusungulumwa, kupangitsa anthu ena kuwona kuti moyo wawo ulibe tanthauzo.

Vuto la tanthauzo ndi tanthauzo

Kukhala ndi cholinga m'moyo kumatha kukupatsani chiyembekezo. Koma mutaganizira za moyo wanu, mutha kumva kuti simunakwaniritse chilichonse chofunikira kapena kusintha. Izi zitha kupangitsa anthu kukayikira kukhalapo kwawo.

Vuto la kutengeka, zokumana nazo, komanso mawonekedwe

Kusadzilola kuti mukhale ndi nkhawa nthawi zina kumatha kubweretsa zovuta. Anthu ena amaletsa ululu ndi kuzunzika, poganiza kuti izi zingawasangalatse. Koma nthawi zambiri zimatha kubweretsa lingaliro labodza lachimwemwe. Ndipo pamene simukukhala ndi chimwemwe chenicheni, moyo ukhoza kudzimva wopanda pake.

Kumbali inayi, kukhala ndi malingaliro ndikuvomereza kumva kupweteka, kusakhutira, komanso kusakhutira kumatha kutsegula chitseko pakukula kwanu, ndikuwongolera moyo.

Zizindikiro zomwe zilipo pamavuto

Kukumana ndi nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa moyo wanu ukachoka panjira sikutanthauza kuti mukukumana ndi zovuta zomwe zilipo. Izi, komabe, zimalumikizidwa ndivuto limodzi ndi kufunikira kopeza tanthauzo m'moyo.

Kukhumudwa komwe kulipo

Pakakhala zovuta, mutha kukhala ndi nkhawa. Zizindikirozi zitha kuphatikizanso kutaya chidwi ndi zinthu zomwe mumakonda, kutopa, kupweteka mutu, kusowa chiyembekezo, komanso kukhumudwa kosalekeza.

Pankhani ya kukhumudwa komwe kulipo, mungakhalenso ndi malingaliro okhudzana ndi kudzipha kapena kutha kwa moyo, kapena mukumva kuti moyo wanu ulibe cholinga, Leikam akutero.

Kusowa chiyembekezo ndi mtundu wachisokonezo uku kumakhudzana kwambiri ndikumverera kwa moyo wopanda tanthauzo. Mutha kukayikira cholinga cha zonsezi: "Kodi ndikungogwira ntchito, kulipira ngongole, kenako kufa?"

Nkhawa zomwe zilipo

"Kuda nkhawa komwe kumakhalapo kumatha kudziwonetsera ngati kutanganidwa ndi moyo wam'mbuyo kapena kukhumudwa kapena kuchita mantha ndi malo ako ndi mapulani ako m'moyo," akutero Leikam.

Kuda nkhawa kumeneku kumasiyana ndi kupsinjika kwa tsiku ndi tsiku chifukwa chilichonse chimatha kukupangitsani kuti musakhale omasuka komanso kuda nkhawa, kuphatikiza kukhalapo kwanu. Mutha kudzifunsa kuti, "Kodi cholinga changa ndi chiyani ndipo ndili kuti?"

Matenda osokoneza bongo (OCD)

Nthawi zina, malingaliro onena za tanthauzo la moyo ndi cholinga chanu amatha kukulemetsani m'maganizo mwanu ndikupangitsani kuthamanga. Izi zimadziwika kuti OCD yomwe ilipo, ndipo imatha kuchitika mukamayang'ana mopitirira muyeso kapena mukakamizidwa kudziwa tanthauzo la moyo.

"Itha kuyambitsa kufunika kofunsa mafunso mobwerezabwereza, kapena kusakhoza kupumula mpaka mutakhala ndi mayankho a mafunso anu," akutero Leikam.

Mavuto omwe akupezeka amathandizira

Kupeza cholinga chanu pamoyo kungatithandizireni kusiya zovuta zomwe zilipo. Nawa maupangiri ochepa oti mupirire:

Tengani malingaliro anu

M'malo mwa malingaliro olakwika ndi opanda chiyembekezo ndi abwino. Kudziuza wekha kuti moyo wako ulibe tanthauzo kutha kukhala ulosi wokwaniritsa wekha. M'malo mwake, chitanipo kanthu kuti mukhale ndi moyo watanthauzo. Tsatirani chilakolako, dziperekeni pazomwe mumakhulupirira, kapena khalani achifundo.

Khalani ndi magazini yoyamika kuti muthane ndi malingaliro opanda pake

Moyo wanu mwina uli ndi tanthauzo kuposa momwe mukuganizira. Lembani zonse zomwe mumayamikira. Izi zingaphatikizepo banja lanu, ntchito yanu, luso lanu, mikhalidwe yanu, ndi kukwanitsa kwanu.

Dzikumbutseni chifukwa chake moyo uli ndi cholinga

Kukhala ndi nthawi yodzifufuza nokha kungakuthandizeninso kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe zilipo, a Leikam akutero.

Ngati mukuvutika kuwona zabwino mwa inu, funsani abwenzi ndi abale kuti azindikire zomwe mumachita. Kodi mwasintha bwanji miyoyo yawo? Kodi ndi mikhalidwe iti yamphamvu kwambiri, yosiririka?

Musayembekezere kupeza mayankho onse

Izi sizikutanthauza kuti simungapeze mayankho a mafunso ofunika kwambiri pamoyo. Nthawi yomweyo, mvetsetsani kuti mafunso ena sangakhale ndi mayankho.

Kuti athane ndi zovuta zomwe zilipo, Leikam akuwonetsanso kugawa mafunso kukhala mayankho ang'onoang'ono, kenako ndikugwira ntchito kuti mukhale okhutira ndi kuphunzira mayankho amafunso ang'onoang'ono omwe amapanga chithunzi chachikulu.

Nthawi yoti muwonane ndi dokotala

Mutha kuthana ndi vuto lomwe mulipo nokha, popanda dokotala. Koma ngati zizindikiro sizimatha, kapena ngati zikukulirakulira, wonani katswiri wazamisala, wama psychology, kapena othandizira.

Akatswiri azaumoyo awa akhoza kukuthandizani kuthana ndi zovuta kudzera pamawu olankhula kapena chithandizo chazidziwitso. Uwu ndi mtundu wa chithandizo chomwe cholinga chake ndi kusintha kaganizidwe kapena kakhalidwe.

Funani thandizo nthawi yomweyo ngati muli ndi malingaliro ofuna kudzipha. Kumbukirani, komabe, simuyenera kudikirira kuti vutoli lifike pamenepa musanalankhule ndi dokotala kapena wothandizira ena.

Ngakhale simulingalira zakudzipha, wothandizira atha kuthandiza ndi nkhawa yayikulu, kukhumudwa, kapena malingaliro otengeka.

Tengera kwina

Zovuta zomwe zilipo zitha kuchitika kwa aliyense, zomwe zimapangitsa ambiri kukayikira kukhalapo kwawo komanso cholinga m'moyo. Ngakhale kukula kwa malingaliro awa, ndizotheka kuthana ndi zovuta ndikudutsa zovuta izi.

Chinsinsi ndikumvetsetsa momwe zovuta zomwe zilipo zimasiyanirana ndi kukhumudwa kwanthawi zonse komanso nkhawa, ndikupeza thandizo pazomwe mukumva kapena malingaliro omwe simungagwedezeke.