Thupi Langa Lingakhale Lonenepa, Koma Silikhalabe

Sizinthu zonse zomwe thupi lamafuta limachita ndikuchepetsa thupi.

Momwe timawonera mawonekedwe apadziko lapansi omwe timasankha kukhala - {textend} ndikugawana zokumana nazo zolimbikitsa zitha kupanga momwe tingachitirane wina ndi mnzake, kukhala abwinoko. Uku ndikuwona kwamphamvu.

Ndinali ndi zaka 3 pamene ndinayamba kusambira. Ndinali ndi zaka 14 pamene ndinaima.

Sindikukumbukira nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndinalowa mu dziwe, koma ndikukumbukira momwe ndidamverera ndikutsetsereka pansi pamadzi kwa nthawi yoyamba, mikono ndikudutsa m'madzi, miyendo yolimba komanso yowongoka ikunditsogolera.

Ndinamva kuti ndine wamphamvu, wamphamvu, wodekha komanso wosinkhasinkha, zonse mwakamodzi. Zovuta zilizonse zomwe ndinali nazo zinali mawonekedwe amlengalenga ndi nthaka - {textend} sakanakhoza kufikira ine pansi pamadzi.

Nditayamba kusambira, sindinathe kuyima. Ndinalowa nawo gulu losambira la achinyamata padziwe langa, kenako kukhala mphunzitsi. Ndidasambira kulumikizana, ndikumangirira gulugufe mwamphamvu. Sindinamvepo wamphamvu kapena yamphamvu kuposa momwe ndimasambira. Chifukwa chake ndimasambira mwayi uliwonse womwe ndapeza.

Panali vuto limodzi lokha. Ndinali wonenepa.

Sindinakumanepo ndi vuto lina lakuzunza, anzanga akusukulu akuimba mayina oimba kapena kunyoza thupi langa poyera. Palibe amene ananenapo za kukula kwanga padziwe.

Koma pomwe sindimadula madzi akuthwa, ndimadumphadumpha, ndimalankhula za zakudya, makonda ochepetsa thupi, ndi anzanga omwe modzidzimutsa adadzifunsa ngati ali onenepa kwambiri kuti avule chovalacho kapena ntchafu zawo nthawi zonse kuonda.

Ngakhale zovala zosambira zimandikumbutsa kuti thupi langa silimawoneka.

Ndinali mtsikana wachinyamata, ndipo zokambirana pazakudya zinali paliponse. Ngati sinditaya mapaundi 5 otsatira, sindichoka panyumba. Sadzandifunsa kuti ndizibwerera - {textend} Ndine wonenepa kwambiri. Sindingathe kuvala kusambira. Palibe amene amafuna kuwona ntchafu izi.

Ndinawamvetsera pamene amalankhula, nkhope yanga ili yofiira. Aliyense, zimawoneka, adapeza matupi awo ali onenepa kwambiri. Ndipo ndinali wonenepa kuposa onse.

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Popita nthawi, nditayamba maphunziro apakati komanso kusekondale, ndidazindikira bwino kuti mawonekedwe a thupi langa anali osavomerezeka kwa iwo omwe anali pafupi nane - {textend} makamaka posambira. Ndipo ngati thupi langa silimawoneka, mosakayikira silikanakhoza kusunthidwa.

Chifukwa chake ndidasiya kusambira pafupipafupi.

Sindinazindikire zotayika nthawi yomweyo. Minofu yanga pang'onopang'ono idayamba kuchepa, ndikuthawa kukonzeka kwawo koyambirira. Mpweya wanga wopuma umachepa ndikufulumizitsidwa. Malingaliro am'mbuyomu adasinthidwa ndi mtima wothamanga pafupipafupi komanso kupindika pang'onopang'ono kwa nkhawa nthawi zonse.

Ngakhale nditakula, ndinkakhala zaka zambiri kutali ndi madamu ndi magombe, ndikufufuza mosamala madzi asanayambe kupatsa thupi langa loipa. Monga kuti winawake, kwinakwake, angatsimikizire kuti ulendo wanga sudzakhala koseketsa kapena kuyang'anitsitsa. Monga ngati mngelo wina wonenepa adaoneratu kufunitsitsa kwanga kotsimikizika. Sadzaseka, ndikulonjeza. Ndinkafunitsitsa chitetezo chomwe dziko limakana kupereka.

Ndidanyinyirika poyang'ana pazovala zokhazokha zokhazokha mu msinkhu wanga: matronly swim dress and baggy "shortinis," mapangidwe akuchucha manyazi, amatsitsidwa kukula kwakukulu. Ngakhale zovala zosambira zimandikumbutsa kuti thupi langa silimawoneka.

Thupi langa limakhalabe lonenepa, monganso momwe ndimasambira maola ambiri tsiku lililonse. Thupi langa limakhalabe lonenepa, monga zakhala zikuchitikira. Thupi langa limakhalabe lonenepa, koma silikhala chete.

Ndikamachita magombe olimba mtima komanso maiwe, ndinkakumana mosadukizika ndikumayang'anitsitsa, nthawi zina ndikamatsatana ndi zonong'ona, kuseka, kapena kuloza kwina. Mosiyana ndi anzanga akusukulu apakati, akuluakulu sanadziyese kwenikweni. Kutetemera kwakung'ono komwe ndidasiya ndikudzipenyerera kwawo, molunjika.

Chifukwa chake ndidasiya kusambira kwathunthu.

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Zaka ziwiri zapitazo, patatha zaka zambiri atachoka kumadziwe ndi magombe, fatkini adayamba.

Mwadzidzidzi, ogulitsa akuluakulu anayamba kupanga masuti osambira: mafashoni a bikini ndi chidutswa chimodzi, kusambira masiketi ndi alonda opupuluma. Msikawo unadzaza mwachangu masuti ena osambira.

Instagram ndi Facebook zinali zodzaza ndi zithunzi za azimayi ena amisinkhu yanga ovala masuti a racerback ndi zidutswa ziwiri, zotchedwa "fatkinis." Amavala chilichonse chomwe akumva ngati kuvala.

Ndinagula fatkini yanga yoyamba ndikuchita mantha. Ndidayitanitsa pa intaneti, mwakachetechete, ndikudziwa bwino kuti manong'onong'o oweruza ndikuwonekeranso anganditsatire kuyambira padziwe kupita kumsika. Suti yanga itafika, ndinadikirira masiku angapo kuti ndiyesere. Potsirizira pake ndinachiveka usiku, ndekha m'nyumba mwanga, kutali ndi mawindo, ngati kuti kutchera maso kunganditsatire ngakhale mumsewu wanga wogona.

Nditangovala, ndinamva momwe thupi langa limasinthira, mafupa olimba komanso kulimba kwa minofu. Ndidamva kuti moyo ubwerera m'mitsempha mwanga, ndikumbukira cholinga chake.

Kumverera kunali kwadzidzidzi komanso kopambana. Mwadzidzidzi, mosadziwika, ndinali wamphamvu.

Sindinkafuna kuvula suti yanga yosamba. Ndinagona pabedi mu fatkini yanga. Ndidayeretsa nyumba mu fatkini yanga. Ndinali ndisanamvepo zamphamvu chonchi. Sindinathe kuchotsa, ndipo sindinkafuna kutero.

M'chilimwe chino, ndidzasambiranso.

Pasanapite nthawi yaitali, ndinayambanso kusambira. Ndinasambira paulendo wakuntchito, ndikusankha kusambira mochedwa pakati pa sabata, pomwe dziwe la hoteloyo mwina linali lopanda kanthu. Kupuma kwanga kunali kofulumira komanso kofupika nditatuluka konkriti, ndikuchepetsa pang'ono ndikazindikira kuti dziwe mulibe.

Kulowetsa mu dziwe kunali ngati kulowa pansi pakhungu langa. Ndimamva nyanja zam'magazi zikubowoleza pamtima panga, moyo ukutumphuka mu inchi iliyonse ya thupi langa. Ndinkasambira pamiyendo, ndikukumbutsa thupi langa za kamvekedwe kazithunzi komwe ankazidziwa kale.

Ndinkasambira gulugufe komanso freestyle komanso bere. Ndidasambira ndikudumphira kwa kanthawi, kenako ndikungopita kusambira, kulola thupi langa kukankhira motsutsana ndi madzi pang'ono. Ndimalola thupi langa kundikumbutsa za chisangalalo cha kuyenda kwake. Ndidadzilola ndekha kukumbukira kulimba kwa thupi lomwe ndidabisala kwanthawi yayitali.

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M'chilimwe chino, ndidzasambiranso. Apanso, ndidzadzilimbitsa ndekha ndikudula mayankho pakhungu langa. Ndidzachita zobwerera mwachangu kuti nditeteze ufulu wanga wokhala pamalo omwe ndakhala ndikumakhala kunyumba.

Thupi langa limakhalabe lonenepa, monganso momwe ndimasambira maola ambiri tsiku lililonse. Thupi langa limakhalabe lonenepa, monga zakhala zikuchitikira. Thupi langa limakhalabe lonenepa, koma silikhala chete.

Mnzanu Wonenepa amalemba mosadziwika pazokhudza zochitika pamoyo monga munthu wonenepa kwambiri. Ntchito yake yamasuliridwa m'zilankhulo 19 ndikufalitsidwa padziko lonse lapansi. Posachedwa, Fat Fat Friend wanu adathandizira Roxane Gay's Matupi Osalamulirika kuphatikiza. Werengani zambiri za ntchito yake Zamkatimu.