Nkhani Ya Kugonana Kwakukulu Palibe Amene Akukambirana

Zamkati

• Kodi Kugonana Kwachikazi Ndi Chiyani?
• Zizindikiro Zam'madzi
• Kugwa kwa HSDD
• Chifukwa Chomwe Chili Chinyengo
• Koma Bwanji Ngati Muli Ozizira Popanda Kugonana?
• Momwe Mungachitire Ngati Mukuganiza Kuti Muli ndi HSDD
• Onaninso za

Pankhani yogonana, mwina mumawerenga ndikumva zambiri zamalo oyeserera, ukadaulo waposachedwa kwambiri wazoseweretsa, komanso momwe mungakhalire ndi pabwino. Chinthu chimodzi simumamva zambiri? Azimayi makamaka ang'onoang'ono - omwe sakonda kugonana. Anthu ambiri amadziwa kuti sizachilendo kusinthasintha kwa mahomoni kuti azisokoneza ndikugonana pogonana, koma kodi mumadziwa kuti kuyendetsa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumakhala kofala kwambiri mwa azimayi a premenopausal, nawonso? Pa kafukufuku waposachedwa wochitidwa ndi American Sexual Health Association (ASHA) mothandizidwa ndi Valeant, kampani yopanga mankhwala, 48% ya azimayi omwe ali ndi premenopausal (azaka 21 mpaka 49) ati kugonana kwawo kunali kotsika tsopano kuposa kale. Wopenga, chabwino? Awa si amayi omwe sanayambe agonana. Ndiwo anthu omwe mwanjira ina wotayika izo. Ndipo ngati pafupifupi theka la azimayi amsinkhuwu akukumana ndi zodabwitsazi, bwanji osalankhula za izi? Tiyeni tiyambitse msonkhanowu tsopano.

Kodi Kugonana Kwachikazi Ndi Chiyani?

Mosiyana ndi kulephera kwa erectile, komwe aliyense amadziwa bwino (zikomo, malonda a Viagra), kulephera kwa akazi (FSD) sikofotokozedwera. Komabe 40% ya azimayi adzavutika ndi matendawa mwanjira ina m'miyoyo yawo, malinga ndi kafukufuku wofalitsidwa mu American Journal of Obstetrics ndi Gynecology. Pali mitundu ingapo ya FSD, kuphatikiza nkhani zokhumba, kukondweretsedwa, zisokonezo, ndi zowawa, malingana ndi katswiri wazachipembedzo Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., wolemba komanso pulofesa wazikhalidwe ku University of Washington. Ngakhale mavuto onsewa ndiofunika kuthana nawo akangotuluka, kusowa kwa chilakolako chogonana, komwe kumatchedwanso matenda osokoneza bongo (HSDD), ndikofala kwambiri, komwe kumakhudza azimayi pafupifupi 4 miliyoni ku America.

Zizindikiro Zam'madzi

Ngati mukudabwa chomwe chimapangitsa HSDD kukhala yosiyana ndi kusangokhala "osangalala," pali njira yabwino yomanenera. Schwartz akufotokoza kuti: "Chodziwitsa chachikulu ndikuti sichitha. Ngakhale kuti aliyense ali ndi zokwera ndi zotsika komanso zopweteka komanso zopweteka kwambiri - ngakhale kwa miyezi ingapo-kupita kwa miyezi ndi miyezi nthawi popanda kufuna kugonana ndi chizindikiro chodziwika bwino kuti chinachake chachitika, iye akutero. Zachidziwikire, zinthu monga kupsinjika, mavuto amuubwenzi, zovuta zantchito, matenda, ndi mankhwala zimatha kukhudza kugonana kwanu, kuweruza izi ndi gawo lalikulu loti mupeze matenda. Koma Schwartz akufotokoza kuti "ngati mungazindikire kuti zakusangalatsani ndikukhumba inu ntchito kumva kuti zapita ndipo zikungochitikabe ndipo mukuvutitsidwa kwambiri nazo, ndiye nthawi yakwana yoti mukalankhule ndi azaumoyo ndikuwawuza kuti ayang'ane zachipatala kuti awone chomwe chalakwika."

Kugwa kwa HSDD

Mwachiwonekere, HSDD imakhudza moyo wanu wogonana, koma imatha kulowanso m'madera ena a moyo wa amayi, chifukwa chake kuli kofunika kudziwitsa anthu za izo, akuti Schwartz. "Zogonana zathu sizikugwirizana ndi kabokosi kena kakang'ono kakuda kamene mumayika mudrowa ndikulowamo ndikutuluka. Ndi gawo la omwe tili ndipo ndi mbali ya momwe timadzionera," akutero. Pali zinthu zazikulu ziwiri zomwe zimachitika mzimayi ali ndi HSDD, malinga ndi Schwartz. Choyamba, kudzidalira kwake kumatha kutsika chifukwa angaganize kuti pali china chake cholakwika ndipo zomwe akukumana nazo sizabwinobwino, kapena choyipa, vuto lake. Chachiwiri, zingakhudze ubale wa mkazi (ngati ali m'modzi), ndipo ngakhale kupanga wokondedwa wake kukayikira zofuna zake. Kudzidalira kwanu komanso ubale wanu sizikhala zotetezeka, zimatha kukhudza chilichonse kuyambira kuntchito mpaka kwa anzanu, ndikupangitsa njira zambiri kuposa kungogonana pafupipafupi. (FYI, kawirikawiri, amayi amamva phokoso pa ola losiyana kwambiri ndi amuna.)

Chifukwa Chomwe Chili Chinyengo

Kafukufuku wa ASHA adapeza kuti azimayi 82% omwe amakwaniritsa zofunikira za FSD amakhulupirira kuti ayenera kukawona wothandizira zaumoyo, koma ndi 4% yokha omwe atuluka ndikulankhula ndi akatswiri za izi. Ngati akazi khulupirirani amafuna thandizo, bwanji sakulandira?

Chabwino, *ikhoza* kukhala ndi chochita ndi momwe kugonana kumasonyezedwera ndi kuonedwa m'chitaganya chamakono. "Kugonana nthawi zina kumakhala kovuta kuposa momwe timayamikirira, makamaka tsopano popeza tili ndi chilolezo chogonana," akutero Schwartz. Ndizodabwitsa kuti anthu amamasuka kwambiri za kugonana kwawo kuposa kale, koma izi zimatha kusiya amayi omwe ali ndi vuto logonana amadzimva kukhala otalikirana. "Timauza anthu kuti zogonana ndizabwino ndipo zimawoneka ngati zosavuta. Tili ndi zitsanzo ngati izi 50 Mithunzi ya Imvi, pamene wina amasangalala kwambiri ndi kugonana kwake ndipo ndithudi, izi zimangopangitsa kuti akazi omwe ali ndi vutoli amve chisoni pamene sizili zomwe zikuchitika kwa iwo," akutero.

Kuphatikiza apo, azimayi omwe ali pamaubwenzi apamtima, kuyankhula zakugonana kwawo kumatha kukhala kosiyana ndikulankhula za kugonana ali pachibwenzi. "Samalankhulanso ndi atsikana anzawo zakugonana monga momwe amachitira chifukwa amakhala ndi nkhawa kuti sangawoneke ngati 'abwinobwino' komanso amateteza mnzawoyo," akutero Schwartz. "Safuna kuti malonda awo amalingaliro ndi kugonana adziwike chifukwa amawona kuti ndi osakhulupirika." Ndicho chifukwa chake Schwartz pamodzi ndi ASHA adapanga FindMySpark, malo omwe amalola amayi kuti asamangodziwa za zizindikiro, zizindikiro, ndi mankhwala a FSD komanso kuti agwirizane ndi kuwerenga nkhani za ena omwe akukumana ndi zomwezo. "Tikamayankhula kwambiri za izi, zimakhala bwino," akutero. "Pali kusalana, ndipo tiyenera kulimbana nayo."

Koma Bwanji Ngati Muli Ozizira Popanda Kugonana?

Chifukwa chake mwina mungadabwe kuti, "Nanga bwanji azimayi omwe safuna kugonana ndipo ali bwino?" Kunena zomveka, kukhala osagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena kupuma mwachidwi ndi *osati* chinthu chofanana ndi HSDD. Zizindikiro ziwiri za matendawa zimakhala ndi chilakolako chochepa chogonana kuposa kale (kutanthauza kuti mumachita zachiwerewere) ndipo kukhumudwa kapena kukhumudwa nazo. Chifukwa chake ngati simukugonana ndipo mukusangalala nazo, palibe chifukwa chodziwira kuti china chake chalakwika.

Kuphatikiza apo, ziyenera kuvomerezedwa kuti sizodabwitsa ngati simukufuna kugonana monga mnzanu, makamaka ngati mnzake ndi wamwamuna. Pali njira zambiri zofunika kusiyanasiyana pakati pa akazi ndi amuna. Nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti akazi ndi amuna ayenera kufuna kugonana ndi pafupipafupi, koma chifukwa cha zosiyanasiyana maganizo ndi zokhudza thupi zinthu, si nthawi zonse. Sayansi ikuwonetsa kuti ngakhale zoyendetsa amuna kapena akazi zitha kukhala zopanda mphamvu kutengera munthuyo, nthawi zambiri, amuna amaganiza zogonana kwambiri, azimayi amasinthasintha pogonana, ndipo malingaliro omwe akazi amapita kuti adzuke ndi osiyana ndi chitani amuna kudutsa. Kusiyanaku kumapangitsa kuti pakhale kusagwirizana muzokonda zogonana za amayi ndi abambo, kotero kuziyerekeza kungakhale koyesa, sizothandiza kwenikweni.

Ichi ndi chifukwa chake Schwartz akugogomezera kuti pankhani ya kuchuluka kwa kugonana, "Palibe nambala yomwe ili yachibadwa kwa aliyense. Sindikuganiza kuti ndizothandiza kwenikweni, "adatero. Koma powona kuti mukugwa kumapeto kwenikweni kwa sipekitiramu ndipo Kudzimva kukhala wotopa chifukwa cha izi kungakhale chizindikiro chakuti chinachake chikuchitika.

Momwe Mungachitire Ngati Mukuganiza Kuti Muli ndi HSDD

Kuposa china chilichonse, kuyankhula ndi dokotala kapena dokotala wina yemwe mumakhala naye bwino ndichinthu choyamba choyenera kuti mubwezeretse kugonana kwanu. Pali njira zingapo zochiritsira posintha mankhwala omwe muli nawo, kugwiritsa ntchito atsopano, kuyesa chithandizo chamankhwala. Pamapeto pa tsiku, chomwe chili chofunikira kwambiri ndikukhazikitsa FSD mpaka amayi amakhala omasuka kubweretsa ndi othandizira awo azaumoyo. Kupatula apo, thanzi lanu lachiwerewere limakhudza magawo onse amoyo wanu, osati mosiyana ndi thanzi lanu lam'mutu. Musaope kumvetsera.

Onaninso za