Kumva Chisoni pa Moyo Wanga Wakale Nditatha Kupeza Matenda Aakulu

Zamkati

• Magawo osasunthika achisoni pathupi langa lomwe limasintha nthawi zonse
• Kuchotsa zidendene ndi nsapato za agulugufe ndi nzimbe zonyezimira

Timaphatikizapo zinthu zomwe timaganiza kuti ndizothandiza kwa owerenga athu. Ngati mutagula maulalo omwe ali patsamba lino, titha kupeza ndalama zochepa. Nayi njira yathu.

Mbali Yina Yachisoni ndi mndandanda wazakusintha kwa moyo kutaya. Nkhani zamphamvu izi zimafufuza zifukwa ndi njira zambiri zomwe timamvera ndikutsatira njira yatsopano.

Ndinakhala pansi m'chipinda changa chogona kutsogolo kwa kabati, miyendo yolumikizidwa pansi panga ndi thumba lalikulu la zinyalala pafupi nane. Ndinagwira mapampu achikopa achikopa achizungu akuda, zidendene zogwiritsidwa ntchito. Ndinayang'ana chikwama, nditagwira kale zidendene zingapo, kenako ndikubwerera nsapato m'manja mwanga, ndikuyamba kulira.

Zidendene zija zidandikumbukira zambiri: kundiyimira wolimba mtima komanso wamtali pomwe ndinali kulumbiridwa ngati woyang'anira milandu m'bwalo lamilandu ku Alaska, ndikulendewera ndikungoyenda m'misewu ya Seattle osavala nsapato nditacheza ndi anzanga usiku, ndikundithandiza kuyenda kudutsa gawo lonse pakuvina.

Koma patsikuli, m'malo mowazembetsa pamapazi anga opitanso patsogolo, ndinali kuwaponyera m'thumba lachifundo.

Masiku angapo m'mbuyomo, ndinapatsidwa matenda awiri: fibromyalgia ndi matenda otopa. Izi zinawonjezedwa pamndandanda womwe wakula kwa miyezi ingapo.

Kukhala ndi mawu amenewo papepala kuchokera kwa katswiri wazachipatala kunapangitsa mkhalidwewo kukhala weniweni. Sindingathenso kukana kuti panali china chake chachikulu chomwe chimachitika mthupi langa. Sindingathe kuzembera ndikudzitsimikizira kuti mwina nthawi ino sindingakhale wolumala ndikumva kuwawa pasanathe ola limodzi.

Tsopano zinali zenizeni kuti ndikudwala matenda osachiritsika ndipo ndikhala ndikuchita nawo moyo wanga wonse. Sindingavalanso zidendene.

Nsapato zomwe zinali zofunika kuchita ndimakonda kuchita ndi thupi langa lathanzi. Kukhala wachikazi kunapanga mwala wapangodya wodziwika wanga. Zinkawoneka ngati ndikutaya zolinga zanga zamtsogolo komanso maloto anga.

Ndinakhumudwa ndekha ndikakhumudwitsidwa ndi china chake chowoneka ngati chaching'ono ngati nsapato. Koposa zonse, ndinali wokwiya ndi thupi langa chifukwa chondiyika, ndipo - monga momwe ndinaziwonera nthawi imeneyo - chifukwa chondilephera.

Aka sikanali koyamba kutengeka ndi zotengeka. Ndipo, monga ndaphunzirira kuyambira pomwe ndidakhala pansi zaka zinayi zapitazo, sichingakhale chomaliza changa.

M'zaka kuchokera pomwe ndidadwala ndikukhala wolumala, ndaphunzira kuti malingaliro osiyanasiyana ali gawo limodzi chabe la matenda anga monga zisonyezo zanga za thupi - kupweteka kwa mitsempha, mafupa olimba, mafupa opweteka, ndi mutu. Maganizo awa amatsagana ndikusintha kosapeweka mkati ndi kuzungulira ine ndikamakhala mthupi lodwala kwambiri.

Mukakhala ndi matenda osachiritsika, palibe kuchira kapena kuchiritsidwa. Pali gawo la umunthu wanu wakale, thupi lanu lakale, lomwe lakhala likutayika.

Ndinadzipeza ndekha ndikudandaula ndi kuvomereza, chisoni chomwe chinatsatiridwa ndi kupatsidwa mphamvu. Sindikanakhala bwino.

Ndinafunika kulira chifukwa cha moyo wanga wakale, thupi langa labwino, maloto anga akale omwe sanalinso oyenera kuthekera kwanga.

Ndikumva chisoni kokha kuti ndimaphunzira pang'onopang'ono thupi langa, inenso, moyo wanga. Ndikufuna kumva chisoni, kuvomereza, ndikupita patsogolo.

Magawo osasunthika achisoni pathupi langa lomwe limasintha nthawi zonse

Tikaganiza za magawo asanu achisoni - kukana, kukwiya, kugula malonda, kukhumudwa, kuvomereza - ambiri a ife timaganizira momwe timadutsamo munthu amene timamukonda akamwalira.

Koma pomwe Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross poyambilira adalemba za magawo azisoni m'buku lake la 1969 "Pa Imfa ndi Kufa," zidatengera ntchito yake ndi odwala omwe ali ndi matenda osachiritsika, okhala ndi anthu omwe matupi awo ndi miyoyo yawo monga momwe amawadziwira anali atakulira kwambiri zasintha.

Dr. Kubler-Ross adanena kuti sikuti ndi odwala okhawo omwe amadwala motere - aliyense amene akukumana ndi zoopsa kapena zosintha moyo angathe. Chifukwa chake, ndizomveka kuti a ife omwe tikudwala matenda osachiritsika nawonso amamva chisoni.

Kumva chisoni, monga Kubler-Ross ndi ena ambiri ananenera, ndi njira yopanda tanthauzo. M'malo mwake, ndimaganiza ngati kupitilira kwanthawi zonse.

Nthawi iliyonse ndi thupi langa sindikudziwa kuti ndili ndi gawo lanji lachisoni, kungoti ndili mmenemo, ndikulimbana ndi malingaliro omwe amabwera ndi thupi lomwe limasintha nthawi zonse.

Zomwe ndimakumana nazo ndi matenda osachiritsika ndikuti zisonyezo zatsopano zimayamba kukula kapena zomwe zilipo zimawonjezereka pafupipafupi. Ndipo nthawi iliyonse izi zikachitika, ndimakumananso ndi chisoni.

Pambuyo pokhala ndi masiku abwino kumakhala kovuta ndikabwereranso m'masiku oyipa. Nthawi zambiri ndimadzipeza ndikulira mwakachetechete pabedi, ndikuvutika ndikudzikayikira ndikudziona ngati wopanda pake, kapena kutumiza maimelo kwa anthu kuti aletse malonjezo, ndikufuula mkwiyo mthupi mwanga chifukwa chosachita zomwe ndikufuna.

Ndikudziwa tsopano zomwe zikuchitika izi zikachitika, koma koyambirira kwa matenda anga sindinadziwe kuti ndikumva chisoni.

Ana anga akamandifunsa kuti ndipite kokayenda ndipo thupi langa silimatha ngakhale kuchoka pa bedi, ndimakwiya modabwitsa, ndikufunsa zomwe ndachita kuti ndikwaniritse zofookazi.

Ndikadzipinditsa pansi 2 koloko ndikumva kupweteka kumbuyo kwanga, ndimachita mgwirizano ndi thupi langa: Ndiyesa zowonjezerazo zomwe mnzanga akuti, ndichotsa zakudya zomwe ndimadya, ndiyesanso yoga ... chonde, siyani ululu.

Nditasiya zikhalidwe zazikulu monga zovina, kupumula kusukulu ya grad, ndikusiya ntchito yanga, ndidafunsa chomwe chinali vuto ndi ine kuti sindingathenso kukhala ndi theka la zomwe ndimakonda.

Ndinatsutsidwa kwakanthawi. Nditavomereza kuti kuthekera kwa thupi langa kukusintha, mafunso adayamba kutuluka: Kodi kusintha kumeneku mthupi langa kunatanthauza chiyani pamoyo wanga? Pa ntchito yanga? Kwa maubwenzi anga komanso kuthekera kwanga kukhala bwenzi, wokonda, amayi? Kodi zofooka zanga zatsopano zinasintha bwanji mmene ndimadzionera ndekha? Kodi ndinali wachikazi wopanda zidendene zanga? Kodi ndidali mphunzitsi ngati sindilinso ndi kalasi, kapena wovina ngati sindingathenso kuyenda ngati kale?

Zinthu zambiri zomwe ndimaganiza kuti zinali mwala wapangodya - ntchito yanga, zosangalatsa, ubale wanga - zidasinthidwa ndikusintha, zomwe zidandipangitsa kukayikira kuti ndine ndani.

Zinali kudzera muntchito zanga zambiri, mothandizidwa ndi alangizi, othandizira moyo, abwenzi, abale, komanso magazini yanga yodalirika, pomwe ndidazindikira kuti ndikumva chisoni. Kuzindikira uku kunandilola kuti ndisunthe mkwiyo komanso chisoni ndikukhala wovomerezeka.

Kuchotsa zidendene ndi nsapato za agulugufe ndi nzimbe zonyezimira

Kulandila sizitanthauza kuti sindimva kumva zina zonse, kapena kuti njirayi ndiyosavuta. Koma zikutanthauza kusiya zinthu zomwe ndikuganiza kuti thupi langa liyenera kukhala kapena kuchita ndikulikumbatira m'malo momwe liliri, kusweka ndi zonse.

Zimatanthawuza kudziwa kuti mtundu uwu wamthupi langa ndiwofanana ndi mtundu wina uliwonse wakale, wamphamvu.

Kulandila kumatanthauza kuchita zinthu zomwe ndiyenera kuchita kusamalira thupi latsopanoli komanso njira zatsopano zomwe zimayenda mdziko lapansi. Zimatanthawuza kupatula manyazi ndikukhala ndi kuthekera kwakanthawi ndikudzigulira ndodo yofiirira kuti ndipitenso koyenda ndi mwana wanga.

Kuvomereza kumatanthauza kuchotsa zidendene zonse m'chipinda changa ndipo m'malo mwake ndimadzipangira nyumba zokongola.

Nditangoyamba kudwala, ndinkaopa kuti ndisokonekera kuti ndine ndani. Koma kudzera mu chisoni ndi kuvomereza, ndaphunzira kuti zosintha zathupi lathu sizisintha zomwe tili. Samasintha chizindikiritso chathu.

M'malo mwake, amatipatsa mwayi wophunzira njira zatsopano zokumana nazo ndikufotokozera magawo athu.

Ndikadali mphunzitsi. Kalasi yanga yapaintaneti imadzaza ndi anthu ena odwala komanso olumala ngati ine kuti ndilembe za matupi athu.

Ndikadali wovina. Woyenda wanga ndi ine timayenda ndi chisomo pamadongosolo.

Ndidakali mayi. Wokonda. Mnzanu.

Ndi chipinda changa? Idakali ndi nsapato: nsapato za ma maroon velvet, nsapato zakuda za ballet, ndi nsapato za agulugufe, zonse zikudikirira ulendo wathu wotsatira.

Mukufuna kuwerenga nkhani kuchokera kwa anthu omwe akuyendetsa zachilendo pamene akukumana ndi zosayembekezereka, zosintha moyo, komanso nthawi zina zachisoni? Onani mndandanda wathunthu Pano.

Angie Ebba ndi wojambula wolumala yemwe amaphunzitsa zokambirana ndikumachita mdziko lonse. Angie amakhulupirira mphamvu zaluso, zolemba, komanso magwiridwe antchito kuti zitithandizire kudzimvetsetsa tokha, kumanga gulu, ndikusintha. Mutha kupeza Angie pa iye tsamba la webusayiti, iye blog, kapena Facebook.