Mukukhala ndi Tsiku la Bitch?

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Wamisala woyenda mumsewu amakufuulirani zonyansa pamphambano, ngakhale ndi ana ake pampando wakumbuyo. Mzimayi amadula patsogolo panu pamzere ndipo, mukamakumana naye, amakuwuzani kuti mugwere.

Anthu ambiri, zikuwoneka, saopa kumasula masiku ano, ngakhale atulutsa mkwiyo wawo kwa alendo osayenerera, anzawo osadandaula kapena ogwira nawo ntchito odabwitsidwa. Nkhani yabwino kwa azimayi ndikuti pamapeto pake tamasulidwa ku zovuta zakale kuti tikhale ngati madona (werengani: osakalipa) ndipo tikulankhula momveka bwino. Koma munthawi yamagetsi iyi, kodi tikupita kulikonse ndikufotokozera mkwiyo wathu?

Izo zimatengera. "Wosalamulirika mkwiyo ndi njira yopanda tanthauzo kwa amayi kuti apeze zomwe akufuna pamoyo wawo, "atero a Susan Heitler, Ph.D., katswiri wazamisala ku Denver komanso wolemba Mphamvu ya Awiri (Watsopano Harbinger, 1997). "Mkwiyo wosayenera umapopa anthu kuti adzimve kuti ali ndi mphamvu, ndipo kwenikweni akupereka chikoka champhamvu akachita mokwiya. Koma zabwino kwambiri adzapambana nkhondoyo ndikutaya nkhondo."

Ngakhale mkwiyo umapangitsa azimayi ambiri zomwe amafunikira kwakanthawi kochepa, pamapeto pake zimadzetsa ulemu ndi mkwiyo. Heitler, yemwe wagwirapo ntchito ndi mabanja omwe akuyesera kuthetsa mavuto am'banja ndipo adapanga kanema yotchedwa "The Angry Couple," adapeza zomwe zimachitika pakati pa makasitomala. “Mkaziyo amakalipira mosayenera, ndipo mwamunayo amachoka,” anatero Heitler.

Kaŵirikaŵiri, akufotokoza motero Heitler, akazi amatsanzira chitsanzo cha amayi awo cha kudziletsa -- mpaka pamene satha kupiriranso, ndiyeno amaphulika.

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M'malo molola kuti mkwiyo ukugonjetseni, yesetsani kuchitapo kanthu. Nthawi ina mukayimitsidwa, gwiritsani ntchito ukali pakona yanu. Mwachitsanzo, mungakwiyire mnzanu chifukwa chochoka ku TV mutangodya chakudya chomwe mwapanga. Musanalankhule nokha (kapena iye), "Ndi Neanderthal wosaganizira omwe akuwona kuti ndiyenera kumudikirira," yesani izi:

1. Tengani mkwiyo ngati chizindikiro choyimira. "Tikhoza kukhala ndi mkwiyo ngati kuwala kobiriwira kuti tichitepo kanthu mwamsanga," akutero Heitler. Mtima wanu ukathamanga kwambiri, malingaliro anu amayika pang'onopang'ono - simutha kuganiza bwino. Imani ndikupatseni lingaliro lanu nthawi kuti mumve kumverera.

2. Pezani chidziwitso ndi kumvetsetsa. Yesetsani kuzindikira zomwe zikuchitika. N’kutheka kuti akutsatira chitsanzo cha bambo ake ndipo sanaganizirepo za njira ina.

3. Lingalirani, Ndikufuna chiyani? "Dzifunseni kuti ndikudya chiyani. Gwiritsani ntchito yankho kuti mupange zomveka. Mwina chimene mukufuna n’chakuti akuthokozeni chifukwa cha chakudyacho, kapena kuphika mbale, kapena kuti muphikire limodzi.

4. Fufuzani njira yabwino komanso yolemekezeka yopezera izi. Mukadziwa zomwe mukufuna, kwezani mutuwo m'mawu anu abwinobwino, omasuka.

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